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Are You Losing Your New Year’s Motivation?

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Yesterday I posted this to my Facebook page

Anyone want to fess up to losing their New Year’s motivation already? It happens to the best of us. Just remember perfect isn’t the prerequisite to reach your goals. Consistency is.

…and I thought it would make a good old fashioned question of the week because, well, I’ve already felt the sting of motivation drop.

It happens.

The key is to push through, wake up the next day and do your best all over again.

I hate to tell you.

That’s pretty much it.

That’s all we got.

On the surface it may seem depressing but really think about it for a minute…

It’s FREEING.

You don’t have to live in a world of yo-yo diet cycles anymore, just make good choices every day, and when you don’t, because sometimes you won’t, move on and try again tomorrow. I call it “Stateless Dieting.

That’s pretty much the philosophy I’ve been living with since losing and maintaining the weight for well, let me see, 7 years! Am I at my skinniest? No, but I’ve maintained a healthy weight, through a pregnancy, and am now unarguable in my the best shape of my life.

So? Are you?

Are You Losing Your New Year’s Motivation?

Note: This is not a rhetorical question. :)

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There are 32 comments so far.

    Jamie

    January 4, 2013

    Nope! My resolution started August 1st and I’m still going strong!

      The Pebble Path

      January 4, 2013

      I was just going to post the same thing :) Im down 23 lbs and also started August 1st :) My husband joined in just before Christmas and it has been a wonderful booster to stay on track.

    Sheri

    January 4, 2013

    Roni, I know this is a common thing this time a year as everyone runs on the high of New Year’s resolutions, but I find this seems to be a pattern whenever I try to get on a healthy lifestyle trend – regardless the time of year. My whole lifestyle change is the best of intention, then the enthusiasm wanes, I start to slide, I feel defeated and then guess what? The weight lost is regained and i am starting all over again. I am tired of starting all over again, which then leads me to wondering if I should just give up anyway. It’s a vicious cycle that has left me over 300 pounds to a known maximum of 371. To say I am feeling weakened in success is an understatement. I question if it’s truly attainable for me. I know it has been for others, but I just don’t see the results. You know, you always provoke these truths out of me.

      RoniNoone

      January 4, 2013

      You’re right it has nothing to do with New Year’s I’m just capitalizing on the latest reason people use for entering the cycle yet again. I’m gonna wager it IS attainable for you and what I mean by IT is stopping the cycle. Once you commit and realize there is no going back then “starting over” doesn’t happen weeks or months later, after you regain, it happens NOW –Your next meal –You’re next excuse not to take that walk is not affected by the chocolate you snuck after lunch. You still take the darn walk! You keep going. You mush through. You make forward progression. And the little indiscretions along the ways are not reasons to hop ship, they are challenges you learned from and got past on your journey. You only fail when you decide to give up.

      LisaM

      January 4, 2013

      Roni, you get the Quote du Jour with, “You mush through”. That is it in a nutshell!!! A big weight loss is a prolonged, messy, twisty path, but as long as occasionally you can stand at point B and look over your shoulder at point A, how you got there or how long it took is just part of your story. And in my case, point B has changed over the years, so my story never ends.

      Sheri

      January 6, 2013

      Thanks Roni. You’re right… DO IT! DO IT! DO IT ANYWAY!

    AmIlja

    January 4, 2013

    I am not loosing my motivation yet!
    I’d like to know after your trip to Italy how you managed with food there. I find it really hard to eat smartly at my trips. The restaurant food is not very healthy and there is not everywhere very unfatty options. I love travelling but I hate that I seem to gain few pounds at every trip.

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    January 4, 2013

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      January 4, 2013

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    Katie

    January 4, 2013

    I couldn’t agree more – except on the try better tomorrow thoughts. I think – try again from the moment you make a poor decision, or eat too much or put off working out. If your lunch wasn’t what it should have been, make your afternoon/evening better. If you skip your morning workout class don’t wait until tomorrow, do better this afternoon or tonight.
    Just my two cents. Now, to follow my own advice!

      RoniNoone

      January 4, 2013

      YES! That’s what I really meant cause we all know “ruining the day” is not a reason to pig out before you go to bed, right? <–SO guilty of this!!

      Katie

      January 4, 2013

      We all have our weaknesses don’t we? Whether I’m watching my diet or not it so very rarely occurs to me to eat again after dinner. I can’t remember the last time I was hungry after dinner and I never started the habit of night snacking. But I have other areas I try to work on.

      For me, I’m trying to rid myself of the “on or off” program mentality. It’s all a journey. I don’t want to torture myself by thinking if I do or eat this I’ll be off my program. I don’t want to pass that on to my future children either, that we are either being healthy or unhealthy on any particular day or week.

      An interesting quote from Michelle Bridges – Losing weight is a science. Kepping it off is psychology. The two are completely different.

    Kathy

    January 4, 2013

    Yes, I’m feeling a little slip as I am up a pound from yesterday. Not deterred, but needed to get my head right for the day. I found this quote on my computer this morning and felt it went along with what you just posted Roni, “Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections, but instantly set about remedying them – every day begin the task anew”. St. Francis de Sales. How nice to realize that each day is truly the only thing we have and it’s such a gift!

    Amanda S.

    January 4, 2013

    No, I’m not. We moved 3 weeks before Christmas. Before that, we were renovating the new place so our diet has not been the greatest. We talked about once we moved and got through the holidays how we wanted to change our diet. And now I’m not in one weight loss challenge (yours), but now my gym is starting one! My birthday was in October, so I kind of used that as a ‘starting’ point and decided that I want to be at my goal weight by my next birthday. So my motivation started then and really hasn’t waned too much :)

    Rhiannon

    January 4, 2013

    No, because I didn’t make any. I’ve never been much of a New Year’s person, or cared much for any date. Instead, I ‘made’ a resolution sometime around March-April last year, and I’ve been slowly but surely keeping on keeping on since then. I’ve lost between 4 and 5 kgs (9-11 lb) in that time, which is after losing 7 kgs (15 pounds) at around the same time the year before. So I’m sitting at about 11-12 kgs (24-26 lb) below my highest, and probably 2-3 kgs (5-7 lb) from where I want to be.

    In that time and during that weight loss, I’ve eaten many things I probably ‘shouldn’t have’, and ate too much sometimes, and now and then drank quite a bit of alcohol. But my philosophy isn’t to deprive myself and isn’t to beat myself up if I ‘fail’. I aim to eat the healthiest food I can, in moderate amounts, with enough treats to stop myself going insane. I have a few loose ‘rules’: limit but don’t eliminate carbs (I love toast, but rarely have rice or potatoes), eat as many fruits/veggies as I can, limit but don’t eliminate snacks and eat moderate portions. Oh, and avoid sugary stuff when possible, but don’t stress about it occasionally.

    I’m not one for rules, and I’m not one for resolutions. But I’m happy just plodding along, being happy with myself.

    imacrazymomof4

    January 4, 2013

    i’m still enjoying my detox from all the delicious, too caloric and sweet foods from the holidays. i don’t like the feeling of not having control and when i eat more than usual of things that aren’t the best choices, i start to feel out of control. i love the feeling that clean eating gives me. i feel like the captain of a ship and my body feels like it’s singing for joy. sounds bogus, but it’s hard to put into words. i am actually looking forward of buying a swimsuit for the first time since i was 16 i think. it’s going to be amazing to see all the hard work of the past 5 months!! this is the first time in my life that i feel like the food choices i make are a “lifestyle” instead of “what i should be doing”.

    LaNae

    January 4, 2013

    Here’s the thing: it’s a lifestyle. It’s not a fad, there is no quick fix. I lost 75 lbs over a three year period. I’ve now maintained (within 5 lbs) for almost six years. I was always chubby as a kid, always heavy as an adult. After I hit goal I realized that the hard work was now starting. It’s about keeping yourself honest, but still enjoying life (I love food…I love wine…I enjoy both). It’s about, when you fall off the horse, picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and moving on. Don’t just stay on the ground beating yourself up for falling off. For me it is a daily battle. I still fight the fat girl within. I’m often not comfortable in my own body. I always think I could do better. But I keep on keepin’ on…because that’s the choice I’ve made.

      LaNae

      January 4, 2013

      I realized I didn’t even answer your question. :) Not losing motivation, yet, because I have money on the table at DietBet…and I’m cheap that way. ;)

      Laura Cooper

      January 4, 2013

      Amen LaNae… my path has been similar to yours, except I’ve only maintained for 3 years now, and this last 6 months or so has been terrible. I’m back up 16 pounds from where I was.

    Tami@NutmegNotebook

    January 4, 2013

    Instead of saying I’m going to indulge today and start over tomorrow I tell myself I’ m going to stay on track today and tomorrow if I still feel like indulging I’ll think about it. Well of course by the next day I’m so jazzed by having a day of healthy eats behind me that I don’t want to detour! It works for me!

      Karenna

      January 4, 2013

      Tami, I like your mindset and am going to steal it! Thanks!

    Laura Cooper

    January 4, 2013

    Yes, I lost my energetic New Years Motivation yesterday, when I intended to eat well, but made the mistake of going to the coffee shop on the way to work (because I had an early morning meeting that I wanted to be *up* for). That caused me to not eat breakfast (who needs it when you have sugary, delicious espresso?) before the meeting, the meeting ran long, then had errands to run, and before I knew it the husband was saying “How about the [inexpensive, low quality] pizza buffet for lunch?” and my low blood sugar said “YES!” I totally carbed out, of course, felt like crap the rest of the day…. then ate a way-too-big dinner after my carb crash. Only redeeming grace? I decided not to go for a cookie last night (“because I already brushed my teeth” I told myself), and this morning NO COFFEE SHOP.

    Right now I’m eating for the 3rd time today (good stuff though): homemade butternut squash soup and cold, delicious cucumber slices. I moved on. Thanks, Roni, for teaching me how to.

      Susan

      January 4, 2013

      Coffee shops make my weight loss stale out. I realized I just had to break up with them. I love my lattes and (insert any pastry), but I just can’t lose weight, let alone maintain when I am in that relationship.

    Emily

    January 4, 2013

    I have read your blog for awhile but this is my first time commenting. I lost 25 pounds last year, entered the healthy weight range for my height, and took my running up a notch (training for and completing a half marathon, the second one is scheduled for March 2013). Things started to slip before the holidays with a total 6 pound weight gain. My new years resolution is to get back on track. I haven’t lost my motivation yet. I am getting married in May so my motivation is a beautiful white dress that I want to look stunning in–it gets me out the door to exercise and keeps the pantry door closed. My real hope is that I don’t lose my momentum after the wedding and honeymoon but keep up this healthy lifestyle that makes me feel so good.

    Karenna

    January 4, 2013

    Didn’t start off with a “January 1st Plan,” but a friend whom I only know via an online fitness/weightloss support site from seven years back started posting her new goals on FB. I got wrapped up in her enthusiasm and a desire to return to those glory days of fitness success, so I asked to join her — virtually, as we lives states apart. Did that yesterday, but from the moment I did (even with a plan to “start” in about a week), my brain went to THAT place. The place where I must eat everything in sight (because, you know, I CAN’T once I COMMIT and also I will most certainly DIE of the deprivation). So, the emotional struggle goes on. I’m not backing out of my commitment, but am, once again, trembling with the fear of potential failure as I find myself at this familiar jumping-off-point of comfort or confidence. P.S. — Roni, I came across your blog a few days ago and credit you with helping me get past my place of having totally given up. Thanks!

    Cynthia Crowsen

    January 4, 2013

    Getting back to eating at home is hard. For most of November and December we eat out for work because we are on the run. It’s hard to switch to a mindset and remind myself I have to stop and take time to cook or I’ll be starving.

    Makes it so hard when I’m driving past my same favorite places.

    Jen

    January 4, 2013

    I’ve been a reader for a long time, and this is the first time I’ve posted. I’ve been going strong since September 2012, but had really struggled with the food over the last six weeks. But now, what seemed so impossible over the holidays seems possible. I’m determined to keep going–no starting over here–ever again. If I make poor choices, which I will, I will just keep going. I feel like my mind is in the place it needs to be. I also think a positive attitude can do wonders in keeping me in that right place! I don’t care about the scale right now — it’s all about following through. I love the phrase “pushing through it” — have been using that a lot lately in so many ways–just my ramblings!

    nancy

    January 5, 2013

    I am very motivated!!
    This is the first time in 56 yrs (yes I said 56 yrs)–that I have stayed on a good health path for more than 3 yrs. I might even make it under 200 pds and that would be the first time since the early 80’s–so about 30 yrs. Everyone here and at my WW meetings have helped me reach that place that finally lets me come to grips with the fact that this is the thing I have to handle in life. It could be a lot worse but this is something I have complete control over and many other people deal with problems that they have no control over. So bring on the New Year this is one journey I will enjoy this year!!

    Grace

    January 6, 2013

    Usually it is really hard for me to keep my New Year’s resolution, and I lose interest shortly after making it. This year has been different though, because I have been using a tracking website called Gymshout.com that tracks your exercise and nutrition to give you an overall score. It is fun, doesn’t cost anything, and it doesn’t show my friends exactly what I am doing, which is good, because I can be a little self-conscious sometimes. Hope this helps!

    Mybiodental

    January 8, 2013

    At the start of the new year, with so many of us making resolutions, there is a collective force of motivation in the air.

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