One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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My 3 Keys to Confidence

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This morning I posted to Facebook…

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and I meant it.

I have been feeling really confident lately!

So I pondered all day about how I got here because it’s a place I’d like to stay!

1. Accomplish Small Goals. 

When I started this blog, my goal was to post weekly about my weigh-in and that was pretty much it. I committed to Weight Watchers meetings and I knew if I was going to break out of the yo-yo dieting cycle of hell I had to change my focus. Going to a meeting and blogging here were completely in my control. There was no one to blame but myself if I quit.

Soon I was food journaling and keeping a daily point goal. I didn’t try to change my diet, I was all about portions. I knew I didn’t want to go to a gym so I set a goal to take more walks.

As you can see, I didn’t start with earth-shattering changes. They were small: go to meetings, blog, walk, etc. But as I began accomplishing them, my confidence started to build. So I set more goals. Rinse. Repeat.

2. Make an Effort to Connect

You guys may not believe this about me because I’m an open book on the blog but in “real life” I’m a bit of a…

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However, I have found that when I make an effort to connect with people I start to feel more confident. Now, you may think it’s the other way around because confident people are outgoing. Right? But what if by forcing yourself to be outgoing you become confident?

Ponder that for a moment!

I know for me when I compliment strangers, strike up conversations in the checkout line and make an effort to smile and greet people at events it starts to skyrocket my confidence.

Have I had a few misfires? Smiles not returned and awkward looks? YES! But the positive experiences outweigh the negative ones. As with everything in life, you just have to keep trying.

3. Push Yourself out of Your Comfort Zone 

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You guys know me. I’m ALL about pushing myself out of my comfort zone! Every post on this page is an example of that. Regardless of the outcome, simply the experience of trying something new builds confidence. Period.

Will my current feeling of confidence last? I hope so. I think everyone has spurts of insecurity but as I get older and accomplish more I feel more confident than not.

It’s a nice place to be. :)



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Discussion

There are 4 comments so far.

    onannasplate

    March 13, 2014

    Pushing outside of the comfort zone is a hard one for me– mentally AND physically. But on a note from the second one– LONG time reader here and first time commenter! :-) Thanks for your blog– I’ve been re-listening to your podcasts while I walk each day, and I love it.

    nancyabe

    March 13, 2014

    Oh my!! That picture you posted yesterday (late 90’s/2013) should be all the confidence you need!

    Tina

    March 13, 2014

    Needed to read this today! Thank you for these tips/reminders… (from one socially awkward penguin to another)! lol.

    Shannon

    March 13, 2014

    Meeting my small goals always makes me glow with confidence! I shoot myself in the food with lofty goals.