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Weekend Quote: What’s Your Priority?

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I don’t have time to go to the gym.
I don’t have time to cook tonight.
I don’t have time to make breakfast.
I don’t have time to food journal.
I don’t have time to take a walk.

What don’t you have time for?

How many time have you uttered a similar phrase?

How many time did you let yourself off the hook after saying it?

Now, try saying this to yourself…

Working out is not a priority.
Cooking a healthy dinner is not a priority.
Eating breakfast is not a priority.
Watching what I eat is not a priority.
Taking a walk break is not a priority.

Does it put things in a different perspective for you?

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently. -Laura Vanderkam

I’ve kind of talked about this before when someone asked me how I stay organized (hint: I don’t.) I refer to it as making things “non-negotiable.

Here’s the thing…

YOU decide what’s on your non-negotiable list. YOU decide what’s a priority.

You know that, right?



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    Kristen Pierce

    December 7, 2012

    I agree. Between kids and working outside of the home full time, prioritizing is a key. As a result of my prioritizing, I have not seen a TV show (besides a few big athletic events such as the world series) in years. For me, running (about 45 miles a month) and reading are the the two things I have prioritized to do for myself. I do serve my kids healthy meals, but they are far from my ideal -- a common weekday meal might be hard boiled eggs, cut up cucumber, an apple and maybe some bread. Not the type of meals I grew up on, but healthy nonetheless. In order to prioritize, I have had to scale down my career aspirations (I still work hard and about 45 hours a week, but work is less important than it once was), and give up other things that are less important to me. Reply

    lisa price

    December 7, 2012

    Great post! Reply

    Paula

    December 7, 2012

    I like it! Reply

    Rhonda

    December 8, 2012

    This is a great post - and just what I needed to hear! Reply

    Jacqui

    December 8, 2012

    That's a great way to change the way you perceive what you're saying. I saw a similar hint in a book I was reading. It goes like this.... each time you go to put something in your mouth that you really shouldn't be eating, talk to your food. You say: "I can choose to be healthy, or I can choose to eat this. I choose to eat this." And then do it. Wow. It makes you think! Reply

    Laura Jane

    December 8, 2012

    So true! I've tried very hard to eliminate the phrase "I don't have time" from my vocabulary. It really does making a difference and puts me back in control instead of "time." Reply

    nancy

    December 8, 2012

    I have time for all the above but my apartment looks a mess. I walk as much as possible now. I am always searching for new recipes and food to eat but this can get me into trouble like the Riceworks crisps I found Sweet Chili & Sea Salt/Sesame. I am out of these and will not buy any for awhile (I hope--LOL). Things are working well and I am afraid to change anything until I hit a plateau. Thanks for all the time you give! Reply

    Karen Jaffe

    December 10, 2012

    Great post! I just got the chance to read it because being online is no longer a "priority" since I started working full-time :-) I remember when I was having trouble making the time to exercise and how empowering it was to finally admit that I could make the time by getting up earlier in the morning, but I wasn't willing to do that. Taking your control back changes everything! Thanks for the reminder. Reply