This is NOT a rhetorical question.
I really want to know if you easily accept compliments or do you just shrug them away? Do they make you feel uncomfortable? And if so, why?
Today at the gym I was working on overhead squats. Ever since my last competition I realized they were a big hole in my training. So this morning a friend and I incorporated them into our routine. After we were done another gym-goer said,
“Those squats looked great! Nice job.”
To which I immediately replied, without even giving it any thought,
*shrug* “It was only 50lbs.”
Right after the words came out of my mouth I thought…
WHY do I do that? Why couldn’t I just say,
“Thanks! I’ve been working on them!”
This is just one interaction that reminded me of my compliment problem or should I say our compliment problem. I think I’ve shared this before but I can’t find it so I’m either sharing it again OR here it is for the first time.
Note: There is profanity.
So funny, right?
I negate almost any compliment people give me about almost anything, and honestly, it doesn’t even have to be about me! There have been times people have complimented my kids’ behavior and I chime in with a, well you should have seen them last night when I wanted to wring their necks!
Why do we do this?
Does disregarding the compliment somehow take away the uncomfortableness of admitting we are good at something? Is it more of a way to not seem conceited? Egotistical? Vain? Do we fear our confidence will intimidate others?
I really can’t put my finger on it!
I’ve been working on this for some time, but unless I consciously force myself to just accept and say, “Thank you,” disregarding the compliment is still my default.
How about you? Anyone share my inability to absorb a positive statement about themselves?