One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


“I’m IN”

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That became my mantra in Italy.

Every time the tour director would describe what we were about to do, my response was,

“I’m in.”

When someone asked if I was interested in hiking up the 463 steps to see the view from the top of the ancient tower I said,

“I’m in.”

Would you like to try some of this wine?

“I’m in.”

Taste this authentic recipe?

“I’m in.”

Take a walk to see…..?

“I’m in.”

I just had this insatiable desire to experience EVERYTHING.

And I did.

Without fear, guilt, self-consciousness, or feelings of unworthiness.

And it changed me.

I now have a new found motivation to…. DO.

I mean, I always have, but now even MORE so. It’s like I got a glimpse of what life is really all about and now all I want to do is… live.

I can’t wait to see things, do things, and experience things.

Of course it’s not as easy as just saying,

“I’m in.”

Sometimes you have to spend money. Sometimes it’s time. Sometimes something or someone is in your way. Sometimes that someone is you.

I’m pretty sure I was in my own way for years, and I think my past struggle with weight and body image was a product of that.

Now my willingness and desire to experience is drowning out most of my inner mean girl. She’s still in there trying her hardest to keep me at home, on my couch with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s obsessing over some stupid bad photo or worrying how ridiculous I looked when I stumbled in step class. She’d rather me not try or experience because every time I do her voice gets just a little harder to hear. As my confidence grows she’s reduced to a mere whisper instead of a deafening scream, and one day she will exist no more.


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There are 15 comments so far.

    Tamara Grand

    January 22, 2013

    Love this post! There are three things that I have been waffling about. No more. I’m in too!


    January 22, 2013

    A to the MEN.

    Georgia Reed

    January 22, 2013

    I’m so glad you had a great time! I too got the bug on my first trip abroad and ended up…. moving overseas for almost a decade. My husband and I still love it. It’s a priority above so many other things- but man the budget makes it hard now with kiddos! So glad you had fun! Here’s to more great adventures!

    Mir aka Princess Dieter

    January 22, 2013

    That’s such a fabulous photo of you, looking positive and beautiful and healthy. One of my dreams (longtime) is to go to Florence/Tuscany and Venice and Rome, but mostly Florence. I love art and history and the sheer gorgeousness of that area. One of the things hubby and I talked about was a trip to Tuscany as a reward for me getting out of obesity and staying out for THREE years. I got 2 to go. I’m hoping financially to afford it, so I have two years to figure that one out. :D ENJOY TO THE FULLEST. Like you, I’d be “in” too. In and In and In. YAY!!!! I’m so glad to have my reward-dream reinvigorated by this photo.

    Caitlin Hendee

    January 22, 2013

    That’s what I love about your posts. I really relate to them. I mean, I too have experienced that new feeling, that rejuvenation in life where I want to experience EVERYTHING. And, just like you, I put away that old person who used to sit alone on the couch watching “Friends” re-runs (don’t get me wrong, I still love “Friends”) and got out to actually LIVE life.

    Thanks for sharing your experience. So good to know other people exist out there who value life instead of wasting it.


    January 22, 2013

    i think it took having babies (2 years ago) to start living life and stop worrying about my hang ups. best way to live! anyway, i read your title and it made me chuckle — we went to italy a few years ago and the only day we spent in rome, which involved hundreds of picture opportunities, my husband wore a t-shirt from verizon wireless that had a huge red circle with ‘i’m in’ written in the center. maybe i’ll reframe that thought and see us as adventurers and not poor planners! loved your italy photos – brought me back!


      January 22, 2013

      OMG I want that shirt! lol

    Laura Jane

    January 22, 2013

    Great thoughts. I love your mantra! I have a long way to go still, but I think I’ve made some big leaps in the past year. I think usually I am the one who is my own way!


    January 22, 2013

    Welcome back! I knew it! You are a natural born traveler. :)


    January 22, 2013

    This post hits home with me. I know it is time to be in too. Before life completely gets away from me.

    Jeanine Seyler

    January 23, 2013

    My husband and I rode bikes from Venice to Florence over 5 days. You would love it! I’m glad you and your mom had such a wonderful time!

    Shannon Lavery

    January 23, 2013

    Great way to live. I am going to use that more!


    January 23, 2013

    That’s just awesome! I can so relate to this. When I was “bigger” and more importantly, not happy with myself, I never would have played beach volley, took a yoga class, or attempted a half marathon. I’ve done all those things now! “I’m in” is such a great way to sum it up!


    January 24, 2013

    “I’m in” I think that is just such a great mantra for life. So many of us just think ‘no’ or ‘I can’t” before anything else – imagine what a life we would all have if we lived by “I’m in”. This is exactly how I am approaching 2013. My weight loss is priority one and I have lost 29 lbs since Jan 1st 2013.



    January 26, 2013

    This is great! I’m so glad that traveling abroad opened so many doors for you!