One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Patience (and Persistence) are Paying Off!

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I’m so sorry. I had to pull out the Axl Rose. Anytime I think of the word patience he (and this video) pop into my head.

A few things have been falling into place for me lately and it’s got me thinking about how big a role patience takes when we are trying to achieve pretty much any goal we set for ourselves.

My morning started off at the gym, as it normally does, and we had a workout that included jump ropes, Double unders to be specific. Now, I’m not going to get all crossfitty on you, I promise, but this thing has been the bane of my existence since starting CrossFit more 18 months ago….

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I practiced and practiced and practiced.

I walked away for a bit.

Came back.

Practiced some more.

There were days I literally had whip marks on my forearms, shins and hamstring from smacking myself with the rope during attempts.

I sucked at double unders.

I thought I’d NEVER get them.

I’m not coordinated enough, fit enough, patient enough.

Well, today I did all double unders in my workout UNBROKEN! It was 5 rounds of 30 without tripping, falling, pausing or whipping myself.

I have to tell you, I had a smile ear to ear for hours. It was so darn satisfying to nail something I’ve been working on for so long.

Boy,  would I get so frustrated at myself for not being able to do them, and now, looking back, I realize I just had to be patient with myself and patient with the process of learning this new skill.

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Another area where patience is paying off:

The Husband.

I’m not sure what bit him in the butt recently but he’s been on the “healthy” wagon. He even suggested we take walks during lunch instead of eating out so much! HE SUGGESTED IT!

He also eased up in his night time snacking, is choosing more fruit between meals and has been limiting his soda intake.

This is HUGE!

I’m a big believer in letting people find their own way — you can’t pressure someone to lose weight or het healthier — and he seems to finally be motivated to do so and it makes me so happy.

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Finally, the What You Can When You Can book.

Today Carla and I got part of our manuscript back with edits and I was yet again reminded to be patient with this whole process as well.

I’m so used to being in control of everything. I write what I want, when I want and how I want. I choose the images, edit the graphics and take all the photos. Everything I do online is my own doing and on my schedule.

Writing a book with a co-author across the country and for a publisher who has input is a completely different process. I need to be patient in all areas from writing with someone in another time zone (you wouldn’t think a 3-hour time difference would be that big of a deal but OMG it’s laughable how it affects our ability to coordinate) to waiting for cover edits and content changes from the publisher.

I can’t do it NOW, which is how I’m wired and it’s been a test of patience for me in the best possible way. I’m happy for this opportunity to be pushed out of my comfort zone while creating a piece of work I’m already proud of.

I’m not sure where I’m headed with this. As I said it — patience — has been on my mind and I think it plays a bigger role than we sometimes realize. If you are trying to lose weight, get more fit, learn a new skill, whatever, keep at it.  Who cares if it takes weeks or months or years? All that really matters is that you are enjoying the journey getting there.

It really wouldn’t have mattered if it took me another 18 months to get those stupid double unders, I was going to keep trying. Would I love it if The Husband adopted all my healthy goals? Of course! But I can’t force him to share my priorities; that doesn’t mean I can’t love him for who he is now. And this book, my God this book, it’s a lot of work but I have no doubt it will pay off in the end. Even if I only sell 1 copy it will be worth seeing it on a shelf at Barnes and Noble.


What do you need to remind yourself to be patient with? Anything?

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    August 26, 2014

    Running has been a practice in patience for me as it has taken years to start getting significantly faster. However, now that I see 7s and even an occasional 6 during speed workouts I have to remember that doesn’t mean I can keep nearly the same pace for long runs.


      August 26, 2014

      OMG YES! Running! It is a total yes tot patience! I’m not really working on speed but it takes so much time when you are. I remember finally starting to see 8s and thinking HOLY CRAP, never thought that would happen.


    August 26, 2014

    My boss, job, coworkers…yeah, those moments when I just want to say screw this, I really need to stop myself.


      August 26, 2014

      HA! Kind of like me kids.. huh? ;)


    August 26, 2014

    We have a great little house in a fabulous neighborhood that needs some work. Two freelancers trying to get it all done takes patience — one little job at a time — but it is taking shape — finally — and we’re not in a huge amount of debt ’cause my husband is doing all of the work when he has the time and money. ; ) : )


      August 26, 2014

      I have to admit sometimes i wish The Husband was ore handy. I’d love to take on a fixer upper!

    Eric Daniells

    August 26, 2014

    I have a huge problem with patience. I always seem to feel that if I put in the effort the rewards should be immediate. What do you do when you start to flag and lose hope when it doesn’t happen as soon as you’d like? Is it bad to push “too hard” for something you want desperately?


      August 26, 2014

      I don’t think it’s bad but I do think you have to stop linking your happiness with the end goal and start to look for joy in the process. That’s what keeps me going. When you stop focussing on the finish line and start taking it day by day the finish line gets closer without you really even realizing it.


    August 27, 2014

    You seem to have found the perfect balance between pushing someone incessantly or ignoring issues completely. I wish I could find that. My brother has a habit that has been driving me nuts recently, and we thought we addressed it only to have it reappear in a new form. it makes me want to throw things, or at least stop talking to him since the subject invariably comes up, and we end up going in the same circles over and over.


    August 28, 2014

    I really needed to read this tonight. It’s perfect! I recently had my 2nd daughter (2 months ago). She had been extremely colic since day one. We just found out she has a milk protein allergy. I’m breastfeeding so I have to cut all dairy out of my diet. My girls are only 16-months apart, so I have a wild toddler running around too! Before I got pregnant for the second time I had lost 42 lbs, I was feeling great. I need to remind my self to have patience with my girls, they’re growing so fast. Enjoy it! And with this post partum weight loss. I lost the weight before and I can lose it again. I will get there and I need to enjoy the ride. I need patience with this new gluten free(already was before both girls. I have celiac disease)/Dairy free diet. It will get easier with time. Patience, patience, patience! Thanks for the wonderful reminder!


    September 21, 2014

    Wow! 5 rounds of 30 unbroken DUs! Awesome. I’m pretty dang good at them but I would totally have to be having an amazing day to get 5 sets of 30 unbroken. Nice job.