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Forgive Yourself and Stop the Cycle

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There was a time I’d punish myself after a weekend eating disaster like yesterday.

I’d (try to) starve myself the next day, skipping breakfast and sometimes lunch. Then, when I’d get too hungry, I’d binge, again, and feel totally out. of. control. Depressed.

This cycle went on for years.

I remember one of my old Weight Watchers meetings while I was losing. The night before, I had gone out and ate a little more than I would have liked. The leader asked if we had any non-scale victories (NSV) to celebrate.

I raised my hand and said, “I ate breakfast today!”

She had no idea what I was talking about but, for me, it was a HUGE step in stopping the cycle.

Now after a night (or day or weekend in this case) of overeating, I make a point to eat a healthy breakfast the next day. I forgive myself, nourish my body, and MOVE ON

It sounds so simple and so basic but my brain is STILL wired to skip meals the next day which always has, and always will, sabotage me.

This morning when my stomach growled the thought crossed my mind, again.

I ignored the voice, of course, and enjoyed a grapefruit and hard boiled egg.

It was a perfect breakfast and such a better choice than punishing myself by starving for eating too much.

No?

I also decided I would do something nice for ME instead of wallowing in self-pity.

My fun pedicure put a smile on my face all day.

Be kind, forgive yourself, and remember… give yourself what you wish someone else would give you. :)



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Discussion

There are 22 comments so far.

    Eileen

    May 7, 2012

    I love your pedicure! I really need to go get one before my college reunion weekend.

    I am totally with you on this post. I am never home lately to eat, and while I attempt to make better choices, I generally still eat crappy carby food but in much smaller proportions. Still…I need to get back to walking, and fit more veggies and less restaurants into my life.

    Thanks for letting us know that we aren’t alone in our struggles. It makes life and it’s challenges that much easier.

    Patricia

    May 8, 2012

    This is so timely for me. I have been in crazy grad school finals time for the last two weeks and food has gotten away from me. Getting back on track, though.

    Lyn

    May 8, 2012

    What a nice post. You’re right, there is no point in punishing ourselves when what we really need is love. Thanks for that.

    Laura James

    May 8, 2012

    Great post. Awesome nails!

    Teresa

    May 8, 2012

    Great post! Love the toes:)

    KarenJ

    May 8, 2012

    So very true as forgiving yourself for being human is the first step to healing overeating. We must learn to treat ourselves the way we would treat others. I always feel better after a pedicure!

    Jenny

    May 8, 2012

    Great post!! Love the toes :)

    Colline

    May 8, 2012

    Well done on breaking the cycle! And those toe nails? I love them! The perfect way to spoil yourself :)

    ana Myre

    May 8, 2012

    Great post, thank you very much helped a lot!!!

    Lori Lynn

    May 8, 2012

    I unfortunately will have the same mentality sometimes. I usually do eat breakfast, but I will try and skimp on the calories, b/c I feel like I need to try and “balance” myself out from eating too much the day before. Rarely does it ever work!

    Katrin

    May 8, 2012

    Why are we so hard on ourselves? We wouldn’t put down others like we do ourselves. I get upset at myself too when I have eaten too much. I try to look at the overall weight loss, rather than one or two days of gain. I know it is easier said than done. We are only human. Love your pedicure.

    LisaM

    May 8, 2012

    After one of those “lost weekends”, your body needs good nutrition more than ever. You picked the perfect breakfast to give yourself what you needed to heal from the assault!

    Tina

    May 8, 2012

    Excellent post! I had a moment this weekend where I over-indulged and thought… “why not sabotage my whole day and go for Dairy Queen”. My awesome hubby talked me out of it in with motivating words. The next day was healthy eating day and I felt back on track. Way to go Roni – your breakfast sounds perfect. By the way, LOVED your food photo day you posted a few days ago.

    Mindy

    May 8, 2012

    way fun! I almost asked you to post a pic yesterday on FB :) Nice work eating breakfast, I love that reset button and will think of it for myself next time I indulge and am tempted to cut way back the next day. Thank you as always for sharing yourself so honestly.

    Kristi

    May 8, 2012

    oooohhhhh! LOVE the last line of this post. I need to remember that every day!!!!

    Thanks Roni!

    Nina

    May 8, 2012

    We are never better off being our own worst mean girl. I wish it was something we could help people really understand from the beginning of their journeys!
    Love the post.

    <3 from runningsforthebirds.com

    roni

    May 8, 2012

    Thanks guys! I needed to get all that out of my head.

    Kristi – That line is my new favorite quote. Did you see the post.. http://ronisweigh.com/2012/04/weekend-quote-give-yourself-something.html

    Really puts things in perspective for me.

    Jeri Lyn

    May 8, 2012

    Hi Roni,

    As often happens your e-mail came @ a great time. I was doing well had lost approx. 6 pounds & then came a vacation to Maui. Well I lost perspective again & started with the “tomorrow”, which continued through our wedding anniversary (11 years).
    Well, i’m ready to get back on track. I’m having surgery exacty 5 weeks from today & want to be in the best possible health I can be. Hope to lose between 5-10 pounds in the next 5 weeks, get in physical activity almost everyday, but I vow if I slip up in the next 5 weeks to brush myself off immediatly, NOT tomorrow!!!
    Thanks for all you do,

    Jeri Lyn

    I needed this reminder. I have to forgive myself in other areas of my life (for once its not food). Thank you Roni! :)

    Barbara

    May 8, 2012

    wow I needed to hear this today.
    I been struggleing for a long time with this.
    I know better but it didn’t stick.
    I would start the day off great but right back to eating all the stupid stuff.
    Today I started right by eating more protein.
    I ate 2 regular eggs plus egg whites, with banana and pineapple salad.
    It was great then for lunch I had 4oz of chicken with leftover cauliflower.
    It might not seam alot but for me it was good.
    I am not hungry hoping eating more protein will keep me from eating house and everything in it.
    have a great day everyone.

    Roz@weightingfor50

    May 8, 2012

    Great post Roni. Love the words “forgive myself, nourish my body and move on”. Those are words to live by!!! LOVE the pedi too. Success, it not only made you smile, it made me smile too!!! Have a great Tuesday.

    jeanne

    May 9, 2012

    excellent, excellent post, and exactly what i needed today! Thanks!