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Big Decision Friday! What Would You Do?

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Yesterday I found myself staring at this email for what seemed like hours.

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In a week I’m flying to Vegas specifically to run the Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon.

I am nowhere even close to ready and I’m really disappointed about that. I feel like I’m in the same exact position I was in 5 years ago when I ran my first and I wanted this time to be different. I wanted to feel and be ready. I wanted to kick this marathon’s a$$!

Last time my training suffered because of personal issues (my dad died, we were moving, I started a new job) this time an injury sidelined me. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m just not cut out for marathon training. It’s mentally and physically tough and very time consuming!  I even decided to go with an easier training routine this time, focusing mostly on weekly long runs and I still couldn’t hack it.

The way I see it, I have two options before me.

Switch to the Half

I just looked it up and I can easily make the switch from the marathon to the half with no fees or penalty. I know I can run a half. It’s a challenging distance but not impossible. I was — fairly easily — running up to 12 miles in my training before I got injured and that was without any support (water stations, energy stops, cheering crowds, etc.)

Attempt the Full

Just like last time I can suck it up and give it a shot. It will be tough, there’s no doubt. I can easily remember how I felt on running Baltimore’s full but I also know how awesome it felt to follow through on my commitment. I had fun with it and looking back, I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything — click here if you haven’t seen the photos.

What to Do?!

Honestly, I have no idea. I’m been flip-flopping on this for weeks! Some days I’m all gung-ho — I got this! Let’s do it! It will be fun, like a running tour of Vegas! Other days I’m a bit more pessimistic — What if I can’t finish the full in the time constraint? Just switch to the half, there’s no shame in it. You aren’t ready. It’s not worth it. 

I have to make this decision on my own, of course, but your advice and opinions are welcome. What would YOU do?



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Discussion

There are 36 comments so far.

    Emily Myers

    November 7, 2014

    simple question: is it worth injuring yourself? You attempt the full, risk injury (or aggravating an old injury) and being on the sidelines longer. You know a half is still a major accomplishment. There is NO SHAME in knowing you’re not ready for the full. If it was me, I would go to Vegas (because, um, it’s VEGAS!!) and run the half, and HAVE FUN! You’ll be able to enjoy it more this way.

    Kara

    November 7, 2014

    I would switch the the half and try to enjoy the trip. I would be afraid of re-injury running the full not ready. There will always be races!

    I ran this Vegas RnR in 2011 (the disaster year…I’m not sure how/what is different now). But I’d almost always say drop to the half & have fun, but I think running on the strip, you could finish. 3 years ago, this was a party race…there is so much distraction & “fun runners” doing the half. But…I just checked the course & you’d have miles 10-22 be boring…so I’d drop to half. When I ran…we did 13 miles in no man’s land & then the last 13th with the half marathon- up and down the strip, which made for an entertaining 2nd half. Sorry- that course route looks awful…but I’ve generated a lot of resentment towards RnR for throwing their full course under the bus for the sake of having a nice half marathon course ( I ran 7 RnR in 2011). Go have fun in Vegas & don’ts stress!

    ChristyS

    November 7, 2014

    I personally would go with the half. It is still a challenge and it wound up being what was trained for due to the injury. You already do a lot of training in the mental toughness arena so there is NO DOUBT you would finish the marathon, but why not have fun and listen to your body? You probably paid a pretty penny to attend and it is Vegas! Run for fun…run for you!

    Lee

    November 7, 2014

    I don’t think it’s a matter of being pessimistic, I think it’s a matter of health and injury wise, what can your body accomplish right now. It’s not about failure or skipping out, it’s about being able to go to Vegas… YEAYEAYEA… enjoy yourself, and run to the best of your abilities… and have fun while you are doing it. You have trained hard, but you have also been working through injuries… and you past the injuries enough that you won’t come home re-injured? Go, have fun, and enjoy yourself :)

    Christina Savage

    November 7, 2014

    I had a similar issue with my second marathon. I had a pretty decent experience the first time but right after got preggo with Bre and decided I HAD to do another one post baby. My training was not where it needed to be. I didnt have someone to run this one with. I went anyways and had a horrible experience that left the a nasty taste in my heart for the full marathon. No easy answer – I would have done the “what ifs” if I hadnt tried. But I was miserable from mile 15 on and was so sad about the entire experience.

    Lesley

    November 7, 2014

    I would say drop to the half. You don’ want to be sidelined afterwards just for the sake of saying you did the ful marathon. Don’t undo all the hard work you have done with PT. I always try to remeber “Don’t let your ego write checks your body can’t cash.” We only have one body better to be safe then sorry! There is no shame in dropping down to the half.

    Tara

    November 7, 2014

    I think if your goal in life is to be as healthy as possible, running a full marathon you know your body isn’t ready for is a poor choice. Run the half. You are tough! You are an athlete! You are strong! Running the half so you can run another day does not change any of those facts. But of course you have to believe that about yourself.

    sarah

    November 7, 2014

    As a fellow runner whose done two full marathons and multiple halves, I say DO THE HALF! If you haven’t been able to do the work necessary to run the full, don’t risk the injury by running the full. Also, the experience of trying to do a half when you are not ready can be incredibly demoralizing. Pick another race if you really want to do a full, but unless you’ve been able to do at least 20 miles in training, I think you are setting yourself up for injury and pain. That said, good luck with everything! I’ve read your blog for last five years or so and I always enjoy it.

    Anar

    November 7, 2014

    Half is a very respectable distance. Doing the half in my opinion is a true wycwyc decision. Sometimes the hardest part is to show up even though you know you are not perfect.

    Ashley

    November 7, 2014

    If you were fully healthy and hadn’t trained fully due to schedule/emotional stuff that would be one thing and I’d say you can do the full – HAVE FUN! But, due to injuries, I’d really recommend going with your body and do the half! Enjoy every second of it and be thankful your legs are strong enough to conquer 13.1 miles!

    sherijung

    November 7, 2014

    I think it shouldn’t even be much of a doubt, you should drop to the half. If it were another course, or a trail marathon, *maybe* you could still do the full, but the best part of this course takes place in the first half, the consensus on this course is that the second half is very boring. Coming off an injury that left you sidelined from even a lighter than usual marathon training schedule, think about your next run/race, and being able to accomplish those. You can still have tons of fun running a half on the strip at night, without jeopardizing your future running and risking injury.

    hnasharp

    November 7, 2014

    Based on your recent issues, I say do you even need to do the half? I would hate to see you loose the progress you have made healing.

    Chris B.

    November 7, 2014

    Do it and walk if needed. You don’t have to do it perfectly. Just do what you can. Enjoy the experience and make it memorable. Take photos every mile like you did in Baltimore and live tweet it. Go for it and instead of trying to have a PR record time, make your time about the other people in the race, the place, the weather, the excitement.

    Jeri Lyn

    November 7, 2014

    I will jump on the bandwagon of agreeing with doing the 1/2 & having fun. I am a fellow runner, who’s run approx 10 fulls & lots of 1/2’s. I understand there’s almost nothing harder than pulling yourself back to the 1/2 after you’d decided on the full, probably harder than actually completing the full, but I’d hate for you to reaggravate your injury before you’re fully healed. GOOD LUCK!!!

    Jeri Lyn

    November 7, 2014

    May I suggest one more thing?????
    The following week (11/22) I’m doing a ful “trail” marathon, just outside of Las Vegas (Red Rock area). I know you run a lot on trails & it would give you an extra week. :) Plus you wouldn’t have to deal with the craziness that is a RNR race in Las Vegas (I’ve done the full & the 1/2) & the crowds are ABSOLUTE MADNESS!!! Anyways, not trying to scare you, I’m sure you’ll have a GREAT time either way, but if you’re interested the group is called “Desert Dash” & they put on a great “low-key” trailer marathon (&1/2). If you have any questions about either race, please let me know, I’m full of “useless” information!! ;)
    Again, GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Jill M

    November 7, 2014

    Go for the full! You’ve done it before. You don’t fail if you do youbest!

    Jackie Miller

    November 7, 2014

    I’d do the half as not to do more injury. WYCWYC right? You’ve hated being sidelined and I’d hate to see it happen and that you did it to yourself just because. Just my two cents. Good luck with your decision :-)

    Adrianna

    November 7, 2014

    You frequently talk on your blog about the secret to your healthy turn around was becoming connected to, rather than disconnected from your body. Listen to your body rather than your mean girl. It’s telling you what to do…

      Karen

      November 8, 2014

      ^^ Yes!

    Ellen

    November 7, 2014

    Do the half. I think if you try the marathon you could get injured. And the half is still a major accomplishment. And you can still enjoy your trip after the half, you won’t be completely out of commission. Good luck Roni!

    Heather

    November 7, 2014

    I would cancel the whole darn thing because it doesn’t sound like your heart is telling you to do it. I would Stay home, recover and plan a great run that would be just right for me right now. Maybe some kind of trail run that I had never done before. I’d cancel that plane trip, take the hit in the cost or apply the cancellation to another flight in the near future.

    Jessica

    November 7, 2014

    I think doing the half is a great compromise, and you’ve trained enough that you could run it well and feel proud of yourself. Cut a deal with yourself- do the half this time, and sign up for another full in the near future.

    Kitty

    November 8, 2014

    Do the half…. And enjoy every second of it rather than torture yourself with the full!

    emily

    November 8, 2014

    run the half. you still get the experience of running in vegas, still get to be with a whole bunch of other runners, and you should be less likely to do something that would prolong your comeback. plus, the half might give you a good gauge on how long it will take to run a full. crush it, regardless ;)

    jeanette

    November 8, 2014

    Run the half. Forget about the past. Enjoy the present. When you are done go cheer the folks who ran the full marathon! Be proud that you didn’t compromise your healing process. You don’t need to prove anything!!

    Kirsten Leah

    November 8, 2014

    I’d switch to the half. If I was in your position, the reason I’d have signed up is to really challenge myself and if I knew I’d be going into the full marathon, unable to give it my all, that’d be a bigger bummer than giving the half marathon my all. I think whatever will challenge you most in the area you want challenged (mentally, physically, etc.), that’s what you should go with. Just don’t injure yourself further!

    lauren

    November 8, 2014

    run the half…your new motto screams it!!!!!!! wycwyc!!!!!!!!!! wear a tshirt with the motto and OWN it!!!!!

    Preeti

    November 8, 2014

    I would definitely do the half instead – it’s not worth risking getting injured further and not being able to work out to full effect, as a repercussion of the injury. As everyone said, enjoy the half, enjoy Vegas!

    anne

    November 8, 2014

    I think you should do the half. I think you COULD do the full, but I think you’re risking your recovery and it won’t be the race you wanted to run, and wasn’t that half the point of doing this one? To do more than just suffer through it? I guess that is a risk with any race, but you know best how ready or not your body is. I’m also guessing that, if your best friend came to you with the same dilemma, you would tell her to be kind to herself, celebrate the accomplishment of the half – shoot, I started running several months ago and there’s no way I could do a half right now – and find another full to sign up for once her body is really ready. I often wonder why it is so much easier to be compassionate to others than ourselves… Whatever you decide, be safe and have a good race!

    Erin

    November 8, 2014

    I agree with most everyone else and think switching to the half sounds like a good idea. #wycwyc

    SuzanneU

    November 9, 2014

    Do the half!! Running is for pleasure not punishment.

    Dee

    November 9, 2014

    Hi Roni! I’ve been following your blog for a couple of months now and love it — you’ve inspired me to start my own blog! I’ve run 12 marathons and countless half marathons (including the Vegas full and half), and as a slow runner I always stress about the cut off times and not being ready. I dread heading out on a weekend for 3-4 hour long runs and often trade them for time with my family (I have two young ones too). I’ve had to drop to the half marathon twice in recent years due to not being ready. That said, I’ve also finished the majority of the marathons I’ve done without being well trained. In fact, I ran one in September with my longest training run being a 14 mile run/walk, and did amazingly better than expected! A couple of weeks ago I did the USMC Marathon. I was sick the night before and had a low-grade fever the morning of the race. It was the first time I thought I might drop out. I bonked at mile 12. I caught up with a friend’s brother who was running his first marathon. He, too, had hit the wall and was about to drop out. I convinced him to stay in it and keep me company. We speed-walked the rest of the race and made it in time! I’m a firm believer in “the body does what the mind tells it to.” If you truly want to finish the full, you will. But if you know deep down you won’t be to perform as you want to, then it might be better to save that effort for another time, there will be lots more races to run! I hope this helps!

    Sarah Deman

    November 10, 2014

    Go for the full… I think you will live with regret if you dont try it… and so what if you don’t finish? If you go for the half, you wont finish the full either! Give it a go, take it slow and knock it out of the park! I think using WYCWYC as an excuse to do the half is sending the wrong message!!! Nothing but love and support for whatever you choose!

    LG

    November 10, 2014

    As someone whose husband got rhabdo last year from Crossfit because he was unprepared for the workout, I’d say do the 1/2 or withdraw altogether if you’re not feeling up to the 1/2. We only get one body in this life, but marathons are held all the time! Sure, you may “regret” that you didn’t do the full, but if you get a stress fracture, tear your achilles, or are otherwise sidelined for the next 6 months or longer because of an injury during this race, you’d probably regret that even more.
    Properly training for a marathon (A FREAKING MARATHON!!!) is super important for someone of ANY age, and “muscle memory” only goes so far…
    Perhaps think of what you value the most. If it’s the commitment of following through with what you initially signed up for, then you may want to still do the full.
    If it’s preservation of your health, you may want to do the 1/2 or neither.
    Or it could be something else that you value the most…I’m just taking a stab.
    All the best with your choice and I hope you have a great day no matter what you decide!!!!

    Jody

    November 14, 2014

    switch to the half, you lead a great active lifestyle and you don’t want to jeopardize that by running the full and hurting your self…..you’ll be miserable.