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Weekend Quote: Where I Ended Up

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Sometimes the universe doesn’t seem so random.

Literally the last day of FitBloggin‘ this quote was in my inbox.

“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I’ve ended up where I needed to be.” -Douglas Adams

It immediately made me smirk. Here I am, 36 years old, raising 2 boys, running my own business, wrapping up my 3rd conference, maintaining a significant weight loss, contemplating running half marathon in a couple weeks on a whim and planning a trip to Florida to complete a second Tough Mudder. I now consciously take chances, try to travel as much as possible, and experience new things regularly.

Sometimes I really wonder who I am and how I got here.

There wasn’t a moment when I just decided to live the life I wanted to live. It happened so slowly, over time, and has been the result of making small decisions and putting myself out there.

Baby steps.

That may be over simplifying things. I know many people who make decisions and try and try and try but never get to a point where they feel they are where they need to be.

I used to be like that too. I’d say things like…

When I lose this weight I’m gonna ______________.
Right after I get my degree, that’s when I’ll ______________.
As soon I find a new job I’ll be ______________.
After we buy a house we’ll ______________.
When the kids are older then I’ll start ______________.

Then one day I released realized, I was lying.

Lying to myself.

The things I wanted to do where scary.

They felt unrealistic.

I felt unworthy.

But I just started to do them anyway. No more waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect time.

Ten years ago I’m not sure where I intended to be, but I know, right now, at this very moment I’m exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I’m suppose to be doing.

And that’s the most satisfying feeling in the world.

Even though it scares the crap out of me to say it aloud.



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There are 19 comments so far.

    carla birnberg

    September 28, 2012

    Love.

    Tamara Grand

    September 28, 2012

    Thanks Roni! I so needed to read this right this very minutes! And thanks to Carla for posting it! (Loved last weekend, the food rocked, the talks rocked, the organizers rocked and the whole darn community was amazing!)

    Svanhvit

    September 28, 2012

    amazing post!! love it!

    Jackie

    September 28, 2012

    Great post! Tomorrow I start an 8k running class as my way of “putting myself out there”. I owe it to you, Roni! 3 yrs ago you inspired me to start running, couch to 5k. Now I’m pushing myself to increase endurance and keep it going! Never in a million years would I have thought I’d say that.

    Kathy

    September 28, 2012

    Love this post. I recently have been dealing with some medical issues and I keep planning my life for when I am off the medication but not thinking about what I can do right now. I can’t put my life on hold for the next 8 months, just can’t.

    Paula

    September 28, 2012

    This post spoke to me. I am finally realizing I need to live the life I want to. I am scared of change, but know I must in order to be truly happy. Thanks for pushing me just a little more.

    Megan Wright

    September 29, 2012

    wow, you are awesome Roni! This is exactly what I needed to hear at the right time. I ran my first half this summer and then found out I was pregnant in August. I ended up in the ER twice and was put on bedrest with complications. It was hard to let go of this image of me running through my pregnancy. For now the doctor’s gave the baby a 50% of survival. I was just this morning, thinking there’s a reason for all of this. I think the whole lesson from it is to appreciate life.

    Gregory Kuhn

    September 29, 2012

    It’s great to read about how inspired you are right now. It’s…well…inspiring.

    That old Nike quote, “Just do it” comes to mind. While that might be a platitude to some and, perhaps, a motivational phrase to remind someone to just get out and exercise (or play), to me that phrase always meant – “Do it even though you’re scared or uncertain.” Because the things I’m scared of are almost always things that I’ve never done or things that have never happened.

    In my experience most of that fear is “brain generated” because our brain is always hesitant to have use lose ourselves in the moment. Because when we lose ourselves in the present moment we are fully alive, connected to the energy of the universe. The energy of who we really are – a non-physical, eternal, and abundant entity.

    Way to go, Roni!

    Tracy Stevenson

    September 29, 2012

    This post is the reason I read your blog everyday! You are right on with this post. We have to challenge ourselves to look beyond what we think our limitations are. Way to go!!

    Sabz

    September 29, 2012

    Roni this is how I feel right now.

    nancy

    September 29, 2012

    I once thought of life as bricks and mortar. Some people were ment to be the bricks and others were here to be the mortar or support. That was the path I seemed to be on until lately.

    Tracy aka MyTinyTank

    September 29, 2012

    thanks for sharing this!

    NeighborhoodTrainer

    September 29, 2012

    Thanks for the candidness. I, personally, always read the quotes on my iced tea bottles and while they sound simple, they can really be thought provoking.

    Jenn@slim-shoppin

    September 29, 2012

    Love it!

    Samantha

    September 30, 2012

    “Then one day I released, I was lying.” I think you meant to say realized, however I think released makes this so much more poignant. Releasing those expectations of perfection, those lofty goals that I’ll be a much happier, better person when… It’s so much more important to live in the moment and just be the best person you can be right now, in this moment.

      RoniNoone

      September 30, 2012

      OMG I have re-read that post at least 15 times and I never caught that, so thanks! That being said, you’re right. It is almost a valuable mistake. You really do have to release yourself of all the self imposed rules, definitions, and pressure you put on yourself.
      Thanks again!

    Patty

    September 30, 2012

    I do the same thing. There is something I want to do but I’ve been waiting until I hit my goal weight. It’s silly. Thank you for writing this…I needed to hear this.

    Candice

    September 30, 2012

    Roni –
    Where is Florida will you be running the Tough Mudder. If it is close to where I would live, would love to come cheer you on! Thanks for all that you do.

      RoniNoone

      October 2, 2012

      It’s in Sarasota I think, not actually tamp. Still working out all my travel details!