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FIGHTING THE FUNK

5 Ways to Fight The Funk –How Roni Get’s Her Groove Back

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THANK YOU for all that fabulous, heartfelt comments. Writing yesterday’s post was exactly what I needed to start to moving forward and reading your comments helped me see (yet again) I am NOT ALONE and that is powerful stuff.

Funks are never fun, but they are an inevitable part of life, at least for me. Here’s a few things I’ve been doing to get my groove back.

Face the Feeling
That’s what yesterday’s post was all about. I meant what I said about "getting out of my own head." I’m convinced if I had an outlet to share all my messed up thoughts about my body and weight issues earlier I would have never gained so much weight in the first place. Once I started blogging, I got all the stuff swimming in my head OUT and I realized I’m not all that different than anyone else. A lot of people feel the way I do. I would have never known if I didn’t take the leap and face the feelings I was going through. Of course you don’t have to be crazy and do it publicly like I did/do, but get them out of your head. Write an anonymous blog. Confide in a friend. Go to a group. Seek professional help. Whatever makes sense for you and your situation.
Reach Out and MAKE Things Happen
I’m not one to normally sit around and wait for things to happen except when I’m in a funk. Then I shut down. I stop calling people. I pull back on my social media outlets. I not even as talkative as I normally am. Today, however, I made an effort. I called an old friend. I talked to my mom. I even tried to set up a play date. It didn’t work out BUT again, the act of reaching out is what matters here. What’s the quote? “Too many people go through life waiting for things to happen instead of making them happen!
Discover (or Re-Discover) Your Creative Outlet
I think I take for granted how happy making things makes me. I’m not the craftiest person, but I do like to draw with the Little Guy and cook (der.) Both are a creative outlets. The whole cooking process from coming up with an idea, organizing the ingredients, taste testing, even photographing and calculating the nutritional information, all of it, gives me an amazing sense of satisfaction. Even more so when I share it and inspire someone else! Sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t want to do anything at all, but what we really need is to focus on the things that provide us happiness. Mary Lou Cook says, “Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.” Just remember you can’t be in a funk if you are having fun!
Get up, Get out, Move More
This isn’t about weight loss or training or sculpting the perfect abs. This is about being in touch with your body. When you are in a funk and stuck in your own head, you tend to forget you have a body and it can do amazing things! Get up and go for a walk, hit a class at the gym, pop in a yoga DVD, climb a rock wall, roller skate, hike, play a game of catch in the backyard, go bowling! I don’t care just MOVE. Today I walked and walked and walked. The fresh air and exercise did wonders for my soul.
Smile
I know it’s cheesy and it’s hard to do when you are in Funkville, but make an effort. Blast your favorite happy song, find things online that make you laugh, ask your friend to tell you a joke. Today, for me it was making Little Bean laugh. How can you be in funk surrounded by this sound?


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Discussion

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    Dawn, Lay Down My Idols

    November 16, 2011

    Roni, this is an awesome post! I receive your post via email and I know better than to ignore them – they usually have some tidbits of encouragement for me! This post is a must-keep classic! TY – and I’m glad you’re feeling better!
    Dawn

    Tina

    November 16, 2011

    I’m glad you are feeling better today Roni!

    Kelly

    November 16, 2011

    I’m so happy you are feeling better! Funk is no fun!! Just realizing you are in a funk is half the battle. I’m glad you were able to realize what helps fight it! :)

    Jacqui

    November 16, 2011

    I’m glad you are feeling better too :) I just checking in to “see how you were doing” haha, I guess the mom in us just comes out anytime someone is hurting. I thought of something else to add, and that is that you said that you had met some fellow moms, but because of The Funk you were kind of putting up walls and not letting them in. I just want to encourage you to not close doors to what could be that close friend that stays with you for life. You never know when you’ll meet them. You don’t have to knock down the wall completely and “let it all hang out” as far as what you’re going through right now, but if you let them in slowly, then next time you do catch The Funk, you’ll have that really awesome girlfriend to commiserate with. And not that all of us blog readers can’t encourage you, but I’ve been there and having someone in real life to plop the kids in their backpacks and take a long, vigorous walk with a girlfriend is good medicine!! :) Take care!!

    All wonderful tips and those giggles are quite contagious! That’s an Ellen worthy video if I ever saw one!

    Bridget

    November 16, 2011

    Roni,
    I’m so glad you’re feeling better. I have your blog on my homepage of my I pad and I constantly look at it to see what you post, because you keep me going! You might feel as if things are bleak sometimes ( who doesn’t.), but I want you to know how inspiring you are and how what you do touches people. Thanks again for the constant boost when I’m feeling down!

    Tamara

    November 16, 2011

    You’re so right. I heard some sad news yesterday and spent most of my afternoon feeling pretty down. My running group was meeting last night and I didn’t have a ton of motivation to go, especially considering the temperature was below zero. But I put on my warm tights and ear warmer and ran over 5k with the group. I came home in a completely different mood. I felt more positive, I was able to laugh at a few things and I just felt better overall. I wish there was a way to capture that feeling so I could remember it on the days when I don’t push myself a little.

    Mindy

    November 16, 2011

    I am so glad you are fighting the funk! Another to add to the list, for me, would be sleep. If I am not getting enough sleep it makes everything else seem like a much bigger deal.

    When I was on maternity leave I often felt very isolated and I had to force myself to call friends or my sisters and mom because although I might not want to do it in the moment, it made me feel SO much better. I even asked people to come over and keep me company. I started scheduling visits so I had something to look forward to. I realized that they enjoyed being asked and were happy to give me their time. I also tried to call or ask them to come over when I knew they weren’t busy or had some down time.

    I liked what Leslie said, the next step will be revealed when the time is right. So true and yet so hard to wait for. I like to fix things right away but sometimes the best course of action is to do nothing and wait for the feeling to pass. As you seem to be doing :)

    Hugs!

    Megan @ Weight Loss Mother

    November 16, 2011

    All great tips that really do work! Thanks. :)

    Mehgann

    November 16, 2011

    The smiling thing works for me every time!!!

    Cade

    November 17, 2011

    Roni,
    You sound a lot stronger. Funks are never fun because you feel like you are slogging your way to a nebulous goal. It is like trying to run on a waterbed. I’m glad to hear you are utilizing such positive strategies. Good for you. Too many people choose an extreme tactic in an effort to “shake things up” while you chose to think it through and pursue a more healthy course.

    Della

    November 17, 2011

    So glad you’re feeling better Roni. I’m glad you opened up about your feelings. I feel like I can speak for all of us who read your blogs and say, we’re here for you too!

    Christina Miller

    September 24, 2012

    I’m on day four of my not diet, but my new life. My head hurts and stomach is growling. I guess I’m lucky since I’ve just been dealing with physical issues and not any emotional ones, but I am definately in a funk. I am definately re-evaluating whether or not I can do this and that greatly concerns. I need this, but I wanted to thank you for what you’re writing. I keep my thoughts in my head way to much.