One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Wednesday Weigh In: A Gentle Reminder

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I find it funny that the scale is creeping up again now that I’m back in my workout routine. I’m weight training twice a week, running more, taking yoga, even flipping tires up hills.

I feel fantastic.



I’m also eating more. Partly to fuel my workouts but partly (and I’m being REAL honest with myself here) because I feel I’ve "earned" it.

My nightly cup of hot cocoa has turned into a dipping ground for cookies.

That cheese I cut up for baby is taste tested. Multiple times.

I enjoy a handful of The Husband’s Dorritos while watching TV. Then another. And another. *sigh*

This mentality is hard to argue with in the moment. It’s a decision to reward myself with food because I can. Because I worked out. Because I "earned" it.

It’s rarely because I’m hungry.

So the scale reading this week is a gentle reminder to eat a little more consciously and stop the reward mentality.

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    What’s that sign say that I saw on Pinterest? (We sure do love us some Pinterest, don’t we?!)

    “Don’t reward yourself with food. You’re not a dog.”

    Maybe it’s time to look at some non-food rewards for a job well done. Because, let’s face it – you ROCK the Kasbah! But something that is not tied to food would be better, no?

    *Note: Whenever I offer ideas to you, I feel I am having a “Luke Skywalker telling Yoda what to do” moment. Feel free to hand out a head slap.


    March 8, 2012

    I struggle with this too. You and I have a thing in commom: we ROCK at maintenance. I have rocked that SOB for almost 2 years now, you have rocked it for even longer.

    Yet, I was trying to “diet” (I hate the word too) just a few weeks ago and yeah, I kinda felt hungry/deprived/”I usually have some chesee at this hour, feels strage not to have some”. And then, I remembered. Yes, when I was losing fat, I did feel HUNGER (remember counting points?). And I sucked it up. I endure it day after day after day. I counted calories and portions and whatnot. Then, years after ( I lost about 60 pounds): maintenance. And then I left the leash looser. Only after I hitted my goal. And I maintened (sp?)

    So, it’s weird to get back into the hungry train again. The portion-weighting again. Or points’s counting again. I figure we don’t need to anymore, because we know this already, right?


    I look at myself at the mirror, see my 4 pack and think “OMG, if only I could have a 6 pack and veins in my abs…” And then I think…


    – I used to weight 200+ pounds


    – I used to have 30% body fat


    – I used to have MOOBS (man boobs)


    – I used to run only for a minute before collapsing


    – I could only do 3 chin ups in a row (14 now)


    – Some “extemities” of my body seemed shorter, because all the fat around it…


    – ETC.

    Do this exercise! Everytime you feel down/overeat/dipped in the Husbund’s chips, just say “bitch, please!” and do a list of all the amazing stuff you do now, regardless of chips or cheese or whatever, and remeber yourself HOW FREACKIN’ AWESOME YOU ARE!!!!!!


    March 8, 2012

    I’m in the EXACT same boat right now Ronnie…..Time for me to listen to that gentle reminder and behave. I have issues in that I eat when I only have time to a lot of the times too, not when i’m truly hungry. Need to quit that and start listening to my hunger cues, because when I do, I always get back to my more happy weight :( Why is it so hard soemtimes!?! Glad you are feeling fit and strong! You rock!!! HUGS


    March 8, 2012

    Hi Roni. I can so relate to you on this….and really love your honesty and ability to nip things in the bud and get back on track when needed. Thanks as always for the inspiration.

    I can relate. I’m upping my calories and I’m not filling it with the most nutritional choices. Luckily tonight is the last of the hot chocolate with Biscoff cookies to dip just because it fits into my calories. I won’t even tell you that we put a square of Ghirardelli chocolate caramel in the bottom, a trick we learned at their Chicago shop. The best thing we’ve ever had but yeah, we can’t buy those things. Devil!


    March 8, 2012

    Thanks for the reminder, much needed.


    March 8, 2012

    It’s all about being mindful.


    March 8, 2012

    I think you’re living at my house! After I got home from the Y last night and ate potato chips because I worked out so hard! Good grief. :)

    As always, it’s nice to know someone else has the same struggles and for some reason when you say it out loud it makes me accountable too. Time to get back to serious!


    March 8, 2012

    Sigh-needed that today. Since Jan, I’ve gotten my eating habits back to a good place & am ramping back up on the exercise. But the pounds aren’t yet budging & it’s discouraging. So I caved into the b’day party load of crap that’s been sitting in the breakroom for the past 2 days. Today I’m wearing my fat pants & feeling like all the crap I’ve eaten. All those goodies are STILL there, but I’m telling myself that a 2 day binge isn’t nearly as bad as a 3 day binge, so it’s time to clean up my act… Thank you Roni for the encouragement. I remember that feeling of fantastic, strong & fit, and am determined to get back there!


    March 8, 2012

    Roni, I think this post as well as the responces all show that we all have the same struggles. I think that it’s always going to be a battle. It’s really more about how we bounce back from a “slip up” so to say. You are doing things you never did before and that is awesome!


    March 8, 2012

    The silliest thing I’ve every thought is “Oh, I’m going to finish this bag of chips so it won’t be in the house anymore.” HOW DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?


    March 8, 2012

    Yup… do it all the time. Makes NO sense.


    March 8, 2012

    Weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise. I have read that in several different books. Makes sense because it sure is easier to eat 300 calories than it is to burn them off. Think about it- we can eat 300 calories of cheese in 2 minutes but spend 30-45 minutes burning them off. Another statistic that I internalized to help me break through my plateau is that people who are active and stand for most of their day burn more calories than people who strenuously exercise for a whole hour every day, yet sit for a good deal of it. Standing burns twice as many calories than sitting. Hope these tips help! Strength is good and so is focusing in your accomplishments…way to go on your workout routine? Sounds awesome!!! (oh, and I do work out 5 days a week and get a lot of just life activity in on the other 2 days!)


    March 8, 2012

    Roni, that was supposed to be a “!” and not a “?” after routine!!! So glad I read this right away! Not trying up upset you! Funny how one little mark can make such a difference…must be a life lesson in there for me, somehow. :)


    March 8, 2012

    Great post, Roni. As Ashleigh says: “It’s all about being mindful.”


    March 8, 2012

    Roni, I could repeat everything written above and say I love reading your column and I think you’re amazing…it’s all true.
    However, I have one question for you: What is your goal for yourself?
    Is your goal 153, or 149, or some other weight? Only you can answer that. But from my personal experience, I would lose some weight, start feeling better, and even though I still had a lower goal in mind, I would be acting (and eating) like this weight was good enough. It all comes down to being honest with yourself about your goal.


    March 8, 2012

    It’s so easy not to count those nibbles and bites!

    At least you can recognize and re-adjust – that’s what its all about!


    March 8, 2012

    You are going to be so buff with your Mudder training! I wouldn’t worry too much if your weight goes up a little–it’s hard training you are doing! Know what you mean about rewarding with food but you are kicking some butt! If anyone deserves a treat, you do lady!


    March 8, 2012

    Don’t buy chips…make kale chips instead.
    And muscle weighs more than fat.


    March 8, 2012

    This is where I am at too. I’ve gained 3-4 pounds and it is because I’ve allowed for those few indulgences. Just a smidge of this or that. Just a handful of cheese popcorn. It won’t make a difference. Thanks for the gentle reminder. I just need to remember to be gentle on myself and not resort to beating myself down. This post is exactly what I needed to read.


    March 17, 2012

    Good post! I love hot chocolate at night! I like it with lots of chocolate, almost to the point where it over powers me. ha. Good job on all your accomplishments. My brother and I have recently created a website about how to lose love handles. A lot of it is weight loss information and tips to keep things simple. We are just now trying to let people know about it. If you would like to visit go to If you want to ad a link to your blog for a source of additional information feel free. Keep up the good work and good luck to you in your future fitness goals.