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Wednesday Weigh In: Knowing What You Need When You Need It

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WHAT a morning! I was hoping to get this post up super early before leaving for the gym but I woke up to the find my little copyrighted photo drama not really over as I thought it was.

I ended up coming home from my workout and writing copyright infringement letters to the owners of a .au domain that’s using my before and after photos to sell some diet pill and colon cleanse.

FABULOUS! Right?

Ugh. To make matters worse, I’ve just been a funk lately, which is why I didn’t get on the scale this morning. I thought about it and consciously decided the number (regardless of what it is/was) would do more harm than good today.

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And that’s what I wanted to talk about for this week’s weigh in: Knowing What You Need When You Need It

There are weeks I need to see the number. I need to be held accountable. I need the feedback.

There are other weeks where my mental state doesn’t warrant dealing with the scale. “Good” or “bad” wouldn’t matter, I just don’t want to bother with it and no, it’s not coming from a place of denial. I’m not binging myself to death or eating out my frustration, but the feelings have been there.

No, this is about being true and honest with myself, and for the past couple of days, for whatever reason, I’ve needed to walk away. I eased up on keeping my food journal. I haven’t run. I didn’t even put my Fitbit on this morning!

Maybe it’s hormones or stress or tiredness. Maybe it’s all three. Who knows? To be honest, I don’t want to psychoanalyze myself. I just needed a break, and you know what? I’m already starting to feel better.

Learning how to honestly listen to what I need without guilt or stress or anger is probably the hardest part of this journey. There was a time I would have called myself weak or lazy for admitting I needed a break. There was a time I would have binged to help deal with these feelings.  There was definitely a time (not that long ago) that I would feel an enormous sense of guilt.

Now I simply try to treat myself the way I would a friend, and sometimes you tell your friend, “Hey, take a few days. You deserve it.

So how was everyone else’s week? I hope better than mine! :)



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There are 40 comments so far.

    Tonyne

    August 7, 2013

    Right now, I need to go to my bootcamp workouts 3x weekly and I need to eat clean at least Monday-Friday and do my best on weekends. That is what I’m doing. I took my scale out of my bathroom. Right now I’m doing what I need to do to feel better in general and hopefully my clothes will fit a little better because of it.

    I am finally teaching my brain that the number on the scale is not a reflection of how I feel about myself. So, my week is going pretty well. :)

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Nope.. that number really means nothing. It’s about how you feel.

    Brenda

    August 7, 2013

    I’m sorry you are having a rough week. I did weigh in this am although I should have skipped it. I stayed the same as last week, but I’m still up 5 lbs. I still can’t decide if counting calories is really the answer for me right now. I want to be able to be an intuitive eater, I am much closer this time than any of my past attempts. I really just need to move more and listen to my body and be kind to myself.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      That is the key. I just don’t get why it’s so hard for us.

      Brenda

      August 8, 2013

      I’ve thought about it and as much as I wish I did not need to track and count…I think that is what I need to do now, if only for a few weeks to get back on track

    Svanhvit

    August 7, 2013

    I am sorry to hear that things are rough for you. Could it be pressure coming off?? You just completed FitBloggin’ and from what I have seen, that was awesome (so wanna come…….) and you have been travelling a lot. Travel is fun but it’s also strenuous and I find I sometimes need a bit of a break after travelling. So good for you to realize that the scale is just not wanted right now.

    I am getting back on track after a great vacation!! Which was very needed. Now I feel ready to get back at ’em – I even started my own challenge!!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Do share. What’s your challenge all about?

      Svanhvit

      August 8, 2013

      Well, ma´am. I was actually inspired by you on that! I am in an online boot camp, which comes with a really great community and they also have us do daily missions and written assignments to work on the mental side of things.
      Anyway, I had been thinking about taking daily pictures of myself in order to keep myself accountable and constant. At first I wanted to go by it the old way and just do it on my own, because, quite frankly, I am scared to death of openly committing to something and then fail to rise to the occasion. BUT the old way never got me anywhere so I decided to face my fear and take the plunge and suggested to everyone that we take a picture directly post workout (they have video workouts online that we follow) in order to see the glow and to keep ourselves going. And what do you know!! I have about 20 majorly motivated women with me on this and we are just having so much fun.

      And in the end I find there is more of a positive urge to do my workout more than a pressure and I really want to keep momentum going.

      Also, I openly (again something I wanted to do in the dark to really focus until birthday in 16 weeks and 5 days. Ii can do that, right?

      So apart from the challenge for the others, I am really challenging myself and developing and changing in a good direction. Quite proud actually!

    Dukebdc

    August 7, 2013

    HW: 148
    CW: 131.2 (no change)
    GW: 120-125
    HT: 5’2″
    Age: 35

    So I put the brakes on (again). Took the week to wean off the junk and try to stabilize my moods and cravings. I’m really tired of the roller coaster – my weight is right back where I started last October. Nothing to do but keep taking it one day at a time. Goals this week are to take my vitamins every day and cut off caffeine at 3:00pm.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      I’m so bad with the vitamins too!! ugh.

    Ashleigh

    August 7, 2013

    I decided to start weighing in on Wed and weighed in at the gym last week. It’s one of those with the dial – not digital. I’m not sure how accurate it is, but I thought if I always used the same one, it would still be accurate for my purposes. Not sure. Thoughts? I’m considering buying a scale, but I’m afraid I’ll stand on it every time I go to the bathroom.

      annie

      August 7, 2013

      IMO as long as you use the same scale at around the same time everyday it should give you a good idea. i bought one for the house and have mixed feelings about it

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      I agree with Annie… I’m a same scale weigher too. If it’s off it’s always off so it really doesn’t matter.

    Alana

    August 7, 2013

    Today:
    HW: 252.6 (Sept 30, 2012)
    CW: 231.4 (down four pounds from last week (Aug 1))
    GW: 140’s
    Height: 5’5
    Age: 49

    I am absolutely thrilled with my four pound loss! I’d become a junk food maniac these past two months–and I finally work up from my carb induced coma! I am recording everything I eat and looking up the calorie count. I’ve never done that before. Here’s to new beginnings and new ways!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Awesome and congrats!

    Suzie

    August 7, 2013

    HW: 255
    Last week: 224.4
    CW: 221.6
    GW: 199
    Height: 5’6″
    Age: 31

    I’m down 2.8 pounds simply from not eating out as much. I don’t think I had realized how bad our eating out habit had become during those last months of pregnancy!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      It’s amazing how many more cals are in restaurant food. I need to stop eating out myself!

    Kimberly Anne

    August 7, 2013

    Sometimes you need a few days to get yourself feeling better mentally! Take the time you need.

    This week I am down 1lb again to 168lbs…slowly inching towards hitting 159lbs. I would love if I could see 159 on the scale in the next 3-4 weeks. I’ve been stuck in the 160s forever!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Don’t pressure yourself.. you’ll get there!

    annie

    August 7, 2013

    HW: 260 (pg)
    CW: 226.4 (down 2 lbs)
    GW: I90
    H: 5’8″

    i weighed yesterday, totally spaced this morning. so i kinda feel like i’m cheating ;) because i’m prob. up some. i am just trying to hold on. still up 6 lbs, about to go on vaca for 2 weeks. so excited for family time. regroup when i get home

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Have a good time!

    I felt like that at the beginning of the week, but now I am definitely feeling better about things. Give it a couple of days and things will begin aligning themselves :D

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      They really do!

    Ashley

    August 7, 2013

    Hope you get some time to relax a little. You’ve been working hard it seems! Good for you for knowing what you emotionally need.

    This week went awesome for me! I got my jogging stroller and have been having a blast with my little one! She loves going out to jog. Hit my personal best this week. I jogged 2 miles straight with the stroller with no walk breaks!! It was slow but I did it!

    Also, I felt like last weeks weigh-in was off, so I looked back at my food journal, the day before weigh-in I ate quite a bit of salt. I think that altered the scale reading.
    So here’s this weeks stats…

    HW:207
    CW: 179.4 (-5.2 this week!)
    GW: 165
    HT:5’3″
    AGE:25

    It’s been a long long time since I was in the 170s! Yay!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Love that you have the data to look back at. It’s amazing what we can learn about ourselves and our body. Congrats on the loss!

    Arlene Hittle

    August 7, 2013

    I’ve been avoiding the scale, but I know I need to check myself before I wreck all the progress I made at the start of 2013. Like you, I’ve been tired of it all — but my “break” has involved way too much junk and eating with abandon. I need that check-in with the mean metal box for the accountability factor.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      See and that’s what you may ned right now. Now harm in that!

    Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy

    August 7, 2013

    I am avoiding the scale for a little bit, just whilst I get myself back on track.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Good for you knowing what you need! :)

    Staci @ anewstaci.blogspot.com

    August 7, 2013

    Okay, ignore my comment on that other post 5 minutes ago. LOL Glad you are doing something towards the picture-stealing, colon-cleansing morons! If their colon isn’t clean, it probably will be when you get through with them. Haha I have just recently started allowing myself NOT to hate myself when I do really horribly for a day or two. I am (so far) not letting that throw me off for an entire month. I’m forgiving myself and getting right back up. Of course, this makes the haters mad. I keep getting rude, snarky comments. But I get more positive than negative, so I don’t listen to the rudies who try to break my spirit anymore. Apparently, bullies never grow out of bullying. :(

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      They never do and you’re right.. listen to the pos.. and drown out the neg.

    Karen P

    August 7, 2013

    HW: 187.4
    CW: 114.4
    Goal range 113-117
    Years within goal range – just past the 1.5 year mark!
    Height 5’1″
    Mid 40’s,
    Years it took to get to permanent maintenance: 40 years.

    Celebrating 1.5 years. I’ve NEVER been able to maintain this long. Reading the book Refuse to Regain and building my own food template and maintenance routine is awesome. Food quality and finding a food template that keeps emotional eating and binge eating at bay has been a lot of work, but sooooo worth it.

    Scale or no scale, our bodies keep perfect track. Look for root causes. Change processes, problem solve. No blame, just effective corrective and preventive actions, as needed. Onward.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      Love this…

      No blame, just effective corrective and preventive actions, as needed.

    Maria

    August 8, 2013

    Wow, you always seem to say just what I need to hear! My 1st trimester of this pregnancy was rough…lots of vacation travel, lots of bad food choice, lots of NOT exercising. Back home now and trying to get back in the swing of things. Had a doctors appt and actually only gained about 4 or 5 lbs which was a HUGE relief considering how awful I have been eating for the past month. Got to hear the heartbeat…FABULOUS sound! Trying to bee nice to myself and not let mean girl rule the roost. Hope you have a great week!

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      AWWWW Isn’t that the most amazing thing ever! I’m so happy for you!

    Hez

    August 8, 2013

    Hi I am Heather aka Heaven2017 on MFP. I had to take a scale break for awhile when I finally checked in with the scale, it was good news. I am really staying on top of my food journal because I don’t feel strong enough to stop doing that. Sure , I skip days but like it says here, I need to be doing that. At Christmas I weighed 400 pounds and am now down to 333 Have a long way to go but weighing myself every week wasn’t working for me anymore. Going for 1x a month instead. My old Weight Watchers ingrained self would bulk at this but it’s what I need to do.

      RoniNoone

      August 8, 2013

      I think it gets so much easier to reach out goals when we stop feeling guilty for giving ourselves a break now and then.

      I love your idea of a monthly weigh in!

    nancyabc

    August 8, 2013

    This mild summer has been great for walking. School starts August 19 and I do better when I have a routine. I have a goal to get back down where I was by winter.
    Hope everyone enjoys there week.

    AmyW

    August 9, 2013

    My numbers:

    HW: 224 (June 2007)
    Last week: 178
    CW: 174 (down two pounds)
    GW: 155
    H: 5’8″
    Age: 35

    Not too shabby for my first weigh-in. And I feel great. The small changes are definitely making me feel a lot better. Mentally and physically.

    Claudia

    August 9, 2013

    Roni, couldn’t agree more, sometimes you just have to take a few days off! That doesn’t mean you have fallen off the wagon, no! You are just giving yourself some space & treating yourself in the same way as you would your best friend!