One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


On Loving 39

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Four days ago I turned 39.



When I say it out loud it’s surreal. I feel young and old simultaneously. I can’t lie, it has me a little depressed. The clock isn’t stopping. Time keeps on slippin’… .slippin’… slippin’… into the future (if you didn’t get the reference you are too young to be my friend). And yes, I know I’m a “baby” to anyone older than me. Just shh already and let me wallow in my old-ness.

See, I’m getting grouchy!

I blame my age (and PMS).

That said, I’m not taking this getting older thing sitting down. This is the last year in my 30s and I’m going to suck the marrow out of it. I have a book that I’m promoting, two amazing kids who need me, and a shit-ton more things I want to accomplish. I have 365 days until I turn the big 4-0 and I’m going to do one thing every day until then just for me.

That’s right, for ME. This isn’t about the kids or my marriage or my career. It’s selfish by design. There’s no reason I can’t carve at least 5 minutes of out each day to do something that makes me happy or helps me grow. This is about Self-Nurturing not Self-Indulgence. I want to take care of myself. I want to push myself even farther out of my comfort zone. I want to seize the little things. I want to experience every day.

It’s my own version of a 365 day project but I’m calling mine #loving39 because if there’s anything I learned from #wycwyc it’s the power of words. No more “Ugh, I’m getting SO old!” I’m turning those words inside out (spoiler alert — that’s in the book!) and celebrating my oldness!

My plan is to keep a photo journal on IG (using the tag #loving39) and then every couple weeks I’ll gather them here on the blog.

Here’s what I have so far…

My birthday — Had my cake and ate it, too.

I didn’t blog much about my recent trip to Punta Cana but that’s where I celebrated this year. It was an amazing experience and I’ll be sharing more about the trip on TheUnworldlyTravelers –  click here to see a few pics. 


#loving39 – Day 001 — REALLY out of my comfort zone!

I can’t believe I’m about to confess this publicly but… I skinny dipped for the first time in my life!! I snapped this photo right afterwards (once we put our clothes back on). It was one of the craziest things I’ve ever done! Scratch that… it WAS the craziest thing WE’ve ever done!! (He’s totally going to kill me for sharing so don’t say a WORD!)

#loving39 – Day 002 — Skipped the gym and tried something new.

I woke up early to take a bike tour in the Dominican Republic. I’m not the biggest bike rider (I haven’t been on one in years) but I figured…. why the hell not! Let’s do something new!


#loving39 – Day 003 — Took advantage of where I was and ran solo on the beach.

We had to leave for the airport mid-morning but I didn’t let that stop me. I haven’t been running much lately but I dragged my butt out of bed to hit the sand before our long day of travel.


#loving39 – Day 004 — Straight back to my routine.

My favorite hour of the day is spent at 6 a.m. lifting with my friends. When that alarm went off at 5:30 I was TIRED but I knew I wouldn’t regret it. I’m looking forward to training and I have a few things I’m working on (more soon).
Note: My friend’s nephew photobombed my gym selfie and it was too funny not to share.


That’s all I have so far. The first few days were pretty easy considering I was out of my element and on vacation. The next 360 will be the real challenge.

I’m coming for you 40!

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There are 13 comments so far.


    July 29, 2015

    You are a beautiful, young woman. I always tell my kids, who are now 28-20, “I don’t feel any older than any of you guys, in my mind…I just have a little more living experience”. I hope you’re bucket list, of doing something for yourself, lasts a lot longer than just these 365 days, but it’s a start. #WYCWYC Happy Birthday!!! Glad to see you enjoyed every second of your birthday vacation! Party on youngin’!!!


    July 29, 2015

    That is awesome! I’m not too far behind you (39 in September) and I finally feel that in my late-30s I am truly beginning to understand who I am and what I am capable of and I have to say some of that may have come from some of the things I’ve read here and taken to heart. Happy belated birthday! I hope you kick 39’s butt and don’t look back.


    July 29, 2015

    I want to be you when I grow up! :) (Only a few years younger…lol)


      July 29, 2015

      Lol… I meant that I am only a few years younger than you… not that I wanted to be a few years younger than you… oops!


    July 29, 2015

    Hi Roni – Have continued to read but haven’t commented in a long time. But in the “been there done that” vein, the thing that made me hit 40 with glee was the realization all during my 39th year that I would be hitting 40 in better shape than I had been in at 30. How many people can say that? Knowing you, you’ll be able to make that same claim at 50!

    Brooke: Not On a Diet

    July 29, 2015

    Looks like your 39th spin around the sun is starting off great!

    I turned 30 on the 24th and have had moments of wigging out and moments of embracing it. Embracing it is much more easy and I’m loving it thus far. :) It can only continue to get better, right?

    Amy G.

    July 29, 2015

    Happy birthday, Roni – love your attitude! I turned 45 in June and personally, I have enjoyed getting older. I keep getting more confident, more comfortable with who I am, and (hopefully) smarter. What’s not to love? Age is but a number, and I truly mean that. I wouldn’t trade 45 for 25 any day.


    July 29, 2015

    Hi Roni,

    Happy Birthday! I just turned 50 this year. I don’t ‘feel’ 50 but I know I am :( It didn’t really bother me turning 40 until I needed reading glasses at 42. That bothered me more than anything! Enjoy every moment. I have a 9 and 10 year old so they help keep me young too :)

    Sherri D

    July 29, 2015

    Happy Birthday, a few days late. I want to share with you that when I turned 40, it was a tough milestone for me. I felt so O – L – D !!! I had lived half my life already! I had one foot in the grave!

    Then my neighbor said something to me that has stuck with me all these years. She was in her 80’s at the time. She said that I had not really lived half my life already. She said the first 20-some years really didn’t count. You really don’t start living your life till after age 20.

    I don’t know why this resonated so much with me. Suddenly I had only lived about a quarter of my life! Even now at age 60, I am not as bothered about my “advanced years” as much as I was at 40. I owe it all to my old-neighbor-lady-friend. btw, last I heard she was still alive and had to be pushing 100.

    So keep on, keeping on m’dear! You go girl! :D


    July 29, 2015

    Happy belated birthday! Love your idea of this being the year of you. But then, I think you’re pretty great overall :-). Glad you had a great trip too and skinny dipping is fun (a pretty harmless, SUPER occasional thing I’ve done too).


    July 30, 2015

    39 is NOT old…I will be 62 in a couple months and am looking forward to it. Can’t wait until I am 65 and in a new age group for my triathlons, bike centuries and running road and trail races and open water swims! Mindset over chronological every day!


    July 31, 2015

    I LOVE THIS IDEA! I’m turning 45 on Monday, and years 41-44 have been rough. I’ve been working hard to find myself – to be something other than a mother, wife, worker. So I’m starting #loving45 on my birthday on Monday!! Thank you for your inspiration!


    August 2, 2015

    Oh and Steve Miller’s “Fly like an Eagle” came out the year you were born….