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I’ve been debating this post since last week. I just don’t know how to approach this topic.

Well, that’s not true I approached it conversationally before.

This past summer I wrote a post called Wait. A Photo Shoot? WHAT Just Happened? Where I talked about being contacted by FIRST Magazine.

I was excited but tentative. I’ll quote myself, as obnoxious as that is.

I feel like they are making me fit their already existing story idea. I guess that’s how magazine articles work but it annoys the crap out of me. I actually had a discussion with the writer, who told me their readers wouldn’t relate to my story because I run. Well I do run, what am I suppose to do? Lie? Instead she asked me if I was comfortable with "this" and/or "that." I felt like words were being put in my mouth much like the Woman’s World story (yes I ate pasta while losing but that’s not WHY I lost.) Man they like to manipulate things, don’t they?

I was actually a little relieved when they told me the article was shelved for October. They said it got bumped but honestly, I kind of assumed my interview with the writer didn’t result in exactly what they wanted so they decided not to run to the story.

Well, they ran it. Just a little later than expected. It’s out in this weeks edition on Page 42.

Here’s the deal. I love contributing to traditional media. I love the photo shoots. I love sharing my story and tips. It’s really "what I do now" isn’t it? I’m building a brand. I create content. I try to inspire.

However, to do that and making a living from it is quite a juggling act. I love the publicity being in a magazine gives me but I hate the way they do it. The way they spin things. This is the second time it’s happened and it makes me uncomfortable.

Saying all this will probably not land me many future articles but you know what? I don’t care. Have you seen the covers of most popular magazines?

How to Lose 10 lbs in a Week!

The 3 Foods that Burn Belly Fat!

See How so and so Lost 50lbs by Eating this Super Food!

Do I need to keep going?

Ugh. It’s all the same over and over and over again. Maybe I’m just getting old and bitter but I’m so over the madness.

It’s fun to be in a magazine and I don’t want to seem ungrateful. I just don’t like being deceitful. Like I said…

Yes I ate pasta while losing weight but that’s not WHY I lost

Yes I have kept photo food journals but I not when I lost the weight initially. If anything it helped me maintain more than lose.

Ok, I’m done. I just had to get that all off my chest.

In other news, day 2 of my Snack-less night is a success and I posted how to make Single Serve Banana Soft Serve with Your Magic Bullet. Thanks for the inspiration Michelle! :)



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    WishfulShrinking

    May 23, 2012

    I have been thinking about this since I took a blogging for begginers class from Jen of Prior FatGirl. We had talked about what is a blog… a journal? a memior? A daily column? A personal online zine? The media really is the message. It reminds me of a quote:

    I don’t care what you say about me. Just spell the name right.
    Gene Sarazen

    Miz

    May 23, 2012

    reason number 3398438 I adore you.

    Lisa

    May 23, 2012

    The same thing happened to me about 17 years ago with Shape magazine. I was one of their “Success Stories” and they completely twisted it to what they wanted to write. Very sad, but I suppose it’s that way with all magazines. Ok, so a BIG realization here. 17 yeas ago! Wow. I’ve been ‘keeping fit’ since then! Now THAT is something to be proud of. I was 25 when the article was done and while I’ve gained/lost 10 or so pounds throughout the years, I’ve pretty much stayed the same and remain dedicated to physical activity/running/etc. ;)

    Nina

    May 23, 2012

    Roni, you know why I still read your blog and not read diet articles in magazines? Because what you write works and depicts the everyday struggle with weight and body image, and also the non-struggle and fun of finding things out.

    You write down what I always missed in all the things I read: How to get past a funk phase, how to celebrate things without eating too much, what to do when you have eaten to much anyway, etc. Not even WW in their success stories can help you with the everyday, nobody talks about the way towards the goal, just about the goals.

    And these magazines with their diets even contribute to obesity problems, because: A woman reads about the newest diet in a magazine, tries it – mostly it’s not healthy and balanced and you can’t do it for the rest of your life. Maybe she loses a few pounds, may she doesn’t. But even the few pounds kreep back on the scale as the old ways come back. Hereafter follow feelings of shame and loss of hope and trust, follwed by binge eating, next diet, even diet products, etc. We all know the rest.

    None of the industries or press see the responsibility they have, especially women’s magazines. Thank you Roni for seeing yours, even if it gets you fewer articles. And thank you for discovering running for yourself, and sharing this with your readers so that they can see that you don’t need to be born sportive to become sportive and finding the sport you love!

    XXX!

    roni

    May 23, 2012

    WOW Lisa! That is awesome! I’m also tired of people telling us it’s basically impossible to maintain a loss. Sure, it’s impossible when you do crazy things to achieve the loss in the first place but if you actually make small, manageable changes over time there’s no reason why people can’t lose weight for good!

    Such an inspiration!

    roni

    May 23, 2012

    Thank you Nina. I also think they contribute. It’s insane how they still get away with it or rather how we still let them get away with it.

    Thanks for posting the banana soft serve!! I will try adding the cocoa tonight. I love my banana smoothie as I call it. My family hates it because it is a LOUD process when making but so worth it!

    roni

    May 23, 2012

    SO funny. My husband gives me the stink eye every time I make it. lol

    Jessica Williams

    May 23, 2012

    I don’t blame you one bit for feeling like this! It’s aggravating having someone spin a conversation one way, while you mean something totally different. I can’t imagine it being in a MAGAZINE!
    You are right. It’s NOT impossible. Once again, society is looking for the ” Get thin, QUICK, with little to no effort!” I’m still struggling with getting “on track”. No one sits me down and forces me to make what I KNOW DARN GOOD AND WELL are poor food choices.
    We wuv you! We know what you stand for! And for the record, I LOVE and always have loved your pictures. When I feel lacking in motivation, I take a stroll down Roni’s Memory Lane. You think after 5 years of me doing this I’ll FINALLY get my act together? ;)

    Ashleigh

    May 23, 2012

    Right on!

    Ugh, that would drive me insane to no end. There is nothing I hate more than people trying to spin my words and I can’t imagine having someone do that in PRINT. I don’t buy magazines like that any more just because it seems like it’s well, like the titles you mentioned above. Super Foods! Fast weight loss! (Which anyone trying to lose weight long term KNOWS is anything but fast) I prefer to read blogs for my inspiration so thanks for providing a dose of it almost daily! :)

    KCLAnderson (Karen)

    May 23, 2012

    I can so relate…the same thing happened to me back in 2007 in Quick & Simple magazine. They took the fact that I had lost 55 pounds in 18 months and turned it into six months, then touted on the cover, “see how she lost 55 pounds using this spice” (cinnamon) when I had never said that, but had said that I was using more herbs and spices in my cooking. But what really killed me was that I talked all about how I had stopped hating myself and that was the real cornerstone of my weight loss. Was that mentioned? No. This is why it’s so important that we control our messages! After that experience is when I really started to see how Big Media preys on and uses people.

    Kim

    May 23, 2012

    I LOVE your honesty!

    KarenJ

    May 23, 2012

    First of all, congrats on the article. I think it is very cool that you were featured in a national magazine. I don’t read “women’s” magazines any more. I think that these magazines, regardless of whether they’re pushing sex, food, fitness or success, are designed to make us feel that we’re lacking in some respect. I have never read a magazine that made me feel good about myself. I DO read Prevention magazine in spite of the glossy covers of celebrities who have lost weight and maintain presumably perfect bodies without lipo (yeah, right), but there’s also a lot of good content in there. Anyway, I think it’s awesome that you can be an inspiration to so many people, and I hope to do the same someday soon.

    Jenny

    May 23, 2012

    You’re not the first person I’ve heard say this about the stories published in magazines, they take everything you say and spin it and totally twist your story around until it doesn’t even seem like your story anymore. This is why I really don’t read many magazines anymore, I much prefer reading blogs because I want the true uneditied version.

    Thanks for your honesty and inspiring (and true) blog.

    Andrea

    May 23, 2012

    Congrats on the article–cute picture! (I hope it drives lots of traffic your way and some of those people will read your story and have it resonate and help them in their own journey.) Sorry Roni, but boring old truths just don’t sell magazines ;-P

    Shelley

    May 23, 2012

    And this is why I love you, Roni! I am tempted to buy those magazines and read those articles, so I appreciate getting the real scoop from someone in those articles. I’m still struggling to lose 20 lbs (sometimes sounds like a lot, & sometimes not so much) after having a baby almost 11 months ago, & I’ve been struggling with the everyday decisions the last couple weeks. I ran a half marathon about 10 days ago, & since then, I feel like I’ve been out of control eating :(

    roni

    May 23, 2012

    Thanks Andrea but I just have to add.. I think it CAN sell magazines! I understand a catchy title but spinning a success story in one direction does not have to be the norm. I think it’s disturbing that the mags feel that have to do it. Why don’t thy look for an interesting story instead on inventing one and then finding someone to fit it. I mean this writer was literally trying to put words in my mouth.

    Just venting. :)

    Lisa

    May 23, 2012

    I was in First in 2010 about losing 110 pounds. The whole experience was awesome and fun! The photo shoot made me feel like a princess and I was excited to share my story. I was grateful that they picked me!

    That being said, they also put a “spin” on my story. It wasn’t 100% accurate in the magazine–which I thought was weird because I’d done about 3 hours of interviews! They left out the stuff that was most interesting, and instead chose to focus it on diabetes. Oh well. Still loved being in the magazine!

    BigTickles

    May 23, 2012

    Wow – “the tip that triples weight loss” is the title they chose? I have not even read the article but can see how some might just focus on “tripling” weight loss and not on the actual journey. sigh… Well I hope the readers come over to this site to get more than just the article.

    Roz@weightingfor50

    May 23, 2012

    Love your honesty Roni, but I will still be checking out the magazine!!! Have a wonderful Wednesday!!

    Missy

    May 24, 2012

    I bought the magazine and will take it on Tuesday to my WW meeting. I am proud of all you have achieved. I have been lifetime for 8 years! WW is not for everyone, but it certainly worked for you and me