This week I want to try and get some of you out of your comfort zone and self analyzing a little. Don’t leave a comment if you aren’t comfortable but ponder, contemplate and do some soul searching.
Ok, ready?
Here goes…
What AREN’T you
doing,
experiencing,
trying,
achieving,
enjoying,
wearing,
feeling,
accomplishing,
that you want to be
doing,
experiencing,
trying,
achieving,
enjoying,
wearing,
feeling,
accomplishing,
simply because you don’t like the body you are in?
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I know there’s more, but the first thing I thought of was that I’m not wearing the clothes that I want to be wearing. I almost stopped in a clothing store tonight but stopped myself because I figured there was no point :(
First, I guess I should say that I’m about 20-30 pounds more than I’d like to weigh, but I have gained that gradually during 18 months and my body has changed from what used to be a fairly fit body into a flabby one. I’m struggling with why and how I got to this place and with how it makes me feel.
I am a 19 year old college student. I am not comfortable in most of clothes, and stick to jeans and long shirts when all my friends are in short skirts and small tops. Getting ready to go out is no longer fun because I have to find something that covers all the body parts I am no longer happy with.
When I spend time with my boyfriend, I often think about whether or not he has noticed the weight gain and find it difficult to enjoy time with him and feel like his compliments are fake.
I turn down invitations to go to the beach because I am embarrased about putting on a bikini. I say no to shopping because I don’t want to have to admit that my clothes are not as flattering as they once were and that it may be time to buy a bigger size. I constantly think about how much happier I’d be if I was thin and didn’t have to worry about it, even though I know its my self-image that is holding me back. My body isn’t stopping me from going to the beach. Its the thought of a bikini or the embarrassment of a 1 piece that is.
Instead of trying new things and being adventurous, I find myself sticking to patterns when I should be breaking out of these patterns to get back to my old self.
I have definitely been avoiding the beach the past few years. I am down about 13 pounds since I began my journey, which I have to admit has been a loooongg one, but I am halfway to my goal and very excited about getting some sun this summer! I’ve also been avoiding wearing any sort of dress, skirt or pair of shorts in front of anyone because I’m more insecure about my legs than any other body part. But again, I’m starting to feel more confidant and positive about bearing my gams in public and not caring what other people think. I know I’ve been thinking about all this lately since I’ve actually been losing weight, but I have to say Roni.. you’ve made these goals more likely to come into actuality and I’m that much more excited! I hope you all find happiness in the things you want to be doing, experiencing, trying, achieving, enjoying, wearing, feeling, & accomplishing!
Im not doing the things i want to be doing with my children because i dont like my body
I’m not dating. It’s partially because I haven’t met anyone that I have any interest in in the last few years, but it’s also partially because I haven’t tried due to my discomfort with my own body.
I’m not accepting a compliment without immediately dismissing it in my head because of course they couldn’t have meant it.
I could write a book about this if I really wanted to. There are SO MANY things I do not do because of my weight. I dress frumpy when I would love to wear more trendy clothes. I keep my opinions to myself because I don’t feel important or worthy. I miss out on fun with my boys because I don’t want people to see me in a bathing suit, they both love to swim. I really want a new job but I do horrible at interviews because I am so self conscious and worried what others think, so I stay at a job I hate. I also hide ALL of this and pretend like nothing is wrong. BUT that said, I am working on making it better.
No being in photos with my family during important events/vacations…sad but true. If you look back thru our photos you would not even know I was around…but thats going to end this year! :)
I guess I need more coffee this AM–I mean Not being in photos!
I have a lot of BIG plans for what I am going to do once I lose weight (10pounds down 60pounds to go). I don’t like to go shopping, I don’t like to go places and I DO NOT like being the centre of attention. When I do go places I either regret having gone there because I don’t feel good about myself OR I spend the whole time looking at the skinny girls thinking if only I looked like them I would be so much happier.
I gained weight after my Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was such a difficult time and I used food to attempt to make me feel better. She has sucessfully beat cancer and is doing so well.
I drive my husband crazy because since I have gained this weight I hate everything about the way I look. I know hate is a strong word but it is true. As a result, I have been trying to focus more on making myself emotionally healthier because I figure if I can stop beating myself up and accept that I am the way I am (and that is okay) the weight will come off.
Hi Sam,
I would love to offer you a small amount of advice on this (not that I’m perfect either…see above). I really think you should buy some nice, trendy clothes in your current size and not wait until you lose the weight. There are some feelings you can’t control, but there are many, MANY places that sell lovely plus-sized clothing these days, and believe me, if you feel good about the clothes you are wearing, it will go a long way to feeling better about your body. I struggle with body image, don’t get me wrong, but since I got out of the rut of wearing ugly, tent like clothes, I do find that I feel better about the way I look, whether I’m 230 lbs or 130 lbs. And I do tend to get a LOT of compliments about my trendy style, if I do say so myself. (I still feel fat, but it does help) Anyway, good luck!!!
Thank you Roni. This question really made me stop and think and helped me solidify some of the thoughts that have been bouncing around in my head the last few days.
For me my body’s weight and looks aren’t much of a problem, but my health and fitness (or rather lack of) are. Couple that with moving to a new city, being stuck in the house-hunting and job-hunting nightmare and trying to adapt to a totally new lifestyle… I’m just not doing anywhere near as much as I’d like to of everything. That statement excludes driving around looking at houses!
But! I get my packed boxes etc delivered in a couple days to my temporary address, so I’ll have access to my running shoes, rock climbing gear and my couple pieces of fitness equipment, and I’m really looking forward to getting back into some sort of exercise. There’s lots of beaches here so sand running and swimming are definitely likely, and there’s a fairly cheap (money is tight) rock climbing gym close-ish. I can’t wait! I’m also hoping gardening may be an option, depending on the landlord when we get a rental property.
I’m also trying to get out there and find activities where I can meet people and really settle in here. I guess it’s all just so much at the moment that it’s overwhelming. But I’m trying to keep my chin up about it all :) Thanks again.
Roni, thank you for post today. So many things. I’m 20 lbs away from goal. I am not going with my sister (who needs me right now) to Hawaii because I’m embarrassed of my “thunder thighs” and how they’ll look in a bathing suit and don’t want to ruin her holiday with my insecurities. I’m too ashamed to express that to her – so she must think I’m a shitty sister.
I had a lot more to say about this, so I posted it on my blog. You can click my name to see it if ya like. Suffice to say, some things I am feeling GREAT about, and some things I still need work on. :)
SO I am living life as I would.
Except in my head. The truth is, I have trouble moving away from the calorie counting, overeating, kicking myself, weighing myself (too much), feeling ashamed, cutting back, weighing 2 pounds less and beginning again dance. All this at 5 pounds from my goal! AND worst of all? All this for almost 10 years, if I am completely honest.
In short, I’d really like to be where you are, Roni. Please make a list for me to follow! I am only half joking!
Thanks for asking this.
Thanks! I really need to do this.
I am not enjoying my life like I imagined I would after I lost weight. I’m back to my pre-baby size (10-12) but I don’t like the way I look. My kids love to swim at the pool but when I bring them I sit and watch – no bathing suit here. I have a fair bit of excess skin/flab in my mid-section that is not going anywhere – everything gives me muffin top, even underwear! I don’t like shopping for clothes because I am very disconnected with my size/appearance. Because I don’t feel good about myself, I don’t do things like get my hair or nails done – which only makes me look worse. Interesting to think about, really.
I’m not holding my head high or smiling while I walk. Its an uncomfortableness that nestles between wanting to be at the finish line, and not wanting to skip the joy of the process.
There’s nothing about society that supports the process only the problem or the finish. Everything in between feels like a jail sentence.
Its the most draining feeling ever….
I am not wearing the smaller clothes I bought four months ago because I have gained 10 pounds. I need to LOSE those 10 pounds and more in order to get into those clothes and maybe even buy new, smaller ones. I am tired of my muffin top hanging over my jeans and NOT wearing smaller tops because I have to hide it. I want my jeans to feel comfortable and not tight.
Love this. I think I’m avoiding shopping for clothes that fit me today, because I’m waiting to buy clothes that fit TOMORROW. Not a good idea,time to get a new outfit that fits properly and makes me feel good TODAY. Thanks Roni!!!
Thanks for the information and knowledge.
Keep blogging.
I’m not eating the way i should… there have been times that i eat until comfortable, eat more balanced, get my water in, do reasonable portions, etc and i have felt great. And i have seen the results of being sensible. Yet, for years now i’ve continued to eat whatever, whenever and expect those same results. I’ve decided i must start being mindful and quit thinking in the moment “oh who cares i’ll just oink out now and start tomorrow”. We all know tomorrow never comes, i have to make it happen and know I’m worth caring about.
I love my body-at almost 59 it is strong, lean, lithe, and agile. Oh- fast sometimes too. Especially in the water. I will do a sprint tri in my bathing suit. Comfortable enough with my “bod” to do so..and hard ass enough to not require any padding for 12-15 miles of a bike ride. heheh!
god there are a bunch of sad women out there…who knew. I was blissfully ignorant. Snap out of it ladies. Time’s a wasting and you aren’t getting any younger-who CARES what anyone else thinks about you. Do what you were meant to and do what you live. Go climb a mountain! It’s 2012! I feel like I am reading posts of women in the 50′s- wah wah wah.
LOVE (not live!) But DO LIVE…
To name a few…this is what I thought of when reading this
1) Im self conscious about everything…Im shy, keep to myself, and don’t put myself out there for fear of being criticized or failing. I know because my self confidence is lacking
2) Im 20 pounds heavier then I should be and have struggled with this for over a year now. I once was weight watchers at goal and after having Lincoln who is now 4 I have never gotten back to that. Gosh, I want to be back to goal!
3) I havent worn shorts or a bathing suit since I was around 10-11 years old. Im now 31 and have never really taken my boys swimming or to the beach. I want to have fun with my boys without worrying about clothing attire.
I would love to wear a pair cute jeans, tank top, and cowboy boots but right now you would not catch me wearing these things.
i’m not fitting into 90% of my clothes! And I’m not sticking to my plan even after being successfuk for a few days… So glad I found you Roni- you’re such an inspiration.
Argh! Typo- I meant sucessFUL!! sorry