I came across this speech by Rocky in the movie Rocky Balboa and it stopped me in my tracks yesterday. It’s so good on SO many levels…
You ain’t gonna believe this, but you used to fit right here. I’d hold you up to say to your mother, “this kid’s gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid’s gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew.” And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watching you, every day was like a privilege.
Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you’re no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow.
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.
But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!
Here it is in an inspirational video if you don’t feel like reading.
I want to tell this to my kids but possibly even more important, I (we all) need to believe this for ourselves. Because if our kids see us continually getting back up and moving forward through life then they will inherently know without having to be told.
That’s how mom taught me. She never had to say it with words. I saw her continually get hit and get right back up. She lived it (still does) and I can’t thank her enough for teaching me how winning is done.