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The Holiday Pep Talk I Needed to Hear

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It’s November 1.

There are 23 days until Thanksgiving, 53 days until Christmas and 60 until New Year’s!

Yikes!

Halloween starts the holiday season and if you are anything like me, the next 2 months revolve around food. Oh heck, who am I kidding? My life always revolves around food!

What can I say? I’m an addict.

It starts with Halloween candy and ends with one too many cocktails on New Year’s Eve with pies, cookies, and every carb known to man in the middle. Every year my inner diet perfectionist struggles with the desire to "give up" until I can start fresh come January 1.

I’ve been doing this for 6 years and STILL there’s a tinge of that mentality.

Side note: I looked through my archives and I’ve consistently posted on October 31 since 2005. It blew my mind to go back and read them all…

That’s a lot of Halloweens "I survived" and I needed to see that. It made me realize a few things.

1. It’s so easy to let that old diet perfectionist mindset takeover, especially around the holidays, but I refuse to fall into the cycle ever again. The next two months are no different than any other time of year. I wake up everyday, make conscious choices, move when I can and live life. It’s as simple as that.

2. I saw the best quote a few weeks ago…

"People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas." ~Author Unknown

3. It’s not the special occasions that keep us from our goals. It’s letting those special occasions convince us it’s ok to simply not try because they are coming.

How ridiculous is that? Let’s call a spade a spade.. It IS ridiculous to binge from now until after the holidays just because they are coming. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but they are ALWAYS coming. There is always something happening and you can continue to use these "somethings" as an excuse or you can learn to navigate them.

It’s also ridiculous to eat more candy simply because you already had a piece. Yet my brain still wants to justify choices in that way.

I did something I’ve done for the last 6 years this morning. I woke up and ate a healthy breakfast….


Spinach Omelet Rollup

There was a time I would have starved myself the day after I ate "bad" things which would simply lead to more and more binges. Perpetrating the yo-yo diet cycle.

Then I shifted to "forgiving myself" for eating the "bad" things and made better choices the next day.

Now I know I don’t even have to forgive myself. There’s NOTHING WRONG with eating candy. If I want to lose a few pounds I should keep it to a minimum, of course, but I refuse to put the candy on some kind of bad food pedestal and give it any power beyond "it tasted good and I wanted a piece."

My ultimate goal has always been to make food choices consciously. No auto-pilot binges or excuse driven choices, regardless of the season.



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Discussion

There are 25 comments so far.

    jen b

    November 1, 2011

    Thanksgiving is just one day, Christmas is two and New Year’s Eve is only one. There are a lot of other days/opportunities to eat healthy if you want to throw those four to the wind. I’m following a “NO S” plan–no snacks, seconds, or sweets unless it’s a day that starts with S–Sat, Sun or Special Day (Holiday). It takes all the effort out of deciding will I cheat or won’t I? And the goodies I do have are legal on legal days, so there’s no guilt! Sure, I can call a Christmas Party a special day, but not multiple ones in the same week. It’s about choices, moderation & balance!

    Holly B

    November 1, 2011

    LOVE. THIS. Period.

    Paige

    November 1, 2011

    Amen! It’s so hard to put this into practice, but what a silly mentality that we put ourselves in! Last week our WW leader mentioned that one of the weekly topics coming up is having each of us figure out which of the next 60 days before the new year are each of our party days. The holidays themselves obviously, but also the office party, the friends’ parties, etc. She said on average people have about 12. Out of 60 days. That leaves 48 days when there is no reason not to eat normally! I hadn’t heard it quite like that before, liked it.

    Kim F

    November 1, 2011

    Sing it sister!!! :O)

    Mary Nell

    November 1, 2011

    I agree, Roni! I’m now all about “intuitive eating” and really listening to my body. I might have a “heavier” snack, but that doesn’t mean I have to eat that way all day or all week or all holiday season. And now, I no longer feel good if I keep eating that type of food. I love that I now crave something lighter and healthier.

    s

    November 1, 2011

    i agree with everything you said. we even had candy at our school’s gym yesterday, haha! needless to say, as someone who doesn’t hit up the milk chocolate too often that was annoying…but dealing with the holidays while trying to maintain or whatever isn’t really too different from other times, except there is more holiday stress and more food. i don’t keep a lot of holiday food in my apartment (but i must admit i pretty much love it all, haha, yikes.) so i think stress management will be key for me.

    Lori

    November 1, 2011

    Amen. I will not give it more power than it tasted good and I wanted it also. I love that. It’s funny because I always find summer way harder than the holidays. I guess the nice weather and easy living! It really doesn’t matter though because there is always “something”, just like in every other area in life. Just like Dory from Finding Nemo says “JUST KEEP SWIMMING”

    Laura James

    November 1, 2011

    I feel your pain! I have one weekend free before Christmas (my birthday, fiance’s birthday, engagement party etc. etc.)and then mid January we are off to study in the UK for uni. It feels like there is so much looming over my head. I just got back from my Weight Watchers meeting, and the topic was “flexible and forgive”. I am sticking to being flexible and forgiving myself for whatever is bound to happen! I also love what Paige said above about how out of the 60 days between now and Christmas, we would have on average 12 commitments, and that leaves us 48 days to focus on eating well! I LOVE this. Being in Australia, we obviously don’t have Thanksgiving, so that’s one I can strike off my list =)

    Tracy aka Tiny Tank

    November 1, 2011

    I love the holidays. And there are certain foods that ring “holiday” for me. But I have to say these are changing as my lifestyle has changed. For me the quantity of food is the scary part. Over the last few years I have tried to simplify my holiday presentations. Thanksgiving doesn’t have to have 14 vegetable sides. Reduce the number of sides but have ROCKING sides that people will LOVE. A simple plate of delicious foods rather then hoards of food that can barely fit on your plate. Because you know people want to try everything. Ahhh I’m so excited the HOLIDAYS are here!!!

    Amy

    November 1, 2011

    Thanks for posting this…totally needed to read this today!

    I’ve been reading your blog for years, but never comment. So sorry. I want to let you know that I really appreciate your honesty…and humor! Thanks for being a “real” person…sharing success and failure. Thanks for the inspiration!

    palma

    November 2, 2011

    So very true! Thanks for reminding me…

    I try so hard to live by the principle of making the best choice open to me…but that always goes out the window on holidays and the days around them (and sometimes weekends…but that’s a whole other problem). It’s good to remember that I can eat anything on a holiday as long as I keep everything in moderation. And make good choices all round…go for a walk with a friend, don’t eat till I’m overfull, enjoy my time with my family, etc I know I will enjoy the days without guilt. And its always easier to get back on track if you haven’t pigged out completely.

    There are no words other than “preach it sister!”

    Laurie

    November 2, 2011

    “Oh heck, who am I kidding? My life always revolves around food!” Haha!
    This is a good perspective that I have been trying to be conscious of.

    Tina

    November 2, 2011

    Love this post Roni! You said it perfectly!

    wendy

    November 2, 2011

    I have trouble with the “enjoyed one, now got to have three more mentality”. Can’t seem to stop at one, but I have adopted the attitude of moving on after that. Before I would have given up and eaten everything for the rest of the day.

    Nicole

    November 2, 2011

    I can not throw away the left over candy from halloween, just like I cant completely keep away junk from the house …husband and daughter need to occasional treat…Since they are at office and school they dont have an oppurtunity to eat lots of it so they are fine — Now ME however – work from home mom :( … but I am able to keep my hands off of candy/junk better than I used to a year back — however I am in no way perfect — so I keep the candy/junk in the top most shelf of a closet that I dont go near :)

    Leslie

    November 2, 2011

    Thank you for this – I needed to read every word, and now I need to remember them. This has been a huge area of my own disordered eating.

    Living The Sweet Life

    November 2, 2011

    This was a great post! My favourite part was definitely that quote – it’s so true why let a couple days (that are spread out) ruin your momentum?? There are 360 other days… 5 days of over eating will not put you back a year or two.
    Like you said, all in moderation :)

    tammy

    November 2, 2011

    The YMCA has something where you can weigh in now and then again at the end of the year, and if you stay the same or loose they give you a shirt!! It’s free to do. Pretty cool! =)

    Roz@weightingfor50

    November 2, 2011

    Excellent, excellent post Roni!! This is a “bookmark for future (and frequent) reference and revisiting” post!!!

    Tami

    November 2, 2011

    Great pep talk and just what I needed to read today. Thank you!

    Paula

    November 2, 2011

    Thanks for the talk. I really needed this one. Frankly, I’ve had a horrible October and fell into the trap of it is the holidays. I think you read my mind when I read the part youwrote”Every year my inner diet perfectionist struggles with the desire to “give up” until I can start fresh come January 1.” That’s ME. But not this year. Not this time.

    WOW, thanks for this post! It has really inspired me this morning. Why do I put some foods on a “bad food pedestal”?

    Thanks for the reminder that it’s perfectly okay, and nothing that I should punish myself over. You are the best.

    I have shared this on FB and Twitter! :-)

    Thea @ I'm a Drama Mama

    November 3, 2011

    I always expect to gain a pound or two over the next 60 days, but the trick is it not let that get me down. I know it’s coming and I’m not going to deny myself the stuff that I only get once or twice a year. I just don’t need to eat whole trays of it.

    Jen @ The RA Vegan

    November 3, 2011

    Fabulous post! As someone who has to work hard to take care of herself so the auto-immune disorder stays as low level as possible, I need to read this too. Yes, I had more Halloween candy then I should have. So I dust myself off and move on to healthy eating again. It’s taking care of ourselves and knowing how important we are.