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WEEKLY QUESTIONS

We Know All This, Right?

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Weekly Question

Google “Diet Plan” and you get over 20,000,000 results.

Search “Weight Loss Program” and get 11,000,000.

Amazon has more than 31,000 books under the “Diets and Weigh Loss” category.

Needless to say, there is no shortage of eating plans, programs, and supplements for those of us that want to lose weight.

I’m sure there is a percentage of the population that can read one of those books, tweak their diet and drop the pounds they want, but I’m guessing they are the minority.

Ahh screw it…

I KNOW they are the minority.

Do you want to know how I know?

They keep writing books and coming up with new diet plans!

If you did actually read a diet book, put it to practice, and lose weight WHY in the world would you have to ever buy another one again?

Nope. That’s not how it works.

We–yes, WE, if you are reading my blog I’m almost positive you fall into the “WE” here–keep buying the books. WE keep searching for the plan. WE keep coming up with an excuse on why the last one didn’t work to justify buying into a new one.

At least that’s what I did for YEARS!

Here’s the thing… “WE” probably don’t even need a book or a plan. We read them all. We know we should ease up on the fries and get a side of veggies instead. We know we should make fruit our go-to snack. We know reducing carbs and upping lean proteins is a good thing. We know taking a walk burns more calories than watching TV. We know. We know. We KNOW!

We also know the scale won’t change over night, our lifestyle needs to support our weight loss for long term success, and that not everybody, or every body is the same.

We know all this, right?

Note: This week’s question is a bit rhetorical, but I welcome your thoughts. I wrote it in response to two things. 1.) My recent break from Weight Watchers, and 2.) Seeing Bob Harper’s new Weight Loss Starter Kit.

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There are 37 comments so far.

    Sarah

    August 17, 2011

    We all have to learn to live with food. On our OWN terms. Not someone else’s. Always harder to do for self than to be shown the way… But how else can you find what works for you.

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    I think it may be that we’re waiting for the thing that will change us, that something that will reach into our minds and flip the switch, and it can take a long time to realize that WE need to be the ones to do the work, make the changes, or ask for help if we need it. Maybe it’s a matter of not realizing that we are the key to our own success, that no one is going to going to change us, but US. I think Bob is wonderful, but if I don’t see my role in this process then Bob can put out any plan or supplement that he wants – and I will still be where I am now. The plans change but the common denominator is US.

    Christina

    August 17, 2011

    You are totally right! It’s crazy how many books/literature I have from past diets. If I only put that effort into making better choices, rather than looking for a solution in a book!!!

    Lsmith

    August 17, 2011

    I agree, Roni. I’ve been trying “desperately” to lose a few more lbs prior to a cruise. I’d played around with 10 lbs for about a year (wow, yes, a year). When I truly, finally, got serious and put my mind to it, not only did I lose the 10 but I busted through, at flying speed, a plateau and am now 4 lbs UNDER my original WW goal. It just shows that if you’re REALLY serious, you’ll make the right choices….. If you’re complacent, it’ll take you a while.

    As for Bob’s kit, I refuse to take ANY pills for my weightloss. Been there, done that — and just don’t feel right about it; personal choice but I had many years with my heart racing, etc., from jokester pills.

    Valerie

    August 17, 2011

    I’ve lost 30 pounds over the past year and change. I did it with no program. There were weeks when the scale would go up some and I would adjust my eating. I’ve recently added exercise and am loving it. Turning into a bit of a gym rat and ready to be labeled a runner. I’ve been exercising 6 days a week with cardio and weights for about 3 weeks. The scale doesn’t show a change but I feel so much better and I’ve lost inches already. So man people keep asking me how I did it, what program I’m following. My program is no program. Eating less and moving more. No silly rules. No tracking. And best of all, No obsessing!!!!

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    I think if the “no tracking” thing works for you, then great! It would be nice to get there, some day. I have to track what I’m eating or else it doesn’t go well for me. We do what works best for us, right? :)

    I think a large part of it is getting out of our own way. For a long time, I just identified myself as a ‘struggler’. I would try but then I’d feel like I failed in some way and I just had this idea in my head that it would be hard for me to succeed. I could do it but it would be a fight. But something changed a few weeks ago – not sure what it was, but I’ve stopped thinking of myself as a struggler. I talked myself into things being as hard as they were for me. Now I am looking at it more objectively, when I can, and seeing that sometimes, it’s only as difficult as I make it. Thus, getting out of my own way.

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    I’m not sure why you think I don’t track! I post my journals here and I keep them on twitter. Food journal saves my sanity and keeps me accountable.

    But yes.. it’s about finding what works for you and I guess that means we have to explore all these books and plans but I know for me, there was a long stretch of time when I halfheartedly put what the books said into practice and then claimed “they didn’t work” when this truth is “I didn’t work.”

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    Are you replying to me? Because I was replying to Valerie re: no tracking. :P

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    It can be a matter of half-heartedly following a plan from one of those millions of diet books but it can also be that the things that the diet expects of you (the ‘rules’ of the plan) are so restricting and they don’t work with your personality or the approach you truly want to take. I think that some diet books set people up for failure and then they think “Oh, I wasn’t able to do this! I failed! I didn’t try hard enough.” When really, it just wasn’t a good ‘fit’ for them.

    Ana

    August 17, 2011

    Such a timely post. Everywhere I look I see someting about the Paleo Diet, and I went and bought the book last week. Now, I applaud those who have found this works for them, but I leafed through the book for about 10 mins and quickly realized this one is not for me.

    And then, the craziness set in – if I couldn’t do this, then how the heck was I ever going to lose weight? I had a mini pity party for 10 minutes or so, before I realized how ridiculous I sounded. These “diets” are tools, (like WW with their meetings, or whatever else other things come with) and it’s OK to use them, as long as we realize that it’s still about eating less and moving more.

    Wendy

    August 17, 2011

    I lost alot of love for bob Harper when he started smiling on the fronts of those products. So disappointed in him……

    No to go find the post on your break with WWs…..this is what I get for slacking on my blog reading;)

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    Well, even with WW, they offer a lot of freedom, but it still comes down to the choices that WE make. Of course I can technically use my 34 Daily Points on chocolate, cookies, cake…mmm, drooling…but then is that wise?! Of course not! It’s also not how the program is intended to be carried out.

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    Robyn – YES! lol I assumed you were replying to the post . I was like.. she HAS to know I track. We chat all the time! Then I thought… I must have her confused with someone else. lol

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    I should have been more clear with my comment! :) I didn’t address it to anyone in particular, so it is easy to see how you could think I was talking to you! Will be more specific from now on. LOL!

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    Wendy – I did too! I couldn’t believe it when I saw it. Sell your workout DVDs, books, even “plans” but to slap your face on a bottle of pills? I thought he was above that.

    As for my break.. I didn’t make a big deal about it. Just mentioned it in this post… http://ronisweigh.com/2011/08/wait-a-photo-shoot-what-just-happened.html

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    (Not to mention that it’s YOUR blog, so of course the natural thing to think is that a comment is in response to you!)

    I swear I’m better at communicating than this. I’m not even a coffee drinker so I can’t blame it on that. I’ve also been up for 2 hours or so, so it’s not a half-asleep thing, either. Oh dear… this day is going to be interesting!

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    Jillian went down the ‘supplement’ road first, before Bob did. Not that that’s ok or makes it better.

    I think she touted her stuff as being all-natural, well-researched, etc. It probably is, but for her screaming of ‘beatings, beatings, beatings’ on Biggest Loser, I was surprised to see her peddling a supplement.

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    When Jillian did it and Bob didn’t at first it made me respect him even more. I think that’s why I was so put off buy him doing it now.

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    I also think that this is where one can become so easily influenced. We see these trainers in TV, we see the results they get (mind you, working out hard for 8 hours a day is not about to become my shtick…), and see how much they genuinely care about the contestants, and those things make us (or at least me) trust them, so it’s more of an “in” for them when they come out with these other new products. It can be easy to think, “Well, Jillian and Bob are selling it, so it must be OK.” but it still comes down to thinking for ourselves and not being sold on image and reputation alone.

    Missy

    August 17, 2011

    I saw that new Bob Harper thing in the store last week and seriously rolled my eyes. I fell into the trap of Jillian’s supplements too when they came out… I was counting points at the time but thought “it couldn’t hurt, right?” What a waste of money. I think they’re both sellouts…. but he’s still cute :-)

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    I did feel like they lost sight of what they have always been about, as far as watching them on BL is concerned. It does feel like they sold out. Like they felt the need to compete with other so called gurus on that level and so here they come with a supplement with their endorsement on it. Like I said, I’m sure it’s all-natural, but really – supplements?! Are working your butt off in the gym and eating healthily just passé now?

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    But perhaps they’re tapping in to the market of people looking for/thinking they’re going to get a boost or quick fix for a much more serious and involved issue. We’ve been conditioned by some sources to expect that we can lose 20 lbs in 8 days and have that be OK and considered healthy. The media peddles a certain message to it and our senses are saturated with that message. Seeing through that and still holding on to what we know to be the healthier way to go about things can be tough.

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    August 17, 2011

    “The media peddles a certain message to it” should say “to us”

    Jacqui

    August 17, 2011

    I lost 35 pounds and got to my good weight six years ago. I subsequently went through a divorce, lost myself, got depressed, and gained it back. When I lost the weight, people wanted to know what I did. They were disappointed when I gave this answer, because they thought I had found the magic key:

    1) I exercise for an hour every day
    2) Every time I sit down for a meal, I make the best choice possible at that moment.

    That’s all. And I lost weight. I was healthy in so many ways, not only my physical body, but my mind and my emotions. So I am trying to get back there, because I KNOW how to do it. It just scares me to try again now that I backslid.

    Roni, if you are reading this, can you tell me how you deal with emotional eating? Because while I do love to exercise (I love to walk on my treadmill) portions and emotional eating ~ that’s my biggest obstacle.

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    Jacqui – Of course I’m reading this! I never let a comment go buy without reading it. Just may take some time. :)

    For me.. I stopped fighting the emotional eating I just eat different things. For example… when I used to get stressed/depressed/whatever I’d order a pizza and continue to eat the whole thing myself. Now, I buy the biggest butternut squash I can find, cut it into fries, bake and continue to eat the whole thing by myself.

    I learned to stop fighting the urge to eat and simply go with it but in a lighter way.

    May not be the bet solution but it helps me through those times when nothing will make me feel better than a over full belly.

    Tina

    August 17, 2011

    Hi Roni, I have been following your journey for a while now. You are such a huge inspiration. I love how you balance taking care of yourself with taking care of your family and career.

    I love this post today. I have dieted on and off for years. I did loose 35lbs 5 years ago with WW but gained it all back due to binges and emotional eating. I finally stopped searching for a diet and now I’m finally loosing weight again. I think that following a diet isn’t a bad thing, just as long as it doesn’t make you obsess. The hard part comes in maintaining the weight loss. If the way you are eating on the diet isn’t something you can stick with always, the weight will not stay off.

    Jacqui

    August 17, 2011

    Thanks Roni :)

    Patty @ A Day in My NYC

    August 17, 2011

    Bob too, huh?

    WE live in a society where everyone wants to cash in! Heck I’d want to invent something too. But its taken me a long time to break from the conventional “diet plans” because truth is they didn’t work for me in any long term way. Or I couldn’t work with them in any long term way. That’s probably more accurate.

    I can’t say I’m not influenced by a book but, for me, this is the most sane approach to doing it my way.

    “My way” {because I’m a book nerd} needs a little guidance.

    Lynne

    August 17, 2011

    What a great question!

    I was recently told by my doctor that I should try a modified Paleo diet. (I am insulin resistant) Just limit my dairy instead of completely removing it from my diet. I’ve been pretty happy with how I have felt lately and the scale is moving.

    HOWEVER, I am an emotional eater. x10. So, Paleo or not, eating too much of anything is still going to make me gain weight. I just started reading When Food is Love and the book is making an impression on me. Has anyone else read it?

    Roz

    August 17, 2011

    Hi Roni. I rolled my eyes when I saw Bob Green’s “starter kit”. What a cash grab on his part. BUT….buyer beware. I think we’re on the same page – it seems to me that there are a group of folks who will try the latest and supposedly greatest “diet plan” (the diet du jour), not get the results they want, and simply move on to the next new fad. None of which generally work out for them. And that’s a whole lot of energy, money and time spent buying into someone ELSES plan and hoping for a quick fix, instead of looking inward, deciding what would work best for THEM, and putting that plan into action.

    Jacqui

    August 17, 2011

    @Lynne – I have not read When Food Is Love, but it sounds similar to something I did read, which is Made To Crave. And that’s a book I could read a hundred times over and highlight almost every sentence. I don’t like to read books with “plans” but I do like to read books that help me understand why I’m doing what I’m doing (eating so much).

    I was leafing through a book at Goodwill (yay) by Leslie Sansone (she has DVD’s and books about walking) and in the book I happened on a page where she literally said “Sorry to tell you, but dessert is over for you.” I’m sorry, but who can live without dessert? That’s what SkinnyCow icecream is for, that’s what WeightWatchers fudgebars are for. So I think we have to be realistic. There is no skinny that’s worth living the rest of my life without something sweet :)

    I agree with what’s been said above, if you can’t live that way forever, it’s not worth doing.

    Alisha

    August 17, 2011

    ok so I wonder how many of us have gone now and googled Bob’s Starter Kit….I sure did! haha!

    roni

    August 17, 2011

    LOL that’s why I linked it.

    Tina

    August 17, 2011

    I love this post today too. I always wonder what works. I used to read a registered dietician’s blog. She was thin and had no food fighting issues. Her mentality was always “what will my next work out be” while mine is always “what should my next meal or snack be”. I know what would help me is having someone ring the door bell and go running with me. As for over-indulging in delicious cheese and wine and pizza, I still can’t figure out how to control the urge to over-eat. I think getting a work-out in daily would help take away over-eating urges.

    julie

    August 17, 2011

    Funny, I emotionally overeat (not quite a binge, from my arbitrary perspective) like you. During stressful times/pms, I can eat a few hundred calories of peaches or strawberries or plums or nectarines, etc. I don’t exactly consider it healthy eating behavior, but less damaging than using french fries or cheese.

    I don’t buy any of those books, just a distraction. No pills, no rules, no off-limit foods, no rigidity.

    Paula

    August 17, 2011

    It is a shame to see Bob promoting this type of product. I guess it is just another example of selling out. I agree 100% that we do know what to do, it is just doing it! With inspiration from your sites and BTL, I have finally experienced success.

    wendy

    August 17, 2011

    yeah you sure did slip that in there!lol and i swear i had already read that post….sly, sly sneaky Roni!

    Ya know when Jillian started pushing pills I was upset and really let down by her. I find it odd that she is this uber super healthy lifestyle type but in the same breath she totes her pills…..*shakes head* it seems like someone saying “i hate/ am allergic to peanut butter but i love no bake cookies” um yeah they are held together by peanut butter so how does that work???