I shared this quote on Facebook the other day and I can’t get it out of my mind:
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
― Jordan Belfort
Because I’m currently telling myself another bull$hit story.
This week Carla and I submitted the manuscript of our book What You Can When You Can: 50 Ways to Reach your Healthy Living Goals — AKA #wycwyc
Last year I created #wycwyc to inspire people and help stop the all-or-nothing mentality so many of us struggle with. Whether your goal is to weight loss, to get more fit or just something you want to accomplish in life, I really think there is not only power in recognizing the little steps you take each day toward those goals but in the support you can receive (and give) online.
There is no doubt, I would NOT have been as successful losing and maintaning my weight loss if I didn’t have this blog and the support I received because of it.
There is also no doubt that baby steps are what got me here. I didn’t start off 10 years ago running 3 miles a day, CrossFitting and eating kale salads for lunch. Nope, I started by simply keeping a food journal, watching portions and walking more.
Then I start to add in more vegetables.
Then I started to cook more and more at home.
Then I joined a gym.
Then I ran my first 5k.
These changes happened over YEARS!
If old Roni could meet new Roni she’d think I was insane. I mean really? Who works out 5 days a week and loves it? Who enjoys long runs on the weekends? Who likes to workout on vacations? Who really likes to eat kale and avocado instead of pizza and cheese fries?
That will never be me. That can’t be me. I’m the chubby, fast-food eating, lazy chick who likes to play video games and watch movies.
And there is bull$hit story No. 1 I told myself.
Even though I WANTED to do those things.
I was selling myself short. I believed the bull$hit stories until…
I started to prove myself wrong.
Now I’m telling myself another one.
My inner mean girl has been screaming in my head again:
Who do you think you are writing a book? You’re not a writer. #wycwyc is stupid. The publisher is going to hate it. No one cares what you think. No one is going to buy it. You’re doing all this work for what? You think you actually have a chance at being successful? HA! Get over it. It’s never going to happen.
She’s also been on my case about marathon training and CrossFit progress but I’m not going to go there.
I may be getting better at ignoring my inner mean girl but the bull$hit stories are still there. I’ve just learned to close my eyes and mush on, toward my goals regardless.
The funny thing is I do fail. A lot. I miss the mark. I don’t accomplish what I set out to accomplish, BUT the experience, the lessons learned, the trying is what ends up making the difference.
Sometimes success isn’t actually in the goal achievement but in the attempt. It’s our ability to try and keep trying. There really is only one way to fail, and that’s to walk away from our goals completely.
What bull$hit story have you been telling yourself? This is NOT a rhetorical question. Unload in the comments because I can tell you from experience, once you face the bull$hit head on, it starts to lose it’s power over you.
P.S. Sorry for all the “bull$hits,” but I really think this post warranted the cursing. Plus I’ve been feeling a bit sassy lately.