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Wednesday Weigh In: Excuses

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Happy Weigh In Day!

OK, that’s a little too chipper, isn’t it?

I can’t help it I’m in a good mood today. This morning at the gym I was SO DARN CLOSE to doing an unassisted pull-up. I can’t believe it! I walked out of the gym on cloud nine!

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If you’ve been following along for some time, you know this is my current goal. I’m taking a break from the scale now and seriously focusing on weight training and building muscle. I wasn’t lying when I said that competition was a big deal for me. It’s given me a whole new focus and perspective beyond weight loss which, really, someone who has maintained for over 8 years needs. I can’t be chained to the number on the scale forever. It’s not healthy and I’m a completely different person now.

Well, somewhat. I still struggle with some of the same mentality but now instead of it revolving around the scale it pertains to my training.

Yesterday I posted about Weight Loss Excuses. It was easy to write because I have used them all. Excuse mentality comes naturally to me and I’d guess, most people. It’s what we do when things get hard. It’s how we justify walking away from our goals.

I caught myself trying to do it with training.

“I can’t train to compete, I don’t have the time.”

“I’m too old.”

“I’m not athletic enough.”

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These are all just excuses not to try. They are a way to give myself permission to walk away.

So if you have’t guessed, this week’s weigh-in topic: Excuses.

Leave a comment below with your weigh-in (if you are sharing numbers) and a list of excuses you have used or maybe, ARE using.

Once we are able to self-identify the excuse, we can break the cycle. 

Click here to join one of my live meetings today on Yardstick were we’ll discuss this topic live. I’m still working out the kinks but last week was so much fun I think I’m ready to add a second meeting for those who can’t do days!

 



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Discussion

There are 38 comments so far.

    Erin Rethemeyer

    October 2, 2013

    An unassisted pull up is my new goal too! I am SOOO close. I almost cried yesterday when I was at the gym and I almost got my head above the bar! Keep pushing it will come!!!

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      Greatest feeling in the world!

    Svanhvit

    October 2, 2013

    Love it!! I am at it and working on losing those excuses!! :)

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      :)

    Sammy @ Peace Love & Ice Cream

    October 2, 2013

    So awesome – I am still working on those darn pull-ups! Palms facing towards you or outward? Good luck on your 2nd meeting! And congrats on the non-weigh in (and HUGE NSV!) Weigh In Wednesday!! :)
    -Sammy @ peaceandloveandicecream.blogspot.com

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      Both, but I’m focusing on outward.

    Wifey678

    October 2, 2013

    I’m tired, I’m always tired. It’s my go to excuse and works for the morning or night. In the mornings I haven’t gotten enough sleep, so I need to hit snooze, in the evenings I’ve had a long day and need to just relax. I really don’t even need to use any other excuse, I’ve made this one into a catch-all. :-/

    I’m back to WW and meetings as of last week and weigh in on Mondays, I’d rather not share, but say that it will never be this high again.

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      {{hugs}} Try to push through the tired this week. I know for me the hardest part if getting out the door especially when tired but the feeling afterwards is always worth it.

    A Ro

    October 2, 2013

    OK, so I am new to this Wednesday Weigh In stuff but I am in need of a little accountability. Not because I am doing anything counter productive to a healthy lifestyle but just need to stay on track. I feel great. I am working out everyday and eating healthy and feeling so good. I have decided to do a Tough Mudder in Los Angeles in March. I am SO excited to face this challenge, because really I just want to be a stronger individual.

    Starting weight on July 29th 2013 (day after my 44th birthday) – 194
    Current weight – 179
    Down from last week – 2 lbs
    Total weight loss – 15 lbs
    (I’ll figure out all the abbreviations later)

    Would love to join you at some point with the live meetings but I teach during that time.

    Thanks
    Amy

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      You are rocking it!

    Ashley

    October 2, 2013

    Rough week for me…all kinds of excuses here. I’m tired. Just don’t feel like it. I don’t have time to cook just eat that junk. Yuck. Only down .2 again this week. Hoping to switch it up for next week. Congrats on almost getting the pull up. ..you’ll get it!

    HW: 207
    CW:168.8 (-.2)
    GW:165 (for now!)

    Have a good week!

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      Thanks and NO ONLYS ALLOWED ON MY SITE! ;)

    Lesley

    October 2, 2013

    I am tired and I don’t have time. Those are my standard go to excuses. I work 40+ hours a week, go to college
    part-time, have 2 kids and my husband’s job has been super crazy the last 8
    months making me feel like I am a single parent. Yes I do have a lot on my plate, but I have
    used those two excuses for far to long.
    I will often use “I have too much other stuff to do” to try and convince
    myself not to go work out. I am not
    falling for those anymore. I have
    started working out 2-3 days a week and the day after I get an endorphin high
    that leaves me feeling energized, motivated, self-confident, strong, and
    thinner. Right now it is enough for me
    to keep me from even thinking about the excuses I might have for not
    going. I don’t always feel like going to
    work, but I do and without hopping on the “excuse train”. That is how I now view my work outs. They are mandatory not optional.

    Sometimes when the task seems overwhelming and daunting I
    tend to put it off as well. This morning
    I had a few minutes before leaving for work and I did some dishes. I did not get them all washed, but while I
    was doing those I had time for I was thinking WYCWYC. I truly didn’t have time
    to wash them all, but I did have time to wash some of them and that is good
    enough.

      Rhiannon

      October 3, 2013

      Wow, Lesley, that’s really inspirational for me. You’ve really made it feel possible to fit exercise into my schedule, which is nowhere near as hectic as yours. Thanks for posting!

      RoniNoone

      October 3, 2013

      YAY for #WYCWYC!!

    Martha Glantz

    October 2, 2013

    Current weight 149.2 (-.6)
    In maintenance but weight seems to stay within a healthy + or – 2 lb range which is great!
    Love this idea of a weekly weigh in. Haven’t been at maintenance level for that long and I know myself: I need to weigh.

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      I was there too for a LONG time. Congrats on being in maintenance!

      Martha Glantz

      October 2, 2013

      This has been the first time that I hit my goal back in October 2012 and just kept eating healthy and moving more and kept losing! In the past when i hit my goal, I slowly started regaining. Mind shift this time from being on a diet…now I am committed to eating healthy and moving more. It works!

    Dukebdc

    October 2, 2013

    Not weighing in. My excuse: on my period. My every other day excuse? I don’t want to get up earlier in the morning. I am a certified late sleeper. I get up 15 minutes before I have to leave the house for work. I shower at night so I can sleep later in the morning. The list goes on and on. But with my new job, I am working later, longer hours, so my evening have been disappearing. So working out in the morning would be an easy fix, if I can get over my case of the lazies.

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      My tip: Sleep in your workout clothes. It’s what helped me when I shifted to morning workouts. I wanted no excuse not to go so all I had to do was roll out of bed, put my sneaks on and go!

      Just an idea.

      Dukebdc

      October 2, 2013

      Thanks for the tip – that might be what it takes. Really, I should embrace the mornings – my husband has dog-walking duty in the AM, so other than getting myself ready, I have no obligations. My new job is more flexible with start time. All signs point to a morning workout being more practical and likely to get done for me. But I hate change. And that’s my favorite excuse of all! ;)

    Nancyabc

    October 2, 2013

    I did weigh in on Saturday and I am up but I will be getting back to basics in a few weeks hopefully. I like the fall weather for walking and fall break is next week for me so I will have time to walk — Monday is supposed to be only 66.

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      Hopefully? In a few weeks? How about now? Remember, there’s no magic time… this is a diet… you aren’t going on plan… it starts now.

    Angela

    October 2, 2013

    Hmmm….I tried to leave a comment before, but I don’t see it here? Not sure what happened.

    Today is day #1 for me. No more all-or-nothing, or “I’ll start on Monday”. Today is Weds., and looks like a good day to start.

    I’m 42, between 5’0 and 5″1″.
    My current weight is 175.6.
    My goal weight is 120 (I think).

    I look forward to joining yardstick.com, but I would need to attend a meeting in the evening, if possible.
    Have a great week!

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      Today is a great way to start!

    CC

    October 2, 2013

    Day 1 for me too

    Age 46 Height 5″8 1/2
    Current weight 232
    Goal Weight 180

    I am kind of having trouble getting motivated with Weight Watchers this time around. Been on it before and was successful though never cracked through the 200’s. I have not seen 180 since age 31. Really really want to see it again and stay there this time.

    Hoping trying yardstick and maybe a new meeting leader at weight watcher will help with the motivation factor. No excuses right?

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      This is the last time you are going to utter the words “this time around”. right? :)

    Jessica

    October 2, 2013

    Hey Roni, I loved the online meeting today and look forward to next week!
    As soon as the meeting was done, I did a home workout. My 7 year old watched me and told me my belly was wiggling and jiggling :)
    We had family pics done today and got McDonalds on the way home. However I didnt want that, so I came home and made oatmeal and eggs for myself. I am done logging into MFP for the day, am cleaning the kitchen and locking it for the night!

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2013

      I’m so glad you liked it! And yay for taking charge. I closed MFP for the day too. :)

    Rhiannon

    October 3, 2013

    I’m fairly comfortably maintaining my weight where I want to be, perhaps 1kg up in general but nothing I’m concerned about. I don’t feel like I have a claim to having lost weight, since my numbers are pretty small, but I lost 10kg over approximately a year period and have been at my goal weight of 55kg for over a year now (I’m not even sure how long – maybe even two).

    My main issue is now exercise. I used to go to Pilates and indoor rock climbing, and walk all over my uni campus, but then we moved states. Since then I’ve tried going to bootcamp classes at work, but haven’t always been consistent about it. My main excuses have been no time, no money and just plain tired. I’ve also had an injured wrist for over 3 months now, which has hampered a lot of things.

    As I said to Lesley above, I’m feeling lately that it is possible to fit exercise into my life. I’ve bought a bike and intend to cycle to work (20km each way, so I’ll need to get fitter first), have just started running/jogging/walking with a couple of girls who hopefully will become friends, have looked into a Pilates studio (and have an initial consultation on Saturday) and went back to bootcamp at work this morning! :) I just need to work out a way I can accommodate all this without feeling overwhelmed and giving up.

    Thanks for the space to ramble, Roni.

      RoniNoone

      October 3, 2013

      Thanks for the ramble! :)

    Christy

    October 3, 2013

    I’ve been more ignoring the obvious and decided to finally post. I’ve been following you for awhile now, but I’m not really a conversationalist kind of person, don’t really see myself as a “blogger.” But have to do something today. My most frequent excuses are having other more “important” things to do and exercise is hard for me because I have chronic arthritis in my knees. But it’s also really, really good for me. I did 8 months of physical therapy in 2012 which saved my life. I drove 300 miles every week to go 3x a week. I was so motivated! But I reached my goal with improvement and the PT was up to me to do at home. I did really well keeping with the program for awhile and then got out of sync while on vacation and been having trouble ever since. I start, I stop. I feel guilty but not enough to get in the habit. I need to get back to it because I see myself drifting into bad walking habits again. That and, oh yeah, I really, really need to lose weight to relieve some of the pressure on my knees. I’m 58, 5’5″.
    Current weight: 220
    Goal weight: 150
    Short-term goal: I want to break 200. I get so close only to slack off. I haven’t been below 200 since 2000.
    I want to help me, help myself. I can do it. I need to start today and stick to my resolve. Stretches and sit ups every day, the full routine M, W, F. Write down everything I eat and drink, count calories, eat healthy. I’ve done it before, I can do it again and this time reach goals. Thanks.

      RoniNoone

      October 3, 2013

      You got this Christy! Take things slow, baby steps, remember you don’t have to start being perfect tomorrow.

    Lynne

    October 4, 2013

    I don’t weigh myself b/c it’s not part of my plan, but I have lost 60+ lbs over the last 10 years (30+ in the last 6 months). Right now I feel FLABBY. I run 1-2 times per week and spin, but I REALLY need to add some consistent weight training and build some MUSCLE. In fact, I have wanted to do an unassisted pull-up forever and YOU have put that bug right back into my head…

    My excuses – Don’t like to leave kids on their own, don’t want to give up my morning dog walk with my neighbor, don’t want to pay to join CROSS FIT, don’t want to pay a trainer or put together a plan on my own. (I belong to a gym, all the equipment is there, I just have a hard time inserting myself into the mix… seems like the people working out are all used to one another and I would mess up their karma…)

    Is that a confidence thing? motivation thing? It certainly has kept me from following through. Any suggestions?

    Karen P

    October 5, 2013

    Roni- cheering you on for your time in cross-fit training. Once you have your food template dialed it, it dials in your health and a scale is only part of it. It’s good that you’ve gotten there. Love it.

    Okay, I still weigh daily. It works so well for me. Just reached 20 months of weight maintenance. I’ve never maintained this long in my whole life.

    Highest Weight 187.4
    Current Weight: 115.4
    Maintenance Range 113-117
    Height 5’1″
    Age 47
    Months in weight maintenance 20
    Months post menopause: 3 months
    Years it took to reach long term maintenance: 40 years

    Michelle

    October 5, 2013

    This video helped me choose healthier foods to eat and ultimately changed my entire diet. I can’t believe how helpful it was!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcdl3ka_0gc&feature=c4-overview&list=UUEp5RHwAiB-etjsp9hSDv2g

    Emily

    October 5, 2013

    Hey Roni,

    I’ve been following you for over a a year and am really inspired by all that you have accomplished! My friend who is a PT posted this about Crossfit the other day and I wanted to make sure that you knew about it, not to discourage you, but just to make sure you had the info! https://medium.com/p/97bcce70356d

    Peggy

    October 5, 2013

    Roni, congratulations on almost achieving your goal. You’re going to do it soon!