Why are we so hard on ourselves?
From hating our bodies to thinking we are aren’t enough, it’s time we stop being our own worst enemy and start to treat ourselves the way we treat our friends.
Here are 10 things I’m sure you’ve told a close friend at one time or another. Maybe we should show ourselves the same kind of kindness.
10. “You look great!”
I’m so guilty of this, it isn’t funny. I rarely dress up and when I do, I pick apart my outfit, my hair, my shoes, etc. I focus on everything I think is a flaw instead of confidently looking in the mirror and saying, “You look great!”
9. “Maybe you should take a break.”
It’s so easy for us to look at our friends’ lives and tell them to slow down. Yet I bet there’s always something more you HAVE to do.
8. “No worries. It’s cool.”
Why does it seem exponentially easier to forgive our friends than ourselves?
7. “Oh stop, you aren’t fat.”
I’m going to bet, regardless of how much your friend weighs, you never, ever agree with her when she calls herself fat. Why? Because fat talk is negative, destructive behavior and does no one any good. Next time you start to utter, or even think those three little words (“I’m so fat”), show yourself the same respect you show your friends. STOP IT.
6. “You’ve GOT this.”
We confidently pat our friends on the back all the time because we know what they are capable of. We have faith in their abilities, yet we constantly doubt ourselves. Why?
5. “Everything will be OK.”
Is that not the first thing you say to your friend in crisis? Next time, try to repeat it to yourself when things get rough.
4. “Maybe it’s time to try something new.”
Sometimes it’s easy to give friends advice because we are outside looking in with a completely different perspective. And sometimes that’s exactly what we need to do for ourselves.
3. “You are amazing!”
This needs no explanation. Say it to yourself sometimes, OK?
2. “You should do what makes you happy.”
It’s advice always given to others, yet rarely done ourselves.
1. “Love you.”
I don’t care how cheesy it sounds. Show yourself some love!