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Wednesday Weigh In: It’s Time

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For months I’ve been mostly staying away from the scale. I felt like the number was insignificant to where I was with my goals. I was eating consciously, staying active, and just in a really good place.

Some of that has changed.

Lately I’ve been battling some old habits and I can feel bad cycles returning. My inner mean girl has gotten a little louder and the negative self-talk is on the rise. I’ve even been avoiding certain clothes in my  closet because I don’t like the way they feel.

That’s when you know it’s time to kick in a little extra shot of accountability.

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I wasn’t surprised or upset that I’m 4 lbs over goal. I’m more concerned with my mental state and the way I’ve been feeling.

My plan is not to do anything drastic. There’s no fasting or quick loss diet plans here. Just conscious eating, moving and now SLEEP!

Last night was day 1 of Operation Breaking Bad Habits and I slept longer than I have in months!

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Note: Chart taken from Fitbit; click here to learn more.

Enough about me… How is everyone else’s week going? Looking forward to your updates! 



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There are 46 comments so far.

    Janice

    September 4, 2013

    Roni, thank you for this post. I am at a plateau in my weight loss and I know it is because I am falling into old habits…the vending machine at work, evening snack when I am not hungry…that third glass of wine on Saturday night. I need to join Operation ‘Breaking Bad’ Habits too! Starting now! PS I love that show. We are about 1/2 way through season 2!

      Janice

      September 4, 2013

      BTW, I forgot to post my weight. I do not know last weeks weight but here we are:
      HW: 219
      Height: 5’6″
      CW: 173

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      You are doing amazing!!

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      We just started season 5! It just keeps getting better!

    dcrunnergirl9

    September 4, 2013

    i’ve been working on breaking my sugar habit, and i’ve lost 1 lb in the process over the past week (which to me is a lot since it’s so hard to lose large amounts of weight when you’re near your goal). i also discovered that i have been eating more points than my ww plan allows so i’m trying to get adjusted to that, but it’s not going incredibly well because i’ve been too lazy to cook filling foods like vegetables. my bad habit-breaking challenge for this week will be to prepare a dish with vegetables once a day.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      You ca do it!! Have fun with it!

    Tina

    September 4, 2013

    Hi Roni, I wanted to comment on your previous post (about sleep) but couldn’t find the “Leave a comment” area on there. Just wanted to say GREAT POST, as usual and that I just started getting 7 hrs of sleep. It was nice to read the benefits of sleep. (And scary to read the warnings for lack of sleep. Yikes). For me and my husband, it’s all about turning off the TV early in the evening. I get sucked into shows EASILY (even the really bad reality ones).

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Sorry about that. I had comments shut off for some reason. I’m on day 2 of 7+ hours and I can already feel a difference!

    Ashley

    September 4, 2013

    I’m in a slump. Don’t get me wrong, I had a loss this week and the last two weeks (quite small losses, but still a loss). But I’ve noticed my old habits creaping in on me too. I can’t seem to stop craving junk. (Doritos and other chips mostly! But my husband has to have them in the house…) I’ve been trying to limit serving sizes, but I want more! I don’t know what to do…but I need to change something up.

    Also, I’m going to try and join you on your breaking bad habits challenge. I’ve been staying up way too late. Just because I enjoy the ‘me’ time and getting stuff accomplished once the baby is in bed. But, I need sleep!

    HW:207
    CW: 173.0 (-.8)
    GW:165 (for now!)

    Have a great week!

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Are our husbands related? Geesh! What’s with the Doritos? lol Here’s my advice.. have a backup. Something less trigger happy that you can eat when the husband dips into his bag. Sometimes portioning works and sometimes it doesn’t. When it comes to chips I’d rather pop popcorn, grab fruit or carrots sticks and eat them instead. That way I’m still munching and don’t feel left out of the snacking but I stop the cycle of mindlessly eating chips. KWIM?

    Sarah H

    September 4, 2013

    Dropped a half pound this week. Surprised with the extended weekend and lots of good treats. Didn’t stop workout plan so that must have helped. See you next week.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Consistency is paying off!

    Suzie

    September 4, 2013

    I think sleep is so important for good health but it is hard with all of the distractions! I am pretty good about sleep, my major problem is social gatherings where I can’t choose what I eat such as work lunches or church dinners. I always fear that people will think that I’m rude if I don’t eat, I’m working on putting together some strategies for these situations because they come up at least 2-3 times a week for me.

    My weigh in:
    Hw: 255
    Last week: ?
    CW: 223
    GW: 199 (for now)

    My weight is up, the in laws were here for 6 days which meant eating out and stress eating!

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      What’s more important? If people think you’re rude (when you aren’t) or your health/happiness?

      Not being mean just asking. It has taken me a long time to realize what people think is insignificant. Why would I compromise my goals and my health based on something I can’t control like how other people perceive me? They are going to make judgments either way, I might as well be doing what I want.

      Just a thought. :)

    PerfectImperfect

    September 4, 2013

    Interesting! I just posted my own weigh-in and said the same thing about sleep — probably prompted by your “10 Stupid Things…” post. I think that summer is hard for weight maintenance/loss, and I’m ready to get moving again too.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      See I think the opposite.. summer is easy.. winter is hard! I don’t want to go outside!

    Dukebdc

    September 4, 2013

    I am up again this week (133, from 131.4 last week). PMS is in full force, and I got VERY upsetting news about a relative last night (no one is sick or dying, thank goodness, but awful news just the same). I really need to spend the next week managing my emotions with deep breathing, talking it out, keeping busy, and avoiding the temptation to stuff them down with a handy-dandy snack. My bad habits have been creeping back in all summer, so it’s time to get a grip. I’m SO glad to have this outlet every week.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      I’m so glad you do too! :) I hope all is ok. remember food is not going to solve anything nor making you feel any better. You’ve already listed lots of other ways that can help you manage. Good luck!

    LisaM

    September 4, 2013

    I think getting more sleep has been a big influence on controlling my weight. But I’m afraid to see what a FitBit would tell me these days, being of the age where there’s a lot of waking up in a cloud of steam several times a night! I’m doing OK with maintenance. Just trying to accept that my body is a lot like the stock market now – lots of volatility. I can swing 5 lbs in a week for no apparent reason.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Knowing that and not freaking about about it is a good time. The scale can swing that much for me too. It’s why I don’t weigh in as much anymore.

      My opinion

      September 5, 2013

      Sleep is definitely a factor. I found when i didnt sleep well, I ate /drank alot of sugar products, and it just snowballed from there.

    Shannon

    September 4, 2013

    Hi Roni!
    Good thing you’ve been at this long enough to know the scale is just one measure of success.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      It’s taken some time but I’m getting there. I still think it’s an important tool though,

    LKJ

    September 4, 2013

    How did you get the graph with the sleep efficiency number? I don’t see that when I login to my fitbit page?!?!?

      RoniNoone

      September 4, 2013

      Which Fitbit do you have? I just go to the sleep tab. I think you can access it from the dashboard too.

    Chloe@SearchinForAHealthierLif

    September 4, 2013

    I’ve been feeling exactly the same as you, and I think it’s nearly time to hop back onto the scale. I need that extra accountability back in my weekly routine, but making the first step to hop onto the scale is proving difficult!

    Good Luck xo

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      I did have a little internal battle with myself about it but in the end I realized I was starting to avoid it and that’s not good. It should be no big deal either way.

    Jill

    September 4, 2013

    Good work taking a scale-break when you needed it and knowing when you needed the extra accountability. Also, great job working on your sleep! It is SO important and something I also need to prioritize more.

    I’m up a little, too. 111 lbs (I’m *very* short). Up 1lb this week, up 2 from my lowest (trying to figure out this maintenance thing). Weight lifting class again today! Excited about that.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Have fun!! Weight Lifting really changed my life. I love it.

    annie

    September 4, 2013

    i’m too terrified to get on the scale, i was up almost 8 lbs since i left WW but it was right before my tom. i’m hoping it isn’t that bad. anyway, working out and i’m doing MFP, annienovak88 – please come find me i’m interested in what YOU are doing.
    i’m starting a new job, my daughter is transitioning to daycare and i am totally eating my feelings. i really dislike that. but i am cooking a lot again, our csa has been great. so my goal weigh in next week? maybe
    also, how do you work out, eat well, and have a job and family. the idea is really overwhelming

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      I friended you! As for your feeling overwhlemed. We ALL feel it. For me it comes down to priorities. I blogged about how I juggle everything here… http://ronisweigh.com/2010/08/ask-roni-how-i-stay-organized-ha.html Hope that helps!

    Imacrazymomof4

    September 4, 2013

    I dont want to make anyone mad, I’m not trying to be annoying or rude…i guess this whole not weighing thing confuses me. I mean it just seems like it allows a person to not know a number, but if you have a goal in mind of a number how can anyone reach their goal without knowing the number or where they stand in relation to that number? If the reason why you don’t get on the scale is because you don’t want to let the number have power over you, so you just quit knowing the number, does not weighing really give you power? (I’m confusing myself as I type this) I look at it like this, I’d rather know where I stand in relation to my goal than have no idea. The longer I wander obliviously without knowing where I stand with the number or goal the longer I walk around in the dark. I get that you don’t want to be a slave to the scale, but can’t a person just change the way they look at the number? Instead of beating yourself up when the number isn’t what you wanted, say tomorrow it’ll be better because I’m doing this and this. Walking away from the number all together just seems a little bit like denial. Eventually you’ll find out the number one way or another or it will find you. If the number on the scale doesn’t matter a hill of beans than who cares what it is? If you do care about the number than you should probably know what it is. Just my opinion…but honestly what do I know?

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      I don’t NOT believe in scales. I don’t think I would have ever reached my goal if I didn’t weigh in daily/weekly in the beginning but after maintaining for 8 years the number becomes inignigicant. You WANT the number to become insiginificant. Think of the “normal” people you know. The ones that don’t weight in regularly, the ones that have no body weight or size in mind and just “am” – That is my goal. And I’ve gotten there and it feels fantastic! That’s why I stop weighing in and I’m proud of myself when I don’t even think about it.

      Right now, because of my history and my old habits returning, I think again, the scale can help me regain a little control but once it does, I don’t plan on weighing in forever. It becomes counter-productive for me in long term maintenance.

      The bottom line is you have to do what’s right for you. And you have to be honest enough with yourself to know if you can handle the scale and if it will help or hurt your efforts. There is no right way, there’s only the way the works for you.

      Imacrazymomof4

      September 5, 2013

      This is very interesting to me, because I’ve never thought about the scale in a positive or negative way. I don’t think my number on the scale is significant other than it is a way for me to keep in check with my habits that I use to stay healthy and maintain. I feel pretty “normal” too. I don’t really understand the normal people thing because I don’t know how often people I know weigh themselves…I don’t talk about weighing in with people I know I guess! At the same time I’m not sure I know anyone who doesn’t have an idea in mind of what they wish their body was like, either from past photos or clothes they have grown out of. I’m not ruled by it, in fact I never even owned one until after I had my kids and none of my clothes fit afterwards. It certainly has been the quickest way for me to see what is and isn’t working for me before too much damage is done. Hearing the concept that relying on it is a negative thing is wild to comprehend…it’s just a number. But it certainly is interesting to hear how other people view it.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      “Normal” was probably a bad word but I’ll use my husband as an example. He rarely weighs himself. He doesn’t even think about it. I envy his independence of it. You sound like you have it too and that’s great. But there are many of us that have unhealthy attachments to specific numbers for whatever reasons. I can see how that can be hard for someone who doesn’t to understand but it’s a real thing. I know lots of people who will do anything to just hit some number on the scale regardless if it’s healthy or not.

    nancyabc

    September 4, 2013

    Ok had surgery last week so I am eating different and no exercise for 6-8 weeks–I just hope to maintain. I did complete my 4th year on WW without giving up and have kept off 130 pds even though I have many more pds to lose. So new goal get through the 5th year and lose a few more pds. I can do that–lol.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      You can totally do that! You are rocking it!

    Aqilah Norazman

    September 5, 2013

    So true Roni. Being accountable with what we do is the first step to anything fitness. I just started Paleo Diet as an experiment this week for the whole month so we’ll see how that works out for me!

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      Good luck! I don’t have the discipline to do it.

    Tina

    September 5, 2013

    Hi Roni, Just curious, at what weight do you think you felt your “best”… meaning, feeling good in outfits, feeling “slender” etc.? I’m around the same height as you (5’9ish) and am 10lbs heavier than you. My goal is partly reaching a number on the scale/eating healthy and party feeling physically fit and strong. I’m working on both. I’m not sure what I want my scale number to be yet.

      Tina

      September 5, 2013

      *partly, not party

      Tina

      September 6, 2013

      Hi Roni, just wanted to say thanks so much for sharing! Laughing about the shrinking… I hear you… I think I am too..although maybe I’m just a sloucher.

      RoniNoone

      September 5, 2013

      I feel my best in the 145-150 range but as I get older it seems the top end of that is more realistic for me and I’m ok with that. It puts me in a 6 sometimes 8 pant size. I’m also on the short end of 5’9” more like 5’8” I think I actually shrunk a half inch!

    LisaH

    September 6, 2013

    Will the fitbit calculate the calories I burn at CrossFit?

      RoniNoone

      September 6, 2013

      Well, it doesn’t really calculate weight lifting in. Just your movements.

    Deb

    September 8, 2013

    i know you are concerned on the weight a little, but I think you look great, and a great role model.