One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Five 2-Word Mantras That Help Me Daily

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Besides #wycwyc I find myself repeating a few of the same phrases over and over to motivate and help me deal with life.

You know how it is. Sometimes you feel you can take on the world. Other days you deserve a medal for just getting out of bed.

Regardless of what the day has in store, these simple two-word tools help me through it all.

1. I’m in

I wrote a whole post about this a few years ago after a life-changing trip to Italy with my mom. The idea is simple: always be open to new experiences and challenges. These experiences and challenges can be as simple as trying a new food or as intense as signing up for a running or athletic event that scares the crap out of you. Most recently a friend asked if anyone wanted to sign up for the Run 2,015 in 2015 Challenge. My response was…

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I say it so much, some of my friends make fun of me, but I don’t care. I spent too many years not trying and experiencing things because of a bad body image and my self-concisousness. Let me say from experience, life is a whole lot more fun DOING than waiting to do because you think you’re too fat or unworthy or not capable or {insert your current excuse here}.

Of course you can’t say “I’m in!” to everything, but it’s become really easy for me to discern a decline out of fear versus one of no interest or lack of time.

2. Over it

I caught some flack about this a few weeks ago when I reacted to what the doctor said about my weight. But truth be told, the more I think and utter the words “over it,” the more over it — whatever it may be — becomes true. It’s very much a fake it ’til you make it mindset for me.

Being “over it” is my way of preparing mentally to move on. Whether it’s the scale or some other drama I no longer want in my life, if I’m tired of stewing I say to myself I’m “over it!”

Of course sometimes it’s easier said than done, but there’s power is those two little words.  Repeat them to yourself about anything that doesn’t serve you or bring joy into your life.

3. Moving on

The flip side being to being “over it” is “moving on” and I probably verbalize this one more on a daily basis than any of the others.

Little argument with the Husband that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere? Moving on! How was the rest of your day, honey?  

Lost a few hours of work because of a corrupt file? Moving on! Let’s tackle the inbox for a bit.

“Moving on” helps me literally move on when I’m totally about to lose my shhhhi….  You know what I’m talking about.

4. Own it

This  may be my de facto mantra for 2015.  I don’t know if it’s my age or the fact that I’ve been advising a school-age child on how to be more confident but recently I’ve been having a very calm feeling of complete self-acceptance. I like what I like. I do what I do. I eat what I eat. I feel what I feel.

I’m owning it all.

So when I catch myself feeling self-conscious about the things that make me me I think to myself, “Own it, Roni!”

I can honestly say this has done wonders for my self-confidence.

5.  Just is

Have you ever met someone who think the universe is against them? Saying things like “why does this always happen to ME?” “Why can’t MY family be normal?” “Why isn’t it easy for me like it is for them?”


I think everyone has these types of thoughts now and then, regardless of their lot in life. It’s hard not to internalize when you feel things are unfair or inconsistent or even downright wrong. When I catch myself starting to feel this way I say it — again, whatever it may be — “just is.”

There doesn’t always have to be a reason or an excuse or someone to blame or a higher force for or against you. I may not have all the answers but I find solace that things just are. Life just is.

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There are 7 comments so far.


    January 19, 2015

    I love all of them. I will have to remember them especially the “over it” and “moving on”. The last few months I have been telling myself “Up or down you decide”. It helps me keep my perspective some times.


    January 20, 2015

    All of these are great! “Over it” and “moving on” are definitely recurring in my life right now. “Own it” is something I tell myself every day. I really struggle with confidence, but it does help to show more self-love! :)


    January 20, 2015

    I love these. Sometimes little comments are the tiny rudders that steer the ships of our lives. Eek! It’s so good to make them positive and powerful.


    January 20, 2015

    Use a few of those myself…mostly OWN IT with my oldest kid….but I love JUST IS…I tend to get bogged down into the “whys”, “its not right” and “its not fair” – JUST IS is the perfect solution. Thx


    January 20, 2015

    There are great. I just wrote them own in my filofax so I can remember to practice them daily. Thank you Roni!

    Mary Nell

    January 20, 2015

    These are awesome!! I’ve had the “I’m in” philosophy adopted for awhile without saying it quite like that, but I need to use “moving on” way more in my life.

    Natalie Cleary

    January 26, 2015

    So simple, yet so effective. I like that your simple mantras are every day things that you wont forget! Keep up the good work!