Yesterday I got this amazing email:
I’ve been reading your site for a few years now, but haven’t ever contacted you before… I’ve been working on a lifestyle overhaul the last few months, trying to modify some very dysfunctional coping strategies while on the last stage of the tenure track and the unrelenting stress that goes with it. Your site has been very helpful for me in this respect. I’ve gone back to WW and dropped 20 lbs since April, started walking daily and then joined a gym and now workout every day. I’ve stopped postponing “living” until “after tenure”.
The reason I’m writing is to tell you that your ideas and writings had a huge positive impact on my vacation last week. Our hotel had a waterslide, and after sitting on the pool deck for the first day to supervise my 8 year old son, I was thinking of your words about not wanting to miss out on life with your kids. The next day, I was in the water and even went down the waterslide, which thrilled my son to no end. I still have about 60 pounds to lose, but I decided to live and play and have fun, regardless of how I look in a swimsuit. You’ve role modeled that for me, and I wanted to thank you for it, because you helped give me the courage I needed to do it.
So, thank you! Your courage is contagious!
I’m so thankful when people take the time to leave a comment or send me an email. It validates my decision to overshare on the internet and it makes me feel at least a little sane for doing all this.
When I started this blog it was really a personal accountability project for my weight loss, then it turned into a weight maintainer journal and through the years I’ve been sharing myself, my goals and my advice on weight loss based on my experience.
However, I really have no interest in being a trainer or weight loss guru.
It’s taken me some time to realize that.
What I do want to do is inspire people like Karen to swim with their kids, go down that water slide and live an active life NOW instead of waiting for whatever (weight loss/perfection/a certain size/etc.) I truly believe you can’t achieve any goals until you flip that little switch in your brain from self-hatred and fear based decision making to saying f*ck it.
Sorry, I don’t normally curse on the blog but it’s true!
Apparently I left funkville for sassville.
Here’s the deal — I distinctly remember being so preoccupied with my body that I’d sneak food, cry in dressing rooms and miss out on experiencing life. I was on autopilot, just going through the motions. I continually told myself that once I lost weight I’d be happier. I’d have more friends. I’d do more things. And so on and so forth.
What a bunch of bull cocky!
Having kids was my slap in the face. It took the experience of pregnancy and motherhood for me to appreciate my body and all it can do instead of cursing it and waiting for it to change. Once I started to ignore my inner mean girl and do things despite feeling uncomfortable or out of place, I started to achieve my goals.
Once that switch flipped for me…
- I stopped looking at dieting as way to fit into a certain size by a certain date so I could be perfect and I started to enjoy learning how to eat lighter, healthier and more balanced because it was fun and I wanted to teach my kids to be good eaters.
- I stopped looking at exercise as a form of punishment for being fat and just looked for ways to move more. Ways I ENJOYED not things I thought I needed to do.
- I stopped waiting for life to find me and I started reaching out more, planning more. I connected with people online and off who were supportive and shared my desire to life a happy, drama free life.
So Karen, when I get an email like yours I can’t really put into words how happy it makes me. You help keep me going and I’m thankful you took the time to share because it makes me feel less alone.
I know not everyone gets it. Some people think this whole body acceptance movement is promoting obesity, but for me it was the key to breaking out of my yo-yo dieting cycle of hell, which was only making me fatter and less healthy.
Weight loss is great but this…