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Weekend Quote: Head Games

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Ok, so I’ve been in a funk. As you know, this happens from time to time, and of course it oozes out here on the blog. Sometimes the funk is weight related but not always. Sometimes it’s just life. Husband ticking me off, kids on a last nerve, hormones, messy house, blah, blah, blah. You all know. You’re people, dealing with all the same crap.

When I get overwhelmed with life it manifests as body image and food issues. That’s just the way I’m wired. I’m sure there are others that don’t eat or turn to alcohol or spend more time in bed, but my “drug” of choice is and will always be food.

You know what it is?

A head game.

Cheryl said exactly what I needed to hear in a comment on yesterday’s post

Keep on doing what you are doing, running, eating well and quit playing head games with yourself.

There you have it. WHY do we over-complicate things?

Who’s with me on ending the self-sabotage?



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There are 10 comments so far.

    Marissa

    September 17, 2011

    I couldn’t agree more. I spend more time fighting with myself in my head when I get into funks. One thing I’ve been thinking about is the fact that I would get those funks whether I weighed 215lbs or 150lbs. Here I thought I would just be happy at 150lbs…
    Cheryl is right and I wish someone would have told me that when I was plateauing at a 150 lbs. I kept playing those head games and let feeling blah take over and 20 lbs creeped back. Your friend Charlie Hills left a comment on Tuesday night that helped me to get out of my head.
    http://www.backtothefridge.com/do-you-want-what-you-want/

    It really helped me and that’s why I love your blog! Great information and support everywhere;-) I watched the breakfast pizza video and just want to say that you look amazing. I had my baby almost a year ago and I’m still struggling with 15 lbs to get me to pre-pregnancy weight. After that I still have 20 more lbs to go! I think you need to remind yourself of all that you have accomplished. You had a baby 6 months ago and you are getting ready for a half-marathon!!!! You, Mrs. Roni, are my hero!
    Keep the faith!

    Paula

    September 17, 2011

    Good post and thanks for sharing. I just wish I could turn off those dreaded head games and avoid funks, but like you said, we all get them. I am planning on looking up instead of down.

    Tami@nutmegnotebook

    September 17, 2011

    It would be so awesome to end the struggle for good! Being an emotional eater myself and having food as my “drug” of choice is difficult. Unlike other vices you can’t give up food, you have to try and find the right balance which seems to be an on going tug of war.

    Sometimes it’s so easy to make all the right choices and then one day it all seems overwhelming. Why is that?

    I usually go back to something I read in Dr Phils book about weight loss. He has this BE, DO, HAVE thought process that I find helpful.

    BE committed, DO what it takes and you will HAVE what you want.

    Amy

    September 17, 2011

    I think it is helpful when you’re more open about your down days, instead of sharing only the most information on your good days. We all go through struggles in our head and it helps you to hear we can relate in our own world and it helps us to see that you don’t do it all right all the time. Kind of that identify crisis you mentioned – are you a weight loss blogger now or something else? No need to label yourself, I think you’re just “one of us” dealing with each day and sometimes those days are HARD!

    Mindy

    September 17, 2011

    So true! I call it a fat and ugly attack. The only good thing about them is that when they happen I know I need to take a step back and ask myself what’s really going on inside my head. Its like a little clue! So much is expected of women, especially moms, its inevitable that it will be overwhelming at times. I can see how important it is to take time for myself so I can enjoy my family and not feel resentful. If momma ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy, as they say :) great post as always. Good luck tomorrow!

    Andrea

    September 17, 2011

    You always say it just how it is. Makes me examine my own issues and for that, even though I have never left a comment before, I need to say THANKS! Wish there were more of you out there!

    Jacqui

    September 17, 2011

    I agree with Amy, I’m glad you share the days that aren’t your best. I’m a lurker here, and I call myself that because I haven’t even started to eat right or exercise. I’m still on the “I’ll do it next week” route. I love good positive blogs, but when there’s nothing “real” about the, because honestly we all have those days/weeks/months… it just doesn’t seem real. I think sometimes people don’t want to depress their readers, but it doesn’t depress me to read that you’re in this rut, it makes me know that you’re real.

    Whenever I get into a real funk I remind myself that it will be over, it won’t last forever, and to do the best I can while I’m in it (aka… not completely screw things up and do/say things I shouldn’t). It’s hard!

    RG

    September 18, 2011

    Hmm, I’m not sure which way you meant your post, but I agree in many ways, that life stress comes out as food drama. That is, 1. I overeat for emotional reasons, and 2. I I obsess about body image as a way of avoiding real stress 3. cooking and reading recipes is recreational.

    Like you, I comfort myself that it’s better than drugs, shopping, alcohol, anger. I know this is primarily a weight-loss blog, and it can be difficult to open up about personal issues on a (very) public blog, but maybe you need another outlet. Whatever else is going on, good luck and try to find some perspective. New baby is not forever, and you’re probably through the worst of the not sleeping but not entirely out of the woods.

    Reinaldo

    September 18, 2011

    Sounds easy on paper… and it actually is, I guess. Maybe we just love to procrastinate the good eating habits during a funk (or in my case right now, a hollyday)? Ugh. Shall we make a deal, to stop making cheap excuses? :-/ Salads, here I go

    Patty @ A Day in My NYC

    September 19, 2011

    I am ending the self-sabotage right now! :)