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To Weigh or Not To Weigh: That is the Question

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Woman Self Conciously  Weighing Herself Wearing Cute Girlie Sock

Kelly left a great comment on yesterday’s Weigh In Post and it really got me thinking about my own scale habits.

Been following you for a long time Roni and have almost exact same history with being overweight, losing it, gaining it, the yo yo, the binging, the negative self talk. I too am a Mom in my late *ahem* 30’s. : ) Waking away from the scale is the best thing I ever did and it was the last step to true freedom. Making breakthroughs with mentality, serving size, whole food eating, becoming an athlete (yes, that’s you) etc. are awesome and life changing. Continuing to step on the scale week after week is keeping with the old mindset of “measuring up”, what defines success, and the answer to “are we good enough this week” (or insert whatever other self inflicted questions that we have never really said out loud). We try to tell ourselves that the number does not affect us, that we are just “monitoring”, “keeping an eye on it”, and that it is just “one tool” in our approach to health. That is a lie. Not for all, but for those of us that have lived a life being very overweight at one time, had self confidence issues, tried everything, I mean EVERYTHING just to see the number go down on the scale, it is a lie. The number on the scale is bondage to us because no matter how much we change our lifestyle, exercise habits, foods we buy that all reflect our progression to a healthy and fit life, that number speaks to us and continues to define us (to a point, but still). If the number on the scale truly does not matter, then why do we have to step on it? Do our clothes not tell us? The minute we button a shirt or pull up a zipper, do we not intuitively “know” where we are? Learning to trust our new lifestyle without the scale is hard and there is a period of withdrawal and doubt, but true freedom…..true freedom from the old mindset, the old standards, and that nasty inner voice that talks to us when we see the “number”. Walking away from the scale will most likely take you out of your comfort zone, but isn’t that where you thrive? (Crossfit Games, Tough Mudders, Travel, etc). You can do it.

Oh, boy does she make some great points. Maybe I am lying to myself. I did go through a period of scale independence before I got pregnant again.  Then after baby, when I went back into weight-loss mode, I thought it would be easy to just redo what I did 6 years earlier when I lost the 70 lbs.

It wasn’t.

I struggled with Weight Watchers before having my Weight Loss A-Ha moment.

Yet even after my “moment” I still continued to weigh in.

I told myself I was disconnected from the number, doing it for the blog, that I was strong enough not to let it affect me.

Kelly IS right. I was (am) lying to myself. Part of me still REALLY wants to see 145 on the scale consistently. I want reach that number yet again because it represents “skinny” to me. It’s a weight I never saw in high school. A weight I didn’t think was possible for my frame. It’s that magic number I’ve programed myself to want to be.

When I read Kelly’s comment I didn’t want to respond right away. I really wanted her words to sink in a bit. Then LisaM chimed it with another perspective.

You preach it Kelly! Your comments were so powerful I hope you don’t mind if I respond with my reasons for utilizing the scale. Although I didn’t lose a huge amount of weight, it’s been a struggle all my life. I finally changed my relationship with food, and if old habits didn’t creep in from time to time, I too would have no use for the scale. But as a fickle human, I can play too many mind games if I go just by clothing fit to monitor whether or not those old habits are getting entrenched again. I’d probably be on a 10 lb pendulum if I just went by clothing, and that takes long enough that the bad habits have gotten too ingrained. So I only use the number on the scale as an unbiased monitor of how healthy my habits are. I find that focusing on my habits for the amount of time it takes to lose the extra weight is just about long enough to internalize good habits again. So, I don’t freak out if I’m really concentrating on living the way I know I should, but the number on the scale isn’t where I want it. I just know that means I need to continue concentrating.

Complete opposite perspective yet still valid, and there is a bit of data to back up the idea of consistent weighing.

According to the National Weight Control Registry (NWCR) 75% of the members weigh themselves at least once a week. If you are unfamiliar with NWCR, their members are people who’ve lost an average of 66 lbs and maintained that loss for over 5 years on average.

I wonder if all of them feel like a slave to the scale or maybe they’re able to use it as a simple monitoring tool. I have a feeling opinions are going to vary greatly and that’s why I thought I’d make this an old-fashioned question of the week.

So what say you? To weigh or not to weigh: That is the question!



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    Kathy

    May 23, 2013

    What do you mean, that you did not lose a huge amount of weight. 70lbs is pretty huge. I will always weigh myself at least once a week. A person has to have the right perspective (as with anything) before stepping on the scale. I have an 8 pound range that I am pretty happy when I am within those numbers. NSV are very important too.

    Meg

    May 23, 2013

    I’ve been an avid weightlifter for years & therefore
    mostly anti-scale. I’ve always wanted to GAIN weight in the form of muscle,
    while keeping body fat down. The TOTAL amount of pounds I weigh is therefore
    mostly inconsequential to me.

    As you mentioned, I too have heard of studies showing that
    people who weigh themselves regularly are likely to maintain a healthy weight…
    but to me that is a correlation, not causation. People who weigh themselves do
    so BECAUSE THEY CARE – because they are PAYING ATTENTION to their weight.

    The ACT of getting on the scale is a result of caring.

    And caring is why they stay a healthy weight. Caring is what
    matters – not the scale.

    You can “PAY ATTENTION” in other ways. Fit of your clothes
    being one of the best. Simply LOOKING at your naked body tells you a lot too.

    LisaM wrote, “So I only use the number on the scale as an
    unbiased monitor of how healthy my habits are.”

    Roni – I really don’t think that will work for you! With
    your CrossFit heavy lifting, you likely WILL gain muscle and that will make the
    scale go UP even when your body fat stays the same. Isn’t body fat what you
    really care about? If so, the scale can NOT tell you you’ve gained body fat
    & can serve to DISTORT the truth and MISLEAD YOU into thinking you’ve
    gained fat when you’ve gained muscle.

    I’m all for ditching the scale – but not entirely for the reasons
    Kelly articulated so well, although those are great points too.

    Kelly wrote, “Continuing to step on the scale week after
    week is keeping with the old mindset of ‘measuring up,’ what defines success,
    and the answer to ‘are we good enough this week.’”

    This is something of a different issue, but it occurs to me
    that the same can be said of numbers with regards to workouts. Tracking numbers
    like 1 rep max of each lift, time it takes to run X distance, time you can hold
    X move, etc. Isn’t that also “measuring up’?

      stephkdesign

      May 23, 2013

      Grr… my comment wouldn’t post… but now I’ am responding to Meg. I love what you said! “Caring is what matters – not the scale.”

      I LOVE to lift, but I also need to lose weight. I am like LisaM and I step on the scale every day because it keeps me on track. In fact when I don’t, I gain weight RAPIDLY (and lose slowly). And I step on it even when I’ve binged on the weekend or missed working out all week, because I need to know! On the other hand, my BF goes by how his clothes feel. Plus he’s way more in tune with his body and can tell when it’s off balance. I’m still learning.

      I would LOVE to get to a point where I feel I can throw away the scale. That would just be awesome! So if you can do it, DO it!

      Roni, you’re an athlete! You have become more than I think you ever imagined. You don’t need that scale. It’s going to lie to you because like Meg said, you’re doing all these things that are making you gain muscle. You look ridiculously hot too, btw. Forget that scale. :)

      RoniNoone

      May 29, 2013

      I think I’m taking your advice and you are too sweet. I’m not sure I’d describe myself as hot. lol

      RoniNoone

      May 29, 2013

      You are so right! IT is the caring that matters. It’s kind of like parents who worry about being good parents. The fact that they worry probably means thy are.

      As for measuring up I guess it comes down to us humans and our competitive nature? I don’t know. I do know I love seeing my 1 rep maxes go up! lol

    Lisa Eirene

    May 23, 2013

    Since I reached maintenance mode after losing 100 pounds, I reduced how often I weigh in. While I was losing the weight, it was once a week. Now it’s once a month. My weight doesn’t fluctuate much–about 2 pounds up and down depending–and so it doesn’t make sense to do it more often.

    That being said, I still have anxiety about the scale. And I probably even have MORE anxiety because I anticipate it and worry that I’ve gone up a lot since the last month. That is rarely the case but psychologically I still have anxiety.

    jessey

    May 23, 2013

    I am one of those people that needs to get on the scale – in the past, whenever I have stopped stepping on the scale, that is when I start gaining – or should I say, when I start gaining I stop getting on the scale and gains keep coming and coming. When I have been in maintenance mode in the past (unfortunately the distant past), I still liked to get on the scale at least once a week, but definitely not every day. I wore such baggy clothes from such a poor body image (and this was when I was thin!), that gaining weight was not detected through clothes alone until it was way, way too late!
    For me I know that a daily weigh in is what I need. I have taught myself that I will not let a number of the scale ruin my day. I just work a little harder that day in hopes that the next day isn’t so bad.

    albe

    May 23, 2013

    It’s been 20 months since I stepped on a scale. Once I started getting more into strength training, I let go of the scale. I noticed that it had become an unhealthy habit, upsetting me unreasonably if the number was up. I noticed that my mood for the day was far too influenced by the number on the scale that morning, and that’s when I knew I had to let it go. I was worried that without the accountability, I’d lose control of my weight. It hasn’t happened, though. I can tell by the fit of my clothes, and I keep a close watch on my habits by focusing on just that — my habits for exercise and eating. The focus on habits over weight has made a huge difference, and my clothes are looser than they were 20 months ago (when I was maintaining). I love not defining myself with a number.

    I do keep a loose check by trying on the same pair of tight-fitting pants once a month. They were tight but fit when I stopped weighing myself. They’ve grown a bit looser since then. If they ever got tighter, I’d know it was time to make another habit change.

    Liz Dean

    May 23, 2013

    Been following you for a bit, now finally commenting :) I think using a scale depends on each person individually and where they are on their weight loss journey. I’m currently 10lbs away from reaching my goal of losing 50lbs (after being pregnant twice, my 2nd was stillborn so major life devastation has made me want to change), so the scale is essential in this process. I weigh in every Monday and it keeps me accountable. When I envision maintaining mode, I see myself weighing only every 3-4 weeks. I’ve never had an “addiction” to the scale, but for those of us that have lots of weight to lose, it really is key to getting to where we want to be. After reading about you and how things are in your life, it seems you only need to weigh in 2-3 times a month, maybe? I realize that letting go of the scale can be hard, but realistically much better for you mentally in the long run. Also, I was going to ask since you’re into Crossfit now, have you tried following a paleo or primal lifestyle? I’ve been eating Primal for over 7 months now and that is 90% of what is dropping my weight off week by week…just curious :) You look amazing, BTW. I’d be proud if I were you!
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    Elle Noel

    May 23, 2013

    Anytime I’ve ever not weighed- I’ve relapsed. I think knowing where you stand in your relationship with gravity is important in staying at or near “happy weight”. For me personally, It’s one of those numbers in life that may be unpleasant to monitor, like monitoring a checking account balance or productivity reporting at work, however it’s necessary to maintain a happy life. I do understand both sides of the arguemnt and think deciding whther or not to weigh in, is a personal choice based on what tactics work for each indivdual.

    christina

    May 23, 2013

    Roni, I would not change *one thing* you are doing! You have balance and a healthy outlook on eating, living, health, exercise etc. I think it’s good to see a number on a scale to make sure you aren’t getting too far out of your comfort zone. You see it as a number; one tool of many that you use to stay healthy. So keep doing what you are doing girl!

    Brenda

    May 23, 2013

    I weigh dAily and I have noticed that when I get closer to a weight that I like, I start to slack on the food side and sabotage myself. Wish I could figure out why.I also have lost a lot of weight (87lbs) but still struggle with those last 10. I think if we could weigh and not let it define us it would be great . I also agree with another comment about gaining muscle w a the resistance training we might see weight increases and not so much loss.

    JB

    May 23, 2013

    I take breaks from the scale when I find that it’s affecting my mood in a negative way. If I’m eating well, working out, getting enough sleep, water, etc. it’s just masochistic to become upset if the scale doesn’t move as much or as quickly as I’d like. “Knowing” it’s not the whole story isn’t enough to prevent me from feeling somehow ripped off, sad, discouraged. Breaks can be useful to me emotionally and let me celebrate what’s going right. I only think it’s a problem if I’m not tracking anything else either, in which case it’s too easy to slide away from my goals.

      Jill

      May 23, 2013

      I like this – a break from the scale might force us to rely on the other measures of success and help us see the bigger picture. Then, for accountability purposes, we can reunite with the scale when ready :). Good practical solution!

    Kelly

    May 23, 2013

    What a great dialogue! I think as one stated it is SO individual. We each know ourselves the best and have to fight that scale “demon” if it exists. There have been times I have been able tow weight weekly, or more frequently and done OK with it not affecting my mood, there have been times where I need to step away. Like now. I had baby #3 and then a foot injury. Well, it has not allowed me to work out and drop the baby weight which I so successfully lost with baby #2. I have decided not to get on the scale for now because I *know* the number I am at and it is a devastating number to me (50 lbs above WW goal and my happy place). I know if I step on and see that number that it will just remind me that I am fat, no good, worthless and need to go workout. HA! On the other hand, maybe if I stepped on the scale, saw the number, that I would “face” reality more and quit messing around. Just because I can’t do the cardio that I have always done does not mean I can’t work out and make progress. I digress….Roni, you do rock. You know yourself best. Only you know if you need to step away. If you do need to, you CAN do it. Maybe a trial break to see what it is like? If you don’t need to step away? Totally OK too. You will always be betwen 145-152 most likely just because of fluid, hormones, body functions, and that even what type of food you ate the day before, so whatever you do, keep rocking out and inspiring us as you do every day! So glad that my comment sparked a healthy dialogue. : )

    LaNae

    May 23, 2013

    I lost 75 lbs and have maintained within 5 lbs for about 6 years. Lost the bulk of it on WW. I do use the scale. Do I sometimes obsess over it? I’d be a liar if I said, “No.” But, you know what? It keeps me honest. I’ve seen too many people (we all have) who have lost weight…got loosey-goosey and gained it all back. I know what I have to do (I haven’t counted points for a few years), but I also live a real life (with wine…and dessert on the weekends). I still struggle with my head (I think many of us do…because that’s where the battle truly seems to lie)…so the scale helps me not only realize when I need to check myself, it also helps me realize when I’m LYING to myself (the “You’re fat” thoughts).

      LisaMThe2nd

      May 24, 2013

      Keeps me honest too! I swear I’ll want to eat a snack late at night. I’ll step on the scale and calculate what it will be in the morning and how that will differ if I have that snack and BAM craving gone. It’s what works. Doesn’t mean those that can do without the scale don’t care (above post), just means we are all different.

    Marie

    May 23, 2013

    We love your Wednesday Weight-Ins so we would be very sad to see them go, hope you decide to continue :)

      RoniNoone

      May 29, 2013

      They aren’t going anywhere. I promise. :)

    Isabelle

    May 23, 2013

    I don’t see a problem with weighing yourself regularly..the only times Ive ever gained weight were the times I wasn’t weighing myself on a regular basis. By the time I realized my clothes were getting tight, I had already gained 10 lbs. I’d rather weigh myself regularly and lose 2 lb when needed than have to lose 10.

    Jill

    May 23, 2013

    I weigh daily, at first to get over a severe scale phobia and dull myself to the fluctuations of that little digital read out. Then it became an exercise in understanding some of the “whys” behind that fluctuation. Then it was just habit – a neutral thing and one of many metrics in seeing how I was doing.

    Some days I have a great attitude about the scale (Hm. Up a little, but I’m exercising well, maintaining a reasonable deficit, and getting stronger. Cool), other days it’s more like “Up? Up?! Frick. Maybe I should make my deficit bigger by like 500 calories today” – reason always wins in the end and I will proceed to just eat healthy, exercise, and mind the snacking. The measuring tape and monthly photos tell a far more encouraging tale, anyway.

    I may switch to weekly weighing soon, partly because I’m getting closer to my goal, and partly because my objectivity is getting clouded and I’m letting the numbers get under my skin more often now that the progress is slower.

    I find this a fascinating question, and will read the responses with great interest!

    The fit of clothes as a marker was always a strange concept for me – things shrink and stretch! I feel like you could rationalize away a lot of gaining or losing due to the fit of clothes, and that would drive me nuts.

    Cindy

    May 23, 2013

    Great post with some interesting points made. Quite frankly, I look at the ‘weigh or not to weigh’ dilemma as a personal choice and nobody else’s business. It’s as personal as our individual choices of diet. For any one person to try and justify why they weigh every day or try to convince someone they are lying to themselves for weighing every day is no different than telling someone how to diet, what foods to eat (or not to eat), etc. I find both incidences extremely judgmental. It’s the age old saying of ‘what works for some does not work for others’ and I just get irritated when people get bent on one view and subsequently try to impose it on others.

    Paula

    May 24, 2013

    I struggle with the scale too. It started out as a tool but is now more of a mood changer than anything. I see reason in both arguments. I want to go back to a time where I didn’t weigh, calculate and chart my life on food. This post made me realize I need to re-focus. I still need to lose weight & I want to do it healthy but I am trying to determine if I should use the scale.

    Fiona Jesse Giffords

    May 24, 2013

    Though what Kelly said is true but you can’t just analyze through your clothing. If you are doing so much hardwork to lose weight than you should check it once whether it is reached or not.

    tammy

    May 24, 2013

    You should weigh! It’s way to easy to not realize your putting on 10 pounds, and it’s that much harder to loose it! The scale sucks sometimes…but it’s all part of the struggle with weight! It’s necessary! =)

    Kathy

    May 24, 2013

    Honestly, I feel it’s a personal decision however, it is considered a “vital behavior” to weight loss and maintenance. This information is cited in a book I’m currently reading entitled, “Influencer”. The book is on leadership however, cites various studies along the way to support the authors’ work. I like popping on the scale and keep a written record of it. This has been my behavior for over 6 years. I’m not yet at goal weight but don’t believe it’s due to weighing myself on a regular basis.

    Leigh

    May 24, 2013

    For me, the once a week weigh in is very important. If I don’t weigh and feel like I am gaining, I get into denial moade and don’t want to step on the scale. I did that last summer and was up 20 pounds when I finally decided to “own it”. Like you, my happy weight is around 145. I am currently at 154. Unlike in the past, I am not obsessed with that number, but would like to stay within 5 pounds or so of it. I have gained and lost the same 20 – 30 pounds so many times and I am so tired of the struggle. I feel like I have learned a lot about how poor my dieting choices have been in the past and a lot of the credit goes to you. I love your approach to food and exercise. Selfishly, your Wedneday weigh in helps me becaause you “humanize” the process. I read several blogs and some are just not realistic. Thankd for all you do for all of us!

    Sherri D

    May 24, 2013

    I feel the need to use the scale. It is the first alarm that goes off, if i am going off track! I don’t know (yet) what ‘normal’ is…not all the time. I had been obese all my life. I lost a tad over 100 pounds. I’ve kept it off for about a year and a half now.

    I am still learning what ‘normal’ is. If I am off track, the scale will sound the alarm first. I HAVE gone from weighing several days a week to mostly weighing once a week. My goal is to learn to trust myself enough to weigh myself less, or perhaps not at all.

    The scale is SUCH an easy tool to use though. Being able to notice clothing that fits differently is not an immediate measurement. It can be misleading too. If you are bloated or dehydrated you might think you are gaining or losing, when you are not.

    I never knew what people were talking about when they said they were bloated. Now that I am closer to a more ‘normal’ weight, I have experienced bloating and how FAT that makes me feel! But the scale hadn’t budged. “Oh, this must be bloating!” And I am almost 59 years old. You would think I would know these things!

    So yes, I am a scale user. However, I am no longer a scale slave…well, at least MOST of the time! :D

    LisaMThe2nd

    May 24, 2013

    Funny. I’m LisaM too but not the one you speak of. I agree 100% with LisaM… I use the scale to make sure I’m behaving. I can gain 10 lbs and clothes still fit fine. I won’t pay enough attention. But I do pay attention to the numbers. We all do what works for us as individuals.

    Sarah C.

    May 24, 2013

    Not a usual commenter, and perhaps you have addressed this topic in another post, but now that you are so focused on exercise (love!), I wonder two things: (1) Are you having your measurements taken regularly/monthly? A lot of athletes find that the scale may be up a few pounds, but the waist & other areas may be down (or up, depending on your training goals, but in the direction that you want). (2) Have you have had your body fat percentage taken? Callipers & bioelectrical imepedance can give you some general numbers, although hydrostatic weighing or a DEXA scan will give you far more accurate information. Neither is all that expensive, and I am sure that folks at your CrossFit location would know where to have it done in your area. Assessing that information can be far more informative than simply a scale number, and you might only have it done a couple of times over six months, if you want to measure change.

    For active folks, and especially folks where strength is critical, the scale is ONE number to use for assessment, but not the only one. Example: A size 2 ballerina likely weighs a lot more than someone might expect, but she is also going to have an extremely low body fat percentage.

    We are used to tracking physical challenges in terms of numbers, but when the numbers about our body go beyond the scale, it can also be a lot more fun — and can help us to achieve even more in a healthy way!

      RoniNoone

      May 29, 2013

      I don’t do either but I probably should. I’m think I’m worried I’d become obsessed with those as well. So I’ve stuck with the scale. I did a body fat percentage before starting crossfit maybe I’ll do it again in a few months and compare. It could be eye opening!

    Imacrazymomof4

    May 24, 2013

    I weigh. I don’t feel like I’m a slave to it, I think of myself as just being proactive and informed. I agree that clothes can be very forgiving (esp when seasons change) and damage can appear to be minimal when using clothing as a gauge. I know where I feel my best (on the scale) and don’t think it’s obsessive to want to help myself to stay there, esp as I get older and my activity may lessen somewhat. I like to do well in everything I strive to be/do and think that personally I am my best when I weigh. I’ve found that I can get lazy when I chose to not weigh…it gets easy to not drink my water, or not eat those veggies, and have that dessert. Just my own experience.

    Mindy Trittipo

    May 24, 2013

    I don’t weigh myself, I monitor how I am doing based on how much eating I am doing when I’m not hungry for food and how often I overeat and how much I find myself turning to food when something else is needed to satisfy me. Weighing myself really has no point when I’m battling the bigger picture. It would only serve to make me feel a whole round of emotions to distract me from the true issues I’m battling.

    Also, when the scale goes up (bad) or down (good) I start to think of myself and my progress as good or bad. I am trying to get away from this black and white thinking, or good and bad thinking. I’ve even gone so far as to try to eliminate the words good and bad and right and wrong from my vocabulary.

    That being said, I don’t think anyone’s choice is right or wrong. For me, weighing myself just doesn’t give me any information that I need. I know how I’m doing based on what I mentioned above.

    When I am taking care of myself, I feel great! And that has many dimensions that I am continually working on. The scale no longer reflects this or helps me get back on track.

    It’s a great question and really made me pause to think.

    Elizabeth

    May 24, 2013

    I’m a member of the NWCR, and I had no idea that 75% of its members weigh themselves once per week. I think that says a lot about successful weight loss maintenance, and I’m going to noodle on that some more. With that said, I’m in Kelly’s camp. For approximately 6-8 months following a weight loss of 50 pounds, I hopped on the scale once per week (just as I did during weight loss) for a “check”. Personally, after a while, I found the scale to be a noose around my neck. Weight fluctuates for valid reasons (ah, the monthly cycle) that has nothing to do with healthy living. Sometimes “weigh-in Wednesday” fell after Christmas Tuesday. I’m simply not going to beat myself up for enjoying the holidays. That temporary holiday or vacation weight gain disappears quickly, once good habits come back in.
    Throughout the weekly “maintenance” weighing, I found myself freaking out about the scale, so I decided to terminate my marriage to it. I haven’t been on a scale in close to a year, and it doesn’t bother me at all. I use my clothes to keep it in check with my weight. I know when I’ve put on a few pounds, because I feel it in a tighter waist band. And, quite frankly, I know when bad habits start creeping in from how my body feels.
    It’s so liberating to keep my “non-scale victories” in check, instead of my precise weight, throughout my maintenance journey. I still pat myself on the back for conquering a workout even when I’m too tired or busy, or making a good food choice in a social situation filled with unhealthy food. At the end of the day, who cares if I weigh 139 one week, 141 the other, 142 the next, then 138 . . . and so on? That 5-pound flucation doesn’t define me. Nor does it matter in the grand scheme of life.
    Getting a divorce from the scale was the best thing I did.

    Erica

    May 24, 2013

    I know that for myself when I’m not weighing myself it’s because I don’t want to know because I’ve not been following. But I also want to bring something else up. I’ve gained & lost 30-40 lbs many, many times. I had an interesting thing happen the last time I got to my happy weight. I realized that I got a little high out of watching the scale go down each week! I also get a rush when I’m so pumped and first get back on track again after gaining weight back. It makes me wonder if part of the gaining back is a mental game that I’m playing in order to get the good feelings from loosing again. I mean it is a lot of work to lose, the exercise and the food prepping and tracking, and I really don’t WANT to have to keep repeating the process, because it is a ton of work but, subconsciously one some level I know that I do get something out of loosing weight. So I’ve got to wonder. Then it leads me to my next question, how to make maintenance feel just as significant as loosing?

    tiger

    May 25, 2013

    It’s kinda like my mentality used to be when I was young and in college- I don’t want to know the exact amount in my bank account, or how much I’ve charged on my credit card. The “I don’t want to know” mentality to me is deadly. That is when I overspend, whether it be in food or with money. Even with time if I’m not looking at a clock when you get down to it really. But because I am acknowledging that, I can see that is probably a big part of my weight/health issues – I’d rather be ignorant than accountable. If I don’t weigh every day or at least a few times a week, the little voice in the back of my head (I think her name is Reason) will ultimately stop whispering to me and I’ll have gained at LEAST 10 lbs.

    Cathy H-S

    May 27, 2013

    Not weighing does not work for me. It’s a reality check and a way to tell if my food and medication and activity levels are in balance. I have tried not weighing and not using a structured plan, and I struggle more. Am just better off with WW and weighing. But every journey is a bit different. It’s not a one size fits all world.