Good morning Roni. I will get straight to the question :)
I feel I live a pretty healthy life. I work out, eat reasonablely well & have a good attitude. Most days :)
I know you’ve struggled with having a husband that isn’t totally on board. I have this same struggle…..DAILY!
It drives me crazy, he’s the all talk, no work kind of person BUT that’s only true for health. He worked his butt off to put himself through school AFTER we had 2 kids, taking 22 hrs in one semester.
Now he is very successful as the VP of operations.
But when it comes to health he wants the easy way out. He’s always looking for the next best pill, shake, patch…..
I am of the move more, eat less and you will see that you feel and look better. I don’t have the perfect body and I struggle with my own body image but I keep plugging along.
I feel like I am very negative or at least giving a negative vibe when he brings the “magic” solutions up. I don’t like being the Debbie Downer, but come on already!?
Do you have a go-to response to keep the negative at bay?
So much for getting straight to the question ;)
Have a great day!
Can I just say, I’m glad I’m not alone in the significant other struggle. It’s really hard when you live with someone who says one thing but does another in any area of their life.
I got a little flack when I said it makes my skin crawl when I hear my husband talk about his goals without any motivation or plan to actually make those goals happen but it’s hard when you know someone so well and can see their patterns of behavior.
For years I was super supportive but honestly, now I kind of just let him talk knowing that what he’s saying probably won’t happen and that’s OK. I do my best not to do the eye roll. Some days I’m successful and somedays I’m not. A few weeks ago we had a long conversation about it and we came to the conclusion that there are few things we can’t talk about because we tackle them from two different perspectives.
So I’m not sure I have at the answer you’re looking for. I don’t think there is a non-negative go-to response you can turn to while hiding your true feelings. The better approach may be to have a real heart to heart with him. Tell him how you feel and that you would appreciate it if he kept the quick-fix diet talk to a minimum because it’s not something you can get behind.
Sometimes it’s good for couples to draw lines in the sand even with things like this. There’s only so much support you can offer someone who is following a path you can’t get behind, and I don’t think it’s unrealistic to let them know that while still being supportive in other ways.
That’s my approach, anyway.