I had an interesting conversation the other day with a fellow mom who complimented me and asked how I “do it?”
“What motivates you? I always see you running and you look great,” she said. “I just can’t seem to get it together.”
I felt a little uncomfortable. For as much as I like to spew my thoughts and opinions on the blog when someone compliments me in person, I feel awkward.
“Thank you.” I said.
Side note: I’ve been really trying to accept compliments instead of acting like this… (warning: video is uncensored and has some strong language.)
We continued to have a conversation and I told her I wasn’t always like this. That I spent most of my 20s pretty much unhappy and doing nothing.
“What changed?” ahe said.
I responded, “Honestly? I had kids. Becoming a mom really changed me. I just got tired of saying I was going to do all these things and actually starting doing them. It was like I woke up.”
She looked at me curiously and said, “I’m the opposite. Before I had kids I was active and now I do nothing.”
I didn’t know how to respond.
I totally get it. Having kids is hard and exhausting and so many people lose themselves when they become a parent. For me, the opposite happened and I’m not sure why. Having kids was my wake-up call. It changed my perspective from wanting to look a certain way to wanting to live a certain way. That made all the difference for me.
I don’t think having kids is the problem or the solution. I just think going through a big life change like that either helps you find yourself or, unfortunately, lose yourself.
Here’s today’s food journal. Hope everyone had a great Friday!
|Banana||Ate in the car on the way to the gym at 5:30 this morning.|
|2 eggs scrambled with kale and ham||I’m trying to make Friday egg day so the kids have more variety in their breakfasts. They split a small omelet!|
|Handful of pistachios (shelled)||Stomach was rumbling but I had to wait for the husband for lunch.|
|Sashimi lunch special – tuna, salmon, 1/2 order California roll, salad, hot and sour soup and the Husband’s spring roll.||I was super hungry!|
|Handful of cinnamon triscuits||I have to grab something so I’m not ravenous for dinner.|
|Smokes turkey, cole slaw, a few fries, sausage link and corn bread||Can’t lie – we went out to dinner at a local BBQ place. I just didn’t have it in me to cook tonight.|
|banana soft serve||ALMOST had the Husbands Ben and Jerry’s made this instead.|