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Wednesday Weigh In: A Scale Based Question of the Week

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The scale is showing a wash this week. I weigh exactly the same as I weighed last week and I’m completely indifferent. I no longer assign an emotion to the scale and I hope by weighing in weekly with you, we all start to see the number as irrelevant.

Sure, I could ignore it completely and I know that works for some folks. I admire people who have no attachment to the number.

I’m taking another approach.

Scale indifference.

At this point I’m confident I will not gain back 70 lbs. I’m also keenly aware of the fact I’ll never be completely cured of my food and body image issues.

Both these realities live concurrently in my brain like 2 concentric circles that intercept with the scale being in the middle. Weighing in is how I keep both in check.

I’d argue if you have weight to lose you’ll have a hard time reaching your goal (or at least staying there) if you don’t start to detach from the number. There are 2 ways to do this, in my opinion.

1. Ignore the Scale

Which, again, is great for those that can do it in a healthy way but I know many (myself included) that ignore the scale as a way of not facing reality. It’s the equivalent and sticking our fingers in our ears and saying LA LA LA LA LA LA.

2. Scare Indifference

Face the number. Become callous to it. Let it simply measure the force of gravity on your body. Don’t let it effect your mood or motivation. Don’t let it define your self worth or success.

I’d love all your thoughts on this so I’m combining the weekly weigh in with the Question of the Week. How do you feel about the number on the scale. Are you good at ignoring it? Give it too much power? Feel like you need it?



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Discussion

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    Svanhvit

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 237
    CW: 223.5
    GW: 190
    H: 6”
    Age: 35
    Weightloss this week: 2

    I lost 2 lbs this week. More importantly, I crushed a personal goal this week. I started swimming at the beginning of September, doing the sidestroke as I am not allowed to do the breaststroke anymore because of my back injury. I knew how to do it and well, but was never able to swim for any length without feeling I would drown. I literally struggled to get across the pool at the beginning. So my goal was to be able to swim 500 meters without a break. Last thursday, I not only swam 500 meters, I swam 1300 meters without a break!! I crushed it! And way sooner than I thought I would be able to!! Just to make sure it wasn’t a fluke, I swam again yesterday. 1400 meters in 38 minutes. No break. This just goes to show that you can do ANYTHING if you just do not listen to the self doubts (and there were plenty) and go for it. It was very hard work at first but I persevered. And I am literally doing things I NEVER thought I could do! Next on my list is to get good shoes and tackle the running – another dream to fulfill! I am happy with the 2 lbs. I am also happy with the 13.5 total lost lbs. But that gets nowhere near the happiness I feel about my added strength, my change in outlook on life, the big smile that I have on my face pretty much all the time.

    marissa wade

    October 17, 2012

    10/10/12

    HW: 215

    GW: 141

    CW: 203.5, 202.6 (-.9), (+.9)

    HT: 5’3″

    Age: 38

    I’m up .9 and I’m considering it a wash as well. I’ve tried not using the scale, but in the end it does more harm. Let’s call it a learning experience ;-) but I found that if I don’t step on the scale weekly I will (and have) gain up to 5 lbs a month. I 60 pounds between 08′ & 09′ and started to stress over 1 and 2 lb gains. So what did I do? I just stopped going to weigh ins and the gains grew to 10 and 15 lbs after a 3-4 month absence from the scale. It kills me that I let a plateau at 150ish pounds define me. I let the scale tell me that I wasn’t a “good” yet because I hadn’t reached the magic number in my head.
    I am now trying to get past that with your weekly weigh ins. Honestly my goal right now is to just step on the scale every week. I was honestly afraid to do it this morning, but I reminded myself it’s just a number. It’s just a one week weight check up out of 52 weeks in the year;-) I’m going to focus on scale indifference.

    nancy

    October 17, 2012

    HW: around 450
    CW: 273, 271, 268, 265, 264.8, 261.4, 261.2, 261, 260.2, and this week 258.4
    GW: 199
    H: 5’2
    A: 60
    You would think I liked what the scale showed this week but it is not what you think? I was on Fall Break and lost mostly fluid in my left leg. I weigh-in at WW on Sat. My weight goes up during the work week and drops back down by Sat.(with the help of 15 hrs in bed on Friday and a water pill I take twice a week–ugh!!) I am up to 173.5 this morning I will fall back down by Sat. morning but it is very unlikely that I will stay the same or lose. I will have worked very hard this week to try and make the scale go down but the scale will not show it. This is how my weeks go but I get on the scale and I keep working because I can’t give up like I did in the past. I am so much better when I am trying!

    Florida Kim

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 170
    CW: 158.4
    GW: 150
    H: 5′ 7″
    A: 47
    Down .4, I’ll take it!

    Carmen

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 244.4 (the day before giving birth almost 9 mths ago)
    CW: 239.4 (up 3 lbs)
    GW: 130 although lately just seems like a pipe dream
    H: 5’3″
    Age: 36 as of this past Sun. Apparently age is not on my side as I’m up 3!

    I use to be indifferent to the scale number. But as the years creep up and the weight does too and the looming health issues, I’m attached to the scale. I have pcos so I know if I don’t lose weight soon things are not going to go well. It just seems like a double edged sword. Over the years I’ve tried to lose weight, working out and eating well in spurts but after a month or so with no budge on the scale I just get so discouraged and give up. I know I need to push forward I just can’t seem to. Before my last pregnancy my settle weight was 222-225. Now it’s 236-239.

    LisaM

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 180+
    CW – 152
    GW – 150
    HT – 5’6″
    AGE – 51
    A wash for me this week too, and that’s not bad considering the stress eating and wine drinking during the pres debate last night. I just don’t like to watch people argue! Roni, huzzah to you for coming to your present frame of mind at your age, instead of waiting an extra decade or so like I did. I love your phrase about viewing the scale as something that simply measures the force of gravity on your body. I fully support people who choose to ignore the scale, but I can’t do it. It’s just a good tool to keep my frame of reference focused in the same place. Otherwise, I find myself blaming my tight clothes on everything else before I can admit I’m just eating more than I need to. I read an interesting post on another site yesterday about how “evil” Weight Watchers is, and how it plays with your head and causes eating disorders. For me, the exact opposite is true. It makes me more mindful of my nutrition, and also forces me to cook more and cook better for myself. Even though I’m not always in point-counting mode these days, after 40 years of being in that mindset, I’m grateful for all that it’s taught me.

    Bethany

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 218.5 (pregnancy)
    Start: 167.3
    Last Week: 160.9
    CW: 160.5 (-0.4)
    GW: 150
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 31

    I’ll take it! Working out a lot more and expecting the weight loss to slow for a week or two :-)

    I need the scale just to keep me in check. I try not to obsess about it though

    sue

    October 17, 2012

    Down 2 Lbs. I look at the scale the same way I look at my blood pressure meter. They both are tools to keep myself healthy and happy. Both flucutate but using both of these tools on a daily basis lets me keep healthy.

    Kris

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 140-150 (not sure – I wasn’t weighing myself at this time)
    CW: 116.4
    GW1: 110
    GW2: 105
    HT: 5’2″
    Age: 27

    Dukebdc

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 148 (in 2000)
    CW: 130 (loss of 2 for the week)
    GW: 120-125
    HT: 5’2″
    Age: 34
    So I dropped down 2 pounds this week. It feels great. I made three new recipes last week (I highly recommend Sparkrecipes.com) and have really upped my water intake while decreasing my caffeine intake. I am sitting at day 10 without Diet Coke, which is something I never thought I could give up for more than a day.
    I can’t be indifferent to the scale because I KNOW where in the numbers I feel my best, and can’t ignore being above it on a consistent basis. I weighed in my goal range for nearly four years before being laid off in late 2011. A lot of people use time off from work to exercise and eat better, but I just sat around and ate my feelings. I crave structure in my schedule to succeed and weighing in is part of that structure. It’s easy to lie to myself, or pick the most forgiving clothes I own to use as a benchmark, but the scale is objective.

    Cindy M.

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 232
    LW – 204.3
    CW – 204.0 (-.3 I’ll take it!)
    GW – 133
    Ht – 5’3″
    Age 27

    The number on the scale gives me less pause than the way my pants button. As I lose weight I’ve been throwing out my big clothes so I don’t have an easy excuse to grow back into them ;)

    I don’t want to ignore the number, but I don’t let it ruin my day. It does give me a checks and balances system – shows me when I might be getting a little too lose about my portions, or if I haven’t been active enough. Once a week its a nice little reminder that I’m heading toward a goal and it gives me some motivation to work harder and to remember the long term goals I have set for myself.

      Anon

      October 17, 2012

      Totally hear you – that uncomfortable waistband on my pants stresses me out a lot more than the number on the scale.

    Elise

    October 17, 2012

    Hi.

    Nice post.

    Current weight 133.8
    Dream weight 130

    It seems that the scale is staying there. I cannot eat less so I have to move more. This is what I will do for the following week.

    Have a good day.

    Elise

    Corrie

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 174.8

    CW: 155.8 (down .4)

    GW: 145

    H: 5′ 8”

    Age: 37
    I really never gave that much to the scale, but when I started on my wellness journey, I did buy a new one (digital). I have to honest, I do love it. I weigh in daily, first thing in the am. I see fluctuations, but it’s never to the point of panic. I believe it keeps me motivated as tool in my effort, same as my beloved food scale, pedometer and HRM (I am NOT a gadget geek, I promise!!) I will say, I wonder if my feelings about the scale some from a place of only using one while I’ve been losing without trouble. I wonder, as I have started to plateau, if I will continue to feel this way??

    Jen

    October 17, 2012

    HW-267
    CW-187 (down .5)
    GW-165
    H-5’8″
    Age-38
    Feeling good. I need the weigh in reminder even though my attachment to the scale is the healthiest it’s been in years. I have been obsessed, psycho, and gone through years of laxatives, bulimia, starvation, etc. Ithanks for doing this, Roni!

    Anon

    October 17, 2012

    LW: 134.4
    CW: 135.8
    Change: +1.4
    GW: 125
    A gain two weeks in a row. :( But this week I didn’t buy ice cream, and I did take a few nice walks. I still didn’t eat mindfully though and in response to my hunger signals. This week, I am going to have a cup of tea every morning and evening. It sounds odd, but because you have to drink tea slowly, it forces me to slow down.
    I totally agree with being somewhat detached from the scale – as I mentioned to the commenter above, it’s the way my clothes fit that stresses me out. They just don’t feel good right now.

    Trixie

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 215.5
    CW: 160.2 (-3.0)
    GW: 155
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 40

    Super happy with the loss – I’ve been plateauing for weeks. Ate well, moved lots – had a busy week but didn’t let things get out of control. Yippee! I have been a daily weigher since I started this journey (a year ago this Friday – and I’m now down 55 lbs) – but only track my weekly weigh-in. Try not to be obsessed by the scale, but it helps keep me accountable. Hope everyone has a great week.

    Barb

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 198.5
    CW – 168 ( DOWN 1LB)
    GW – 145
    Ht – 5’2″
    Age 43
    I use to weigh in daily and the number on the scale would set the rest of my day. I no longer do that. Once or twice a week works for me.
    Barb

    Tina

    October 17, 2012

    hw : same
    gw : same
    cw : SAME !!
    h : same

    Its funny even before I read your posting this morning, that was what I planned to use … SAME SAME SAME SAME!! And frustrated. So clearly I am not at the scale indifference yet… but on the way to work I had a chat with myself that I feel great, feel like I look good, and need to be okay with that. Me and myself are working on that… T.

    Jill

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 188.5
    CW – 149.0 ( DOWN 5.0 LB)
    GW – 146
    Ht – 5’4″
    Age 282 weeks ago i gained 4.4 so i lost that gain plus .6 more — all time low now! 149.0 need to see 146.0 by nov 6 so i can go thru ww maintanence be the end of 2012 so i can become a leader! :) :) :) we have a staff meeting nov 3rd i would love to see 146.0 on the scale in the next TWO weigh ins so i can be recognized at the staff meeting

    Stephanie

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 182
    CW: 149.5
    GW: 140
    SAME as last week, I am ok with this. It hasnt gone down, but it hasnt gone up either! Trying to still stick with less processed. This morning I made banana oatmeal instead of grabbing a clif bar (still not a terrible option, but oatmeal is better I think). And I brought lunch again, home made leftovers! Now if only I can stay away from all the halloween candy :-)

    Pattie

    October 17, 2012

    I haven’t weighed in before here as my WW days are Monday’s – but I follow religiously and appreciate all of the support. I need to learn scale indifference. Unfortunately, for me it defines EVERYTHING. My mood, my motivation, how I feel about myself, etc. Maybe one day I’ll get there. Keep up the great work everyone.

    Jessica S

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 306.6
    CW – 295.0
    GW – 160ish
    Ht – 5’8″
    Age – 27

    Missed posting last week because I was on vacation with my husband for our first wedding anniversary! I’m down 1.8 over the last two weeks; I ate only okay on our trip so I’m happy with the loss!

    I’m not too attached to the number on the scale which is good and bad I think. I believe part of the reason I got so heavy is that I didn’t care about what the number said. It wasn’t until I saw I was over 300 pounds that I started freaking out at the number. In my head I don’t feel/see myself as weighing that much but the scale knows. Now I look forward to seeing the number going down each week but I don’t get obsessive about it. That being said, I can’t wait until I see my goal weight on the scale!

    stephanie

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 181.6
    CW: 172.4 (down 2 lb)
    GW: 145
    HT: 5’7
    AGE: 33
    Down this week! As far as the scale goes I like looking at it daily but I am trying to cut back to 1 or 2 times a week. I think it keeps me in check. I’ve joined a weight loss challenge at work and it’s helping with the focus knowing everyone is watching it too.

    NatMcC

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 184.6 (july 2012)
    CW: 165.4 down 0.8 from last week
    GW: 145
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 26

    Very happy to be going down. Finally have all the vacation weight off. Ate like poopoo this wknd but kept moving! Went hiking, running and walking…moving every day! I use the scale as a guideline of what worked that week or what I need to improve on. I don’t let it rule me or make me in a bad mood…and I think it is this way NOW because I am not ‘dieting’, I have made conscious decisions to change my lifestyle and improve my health. When I hit my mini-goals I am ecstatic and it keeps me pushing for that next one. Let me tell you though when I hit below 160…I will probably faint! I’ve lost weight to 160 about two years ago but let the stress of life pack it back on but getting below 160 I will know this is working for me.

    Darla

    October 17, 2012

    CW: 135.0
    GW: 120
    HT: 5’3″
    AGE: 41
    This is my first time weighing in. I definitely need this to be accountable. I’m not addicted to the scale. I usually weigh every other day just to see how high the number is this week. What really stresses me is my clothes not fitting and cooler weather coming but I have no jeans to wear!!! UGH

    ItsMeVsMe

    October 17, 2012

    I just started weighing again a few weeks ago, and I’ve noticed a difference in myself this time. I have no feeling about the number. It’s going down, which is good, but it just doesn’t hold the same power over me as it did before. It is what it is and it just reflects the work I did (or didn’t) put in.

    Tina

    October 17, 2012

    I NEED the scale. Weighing in is my “personal check up” to see if I’m doing “ok”. When I see the numbers going down I feel good and know I’m being good to ME. When they go up.. I know I need to get a grip on whatever is making me down and start self care. Feeling totally down in the dumps lately and the scale is showing it.
    CW: 178
    GW: 160
    HT: 5’9
    AGE: 32

    Manda

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 230s
    CW: 160
    GW: 155-160
    HT: 5’10 and a half!
    For me I am disconnected from the number now. It used to bother me that I weigh about 160 and people guess me at 135 because I’ve been told I look “thin”. I have junk in the trunk and muscles from running and yoga. If I weighed 135 I’d look gross. I weigh myself randomly to make sure I’m staying in my healthy weight range. I make minor adjustments if it goes one way or another. I like my strong healthy body at 160 :)

    Veronica H.

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 174
    CW: 166.5 (+1)
    GW: 130
    HT: 5’3″
    Age: 47

    I’m +1 this week and actually okay with it. I’ve been eating mostly non-processed food and trying to just focus on that right now. Also, since I have my monthly visitor, I think that has affected my weight this week. I plan to continue cooking more non-processed meals and taking leftovers for lunch. Trying to focus on doing more mindful eating.

    In regard to the number on the scale, it doesn’t ruin my day or anything, but as others have said, it keeps me in check and I do feel like I need it. However, I think that I am indifferent to it. It’s the way my clothes fit (or not fit) me that gets to me. Yeah, I hate when I can’t hook the waistband of my pants, but what’s worse to me is when the crotch feels shorter and that let’s me know I’m getting wider in the hips. :(

    Kim

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 193.4
    CW: 146.8 (up .2 since last week, but I’ve been on fire since Sunday)
    GW: 135
    HT: 5’4″

    I need to use the scale number as one tool in my plan. It isn’t the be all, end all, but it is one tool. I can easily go into denial without that scale check-in. I try to not let it sabotage me. There have been times I have been really “good” and not gotten the number I wanted and threw in the towel. There have been other times where I got a “good” number and it made me think I had license for extra snacks. It is a delicate balance (as with all of life).

    Tania Engels

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 206
    CW: 165.2 (lowest weight was 158.6 in July)
    GW: 145ish (more concerned with lowering my body fat than an actual weight)
    HT: 5’8.5″
    AGE: 30
    I haven’t weighed in on here before. I completely agree that not weighing in is the equivalent of covering my ears saying “la la la la la la”. I don’t attach any emotion to my weight, but it’s a good measure of whether or not I’m on track. I’ve gained some muscle from following Jamie Eason’s LiveFit, so that might be part of the gain but mostly it’s bad food choices. No excuses here. Time to start seeing some progress!

    Maria

    October 17, 2012

    HW:199
    CW: 131.0
    GW: I would love to get out of the 130s…I would even take 129.9 :)
    H: 5’3
    37yrs old
    Down .7!!! Woo hoo! Non-processed October has been making such better food choices. I am so NOT good at ignoring the scale, I often give it WAY too much power than it deserves to have in my life. But I am learning to not let it bug me too much. I cannot give it up completely, it helps me to be aware of how different foods affect my body.

    Niki

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 169
    CW: 154 (exactly the same)
    GW: 145
    HT: 5’5.5″
    I’m exactly the same as last week and love your post about scale indifference. It’s my TOM right now and I’m totally okay with the number. At least it didn’t go up :)

    Sara Coats

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 275
    CW: 222
    GW: 190
    HT: 6′
    AGE: 32
    I haven’t weighed in in about a month and the scale is up 6 pounds… coincidence??? I want to do this. I’m going to do this.

      RoniNoone

      October 17, 2012

      One day at time Sara. One at a time. :)

    Briana Dicus

    October 17, 2012

    I’m the same at last week. Yesterday was my wedding anniversary and we had cheesecake AND someone at work thought it would be a good idea to bring in Halloween candy and I’ve pretty much ate my weight in candy all week long. But today is a new day and I can stay strong and stay away from the Reese’s Cups

    Aimee

    October 17, 2012

    I wanted to throw the scale out the window this morning. Seriously I hated it momentarily. I’ve been creeping up, up, up these past few weeks. A month ago I was down to 151. I’m closer than ever to my goal weight and this is just ridiculous.

    Rant over. I am marathon training and currently unable to run due to some strange ankle/shin pain. I stopped running immediately with hopes of rescuing it before it becomes an injury. Last week was my longest long run of 22 miles. My mileage has been at its highest…and I’m hungry!! From experience I know that weight gain is common during marathon training. I’m ok with that to a certain degree.

    A good friend came over this morning. We walked and talked for 3 miles. My eating is on track. I’m drinking my water. I’m back in action. The gain stops here!

    I do give the number on the scale a bit too much power. I always have. Years ago the feeling when I first stepped on the scale would have stayed with me for a long time. It’s only been a few hours and I’m feeling much better about it. It means something, but it’s not as important as it once was. I need the scale right now to help me move forward and reach my goal. I hope to someday need it less frequently.
    Last week’s weight: 156
    
CW: 158.4 (+2.4)
    GW: 137
    
H: 5′ 2”
    
Age: 39

    Susie sunshine ;-)

    October 17, 2012

    I didn’t step on the scale this morning. I know the numbers would show a gain. I’ve been in a bit of a funk, and have found myself snacking extra at night. Through this funk, I’ve still been getting to the gym, but with less fire than before. I’ve been trying to “fake it til I make it”. And I think I might have succeeded. Yesterday morning, I woke up with a clear head. I put more in to, and got more out of, my workout than I had in a couple of weeks. I tracked EVERY bite I ate yesterday (yes, including the ice cream. I went over my caloric daily goal. but with the workout, I stayed within my range). This morning I’m tracking again, and feel like the cloud is lifted. I could step on the scale, but I don’t want to see something that deflates me. I know it’s not a fun number. I’ll check it in a few days when Mother Nature is done with me, I’m retaining less fluids and I’ve been tracking a few days. I know I’ve gained. I’m not delusional. But I’m not ready to see it right now. =-)
    As they say, moving on….

    Kate D.

    October 17, 2012

    I’m learning to let go of the number. Since January, I’ve lost nearly 50 lbs and kept a steady weight for about 3 months now.I weigh myself several times a week, and the number is always a little different, give or take a few pounds.

    But recently, I’ve been pushing myself more during my workouts, and even though the number on the scale hasn’t gone down, today I did something I didn’t know I could do.

    Today, for the first time, I ran 3.2 miles straight. I can do things now, at age 31, that I couldn’t do in what I have always considered to be my “college prime” – when I was 19.

    So screw the number on the scale. Today is a total NSV and I couldn’t be happier!

    katyhen@comcast.net

    October 17, 2012

    My problem is that the scale measures my success. Loss – I’m happy….Gain..I’m mad, sad, frustrated. I know it stinks that I rely on the scale, don’t know how to shake it.

    Erin

    October 17, 2012

    A long time reader but this is my first weigh in…I know, late to the party!
    When I am at my goal weight (which is soooo not now) the scale does not rule my life. I am ok bouncing around a couple pounds and I know before I even step on the scale if I have gained- I can FEEL it. in my clothes, in my being.
    But I know by the way I am eating. Its not rocket science..eat like shit and you gain weight! When I am not at goal the scale makes or breaks me. Right now I don’t have a goal number I HAVE TO BE AT…just a range that I would be healthy at and I believe I can maintain (and did for a long time). Anyway I have so far to go- so far that sometimes I cant breathe. But everyone starts somewhere…
    This time last year: 235CW: 221GW: 155-160HT: 5’9AGE: 38

      Valerie

      October 17, 2012

      you’re right – at goal (or closer to goal), I am so much calmer about it. Now, 15 pounds heavier than last year, I am much more cognizent of every ounce. I have discovered that when I eat certain foods, the scale reflects almost immediately. A pound up after take out chinese. Sodium much???

    Valerie

    October 17, 2012

    Up this week. Not sure how much. A lot of it is sodium. My husband cooked the WW pad thai recipe from take out tonight and it was not good. He followed the recipe to the tee – we’ve come to the conclusion that we are not fans of pad thai. Instead of just cooking something else at home, we went out. We had chinese – we love pei wei. The day after pei wei, I am always a pound or two heavier.
    My inlaws were here over the weekend and we ate a lot of heavy food and fast food in the car on a road trip. All in all, a pound or two isn’t that much considering the crap I ate. I’m the only one in control of that and I need to be the one to take charge.
    We picked recipes from take out tonight and tastier than takeout for this week. we started the week great on Sunday. time to get that momentum back.

    Vicki

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 234
    CW: 186
    GW: 150
    HT: 5’6″
    AGE: 46
    I gained a pound this week but I’m not surprised by it. I started a new workout routine and started my period this week so I’m not disappointed with a 1 pound gain.

    Sheri J

    October 17, 2012

    HW 305
    CW 267 (-1.0)
    GW 150
    HT 5’3″
    Age 56
    I used to give the scale too much power. I do weigh myself everyday (dr’s orders) but now I only use it as information. It no longer has the ability to crush my soul and I am learning a lot about my body after neglecting/ignoring it (and myself) for too many years.

    Lori

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 215
    CW – 189.8
    GW – 155
    HT – 5’8″
    Age – 36

    Down 1.1 this week.
    With regards to the scale…hmmm…I do like WI – I feel it’s a good guideline to where I am, but I prefer not to base all my success or failures on the number it reads…this is one reason why I found WW hard for me. I didn’t like my only success to be that number. For me it’s more how I feel & whether or not I’m in control. That’s HUGE for me. Currently I’m in control of my eating & running at least 5 times a wk. I like how I feel & the power that goes along with it.

    Anjali Rai

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 156
    CW – 148.6
    GW – 132
    HT – 5’8″
    Age – 25

    meredith

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 260CW – 177 up .5 from last weekbut i didnt count this week.. i took a week off so i think thats pretty good =)GW – 150-160 ishHT – 5’8″
    Age – 28going back to counting.. i was jsut kinda burnt out last week. sometimes it feels good to know u can jsut maintain. its a lifestyle..

    Ellie

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 175
    CW – 148.1
    GW – 110
    HT – 5’3″
    My first time weighing in. For me, I need the scale. It sounds odd, but I have trouble feeling changes in my body. I’ve spent so much time treating it as an enemy and not as an ally, that I’m still trying to figure out what all the signals mean. So I use the scale (at least so far) as a tool to help me have a visual “early warning system” before my pants start to get tight if I get off my healthy eating track. Also, it works as a reward system visual for when I know I ate right but can’t feel any difference in my body yet that week.

    Debbie

    October 17, 2012

    HW – 230 (pregnant)
    CW – 190.8 (down 1.2)
    GW – 170
    HT – 6′
    Age – 31

    Currently I am giving the scale and my weight too much power. Weight loss is soooooo slow! I originally lost 30 pounds on WW in 2007 and maintained until I was pregnant with my soon in 2009. I lost all of my baby weight by the time my son was about 4 months old and maintained until I became pregnant with my daughter in 2011. She will be three months old this Saturday, and I am down 40 pounds! I feel good and have been exercising three days per week. I still have 20 pounds to lose and it is KILLING me. I am constantly thinking if I only lose 1 pound per week it is going to take me 20 more weeks! That thought alone is driving me insane. All I want is to be back to my normal size. I know I can do it. I have lost the weight twice before, but I am not happy with these small weight loses. I know that they all add up, but I just can’t get out of my own head right now!

    katie

    October 17, 2012

    139.2 down .6 from last week :)

    Petra

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 206
    CW: 185.6
    GW: 175
    H: 5’9″
    Age; 30
    I am up 1.2lbs this week. I was away for the weekend and while I did ok, I had desserts and drinks two nights in a row. No regrets but just noticing that being away from home and eating out for two days is not ideal. I am just going to keep on going and eventually the weight will come off.

    Holly

    October 17, 2012

    HW: over 200, pregnant with twins
    CW: 155.0
    GW: 150
    H: 5’7″
    Age: 34
    Down 1.4 pounds and thrilled.
    I feel a need to weigh daily. Otherwise, eating can get out of hand, and
    exercise becomes non-existent. It keeps me accountable.

    Patty

    October 17, 2012

    HW: 208.4
    Last Week: 194.2 (restarted WW)
    CW: 191.6GW: 184.2 (first 5% since going back on WW)
    I agree with what you say about the number on the scale. That’s why I won’t event set a final goal weight right now. Weight Watchers doesn’t force you to pick one so I chose my first goal to be my first 5%. I’m no longer weighing myself at home, just letting the scale at the meeting room give me a number. One that I try not to put so much emphasis on. It’s just data.

    Laura

    October 17, 2012

    HW 209 ish
    CW 200.2 (up 1.2)
    GW 150
    5’7″
    Age 39
    I am super super super frustrated and I despise the damn scale. I was up last week and this week. Watching what I eat, cooking, eating meals in, WORKING OUT religiously….last week 5 days, this week 3 days so far, but we are just three days in to the week. I know I am doing the right things for my body. Ugh the older you get the harder it is to shed the pounds. I have no idea what I am doing wrong at this point. But I committed to the Wednesday weigh in and I did it. 4th week in a row.
    that and working out is something to be proud of I guess right.

    Melissa

    October 17, 2012

    This is a perfect post, I GIVE the scale TO much power. It makes me feel like crap! There are time I feel great, been eating good. Think oh! I must of lost weight and jump on scale and I’m exactly the same or more. Its like a punch in the gut or my balloon poped. I have hid the scale in the basement before and maybe weighed once a month. It still sucked. It instantly makes me feel fat!….the number matters to me!

    CW 180.5. No change.

    Karen P

    October 18, 2012

    HW 187.4
    CW 116.8
    GW 115.4
    5’1″, mid 40’s

    8.5 months at goal weight. Longest ever!!

    About a pound and a half above goal. Sharp upward gain from yesterday. Temporary spike I don’t sweat it. More than 3 days into 116 and , then I track until I’m back at goal.

    I use the scale as a tool. I use the number as data and I take corrective actions only when needed. If I spike up, no problem, data will correct in the next two days ( think salty meal, hormonal). If I go up and stay up, then I start to track ( my fitness pal) and keep my carbs lower ( think 1 fruit instead of two). I can easily see the line on the graph and it helps me identify normal range , tread, or a corkscrew or pivot pattern.

    amy

    October 18, 2012

    I was down .8 this week, which was less than I’d hoped for. But before I even read your post I too had come to a place of “scale indifference”….I knew I’d had a good week, a week I was proud of. I know that if I keep having those kinds of weeks the numbers will add up. After all, at the rate of .8 per week, in 20 weeks I’d have lost 16 pounds. So I’m not going to be frustrated by it this week, and I’m going to keep going.

    I have 21.2 pounds left to goal and 25 weeks to get there.

    Margaret G

    October 18, 2012

    Hi Roni,
    HW: 284
    CW: 264.8
    GW: undecided
    H: 5’6″
    Age; 55

    I’m down this week 2.9 pounds. It was a good week!
    About your post, I too struggle with the scale. I no longer weigh myself daily because I find then I think of myself as a number and let it affect my self esteem. If I weigh myself daily it also affects the food choices I make for the day dependant if I thought I could afford the calories or not based on how much I weighed. I found it a viscous cycle. Now I weigh in weekly only and never step on the scale in between. I find I am listening more to my body on what or how I should eat instead of what the scale says plus I just generally feel better about myself.

    JessicaM

    October 18, 2012

    HW: 195 (pregnant)
    CW: 175
    GW: 130
    H: 5′ 1″
    Age: 36

    I am up .4 this week. I’m not really shocked, I didn’t track good this week and we were out of town two days which is always hard for me. I give the scale to much power, I am only weighing in once a week which is really helping me with my weighing obsession. I used to weigh in daily and if I was up, it would kind set my day of “well I’m up so I might as well eat what I want today” but I am slowly getting over that mental thought. It’s definitely tough and a work in progress.

    Jenny

    October 18, 2012

    HW: 224
    CW: 136.6
    GW: 130
    H: 5′ 3″
    Age: 34I’m down a pound this week (yay!!) but I’m sure it will be back by next week, I keep bouncing back and forth between the same two pounds. I used to give the scale WAY to much power. When I first started on this weight loss journey I weighed myself every day (and to be completely honest, multiple times each day). I let “that number” really get to me. When I started working with my personal trainer she told me I needed to quit focusing on the number and focus on my body (how my clothes fit, how I felt I looked, seeing muscle definition). It was so hard at first, because the darn number on the scale kept going up, but amazingly my clothes kept getting loser. Sure enough, about a month in, I started seeing muscle definition where there hadn’t been any before. It finally clicked that she was right so I went to weighing myself once daily and then to only weekly to make sure I was on track. As always, thanks Roni for keeping us motivated and inspired!!

    Annette Oldenburg

    October 18, 2012

    HW: 236.8
    GW: 137
    CW: 142.8
    H 5’2″
    Age: 52

    Down 2 this week ! I am also one who will always need that scale to stay accountable. The hard part is balancing the effects of the “number” in a healthy way. I try to tell myself that I am the one with power. I choose daily to make the right/wrong choices. Those choices have an effect on the scale’s readout each week, but in the end, the scale did nothing . It just sat on the bathroom floor, therefore it gets no power over me. I am the one that did or didn’t do the work. I need to accept and be accountable for my actions for the week, contemplate my choices and make a plan to improve the next week!

    barb

    October 18, 2012

    HW 220 (in 2002)
    CW 193.6 up .8 from last week L Am only down .2 for the month! Really struggling. Working hard on counting calories on my fitness pal. I run 8-10 miles a week, plus walk 20-40 minutes during the weekdays at work. Just so frustrated.
    GW 170 (pre baby weight (2007) and will adjust when hit that 1st goal)
    H 5’7
    Age 34

    Karen Jaffe

    October 18, 2012

    WOW, a lot of people have something to say about this (including me)! I always say that every woman has two goal weights – the weight she is now and the weight she wants to be, and there always seems to be about five pounds difference between the two. I am no exception. I maintained 125 at 5’3″ for 20 years until I hit menopause, when I gained 25 back. Now I’ve lost 20-22 pounds depending on the day of the week and I am fixated on the 125 number. I’m not even sure why. Obviously, if it were that easy to get to 125, I’d be there by now. Does that mean I should live with constant frustration every day of my life? Roni, you said you accept that you will live with food and body issues the rest of your life, but that’s not necessarily true. I think we all have the power to make peace with our body. At (almost) 57, I really think I’m getting there. Maybe it’s because I feel that at my age, I don’t need to have a bikini-ready body (although I’m sure it’s possible). I just don’t want to put that much energy into it anymore. I’d rather put that energy into helping those who are much further behind than myself. Good, thought-provoking question!

    Candy

    October 18, 2012

    I give it way too much power. I probably should avoid it but there I am…standing on it very day. I have to say that it controls my moods many days. If it’s down, I’m up. If it’s up, I’m down. I have ten lousy pounds to go! You would think that would be motivation enough. I know that the scale is just giving me a number and that number doesn’t necessarily mean anything. But It’s like a test score. You have to have something with which to measure your success and for me, I guess it’s that scale!

    sbb50

    October 18, 2012

    I’m like you, I need to weigh in and face the number to keep myself accountable. Refusing to get on the scale led to gaining all the way up to 266 pounds and staying there for many years. I find its like managing money, which I’m not very good about either. I have to force myself to check my bank account just like getting on the scale. If I do it on a regular basis I manage it much better and don’t have that sick feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach.
    HW-266
    CW-150
    GW-135

    Anne

    October 18, 2012

    HW: 246
    CW: 231
    GW: 160? Can’t remember…been a while
    Height: 5’7″

    Down 6 from 2 weeks ago. Mostly water weight, but hey — I’ll take it!

    Connie DeLeon

    October 19, 2012

    I give the scale so much power. I need this so bad because I have been so frustrated with the scale not moving fast enough that part of me has wanted to quit. I will not quit! I want to be a healthy example to my children, I want to lead an active life, and I must do this without being attached to the scale!!

    Sarah

    October 21, 2012

    Newbie here, : )
    HW 250
    CW 216
    GW 140
    Hight 5’3
    Age 42

    I’m down 2.8 as of Friday

    I have come to learn that when I ignore or don’t care about the scale I gain. I need it to hold myself accountable.

    Arlene Hittle

    October 22, 2012

    I’m with you on needing to check in regularly with the scale. For me, scale avoidance happens when I don’t want to face the way I’ve been eating.

    That said, I wish I could be indifferent to the number. I tend to let it impact my mood more than I should. Scale’s up? I’m grumpy. Scale’s down? All’s right with the world.

    imacrazymomof4

    November 16, 2012

    HW 200+ when pg
    CW 137.4
    WW goal 145
    GW 130
    gotta weigh daily. it keeps me accountable and it actually motivates me to make better choices. it wasn’t always like that, but now i actually look forward to seeing if the choices i made the day before paid off. i am a lifetime ww member, but haven’t been to ww in over a year probably. the last time i was there i was doing everything perfect and not losing…sooo frustrating!!! i couldn’t seem to lose that last 15 lbs even though i was within my goal weight. it was so difficult to maintain!! and honestly i picked my goal weight higher than i wanted to weigh to give myself a cushion. recently, (3 months ago) i started this game on! diet plan with my sister not expecting anything to help me lose my 15 lbs that i thought i was destined to keep forever. my starting weight was 155, 10 lbs heavier than my ww goal weight. it has completely changed the way i feel about eating!!! honestly if you are frustrated you should get the book and read it. you work on a team which if you are at all competitive somehow makes you get your points in for the day. it is a 4 week program and it really helps you make healthy habits stick (21 days forms a habit supposedly). i wish i would have tried this years ago!! it is very similar to eating clean, but you can have one meal off and one day off a week. really get the book, there is so much info in it that is quality info. i will continue this plan for the rest of my life for sure. i plan on returning to ww, to pay my fee for not being there for months only to have them say, YOU LOST 17.6 lbs!! that would be the best money i ever spent, next to the money i paid for the book. ; )

    Carolyn

    April 18, 2013

    If you devote time and efforts to your body, your body will pay you back by being good looking, nicely shaped and healthy. You just have to support your love with some actions. For me physical activity works best. In order to keep myself toned I am taking Multipurpose High-Potency Super Nutritional Complex. This dietary supplement is manufactured by MGNutritionals and contains natural compounds. My body is grateful and is willing to exercise whenever I ask it to :)