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My Birthday Bucket List

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I turned 36 today. As I get older I’ve promised myself never to run from the number just like I don’t hide from the scale.

Let me ponder it for a moment with some random thoughts.

36. Hmmm… I’m now on the other side of 35.

My "late 30s" some would say.

Closer to 40 than to 30 and further away from 20 than I’d like to spend time thinking about.

*sigh* 36.

I remember my mom at 36. I was 10, older than my son is today. I thought she was "old" then and wonder what he thinks of me now. Little Bean will never remember me at this age. For some reason that makes me sad.

36 feels like such an unimportant time. I’m old to some and young to others.

I’m only 36.
OMG I’m 36!

I also must look 36 because no one cards me anymore. They don’t think I’m too young to own the house I bought or the job I have. I used to be mistaken for a student when I worked at the college and my old neighbors thought we were the kids and our parents were just never home –no lie. That’s when I was 26. Now I’m 36.

I’ve worked hard at figuring out who I am and what I want. I have a Masters Degree, a home, a husband, a family and a business.

I think I like 36.

Actually, I kind of have to like it. Don’t I? There’s no going back now.

There’s only looking ahead and that’s just what the husband and I have been doing. We decided to write bucket lists. Honestly, I’m really proud of him because he’s the LEAST goal orientated person I know and it was totally his idea.

I’m the planner, the dreamer, the "what’s next?" person in our relationship, but I digress.

When I sat down to write my list I was actually pretty proud of myself. I’ve accomplished a lot in my 36 years. I have no plans on stopping though. I want the rest of my life to be a balance of being grateful in the moment for what I have while slowly working on things I still want to accomplish.

So, without further ado, may I present my official bucket list (if there is such a thing.)

  1. Write a Bucket List.
  2. Live at the beach (at least part time) AKA buy a beach house.
  3. Become a World Traveler. I don’t even own a passport at the moment.
  4. Hike in the Grand Canyon.
  5. As cheesy as it sounds, Skydive preferably with one/all of my boys but I won’t force them to do it.
  6. Visit the Redwood forest.
  7. Publish a book (note: I’ve self published but I want to traditionally publish)
  8. Launch a Travel Blog (note: I’ve already bought the domain. You may see a trend on this list of travel related goals. :) Launched The UnWordly Travelers!!
  9. Be Financially Independent (My goal is to support my family doing only things I love and want to do, like this!)
  10. Start some type of non-profit to help people in some way. Not sure what that "way" is yet but I know it will come to me.
  11. Take the ultimate American road Trip with my boys coast to coast.
  12. Take a cooking class just because.
  13. Train for and run another marathon. This time completing it in under 5 hours. Preferably the NY Marathon but it’s not a necessity.
  14. Sing Karaoke, alone and OWN IT. This scares the CRAP out of me. I can’t carry a tune to save my life.
  15. Write a children’s book.
  16. Take my Mom to Italy.
  17. Take a rock wall climbing class and get certified to belay.
  18. See the Northern Lights.
  19. Throw a big reunion party for all my college friends. I miss them dearly.
  20. Host a double elimination Beer Pong Tournament in my garage. Note: May be combined with item above.
  21. Spend a week on a guilt free spa vacation.
  22. Go scuba diving NOT snorkeling but SCUBA diving. I want to see a coral reef!
  23. See an iceberg.
  24. Take Martial Art lessons
  25. Host FitBloggin’ on the West Coast.
  26. Be on or work with the Food Network in some way .
  27. Be present with my kids while they are kids and do my best to raise them to be responsible, happy adults.
  28. Take a creative writing class.
  29. Take a class at Penland School of Crafts.
  30. See the stars and milky way in the night sky uninterrupted by city lights.
  31. Do 2 pull ups in a row. Note: I did one once and it took me months of training. WHY are they so friggin’ hard?!
  32. Visit Australia alone. I can’t explain why, I just want to.
  33. Hike to the top of Mount Kilimanjaro
  34. Audition for a Reality Show. Oh wait, I did that already!
  35. Surprise my neighbors with New Year’s gifts.
  36. Master my camera and take a breathtaking photograph that people want to hang on their wall.
  37. Make a video that goes viral on youtube.
  38. Plan a romantic transatlantic cruise with The Husband.
  39. Take The Boys to LegoLand
  40. Plan an official 5k event.
  41. See as many of these movies as possible.
  42. Go to Comic-Con International.
  43. Take the Boys to see the Statue of Liberty.
  44. Spend a FULL day in bed watching movies with the husband.
  45. Teach/Inspire as many people to cook as I can.
  46. Build something useful with my hands.
  47. Have a conversation in another language.
  48. Get another tattoo.
  49. Collaborate on a project with the husband. We have tons of ideas.
  50. Never stop living consciously and continually add to this list.


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Discussion

There are 33 comments so far.

    Amilja

    July 25, 2012

    Oh I love your goals. That must be because I love travelling too. You must go to Legoland while your boys are little. They will love it.

    Raji

    July 25, 2012

    Woooow…
    you are one inspiring women. If i be half as you are at 36, it will be some achievement for me.
    You are a super woman!!!
    u sure u arent a mutant, eh? ;)

    Amy @ A Little Nosh

    July 25, 2012

    Happy birthday! What a great list. I, too, dream of travel and can’t wait until our finances catch up with our dreams.

    And, for what it’s worth, 36 is NOT late-30’s…it’s MID-30’s. And I refuse to have you say otherwise (since I’ll be 36 in a few months).

    Happy Belated Birthday! Looks like a mighty fine bucket list. My birthday is a couple of months away and I’d like to maybe do the same thing. I always have things I want to do swirling around in my head but they’re not on paper.

    Karen@WaistingTime

    July 25, 2012

    Happy birthday young’un! I’m counting down the days now until I hit the big 5-0!

    KarenJ

    July 25, 2012

    Congrats on the birthday Roni! What a great list! I will turn 57 this year and I still have so much I want to do. So many of my friends are looking forward to retirement, but I feel like I’m just getting started. AND as far as the children are concerned …I was totally there for them when they were young, which didn’t prevent me from having some of the usual (and unusual) teenage problems. But both of them have turned out to me fine adults and it is one of the things I’m most proud of. Have a great day!

    Tonyne

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday Roni! What a fantastic list! I totally want to compete in the double elimination Beer Pong Tournament…by the way. ;)

    LisaM

    July 25, 2012

    Your head is in a great place! I freaked out enough at 35 that I decided to take your same attitude at 36 and beyond. It’s kind of fun to always be on the lookout for ways that you feel “old” and ways that you still feel “young”, and to notice that many times it gets triggered by someone else’s perception rather than yours. Happy B’day!

    Patty

    July 25, 2012

    What a fantastic list Roni! I hope you had a wonderful birthday! {{{HUGS}}}

    Andrea

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday Roni! I’m not a big fan of bucket lists–but I enjoyed yours. Perhaps it is just my own personal perspective, but it sounds like you have some West Coast planning to do!

    Lauren

    July 25, 2012

    Hope your birthday was a great one! I am i my 50’s and always wish I could go back to 36 but not any younger…life is good in the 30’s and 40’s!!! and 50’s!!!
    My bucket list also lists see the Northern Lights and own a beach home . It will be fun for you to see how it changes as you get older so I would revise it every 10 years and see for yourself!
    I enjoy your daily blogs and pictures! you make me feel like I know you and I also want to add that i’ve prepared many of your recipes!!!!

    kristi

    July 25, 2012

    Awesome Roni. Simply awesome. How inspiring you are!!!

    andrea @ milkshakable

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday, Roni! Great list! I look forward to following as you cross them all off — you’ve already accomplished so much that I have no doubt you can do anything you set your mind to.

    Hope 36 is a great year for you!

    Charlie Hills

    July 25, 2012

    In my oldest daughter’s mind, “36” is the age at which I’m permanently stuck, though a decade has passed since that was true. I like Lauren’s comment of “wish I could could go back to 36 but not any younger.” I agree with that completely.

    My own bucket list only has one item on it. Unfortunately, this item comes with around 157 implied prerequisite items that need to happen before that one thing can happen.

    Details here. :)

    Chris P

    July 25, 2012

    Awesome blog post and inspiring bucket list, Roni! Tell the husband I say hello! Oh, and happy birthday!

    nancy

    July 25, 2012

    From #12 on the list–I hope you know that you already are helping people!!! After almost 3 years on WW I had lost 152 pds but gained back 22 it is going down ever so slowly but with help from you and other bloggers I have the courage to keep on going. From #36 on the list–I love your pictures and am thankful to see them especially liked the ones from San Fransisco. And I baught your cookbook does that count for paying for pictures???–LOL

    BigTickles

    July 25, 2012

    Happy birthday Roni! I have been toying around with writing a bucket list; I think I will do it. ;-)

    nancy

    July 25, 2012

    Big OOOPs
    I just had my 60 birthday July 11.
    You are truelly young and have so many wonderful years to add to that list!!

    Sophie

    July 25, 2012

    Happpppppy birthday :-) I think #50 is my favorite. You can never have too many new dreams – or too many things on the bucket list. And re: #31 WHY IS IT SO HARD? After months of working out I could only get 1/2 the way done with one!

    Jeri Lyn

    July 25, 2012

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY RONI!!!!!

    Great list, you’ve inspired me to make one of my own, as I will be 40 next month!! Oh yes, the BIG 4-0!!!

    Fyi, I did skydive once. I let my husband talk me into it for our 20 year “dating” anniversary. So if you have any questions for a first timer let me know.

    For one of your “bucket list” items, you inspire me to cook pretty much everytime I get one of your e-mails. :)

    Hope your day is GREAT,

    Jeri Lyn

    Amy

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday Roni!! I will be 36 this Friday! Great list, you are inspiring as always! Hope you have a great day! Thanks so for much for all you do! :)

    Robyn

    July 25, 2012

    Was surprised by: 18.See the Northern Lights.
    I grew up in North Dakota and now live in Minnesota and have seen them several times. They ARE beautiful.

    I am a 2-time breast cancer survivor and at the age of 47 I really think I need to create a bucket list also…so I did. So far the only item on it is #1…write a bucket list!!!

    Great list! Thanks for sharing!
    Robyn

    Mindy

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday! Isn’t it fun being a summer baby? This is a great list and has inspired me to write my own. Some of those you have already done (# 45 Teaching and inspiring others to cook) and some you could knock out right away which is awesome! How will you keep these top of mind?

    Linny

    July 25, 2012

    OMG, that list is HUGE! And inspiring. I especially love the “buy a beach house” one. I’m putting that at the top of my list!
    Happy Birthday!

    Thea @ It's Me Vs. Me

    July 25, 2012

    This is such a great list! A lot of the things on my list are travel related, too. There’s a chance that next year I can knock one of them off, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up to much. I hope you had a very happy birthday, Roni. You are amazing.

    Leah Anderson

    July 25, 2012

    Happy Birthday Roni! I remember reading a while back that your birthday is July 24th & I never forgot because mine is July 25th. #9 & #16 are on my top 10.

    Hope you endjoyed your day :)

    Greg Kuhn

    July 25, 2012

    Go Roni! Reading your uplifting post, I wonder if you also visualize these dreams? As in – feel yourself already “having” these things in your life experience? I’ve found that works wonders in my own life. Thanks for letting vicariously participate in your personal dreams and goals.

    roni

    July 25, 2012

    Mindy – I plan on making them a priority and checking off the ones I can do now. :)

    Donna

    July 26, 2012

    Happy Birthday! 36 is young- wait until you hit 40- everything changes and weight/diet becomes a real challenge. :) Keep doing what you do which is obviously working great! I wish I was in my 30’s again- the past 4 years have been a struggle (i’m 44)- not sure why the number 40 is so evil to us girls!

    Love your Bucket list – I see a few goals I can help you accomplish :)

    Laura James

    July 26, 2012

    Awesome! And Happy Birthday!!!!!
    Hope you had an awesome day =)
    You have inspired me to write my own bucket list. You will have to visit me when you come to Australia. The Northern Lights are fantastic but you should try for the southern ones too while you’re here in Aus =P

    Erin

    July 27, 2012

    I think you can cross off 45. You do that now with Green Lite Bites.

    Alana

    July 27, 2012

    Happy Belated Birthday!!! We share a birthday. I was 37 on Tuesday. Kinda cool for me because I love your blog!!! So inspiring….