I’ve heard through the grapevine there’s another “What’s Your Excuse? mom” out there. You know what I’m talking about, right? I’m not linking because I don’t want to give them any more attention. Google “What’s your excuse?” if you really don’t know, tons of stories pop up.
Or… spare yourself the eye roll, just imagine some super-fit trainer mom posing with her young kids, showing off her fabulous body and rock-hard abs asking what YOUR excuse is.
Translation: Why don’t you look like her?
I find it insulting, demotivating and downright rude. I know folks are split on this. These women have hordes of followers who find the message motivating.
Hey, more power to them.
I, on the other hand, think it’s a dangerous way to try to inspire. First of all, not all of us can look exactly THAT way. I’ve shared my own struggles with wanting to look like a super-thin runway model before and sure, I can starve myself thinner than I am now, but regardless of how much weight I lose, I will never look like a Twiggy or Kate Moss. It’s just not gonna happen.
When I finally lost the weight I very much had the “I can do it so you can too” attitude, so I do kind of understand where these women are coming from. However, if you promote your specific body type as some ideal and then ask others why they don’t look like you, isn’t that just setting them up for disappointment and failure? At least the ones who physically can not look like you?
You can argue that’s not what these moms are doing but that’s how it’s interpreted.
Look at me and how perfect I am! I even had kids! Just work harder and you can look like this too!
I’m sorry. It’s bull.
I just don’t think we need super-fit trainers modeling bikinis and asking why we don’t have what it takes to look like them. There are so many other and better ways to motivate people to reach their own personal goals.
Lead by example. Show people the benefits of a healthier lifestyle. The increased energy and ability to enjoy life. The way healthy food can be so good and help you just. feel. amazing. Showcase the myriad benefits of exercise and movement. How being active and engaged is better than watching life pass you by while you wait to look a certain way or wear a certain size.
Most importantly, lift people up!
You don’t need an excuse if you are living the life you want.