One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Weekend Quote: Give Yourself Something

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Remember a few weeks ago when I posted The Picture in Your Head Quote?

What will mess you up most in life is the picture in your head of how it is supposed to be. -Unknown

I don’t think a day has gone by where I haven’t thought of that line. It’s really helped me frame things in my life, like my relationships and the scale, even the kids.

This weekend I’m posting what I consider an extension on that thought.

"Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you." – Dr Phil

Oh boy.. how many times have I wished the husband would recognize I had a bad day and draw me a bath, or give me a massage or cook me dinner.


Even saying that aloud makes me laugh. He’s never even thought of doing things like that. I don’t think it’s in his DNA.

I’m joking, partially, but I want us to really think about that quote beyond the typical physical things we may want that the people in our lives aren’t giving us.

Sometimes you have to give yourself…

  • credit,
  • acknowledgement,
  • permission,
  • gratitude,
  • forgiveness,
  • love, or
  • simply a pat on the back.

pat on the back

Yes.. that’s me… patting myself on the back. ;)

Don’t wait for someone else to give these things to you. Sometimes that’s not how it’s suppose to go even though you may think it is.

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There are 14 comments so far.


    April 20, 2012

    Ah, this is SO true. It is definitely not in their DNA to think of many of the things we want or sometimes even need them to do unless we tell them ;)

    On a more serious note, you should be your own biggest fan!!


    April 20, 2012

    Roni…I discovered your website a few weeks ago and I am so grateful that I did. I love listening to your old podcasts as I continue on my weight loss journey. I can also relate to you because I have two kids (mine are girls!) that are the same ages as your boys. I also love to see them interacting together as my little one can grows to do more and more. I love the quote about the picture in your head! I needed to remind myself of that! Thank you!


    April 20, 2012

    It’s like your in my head! I just drove the boy and the husband to school and work. I got upset because the boy forgot his backpack. Mainly, I was stressing out that I was now going to have to get out of the car and see people. I hadn’t showered, washed my face, brushed my teeth or hair! Basically I felt like a pile of dirty laundry. To top it off, my boy told me this morning that he wished he could stay home like I do and get to do what I want. Ugh. I know he’s just an 8 yr old little boy who just doesn’t want to go to school or do homework, lol. Do what I want, really? The comment hurt more than it should of but I think it’s because I worry that my husband thinks the same…or anyone else for that matter. I feel a need to prove to everyone that this is a job. I’m watching my daughter who is 18 months and trying to keep my house from turning into Sanford & Son!
    Long story short (too late, I know;-) I was feeling very unappreciated this morning. Thank you for giving yourself a pat on the back and reminding me that I shouldn’t and don’t need to wait for someone else to validate me or what I do. If I can do this for myself I will become stronger emotionally and it will radiate in all that I do.

    Thanks Roni!


    April 20, 2012

    Marissa–I don’t know you…but please don’t feel this way! SAHM’s have a HUGE and very important job and unfortunately, society doesn’t do a good job of emphasizing this. In light of what’s recently happened with comments about a certain politician’s wife, I think people need to realize that just b/c something doesn’t generate dollars, doesn’t mean it’s not an INVALUABLE occupation. I’m not a mother yet, but I hope to be someday and I can’t WAIT to stay at home and take care of my family. My mother did with myself and my brother and she loved it, and I know my dad appreciated all she did at home, too.
    So….a big THANK YOU to all SAHM’S!!!

    Lisa Eirene (@LisaEirene)

    April 20, 2012

    This is a good reminder. Sometimes I need to remember that I need to toot my own horn (especially at work) because I keep waiting for someone else to do and…..yeah…


    April 20, 2012

    Is that an Old Navy shirt? I have a shirt like that, same color, same style…from there. WTG girl…keep patting :) Love the new site name too!!!


    April 20, 2012

    Why yes.. yes it is! :) I have 2 colors I think. Wear them all the time. Most of my wardrobe is from Old Navy. :)

    Karen P

    April 20, 2012

    Awesome quotes!!! Love ’em. Also, the more you practice self care, the better people will Treat you, IMO. Good luck on Just Roni. Looking forward to more posts. Karen P

    shauna marie

    April 21, 2012

    It’s amazing how hard we are on ourselves that we truly do forget to give ourselves credit from time to time!


    You’re wonderful :)

    Vic D

    April 22, 2012

    I just found your website and must say I’m loving it! I might have to disagree with the men not doing those little things we wish they would, I got lucky there and mine is really good at doing those kinds of things. He is my biggest supporter while I am on my own weight loss journey
    I am glad to read that you give yourself those pats we all deserve. I don’t feel so goofy now that I actually do a little jig dance when I reach a small weight loss goal that I’ve set. Can’t wait to read more on your blog to give me more inspiration!!!


    April 22, 2012

    I wasn’t talking about all men.. just mine. lol

    Patty at A Day in My NYC

    April 23, 2012

    I love this post in so many ways! It has made me want to ask my loved ones what I can do for them. :)


    April 24, 2012

    I really, really like that you changed the name of your blog. I’ve experienced the same transformation. I liken it to graduating from the “weight loss journey” and becoming a well-rounded person (not to discount those still in the middle of their journey).

    Also, thank you for this quote. Too often in relationships I crave these things from the other person, when I should be giving them to myself.

    abubakar Lala

    July 8, 2012

    Really appreciate!