One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Ask Roni: Sticking it Out, Goal Setting, Done with Dieting, Food Ruts [Podcast]

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I was going to write a Top to today but I couldn’t get the thought of a podcast out of my head so I went with it.

Topics covered:

  • Why is it that I just can’t stay in it?
  • Goal Setting
  • When you just can’t DIET anymore.
  • Getting out of a food rut. (Plus some my thoughts on organics)

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    October 30, 2013

    well said roni.
    makes me realise how important goal setting is. thanks again.

    Paige Van Otten

    October 30, 2013

    I love this discussion about being done with dieting. I’ve spent the last 12 years dieting and bingeing and fasting and all of that. In the last few months, I’ve been eating paleo and I feel the most peaceful I have in a very long time. This was my version of “enough diets”! Which I guess is ironic because paleo is a diet. But it was a diet that put me out of my comfort zone: lots of fat, no counting calories. I was terrified that I would gain weight but I felt like I had nothing to lose. I could have gone into it with a framework (paleo zone, low carb paleo, etc.) but instead I just went into it and tried to see how these foods affect me. I’m losing weight slowly but more importantly I just feel…calm. Peaceful. And I’ve eaten non-paleo foods but I have a new framework for how I consider a meal and it’s working so much better for me than all of the other things I was doing.

    Anyway, just wanted to pop in to say that this is working for me now. I know you’re always going through phases with things – tracking or not tracking, never weighing or weighing every day or somewhere in between. And right now I’m in my paleo phase. I’m not sure how long it will last, and I didn’t think I’d ever be so happy to be on such a “restrictive” diet – I’ve done plenty in the past and they drove me crazy and further into my disordered eating. I’m just going with it. The peace is worth it.


      October 30, 2013

      Good for you! We are all different and what works for one may not for another. I’d feel too restricted on Paleo but my diet is getting closer and closer to that way of eating naturally.

      And I think we all need to be in touch with what WE need and that’s why I constantly changing things up. And you’re right. The peace is totally worth it!


      October 30, 2013

      I am right there with you. Dieted and counted points all my life in a frenzy. At 52 I have found total peace with being wheat free. Everything about it is different from the weight watcher world I lived in. I have been at my “goal” weight for about six months now and I don’t live in constant fear of the number on the scale going up. I am just living life and loving how it feels. Isn’t it wonderful!


    October 30, 2013

    Hearing Becky’s comments brought back so many feelings from my days of working for WW. My class was early Sat. AM, & women would come in dressed to the nines, with impeccable hair & makeup, & my first thought was always of total admiration. Then they would step on the scale & the self-hate would come pouring out of them, only because these beautiful women didn’t happen to have the shape that 99% of the people you see on TV have. That’s when I decided to step away to broaden my thinking. I still use WW to get myself back on track if I need to, & I think their message has improved. The fact is, every body was designed to be a particular shape, with limits around how much that shape can or should be changed. I would love if Becky could embrace that, & stop using all her energy mourning something that can’t or shouldn’t be. If she could start having some fun exploring what enhances her shape in terms of fitness activities, clothing, hair, makeup, etc, etc, I bet that chocolate on the couch feeling would not happen as much, & it would spill over into a better relationship with food. And this could be such a good thing to share with her daughter!


    October 31, 2013

    Hi Roni, I’m so excited you got to my question:) thank you for answering back. I was trying diet after diet, and I’ve come to the conclusion I need to do basically what you said in your podcast. It’s like when I start a new “diet plan” I immediately start getting filled with anxiety, and fear of failing. Not to mention I feel like dieting (for me anyway) was starting a binge eating cycle. I’d try a plan and do great for a few days, decide I can’t do this anymore and eat non stop for three days, it just wasn’t healthy. My Husband even called me on it (he hates my diet obsession). He would tell me “Melissa just stop, just try to eat healthy”. We are going on a cruise with our kids this Spring and already I’m getting that old familer feeling. The Diet Head feeling (gotta lose weight before our trip), I’m working on throwing that out the window. I have to remind myself diet=binge= weight gain= thinking I need to diet, and the vicious cycle continues. One thing I do have in my favor is my 26 years of dieting. I feel like a professional dieter threw experience. I know what is good for me and what is not. So I’m trying to make the best choices I can. I also started using a paper food journal. Even if I don’t count calories, points, etc. It helps to see it on paper ( for me anyway). I started jogging again and I’m just gonna take it one day at a time. Thank you so much for answering my question. I love your site, it’s very inspiring to see someone maintaining their weight loss for so many years and not being a “perfect dieter”. I love that your honest about struggling sometimes and having days where you eat too much but then getting right back at it. Again, thanks for all you do and for your advice!

    Kimberly Anne

    November 1, 2013

    I love your Podcasts! I feel like I am at FitBloggin when I listen to you! :) Thanks for the pick me up!


    November 1, 2013

    I loved your podcast today! My favorite part was where you said, “I don’t want to live a life where I can’t have ice cream with my kids. I think there is a balance to be found…” I love that! I am trying so hard to find my balance between having some things that taste good and eating things that are good for me.

    Danielle Warren

    November 3, 2013

    I was thinking the same thing as Kimberly. Your podcast makes me excited to see you at Fitbloggin. You are AMAZNG!!!!


    November 3, 2013

    Roni, what the wonderful post. I watched 2 days ago, and I re watched today, because i was feeling “guilty” after cookies… Your words make perfect sense to me. The ” everything is on plan” and “move on”. I am in my ideal weight right now, but still trying to know how much food I have to eat… Thanks.


    November 17, 2013

    Always love your podcasts…you are a nice voice of reason that I need every now and then. Thanks for making the time and taking the time to do it…it’s greatly appreciated :-}