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Are You All Talk, No Game? 

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The Husband and I got into an argument this morning. I don’t normally blog about these kinds of things as I try to respect our (mostly his) privacy. I know it may not seem like it because I share so much, but I do draw lines in the sand. Certain things I’ve made off limits for the blog. My marriage, for the most part, is one of them.

However, this particular argument is too relevant not to share.

Basically, without going into too many details, we argued because I’m crazy. That’s what he called me and I have no problem owning the title.

I. am. crazy.

I have zero tolerance for people who say they are going to do something and then not do it. I’m not talking about taking out the trash or cleaning a bathroom, that stuff is silly. I’m talking big life things.

Self improvement. Vacations. Experiences. Creative projects.

Life-changing things.

People are all talk all the time – I want to lose weight, go to Europe, learn a new language, write a book, blah blah blah – but how many people do you know who actually follow through? How many people aggressively make the things they want to happen ACTUALLY HAPPEN?

Yes, those caps were me screaming.

Maybe it’s because I was, at one time, stuck in a pattern of all talk and no action that I’m so passionate about this. I’m like an ex-smoker who hates smokers. I have no tolerance for people who say things I know they don’t really mean. Combine that with my inability to hide my feelings and I get snarky.

Really snarky.

I know I do. It’s a problem I’m working on.

From his perspective I’m “crazy” because I don’t like to talk about things unless we take steps to make those things happen.

From my perspective it makes my skin crawl when he starts talking about goals without any motivation or plan to actually make those goals happen.

We walked away from our argument, calmed down and re-discussed expressing our individual perspectives. He still thinks I’m crazy and I still think he’s unmotivated, but in the words of a close friend:

You are you and I am me. But please just understand and acknowledge my motivation.

OK, enough about us! I’m going to use our argument as inspiration for a good old-fashioned Question of the Week.

What side of this equation do you fall on?

Are you all talk and no game? Or lots of game and little talk?



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Discussion

There are 64 comments so far.

    Kate D

    February 2, 2015

    Much likd you, I get so frustrated when people talk about wanting to change but never doing it. My husband is one of those people. He acknowledges he lacks motivation to make the changes, so I guess that’s something. But if he had actually started eating healthier and working out when he said it the first time, he’d be Mr Universe by now. I always encourage him when he brings it up, but I don’t get too excited because, well, track records and all. We are all different and just need to accept that.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Accepting differences may be the key to life! :)

    Dana

    February 2, 2015

    I’m more of a planner/doer and husband isn’t… until he is ready! Some days it’s frustrating and other days I let it go because, well we just operate differently. I’ve also come to realize that everyone doesn’t have goals. Some people have thoughts and dreams.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      That’s what we talked about. He’s more of a dreamer and I’m more of a doer. We just have to honor each others differences.

    Ana

    February 2, 2015

    Hi Roni –
    I think for this one we have different takes. For many people, the talking without action is part of the process. And that is OK. To go along with your smoking example, we know that smokers usually have to try MANY times to quit unsuccessfuly before it actually sticks. And each of those attempts probably involved talking about how much they want to do it, before they actually even embarked / attempted to quit.

    From a weight loss perspective I have been on this train so many times before I have lost count. I succeed, and then I fail. And before I get on the horse to try again there’s usually a bit of “talk no action” (at least until I remind myself that action begets motivation, not the other way around). I so appreciate that my husband and best friend have been supportive even throughout those periods of all talk no action. It would be hard if one of them had said “I don’t want to hear you talking about this until you do something about it” because sometimes that person is not there yet. Just a different perspective!

      Ana

      February 2, 2015

      I forgot to add – some of us approach this differently depending on the area of our life. My job is all about making plans, detailing out the steps and executing. Could I also approach weight loss that methodically? Yes. Do I? 50/50. I know its not rational, but I’m being honest.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Of course! No ones perfect. I’m not rational in lots of area of my life. lol

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Totally agree! It’s a huge part of the process but when you live with someone for almost 20 years you can only be but so patient. So even though I respect his process he (others who are more talk) have to understand that their loved ones patience isn’t an unlimited resources. We have a right to get frustrated as much as they have the right to take their sweet time.

      Ana

      February 3, 2015

      “their loved ones patience isn’t an unlimited resources” –> that’s a fair point. I guess that’s the point when you either a) get help if its something serious or important specifically health wise or b) come to a mutual agreement that you prefer not to discuss that topic. We have a stop smoking program where I work that came to my head because of your example, and it’s described as something for folks who don’t know where to start. Re-joining WW or something similar may be the weight loss equivalent?

      PS – I notice that the names on the comments keep changing. So my comments have other people’s names, and my name is in other comments. I am using Chrome if that helps.

      Thanks Roni!

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Thank you for letting me know about the comment name issue. I apparently have a bug and we are working on it! SO Sorry!
      And yes.. I agree… coming to a mutual agreement that “I work this way and you work that way” so let’s keep these kids of discussions to a minimum is exactly how we handled it.

    Lisa Posner

    February 2, 2015

    A goal without a plan is just a wish.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      And a plan without action is just talk. :)

    Caroline

    February 3, 2015

    Yes! “I have no tolerance for people who say things I know they don’t really mean. Combine that with my inability to hide my feelings and I get snarky.” That’s me. We’re not crazy…we’re productive. :)

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Feel so much better I’m not alone because sometimes I do feel crazy.

    Kitty

    February 3, 2015

    I am definitely more on your side of things. Not entirely. That is, it really bothers me when people just talk about problems and do nothing to solve them. Some people seem to want to talk more about their problems, than actually do something to try to solve them. And, this drives me crazy. I want them to do something – just one thing – to try to make a difference.

    At the same time, I know that for personally sometimes I DO talk about it before I do it. For some things, it is a process. That is, part of getting to trying a solution is first acknowledging the problem even exists. I may be ready to — finally — admit the problem and recognize it needs to be solve, but at that moment I may not be able to do more than that.

    I guess it doesn’t bother me so much with other people if they know and acknowledge they will eventually need to take steps. What bothers me is when people have a “Yes, but” attitude and are very defeatist. It is OK to me for them to say “this idea won’t work because”…but then I want them to come with an alternative idea….

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      The “yes BUT” is the WORST! And I agree with you my biggest pet peeve is people who complain endlessly without taking steps to solve what bothers them.

    Kathy

    February 3, 2015

    I think I am both, at different times and about different situations.
    Roni, you say that because you were stuck in a pattern of all talk and no action for such a long time that you have no tolerance of it. So you get snarky and don’t hide your feeling’s, hence the argument.
    Can you not remember the Roni that struggled and saying what you wanted to change ,but for whatever reasons it took you lots of self talk, lots of trying and failing and trying again and again before that switch was some how switched on for good and you were able to finally move from the all talk and no action side to the all game side?
    Sometimes I think people need to express their wishes out loud to send it out there, to be heard, to sometimes just even hear it out loud as a way to reinforce the desire in their minds.
    Yes, you have developed into a real dynamo, and I hope that your husband was supportive of you while you worked on getting there. It makes me sad that you say you have no tolerance and that it makes your skin crawl to hear him say his goals with no plans to get there. He might never get to where you are with goal setting and planning on how to get there.
    You need to live with that and love him anyway. Because where should we expect to tell our hopes and wishes with out being told we’ll never get there because we don’t take the right steps , at home certainly we should feel safe from being told we don’t do life right.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      I think I am too. I think we are all to some extent. Of course I can remember and most of the time I’m patient but something it’s hard to hide my frustration. That’s just being human.

    Brianna Engebretsen

    February 3, 2015

    I think I am sometimes on both sides of the spectrum. I love setting goals and working for them, but sometimes laziness and busyness get the best of me, making it harder to follow through. I do know that I get upset with myself when I don’t follow through, though. I like to believe I am much less talk and more action.

    http://www.divaandthedivine.com

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Truth be told I’m more talk and less do in some aspects of my life too. I think we are all. I was just SO frustrated at him yesterday!

    Bling Betty

    February 3, 2015

    Although I disagree with you often, this time, in this argument, I’m all Roni. In life goals in general but specifically with regard to creating a healthy lifestyle/losing weight/sustaining a fitness regimen, life has shown me that people who talk about it a lot, publicize their plans, make a big show of it, etc. (blog blog blog but mostly about how they had yet another cheat day because it was a special occasion) generally never actually get the show on the road. I did it myself more than once. But the time I really made all the changes, I did it quietly: no grand declaration to friends and family, no public statement of a goal weight or exercise plan, no facebook posts about what I ate/didn’t eat, what my workout was. I just did it, on my own. “Support” usually ends up being interference, sabotage, and way too much talking about it/procrastination. So I changed what I ate, I traded couch time for the gym. And I lost a lot of weight in a short period of time (exactly what all the experts, a.k.a. fat people on an eternal diet tell you “won’t work”) and I’ve kept it off for a decade. And I still don’t announce my lifestyle to people.

    Conversely, my husband (who is not overweight and who works at a physical job but who is a perfectionist) talks all. The. Time. about how he’s going to stop eating snacks at night and how he is going to go back to the gym next month as soon as x, y, z finishes up or whatever, and he’s been saying this for a decade. I usually just give him a squeeze or don’t comment; some people talk out loud and I guess he is one of them. Now if he were 50 lbs overweight and sat at a desk all day, I think I’d be more prone to say how can I help you get started, or whatever.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      Interesting. I’m doing less talking and more doing on my own goals currently but the more talking (aka blogging) in the beginning helped me stay accountable and got the ball rolling.

    Cheryl

    February 3, 2015

    Well, I don’t think it was nice for him to call you crazy, but I understand his perspective. I think it is ok to express your goals and dreams with your loved one and I don’t think just because you express them in the present time, it means that you want to act on them now. I have a goal to go to travel more, but with 2 kids in college, that has to wait, but I love to talk about where we will go when we are able to.
    As for personal self improvement- not something you can tell another person how to do and when to act on it. They may want to change, for you, for kids, for any reason, but until they know in their heart that they want to do it for themselves, that is a personal journey that only they can take in whatever way they want to tackle. I would think you more than anyone would understand that. You might be aggressive now about setting personal goals, but at one time, you were taking baby steps.

      roni

      February 3, 2015

      That’s exactly what he said! And I get it but sometimes loved ones need to understand that the talking and not doing can be stressful for the doer in the relationship too. It works both ways.

      This particular thing that sparked the post was not about self improvement.. I’m the most patient with that aspect actually and I celebrate every baby step he takes.

    Megan

    February 3, 2015

    I find it so interesting when I have a certain theme/issue/idea going on in my life, I often find someone writing a blog post about something similar. In fact I have recently been composing a blog post for my blog (in my head) about a similar issue. Not the argument :-), but I have a had a certain goal of mine that I keep whining about but haven’t really taken on any action on.

    I have two boys (ages 16 and 5). My oldest will be graduating from High School next year. My youngest is half Chilean. I know those seem like they have nothing to do with each other but when my oldest is settled into College, I want to move with the youngest to Chile for at least 2 years and maybe longer if we love it.

    I keep whining about wanting it to happen but haven’t come up with any action plan to put it into place. I now have about a year and a half to get my but in gear to make it happen.

    I am so glad you posted this because I think tonight I will post a blog post on my action plan on moving to Chile in 2016!

    Valerie padgett

    February 3, 2015

    I swear, your blog today could have been written by me, WORD FOR WORD! I am absolutely a fanatic about following through, once I’ve committed to a project, or a life change, or whatever. I have no patience AT ALL for people who are “all talk, no action.” I, perhaps unfairly, have labeled these people as “victims”, and I just can’t tolerate victims. Come talk to me when you have an action plan, or don’t come to me at all, I now tell them. I’m very hard core about this. I feel that I shouldn’t care more than they do. Sad, but true…
    Anyway, great column!!

    I think in certain parts of my life (blogging goals, running new distances, career moves)–I am ALL action almost NO talk.
    However other things like “saying” I am going to stop eating my favorite foods so often, or saying that I need to fix so many parts of my house, or saying that I am going to stop saying yes to all the things—is a lot of talk…

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Selective doer.. .lmao me too.

    Ash Bear

    February 3, 2015

    I’m 100% in your camp. Bo and I had a similar argument in regards to travel because he was like “oh I want to go there” and I was like then why don’t you book it. He was like oh we will etc etc and I’m like no, if you just talk, it won’t happen!

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Travel is the best example of this. I know SO many people who say they want to go here or there but don’t book it or start to save or even look at how much it will cost. That bugs the crap out of me!

    Stacie

    February 3, 2015

    Man. Do I know where you’re coming from right now. I’m the kind of person that says “okay, X is our problem, what is the solution?” I hate problems that don’t have solutions. I need something to work toward.

    My boyfriend and I decided to make weekly weigh-ins a part of our life at the new year. I have (always) been trying to lose weight, he wants to lose weight to get back into Navy standards. So we did. Each Tuesday morning, we jump on the scale. Week after week (with one exception), I’ve posted a loss. Week after week (with one exception) – he’s either maintained or gone up a bit. He gets SO frustrated. Every week, I ask him what he’s doing to lose weight — what he’s doing differently now than he did before the new year. He says, “oh, i’m going to the gym 2-3 times a week.” Except I know that’s less than he was doing last year (we trained for a half marathon that we ran in December) — and I know that his eating is off-point. Except he’s not willing to make changes. He wants the results without having to do the work. He’s not ready. Meanwhile, I need to work harder to make sure that his inaction doesn’t affect my results. Or his bad results don’t overshadow my good results (because damn it, I’m proud of those 9.6 lbs I lost in January!).

    Sometimes people are just not ready. I wasn’t ready for the longest time. I’m ready now. He’ll come around. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      And you are SO right. You can’t make people ready!

    Charlie Hills

    February 3, 2015

    While I can see where you’re coming from (quickly summarized: don’t even bother talking about a dream unless you absolutely have a foolproof plan to implement it) you’re also underestimating (if not completely dismissing) the power of a very fundamental human emotion: hope. Executing plans is how the species advances, but Hope is how the species survives. And while you may think it’s crazy that I’m simply hoping I’ll climb Mount Everest someday and never doing anything about it, well: maybe when I’m stressed out, and sitting in bumper to bumper traffic, or waiting for those test results from the doctor, and I just close my eyes and picture myself on the top of the world someday, then that’s far better than ever actually going through with it.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      I see hope in a completely different dimension here. Hope (for me) is to desire things that are out of my control. If I want to climb Mt. Everest, really want to climb it, it’s in my power to make that happen. If I have a friend who wants to climb it, and they are working on their goal, well, I HOPE they accomplish it.

      That’s how I think about it anyway. I could imagine myself on top of Mt. Everest… and that’s fun but I really have no desire to that.

      Does that make sense?

    Mindy

    February 3, 2015

    I think it’s a complicated question. “Bad” behavior often serves a purpose so as much as we want to change it, when things get tough we resort to those behaviors to take care of ourselves. And a lot of times we want to change that behavior but we have mixed emotions so we get stuck.

    Change is hard and takes a LONG time. Not to say that we can’t employ the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ mantra but when things get tough it’s hard to use that to stay on track.

    Roni you are definitely an inspiration to those of us who do want to change! I’m sure you are an inspiration to your husband, too. I bet he’s more critical of his behavior than you are, he just can’t tell you that!!! LOL

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      He may be.. but I also think we are just wired differently. He is perfectly content being all talk, it doesn’t bother him the way it bothers me.

    Jen

    February 3, 2015

    I think there are times when people noodle aloud about goals that they are thinking about but are not quite ready to commit to doing just yet. I think that’s just part of the process toward doing.

    Sometimes there are obstacles that seem insurmountable and sometimes there are mental roadblocks that are hard to overcome. I think that someone who really wants to do something will eventually find a way to make it happen, but sometimes the timeline is more leisurely than others.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      My husband is a total noodler. I just need to let him noodle. lol

    CPAGrrrl

    February 3, 2015

    I’m really enjoying this discussion, partly because on my screen ALL of the comments say they’re from roni, so it looks like she’s having A Really Public, Really Serious Mental Break.

    My two cents: I hate, I mean HATE, the “I’m gonnas”. And I avoid them like they’re life-threatening. Because I believe they are. My mother likes to I’m Gonna, my old boss was an I’m Gonna, and my husband, God love him, shows some signs. But I like to think he’s a PLANNER, rather than just a TALKER.
    I love the quitting smoking analogy because when I quit (BOTH times… Yeah) I didn’t tell ANYONE that “I’m gonna” quit. I had quit for 4 months before my coworkers noticed. (Both times.). They last thing in the world I wanted to do was SAY I was gonna quit & NOT QUIT.

    But planning is not “just talking.” I make a huge distinction there. A well thought out plan for fixing the garbage disposal might mean you don’t flood the kitchen. This is why my husband gets a pass on the subject. He puts a lot more time into planning than I’d like (ALOT) but it works.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      lmao think I fixed the comment issue. I’ve been having a lot of bugs with my new design. :(

    Brooke: Not On a Diet

    February 3, 2015

    I’m a total dreamer. I dream a lot. The doing part….well that happens on some occasions. My issue is I just don’t come up with a plan and then get distracted by ALL. THE. THINGS. (which is happening right now! haha)

    I’m trying to be better this year though of giving myself permission to make things happen and to follow through. I am a lot more happy when I do that. Oh and not letting fear hold me back.

    Really, I know I’m getting distracted, but this post couldn’t have come at a better time. :)

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      lol we are the same. ALL THE THINGS bites me in the ass every time. There are just so many things I want to do!

    Lauren

    February 3, 2015

    I am BOTH. Sometimes intentions are good, but circumstances make them too hard at the moment. so i’m BOTH depending on the circumstances.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      I think we are all a combo. There are things I’m still working on too.

    Cindy

    February 3, 2015

    I am mostly all talk and about some things all game. On a lot of the big issues I am at first and then we have a setback and I falter and get back into it and then we have another and another and at some point the snowball has started down the hill and it is really hard to dig in and get momentum back up.
    Right now I have been working on a goal for 2 months and that first setback has really shaken me. I kind of feel like I am throwing my body against a brick wall and if I can just get to the other side things will get easier. Now I don’t feel as strong or capable as I did a week ago. Anyway I am working hard on staying with the plan but I think most people myself included have not sufficiently planned for failures.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Good point. We need to mentally prepare or it hits us like a ton of bricks.

    Jill

    February 3, 2015

    In this scenario you are my husband and I am your husband -ha ha! I constantly mull over plans and ideas out loud – kinda playing with them if you will – and it drives my husband crazy. He gets an idea, commits and does it. I think and think about it some more, and then slowly wade in the shallow end. We have been married for 30 years and I don’t think either of us is going to change so we just agree to disagree. (And you and he would sit and complain about us non-committers and say yes! yes! yes! if you could talk in person)

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      LMAO Sometimes I think the fact that we are so different in this area is why we work. I could never be married to someone like me, it would be exhausting!

    I recently read about how the subconscious mind can sabotage the conscious mind.
    Happens all the time with people who want to lose weight. They say then want to lose weight, but then they turn around and binge on all the food they are not suppose to be eating….. why do they do this? They do it because there is a subconscious part of them that is more comfortable with being fat. Or in some of your examples – If a person say they want to go to Europe, but they never do anything about it. There is a subconscious part of that person, that does not want to go to Europe. And that subconscious parts’ need of not going to Europe is stronger that the conscious parts need to go to Europe.
    Do you follow what I’m saying?
    The trick is to find why the subconscious part does not want to do what the conscious part does want.
    I hope that helps, and maybe sheds a little light on all those people who say they want something, but they never follow through. They honestly can’t really help it, because there is a subconscious part of them that is overriding the decision.

    Anyways, that’s my two cents.

    Thanks!

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      YES! I totally agree with this! There is something comfortable about our current state and change is scary so some people, even though they want to do “whatever” it’s easier and more comfortable not to.

    Martha

    February 3, 2015

    I can totally relate because for years I was all talk and no action when it came to weight loss. However now that I figured out that dieting wasn’t the way to go (duh!) and it was making small sustainable changes that helped me get healthier I am less understanding when I hear “I want to lose weight, but…”
    Seriously? Get a grip and start making changes.
    You don’t have to do it all in one day. Just start!
    Sort of coming down on your side on this one.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      I’m right there with you.. but I also try to remember when I was stuck in that cycle.

    Melissa

    February 3, 2015

    I am all talk and I hate it!
    I’m working on (getting out of my comfort zone). I bought a pass for an indoor trampoline place that has a exercise class. I love it.
    There is so much more I want to do. Just have to do it!!

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Baby steps! You are already headed in the right direction!

    Claude

    February 4, 2015

    40 comments, WOW! I read’em all. Roni, your reply to Bling Betty was enlightening: ‘the blog keeps you accountable’. Perhaps the ‘ImGonnas’ should start a blog to be accountable and move out of their comfort zone; but that’s why they’re dreamers- all show, no go. I have a difficult time relating to such behavior, it’s so much more empowering to accomplish- ANYTHING! Only 10% of Americans make 100K/year, that’s representative of the statistical bell shaped curve; 90% are dreamers. That can be applied across the sum of all life’s experiences; but I’m implementing:)

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Honestly, that’s exactly what happened for me. The blog was a huge part of my shift from all talk to action. That’s why I started the travel blog too.

      Charlie Hills

      February 4, 2015

      As far as “the blog keeps you accountable” . . .

      I have two blogs, one we’ll call (for lack of a better term) “popular” and a second one (much less popular) which I dedicated to one of my passions: writing. I began the latter so as not to annoy readers of the former with off-topic posts. Additionally, as Roni noted here, I wanted a public place to keep me accountable. The only problem there is for a blog to be truly considered public, it has to have visitors.

      When I started blogging in 2008, there were an estimated 12 million blogs. By 2011 there were an estimated 158 million blogs. Every single day more than one million new blog posts go up. It’s a big sea out there and the reality is, the majority of us will get essentially no traffic. If you post and post and post and post and never get a single like (your mom doesn’t count) or a single comment (besides your BFF), you slowly realize: you’re not being accountable to anyone.

      But the thing is, you never are anyway. Roni isn’t accountable to us. If she announces, “Imma gonna make a movie!” here and never does, not one of us is going to send her hate mail over it. Whether Roni has zero visitors a day, a thousand, or ten million, she’s not accountable to anyone but herself.

      The tl;dr version of this: if you want to start a blog to make you accountable for your dreams, do it. But don’t rely on your audience to keep you going. You’re always going to be responsible for that no matter what.

      roni

      February 4, 2015

      Ahh and this is where we are different too. (I think) I don’t feel accountable to my readers, I don’t need readers nor did I have readers in the beginning when the blog helped me the most, but the act of writing, planning, and getting out of my head is how the blogged helped. It gave me an external thing to work on instead of internalizing my feelings. Sure, having readers now is fun (this is the best conversation ever) and i don’t need the blog like I did in the beginning but even if you journal on paper and commit to it I think it will make a huge difference for people who want to pursue goals. They key is the commitment.

      Charlie Hills

      February 4, 2015

      Actually, I’m going to have to disagree with your disagreement because I agree with you. :)

      While the bulk of my post covered accountability to readership, the conclusion (“don’t rely on your audience to keep you going. You’re always going to be responsible for that no matter what.”) is fundamentally the same.

      You make a very good point: you didn’t have thousands of readers on Day One and you didn’t need them either. Though you didn’t use this word, putting it out there (even if no one was reading) was therapeutic. And I’m pretty sure that made all the difference.

      Hopefully my reply wasn’t taken to discourage people from blogging. Blog away!

    Paula

    February 4, 2015

    I am both. I talk about doing something but it does take me a while to determine my method of accomplishing the goal. There is nothing wrong with being a dreamer either, without them we would never even try.

    petunia

    February 4, 2015

    I’m all game and little (if no) talk.

    Pam

    February 6, 2015

    I used to have a poster hanging by my desk at work that said: “The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good intention!” I try to live by that, but too often, I find myself planning to make these big changes and then not doing what is necessary to make that happen. But….every day I have a new chance, and it’s only 8:00, so maybe today will be the day I JUST DO IT!!!

    Karla

    February 7, 2015

    OMG!! you are my daughter!!! but seriously. I am getting more and more on your side of the street on this BUT I am surrounded (read live with) a yabba dabba dooer ….. love and hope they decide to make a change is all you can do

    Staci

    February 7, 2015

    I am lots of talk, a week of action, and then no action. I hate it about myself!!! I hate it! But I am trying so hard to change that a little at a time. I have got the gym thing DOWN PAT. I’m way out of my comfort zone just stepping into a gym, and I’ve given myself the freedom to take 2 personal training sessions, hop on an elliptical, use weight machines and free weights, and learn some exercises with the stability ball. This is NOT Staci. And I’ve been doing this pretty faithfully since either Oct or Nov of 2014. But my eating is crap, and that’s the part that constantly leaves me all talk no action. I’ve felt so confused in the eating world over the last year – carbs are good, don’t eat carbs, be GF, eat healthy fats, do low fat, red meat is bad, red meat is fine, don’t eat fruits, blah, blah, blah. By having all that confusion in my head, I gained 15 pounds in 2014 because no matter what I tried it felt WRONG. Right now, I’m working on doing what works for ME and forgetting everyone else’s advice. In summary (ha!), I’m currently talk no action with food but working to become Mrs. Action! :)