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Wednesday Weigh in: How Has Your Diet Changed?

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Since I don’t weigh myself regularly anymore — my scale has been in the storage room since posting this in October!

Sidebar: The Husband inquired where it went a few weeks ago and I told him he’d have to weigh himself in the basement if he wanted to know. He has yet to do it.

I’ve been torn with the idea of continuing these posts but have decided to keep them as my old Question of the Week style.  If you want to weigh in with numbers and use this post as your virtual “meeting” feel free, but I’m going to be focusing more on thought-provoking and experience-based questions so we can all share and learn from each other.

Today’s question is inspired by what I had for lunch.

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Yup, that’s the husband (with his new Surface) eating a burrito from Qdoba. He asked me AGAIN if I wanted to eat lunch out and I turned him down. I have too much good food in the fridge to go out. Plus I’d rather save my money and time. I only get about 5 hours a day to get all my work done without kids and to kill an hour of it to go out just wasn’t something I could do today.

Have I taken him up on his offer before? YES! I do all the time but his desire to eat out is a bit too overzealous for my taste. I’m good for 1-2 lunches a week MAX; he’d go every day if he could.

When I do go, I have a few “rules” for myself and I feel absolutely no guilt. Life is too short to worry about every meal.

But truth be told, I’d rather eat at home, and when I worked in an office I’d bring my own lunch as much as possible.

Normally my go-to is leftovers from dinner the night before, but today I had a bunch of wilting collard greens staring me in the face. They were in last week’s farm share and even though I used most of them in this soup, I still had a bunch leftover.

I decided to fry a slice of bacon and cook them up for lunch along with some leftover Apple Pumpkin Soup I made as an experiment this weekend — that’s what you see in the photo.

I loved it! ALL of it!

I know it looks weird to some, including my husband. He wouldn’t eat either of those two things if you paid him.

Ten years ago I wouldn’t have either.

I blogged about this before. My “diet” has changed slowly and consistently since starting this journey in 2005. Back then I relied a lot on convenience items and pre-packaged foods. I ate cereal every day for breakfast, lunches were TV dinners, and dinners also included some kind of packaged noodle or rice.

Then I started to push myself out of my comfort zone. I started a feature on the blog called “Produce Picks” where the “toddler” (now the 8-year-old) and I would try something new from the produce department. I started to cook more, weaning myself from convenience items. The TV dinners at lunch were soon replaced with Tupperware containing my own leftovers. Flavored rice and noodle side dishes were replaced with potatoes and my own brown rice creations. I even started having fun making my own salad dressings.

Now I regularly buy things I didn’t even know existed or could be eaten in 2005 (hello, winter squash and kale!), and I have no doubt my diet will continue to evolve.

I also have no doubt I’m not the only one who has experienced this and that’s why I wanted to make it the Question of the Week:

I’d love for you to share how your diet has changed over the years. If it hasn’t, maybe reading about how others’ have will nudge you to try something outside of your culinary comfort zone because as you know Life is an Experience



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There are 22 comments so far.

    Jill

    January 8, 2014

    Ummm..I would way rather eat your lunch!!! You couldn’t pay me to eat his!! :) I mean this is the nicest way possible.

      Martha McKinnon

      January 9, 2014

      Loved reading this post. My experience so much parallels yours. Now, I realize that the definition of “healthy eating” is fluid and the process is much more evolutionary than revolutionary. It’s only by looking back over the years and decades that you realize how different your approach to eating is now. And how much more relaxed I am about it. Life really is too short to worry about every meal. It’s all about the happy/healthy balance.

    Pattie Welch

    January 8, 2014

    Not answering your question directly, but a potential topic for a future post on these Wednesday’s: How do you handle having such different eating habits than your husband? I have two small kids (4yrs. and 5 yrs.) and a husband who likes bigger, heavier meals with very little variety in taste, spice, ethnic variety, vegetables, etc.! Oh and … he NEVER gains a pound. So while he does work out, he doesn’t necessarily need to “watch” what he eats … ever. I find when I cook a healthy meal, with variety, vegetables, etc. it is not filling enough for him and he’s not satisfied … then there are the kids to feed as well. I try to avoid cooking separate meals because I just don’t have time for that (I work full-time outside the home). Would love your perspective on this. How do you avoid all the temptations your husband brings in the house? How did you (if you ever did) get over the … “why can he eat that and I can’t” mentality. Just an idea. Love your blog and thanks for the continued inspiration and support. Oh – and where can I find the recipe for that Pumpkin Apple Soup. Looks delicious.

      Rhiannon

      January 9, 2014

      Hi Pattie. I wanted to offer a perspective that I’ve gained from watching my parents. They’re on the fast diet currently, where you eat 1/4 of your daily calories on 2 days each week. My dad has successfully lost all his excess weight, but my mum still has some to lose. My mum is also the only cook! They solved the problem by eating the same meals, but my mum just makes a bit extra for my dad. For example, she might have tuna and some salad, while my dad will have a larger serve of tuna and salad, plus some potatoes. Or, my mum will have light minestrone, while my dad will have a larger serve with some bread on the side.

      Now, these are still light meals for my dad, but the concept is transferable. You could make the same meals for your husband as yourself and the kids, but make either you (for different spices, vegetables etc) or him some separate/extra/side. My parents tend to go the extra starchy carb option (potatoes, bread) but you could also go the extra protein option – if you’re having grilled chicken, for example, cook up extra and give your husband a double portion. This is also the portion size concept – larger portions of the same meal for larger or hungrier people.

      Oh, another thing I just thought of – you could also do a ‘banquet’ style dinner where you offer several dishes to everyone, say one Indian dish, one regular beef casserole, a vegetable bake etc. You already know that your husband would go for the ‘tried and true’, such as the beef casserole, but you get the option of everything while not cooking ‘separate’ meals and singling yourself, your husband or your kids out. Unfortunately, this only really works with a larger family size given the multiple dishes approach, and doesn’t help at all with reducing the work that goes into cooking dinner. Perhaps as an occasional thing?

      I hope this helps. I know how difficult it can be to try to balance tastes and preferences, so good luck!

      Pattie Welch

      January 16, 2014

      Thank you Rhiannon. This is great advice as well and I definitely apply this technique already. Love the banquet style idea too. Appreciate the advice.

      RoniNoone

      January 9, 2014

      I didn’t post the pumpkin apple soup, I’m not sure it’s ready for prime time but maybe I’ll share my experience making it on GreenLiteBites.

      Love this topic idea. I will definitely explore this in a future post.

      RoniNoone

      January 15, 2014

      I got you this week… http://ronisweigh.com/2014/01/how-to-handle-different-eating-habits-in-the-same-household.html

      Great questions!

      Pattie Welch

      January 16, 2014

      THANK YOU THANK YOU! Just had a chance to read and respond.

    Cynthia Chandler

    January 8, 2014

    Hi Roni! i’m new to your blog (just found it over the last month or so) and I love it! About 4 months ago I decided to stop eating meat. Since then, I’ve discovered all kinds of vegetables that I never would have considered before. For instance, Kale is something I’ve been having every morning in a smoothy and before then, I’d never tried it. I never realized how many types of mushrooms there are and how filling they can be! I had a portobello burger the other day that made me want to sing! I have SO far to go, but those are a couple of things that I NEVER would have tried, even six months ago and I’m so glad that I have a reason to force myself to be more adventurous with my food choices.

    SuperCutePetContest

    January 8, 2014

    I rode horses growing up and would spend most of my free time at the barn (weeknights, weekends, practically the whole summer). I drank so much soda during that time. We would also grab lunch or dinner from Burger King, Taco Bell, KFC, Wendy’s, etc. almost daily. It was convenient, cheap, and on the way home. Luckily I have a pretty fast metabolism and never gained any weight (plus I was busting my butt at the barn!). I pretty much continued the same trend in college and after until I got my own apartment and a real job. Once I had money and a place to cook, I started to learn more about cooking, nutrition, and how to make veggies taste yummy. I still love fast food, but my husband and I make it a treat for every once in a while. In fact, we’ve been saying for the past few weeks that we are due for some McDonald’s, but we just haven’t gotten around to it!

    mariapatrick

    January 8, 2014

    When I started losing weight I thought I could just keep eating all the stuff I loved (at that time) when I hit my goal weight and life would be great. But slowly, before I even hit my goal, I realized how crappy and tired I felt eating this way. As I added in more fresh food and kicked out most of the processed junk, I felt way better! 5 years later and I still feel like crap when we are home visiting family (who eat pretty much just like I used to) and I slip back into old habits.

    Good on you for putting the scale away!

    Martha Glantz

    January 8, 2014

    My diet has completely changed over the 2+ years I consciously changed my diet. Joined the CSA two years ago and the first year didn’t experiment much, but went wild this year. I think the main ways my diet has changed is
    1) I focus on eating real food and lots of plants. Instead of a sandwich and reduced chips for lunch (what I started with) I have a HUGE salad with lots of veggies and some protein and olive oil or a sandwich and s small salad or homemade soup
    2) I eat a lot more fish and beans and a lot less chicken and meat
    3) I cook more and eat in a lot more and enjoy it
    4) I actually like the way I’m eating now and I don’t feel in any way deprived
    5) While I can (and do at times) eat anything that I want, what I want is generally the healthier option. But if I eat something like French Fries, I eat what I want, enjoy them and move on. No guilt.

    I do weight myself and my weight was down 3 lbs from last week. Of course last Weds. was up because of going out for New Year’s Eve! Very happy that I’ve maintained my weight in my target range over the holidays.

    Rhiannon

    January 9, 2014

    My diet since moving out of home has changed enormously! My parents are incredibly picky eaters, and so we had a small rotation of meals with similar flavours, and that was all I really ate and liked.

    After moving out, I was exposed to a huge variety of different foods that I’d never considered or even known about before. I went from ruling out most meals on a menu due to things I didn’t like, to being able to pick quite a variety of foods from most menus. I’ve gone from being the most reluctant to try things to the least reluctant in my circle of friends and family. I’m always willing to try new things, and make an effort to re-try things I haven’t previously liked every year or two, as I’ve found tastes can change over time. It’s actually getting to the point where my partner is more likely to turn his nose up at something than I am.

    I’ve always been a bring my lunch and dinner at home kind of person. I made my own lunch since I was ten, and usually bring soups or leftovers to work for lunch now. Summer can be a bit tricky because I love salads, but I usually like them with freshly cooked components. When I met my partner, I was actually quite shocked at how often going out to dinner / buying dinner was normal for his family. Now, I’ve come to really love going out to dinner, but when I say that, I mean going out to a ‘nice’ (whether fancy or just casual) restaurant/cafe/pub, not to a fast food place, which I think is more normal here in Australia than in the US. I like fast food for lunches sometimes, but usually when we’re already out. We do sometimes have fast food for dinner (pizza, noodle boxes) but I prefer to cook my own if possible.

    nancyab

    January 9, 2014

    I buy a couple bags of kale each week and eat it for breakfast or lunch.
    It seems my body really likes it and I feel full longer after eating it. Now I must confuss I hadn’t done this since October and only have started back in the past three weeks but I am doing better with food choices and weight. I have two containers of kale in my bag to take to school just hope I can keep away from all the junk everyone else brought to school to clean out their houses–ugh!

    Imacrazymomof4

    January 9, 2014

    I grew up on a farm with football field sized gardens. My siblings and I worked in these gardens and dreaded canning season. I can remember feeling deprived because my mom never fed us TV dinners! I think my eating habits have always been geared more healthy because of the way I was raised. My husband on the other hand grew up living close to vending machines which he frequented without his mothers knowledge…today he has a huge sweet tooth and doesn’t appreciate tons of veggies. After I turned 40 and really started reading books on eating healthier and treating my body better. After reading books about processed foods and what manufacturing companies put into food to make people want to eat more, I really changed to a less processed more natural menu. It’s been a fairly easy change for me, not so much for my husband…when he wants something he cooks! It’s been pretty good for me and he’s actually trying to be healthier to a point. It’s definitely a work in progress but improved all around.

    LisaM

    January 9, 2014

    As a 40+ yr WW veteran (my mom took me to her meetings!), I’ve always eaten a lot of veggies, etc. But when I was cooking for family, dinner always had meat as the main attraction along with a veggie or two and always some starch (potatoes, rice, bread, etc). My kids didn’t like casseroles, so I made a lot of chicken, pork chops, etc. Now I’m just cooking for myself, and the biggest difference is that meat is now more of a “booster” ingredient in a main dish, if used at all. I eat a lot of soup, stews, pasta with veggies, etc., and the thought of tucking into a whole chicken breast or a steak seems weird now. This is working for me, and I’m not feeling protein deprived at all.

    Tiffany Walker

    January 9, 2014

    My diet evolution has been very similar to yours…without the added benefit of keeping the weight off, unfortunately. I used to eat a lot of frozen diet meals until I discovered the concept of clean eating in 2009. At that point I realized that while these frozen meals might have plenty of fiber and protein and be low in fat, they also contained a lot of chemicals and faux foods that one would not find naturally occurring in nature. I started making the recipes I found online and in books and made an amazing discovery…they were delicious! I was hooked, and my tastes began to change as I explored new healthy recipes. Even though I have regained the weight I lost when I first began eating this way, I never completely abandoned clean eating. My tastes have been permanently altered to prefer fresh, homemade food most of the time.

    chelsea

    January 9, 2014

    I’m not a huge TED talk fan for various reasons BUT i saw this and thought you might want to watch/comment on it: http://www.ted.com/talks/sandra_aamodt_why_dieting_doesn_t_usually_work.html

      RoniNoone

      January 9, 2014

      Loved! But now i’m curious why you don’t like TED. lol

    laurie

    January 9, 2014

    I struggled with poor body issues as a teenager and was raised in a dieting home by a mother who was consistently on a diet. After marriage, my journey in my 20’s, 30’s and 40’s involved finding out what really constituted healthy eating – since I truly had no idea! As an American family, raising our 4 kids in Asia (China, Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong and Taiwan), I had the opportunity to see that most people in other countries eat REAL food and rely much less on processed foods. Now that I am 53, my journey has brought me to a whole foods, plant-based diet (vegan) and I am finally free of dieting. I LOVE this way of eating and have developed a new passion for creating amazingly delicious food – all from plants (beans, grains, veggies, fruits, nuts and seeds). I am 5’4″ and easily maintain my weight of 110-115 lbs by eating what I want and exercising every day (I usually hike for about an hour). I can’t tell you how freeing this has been for me and I’ve never felt or looked healthier! If any one wants to know more about this way of life, I highly recommend watching “Forks Over Knives” on Netflix or reading “The China Study”. Thanks for all you do, Roni!! :)

    debra

    January 10, 2014

    well over the last year I have started cooking more, eating more veg and less frozen meals :)

    Brian

    January 24, 2014

    Any posts about food catch my attention, especially bacon! I have a breakfast item that I think is pretty awesome and doesn’t look or taste “healthy”. 2 slices of wheat bread, 7oz. of egg whites in a bowl in the microwave for 2.5 minutes, a little pepper, a slice of fat free american cheese, and 4 slices of turkey bacon. I get my carb serving for the day, 3 protein servings, and a dairy serving. It looks like the big and toasted from DD, but is bigger and way less calories, at least 1/2 less. Adjust the ratios of servings for your caloric and dietary needs and give it a shot. Let me know if you do and what you thought.