One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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Note to Self…

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When will you STOP COMPARING yourself to other women?

You’ve been feeling good.

Motivated.

Happy.

Skinny.

Then you go to the gym and see “her.”

She’s working out next to you in class with the body you alway wish you had.

You look in the mirror and see all your flaws.

Your progress seems minimal.

Now you see fat.

Are you hearing how ridiculous this all sounds…

You see a low number – you feel good.
You see a skinny girl – you feel bad.

Stop letting external factors influence you so much!

Stop letting them tell you how to FEEL.

JUST STOP IT!

MMmmmmkay?



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Discussion

There are 32 comments so far.

    Nicole L.

    June 28, 2012

    It’s like we share the same warped brain…

    nic

    June 28, 2012

    Damn brain!! Why can’t we ever just be happy?!
    Sadly I know that feeling all to well…
    I really hope we can get over this one day soon!!
    Love you Roni, because YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE!!

    Just think of all the women who are working out and see you and wish they were in the kind of shape you are in.

    Perspective is a funny thing. :)

    Aimee

    June 28, 2012

    Roni you look fantastic and inspire so many. It’s such a vicious cycle though? I have the same feelings all the time. Will we ever be truly happy with who we are?

    Deb Cadovius

    June 28, 2012

    oh my gosh! Just what I needed to read this morning!!!

    Good for all of us to remember! Just so you know, I look at you and think the same thing so it’s all relative baby!

    Kristen

    June 28, 2012

    Just remember, there is enough skinny to go around. She is not taking yours, you only have to go after your own to get it!

    Martha

    June 28, 2012

    See that comment about perspective, people looking at you and saying “gosh, wish I was in her shape”… Yeah, that’s me. I think you’re wonderful and am so jealous of your willpower and commitment. You’re inspiring so many people – keep your chin up!

    Nikki

    June 28, 2012

    “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” -Steve Furtick

    HD

    June 28, 2012

    This is exactly how I feel today. Why am I letting my weight define me??? I struggle with this every single day. I feel unworthy because I am not a size 2. When I say it or right it, I know ITS NUTS! But I still feel that way :(

    Andrea

    June 28, 2012

    that is why I don’t go to the gym ;-p

    Stephanie

    June 28, 2012

    I LOVE your honesty!

    Kelly Fuller

    June 28, 2012

    Taping this to my wall, my fridge, my gym bag. HOW TRUE! Why oh why do we do this??

    Mandi

    June 28, 2012

    Ugh! This sounds like I could have written it! Why do we torture ourselves?!?!

    Anne

    June 28, 2012

    Omg, so true…it’s crazy what we do to ourselves, isn’t it…

    How did you know what I was thinking? Weird!

    For real though, when you figure out how to get past this let us know. I’m sure just writing this post helped.

    Kayla

    June 28, 2012

    You’re doing great!!!

    Here’s a link to a funny video that I always think of when I start feeling negative or ridiculous about something– hope it makes you laugh!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw

    Kacy

    June 28, 2012

    EXACTLY!! I feel great about going down a size, look in the mirror and like what I see and then I go to my BodyPump class and see myself in the mirror next to “her” and suddenly I just want to cry at how HUGE I look!!

    Sara

    June 28, 2012

    Roni,

    I usually hide behind the sidelines of your blog…reading it, listening to your Podcasts, smiling at your wit…and believe it or not-I have never commented before.

    Today I needed to. You are more that an inspiration…you are a wife, a mama…a hope for many…but most of all-you are REAL!

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, victories and struggles. It’s comforting to know we’re all in the same boat once in a while:)

    Lisa

    June 28, 2012

    I needed this post! I was feeling the same lately where I was comparing myself to others. My journey is different from theirs! It’s ok to look different.

    Amilja

    June 28, 2012

    Amen to tho ! If only we never compared ourselves with anybody else.

    Amilja

    June 28, 2012

    Sorry. I meant: Amen to this !

    Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!

    Kerry

    June 28, 2012

    So many people can write about food, and exercise, and life balance. But it’s your writing about the mental aspect of weight loss that sets you apart and keeps me coming back. No matter what’s in the mirror, it’s a struggle.

    Jen

    June 28, 2012

    I keep telling myself “Comparison is the thief of joy” (Theodore Roosevelt). It’s so true, all comparing yourself to someone else does is make you feel less joy. Now if only I could practice what I preach more often…

    Shelley

    June 29, 2012

    Good for you! And thanks for the reminder!

    Michelle

    June 29, 2012

    I wonder if she looks over at you and thinks the exact same thing? I wonder if she is maintaining her 50 lb loss for 7 years? I remember a post you gave after you started your job(the most recent one),and you were eatting something healthy and someone commented about how you didn’t have to watch what you ate because you were skinny. I wonder if she is maintaining her 50 lb loss for 7 years? You never know :)

    Michelle

    June 29, 2012

    I hate my proof reading skills!

    Élise

    June 29, 2012

    Hello. I just lost 25 pounds. You help me in my journey.
    Thank you very much!
    You look so happy. You have a good family, you have all it takes to be happy.
    On the scale of happiness, you win.
    Have a good day! Elise

    Élise

    June 29, 2012

    And you really look fabulous !
    Elise

    You must be a mind reader!!! I was just thinking this very thing at Zumba the other day. It was my first class…ever…and I felt fat and old! I really did…even though there were older and heavier people in there then me. I couldn’t keep up. I felt like I had two left feet, I felt and looked unattractive (to me) and I just wanted to leave the class…but, I stuck it out and I will go again. It was just one of “those” days…LOL!

    Amy

    June 29, 2012

    Personally, these women don’t make me jealous or make me feel bad about myself; they provide a new challenge. I watch what they are doing to achieve their success, and I try to do it better.