Hello from San Antonio! I’m here for just a day to emcee a Recipe Refresh Challenge for HumanaVitality. To be honest, I have no idea what to expect. It’s tomorrow night and I’m just going to go with the flow.
I’m super excited about this experience but that’s not what I want to blog about tonight. There’s been something nagging at me for a few days and it’s time to get it out of my head.
My weight has changed pretty significantly over the past 20 years (135lbs-225lbs.) I’ve been everything from a baggy size 4 to a snug 18. Right now I’m about a 6, sometimes an 8, and I’ve come to realize the number on the scale is pretty insignificant for someone as active as I am (now.)
A few days ago I was reminiscing with The Husband and I realized something. Regardless of my weight or size he has treated me the same way. He really has. Then I started to think about my mom, my step dad, my in-laws — they, too, have been with me thick or thin. Our relationship didn’t change one iota after I lost weight. I also pretty much have the same friends and they don’t give a crap what size my jeans are or what number the scale says.
Even I treated myself the same regardless of what I weighed. Before and after I lost the weight I was overly critical of my body, self-conscious, and preoccupied with the scale. Losing weight wasn’t the cure for my inner mean girl thoughts.
This may seem like a pretty insignificant observation but I know from experience, when you are obsessed with losing weight you simply assume life will be better if you were thin or when you become thin.
But I don’t think that’s true and I’d argue most people will not successfully lose and maintain a weight loss until they realize this as well.
Listen, I’m not going to lie and saying being thinner doesn’t have its advantages, but when I look back at my life, my weight and body size have been pretty insignificant. I really made a mountain out of a molehill and by doing so created a cycle that just continuously had me gaining more and more weight.
So this week’s question, well questions, are for my fellow weight-loss maintainers or even those that have lost and regained.
How is your life different now that you lost the weight? Is the difference really due to the weight loss or something else? Did losing weight make you happy or did you learn how to get happy and then lose the weight?
I’m really curious if my thought process mirrors anyone else’s, especially those who have also been able to maintain a weight loss.