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This Picture is SO WRONG on So Many Levels, I Didn’t Even Know Where to Begin

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Oh I’m just a girl, guess I’m some kind of freak
‘Cause they all sit and stare with their eyes
Oh I’m just a girl, take a good look at me
Just your typical prototype

This morning started like every morning. I woke up around 5 a.m., grabbed my workout clothes and headed into the bathroom. I bring the phone with me, of course (come on, you do it too) and I glance at my notifications.

At the top of my Facebook news feed was this image.

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Not going to lie. My initial gut reaction was… wtf?

Then, of course, I started to compare myself….

Well, I’m definitely not 0-3. I probably workout like 8 and 9 but I look more like 4 or 5. See… I AM fat. UGH, I KNEW IT!

That was literally my thought process.

Anyone else?

Besides the obvious question of why we think it’s OK to analyze and critique body types, the body type titles are laughable.

NORMAL? Don’t even get me started. What in the hell is a “normal” body? Who defines “normal” anyway? And really, “normal” FOR who? Everyone’s “normal” is different.

Right? Have we not figured this yet?

Things like this are a big problem in our culture. We find it completely acceptable to parade female bodies around as if their sole purpose is to look at. Then we compare those bodies, picking a “normal” and unconsciously telling anyone who falls outside of that “normal” something’s wrong with them.

Or do we?

This post is going to go in a completely different direction that I thought it was going to go in.

While writing I showed the husband the photo expecting him to immediately have the same visceral reaction I did — this is SO WRONG!

Instead he looked and said,

“Why are you getting upset about one guy’s opinion?” 

Mind. Blown.

Why was I getting upset over one persons opinion?  Why did I immediately feel the need to compare myself? Why did I look at each body and title with so much interest? Why did I care so much?

We ended up having a really good conversation about it. He truly didn’t understand why it made me feel so icky and I couldn’t comprehend how differently our brains were wired.

Case in point: Later in the afternoon I showed him this.

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He looked over and very nonchalantly said, “I guess I’m a 3.” Then proceeded to put his head phones back on and started working again.

What?



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Discussion

There are 15 comments so far.

    Kitty

    September 24, 2015

    I don’t know, maybe this is typical male v. typical female thing. I’m sure that is over-generalizing but I imagine my husband would be like yours and I kinda am like you.

    But here is another thing that struck me. The pictures of women had the “normal” woman. I put that in quotes because the word “normal” really isn’t right.

    But, I noticed the picture of men didn’t have a “normal” and the pictures of men had a picture that isn’t there for the female version. And, I realized in a sense what the “normal” thing is probably meant to represent. That is, the so-called “normal” female is one who isn’t super-skinny, but she isn’t all that curvy and doesn’t have a lot of notable muscle or fat. Just sort of not notable — neither skinny, nor fat, nor muscular.

    For the guys, he doesn’t have that. I must admit I tried to characterize my husband and I couldn’t. He lost a lot of weight and is now “normal” BMI. He isn’t skinny. But he isn’t muscular. And, he doesn’t have a belly. So, he doesn’t fit in *any* of the male categories. While I don’t like the term “normal” on the women’s photos it at least basically gives a category for those who aren’t particularly skinny, fat, or muscular. But, for the guys, there is literally no where to categorize a guy like that. My husband isn’t even on that chart….

      Ann

      September 26, 2015

      Guys care about how tall they are….yes they do!

    sara

    September 25, 2015

    A lot of it has to do with body type/shape as well. I’m 2.5yrs into maintenance and at 5ft, 6in and 125lbs, I’m a ‘0’ on top (and that’s after nursing three kids, darn it grrr) and a ‘3’ on the bottom. That’s because I’m pear shaped and it doesn’t matter what I weigh/how much I lose, I’ll always have a bit more ‘oomph’ on the bottom. That’s how God made me and I’ve learned to roll with it :) My husband would be like yours though, now I need to show him this post lol.

    Jessica

    September 25, 2015

    I agree 100% with your husband. Those kind of pictures have been floating around the internet for years. Best to roll your eyes and move on. Getting so worked up about it only causes you stress. If pictures like that affect someone so strongly they may need to take a closer look at why it bothers them so much,

      roni

      September 25, 2015

      I totally agree with you guys and I’m so happy my logical brain is slowly taking over my body-image-broken emotional brain. :)

      Claude

      September 25, 2015

      I have my favorites from the above body types for Women, I know what I wouldn’t want to look like as a Man; but who really gives a rat’s ass about the assigned definitions or the idiot who penned them?
      These articles are designed to push your buttons, create dissent, foster indignation, and get them traffic=(money).
      Mildly amusing!

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    Shirleen Murrell

    October 15, 2015

    Hi Roni, I agree with the above. I’m 65 years old and I am STILL comparing myself. Done that all my life. I have always tried to keep myself fit and looking good, WHAAAA about 2 years ago I started getting a little belly and the weight just piled on. I joined weight watchers and lost 4 1/2 lbs in 6 months. I was a dedicated WW person with an attitude. Been to the Dr. ; nothing wrong. Can’t figure it out. Menopausal spread????

    Sofia

    October 18, 2015

    Well, by the men photos I miss some figures in between… Most men I know are related to a figure, which is something anywhere between “Skinny W/belly” and “Skinny muscle”…

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