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I have to admit I felt a little trepidation about getting on the scale this morning. Not because I was worried about seeing a gain, but because I knew I’d see one and then I’d have to figure out how to explain to you why I don’t care.


  1. Every bite, every drink, every relaxing moment on my vacation was worth it. I refuse to live my life in fear of gaining weight so much so it prevents me from enjoying life.
  2. I came home and easily slipped right back into my routine. As soon as I post this I’m headed to the gym, I have a date to run lined up this week, and my fridge is full of yummy produce and healthy snacks. My lifestyle supports my weight in a healthy way and I don’t feel any guilt — that’s what used to lead to binges as some sort of twisted self punishment after a gain or “slip up.”
  3. I feel freakin’ FANTASTIC! And again, isn’t that the goal? Sure, we want to look good, we want to see a lower number on the scale, but at the end of the day it’s how you feel. That’s what should drive you, not some stupid number on some stupid scale.

Okay, that wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I really do feel good and I really do have to get my butt to the gym or I’m going to be late for class. Life is a little crazy right now with the conference a mere 50 days away. I can’t believe how much still needs to be done and how many conference calls it requires! Not to mention, I have like 3 posts brewing in my head about Vermont for TheUnworldlyTravelers and 3 posts for GreenLiteBites that need to be written.

Breathe, Roni. Breathe.

Did I just refer to myself in the 3rd person? OK, yeah, I’m gonna go.

Hope you had a great week. Looking forward to your updates!

  • annie

    HW: 260
    CW: 222.2 (-0.8)
    GW: I90
    H: 5’8″
    Age: 36

    2 days ago i was down to 2I9. salt intake is making my weight crazy. finally got back to the gym and went for 2 hikes with elsa, my I0 month old, in the backpack. master’s done for the summer, one year to go, YAY. hope you all had a great week, roni glad to hear you had a great vaca

    • RoniNoone

      Thanks I did! And don’t let that salt get you down. IT’s just water weight!

    • annie

      thescaleisnotmyworth thescaleisnotmyworth
      thescaleisnotmyworth thescaleisnotmyworth

      it really, really isn’t! i’m just reminding myself

  • Julie

    Love your perspective! I have family coming to visit from out of town, and I’ve been worried about how to eat healthy while they are here. Instead of worrying, though, I’m going to enjoy every moment, while eating intuitively. Glad you had a great trip!

    • RoniNoone

      Have fun!!

  • crazylady

    HW: 238
    CW: 235 (-3.0)
    GW: 180
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 35

    I can’t take much credit for my loss as I had a stomach flu over the weekend so I couldn’t eat even if I had wanted to!! Still a loss is a loss. Also contemplating joining WW this week but worried it might have the opposite effect and make me obsess even more about food. I guess I just need to be aware of that and work on it, somehow.

    I so long to reach the point you are at Roni but I know it took you lots of hard work and it won’t just happen overnight.

    • RoniNoone

      Babysteps!! You’ll get there. It really does take time and patience.

  • Sarah

    HW: 246
    CW: 242
    GW: 140
    H: 5’4″
    This is my first post! I have started working out and following South Beach. It is structured, but not too limiting for me, so hopefully I can stick with it! Thanks for all your inspiration Roni!

    • annie

      so glad your posting, have a great week!

    • RoniNoone

      Glad you joined us! Let us know how it’s working for you!

  • Trixie

    HW: 215.5
    CW: 161.6 (-.4)
    GW: 155
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 40

    Slight loss this week but going in the right direction again so I’m happy. Loved reading about your vacation, Roni – and that you enjoyed every moment of it!

    • RoniNoone

      Thanks and congrats!!

  • Dukebdc

    HW: 148
    CW: 127.2 (+1.0)
    GW: 120-125
    HT: 5’2″
    Age: 35

    So, this is my third week in a row posting a gain. I am up 5 pounds in a month. Sigh. This week I lied to myself and said I was being careful about what I ate, but NOT counting calories. Truth is, I wasn’t really paying attention. Just because I wasn’t stuffed to the gills doesn’t mean I was eating well. I want to make excuses and find some explanation that absolves me, but I can’t and won’t. Period. I will continue to check in here, and I continue to record my weekly weigh-ins on a calendar in our kitchen. My goal for next weigh-in is to stop gaining.

    • RoniNoone

      I’m right there with you on this goal!!

  • nancyabc

    Roni I need to get back on track like you–been off track since I was sick the last week of January gained 20 pds and I am losing it now but it is by the grace of God because I am not doing enough to lose it–this week 1.4 pds. I buy the fruits and veggies eat all the fruit but a lot of the veggies have ended up in a compost heap. I am eating far too many carbs (crackers). I haven’t quit but I will end my year in August up and not down–ugh! On a positive note this is my fourth year and I am still trying and have not given up and I have never done that before.

    • Sheri J

      Try not to get discouraged Nancy. I know that is easy to say. We can’t be perfect all the time. August is a long time away and even if it weren’t you have come so far… You are one of my inspirations!

    • RoniNoone

      We all go thru lulls, myself included. Put the veggies in the fridge on the top self where you can see them. Take a week or 2 off fro buying the crackers. Sometimes you just have to be a bit more proactive. Make it easy for yourself!

  • LisaM

    HW: 180+
    CW: 155.5 (-0.5)
    GW: 150
    HT: 5’6″
    Age: 52

    First week back in the saddle, and it takes a while to get the momentum going. But, NSV’s on the meals, exercise, and evening snacking so I’m happy. Roni, where you are right now makes me think of when Pinocchio became a Real Boy. You went through all the motions to learn it, now you can live it! Look at last weekend as a short trip to Pleasure Island with the Bad Boys. As long as you don’t stay away too long, you’ll be fine!

    • RoniNoone

      What a great metaphor!

  • imacrazymomof4

    HW: 200+ when pg
    CW: 128.6 (-1.2)
    GW: 120′s
    HT: 5’6
    Age: 43

    i hear you on the stupid scale thing…i’m not exactly sure why the number has such an impact when your clothes fit and you feel good…its a mind game for sure. i think i must associate it with progress, or hard work paying off…but where do you finally say no more weight will be lost!! this is the weight i’m going to be and there will be some fluctuation?? fluctuation happens for cryin out loud!!

    i’m still in a state of not feeling completely at ease with where i am…i’m slowly buying new clothes but a tad afraid to let go of the old ones. other than pregnancy clothes this is really the first time i’ve gotten rid of big clothes…i’ve always moved into bigger ones. it’s a strange but nice place, and i’m not completely convinced that it’s not going to change back.

    i guess until i get used to this new and improved discipline i’ve adopted, i will have uncertainty. i think the number on the scale is like your savings account…if you have a bigger cushion you feel you have more breathing room.

    • RoniNoone

      Ohh how I’ve been there! Giving up my “fat” clothes was a huge step for me and it took me years to no be convinced I wasn’t going to go back. Honestly, I kept one pair of my old “skinny” jeans just to remind me how far I’ve come.

  • Aimee

    CW: 146.8 (no change)
    Last week: 146.8
    GW: 137 lbs
    Highest weight: 208 lbs
H: 5′ 2”
Age: 39

    I hosted a jewelry party over the weekend and had some wine, snacks and an amazing homemade margarita cupcake. I didn’t calculate the calories. I enjoyed myself. I stayed the same this week and that’s just fine with me.

    I have always found your attitude and perspective on weight loss/maintenance refreshing Roni. Your getaway sounds fabulous. I’m glad to hear you enjoyed it. I look forward to reading more about it.

    • RoniNoone

      Thanks Aimee! Great attitude yourself!

  • Sheri J

    HW 305
    CW 250.6(+0.8)
    GW 150
    HT 5’3″
    Age 57

    Slight gain this week. I was expecting it though as I took last week off for my birthday and didn’t do a flipping thing. Currently the challenge is DH’s diagnosis of celiac disease. I don’t cook and I HATE to bake but my drive thru days are over it seems due to gluten issues. I know it will be better for me but sheesh…

    So glad you and hubs had a good time. Headed over to check your other sites!

    • RoniNoone

      Ahh just think.. it’ll be good for you in the long term!

  • Elizabeth

    Hi Roni – this is unrelated to your post, but I couldn’t find an email address for you (maybe I’m blind). I had a facebook friend post this article today:

    and I found it pretty seriously discouraging! I also found it ridiculous, and poorly written/researched, but it brings up some interesting points. I’d be really interested to hear your thoughts about this!

    • RoniNoone

      Ahh yes. My initial reaction, as it always with these articles, I don’t care. I kind of wrote about it in this response to a similar but different article…

      Here’s my gut… people who try to whittle themselves to an unrealistic body size will never succeed long term. Those that take a realistic approach can. Most people just don’t have a realistic concept of what weight loss will really look like for them. I know I didn’t and if I continued to seek out that super thin physique that’s simply not possible for me I would have failed by now.

  • Ronald Goldsax

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  • Jeri Lyn

    HW: 200
    CW: 133.8 (down .02 from last week, but still up 1.8lbs from lowest weight posted here)
    GW: 125-130
    H: 5’4″
    AGE: 40
    Feeling & I think looking like the scale should be much lower, but I think as we all know, THE SCALE IS STUPID!!!!!
    Anyways, as I said last week, I believe I’ve made healthier food choices this week & we’ve ate @ home more. So, YEA!!! Hopefully the scale will be more cooperative next week.
    So glad you had a wonderful vacation Roni & as always THANK YOU for all you do!!!

  • Peggy

    Good for you, Roni, for showing such wisdom. It may not seem like a big thing, but it is: you use your own self-reflection and lived experience to inform you. You didn’t use a nonliving object – a number, a photo, a garment – to be your guide, as if it had a mind and could think for you. Many people never get to that point; they are always looking to something other than themselves to tell them if they are ok, and they never question the definition of ok. It takes great courage to face your own fear (by “your” I mean yours, mine, and everyone’s) that you will fail yourself, you will not know what you need, and you will not give to yourself what you need. So it’s a very great fear that all of us have about ourselves, partly because it’s true – we really don’t have the answers all the time, life is not so easy. But you’ve discovered what people discover when they grow OLD ( ha ha, I am tying this into your other post :) : you realize that “this sh– isn’t getting any better,” you question things, and you realize that the only way to truly be okay is to accept yourself as a person, and put those “things” that tell us we’re ok/not ok in their proper place. The virtue of old age is DISCERNMENT. Which you now have! :)


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