One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Do You Make Excuses?

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Last night I could have come up with a million reasons not to go running. It was after a long day. I was by myself with the kids. The power went out. I’m backlogged with work. I couldn’t find my sneakers (easily.)

I swear, I pondered it for a good 15 minutes. Then I decided to stop searching for the excuse I needed to not go.

I’m good at coming up with excuses. I did it for years.

I can’t lose weight.
It’s too hard. It will never work anyway. I can’t start until Monday, I have a party this weekend. I just like to eat. I’m big boned. I’m going to gain it back anyway.

I don’t have the time. I’m too tired. I don’t like to sweat. It’s too hard. I don’t know anyone at the gym. I don’t know what to do. My shows are on tonight. I’m not in shape.

I’ve said all of these things at least once in my life. They were all excuses. It’s easy to see that in hindsight now, of course, because I did lose weight and I do exercise. But at that time, I told myself what I needed to hear so I can get out of doing what I knew I should (and wanted) to be doing.


I’m not sure.

I guess because it was, and is, hard. When things are difficult it’s simply easier to not do them. It’s easier to order in than cook. It’s easier to stay home and watch TV than take a walk. It’s easier to grab a bag of chips than peel an orange.

It’s also easier to succeed when you don’t give yourself an excuse.

I went for that run last night and I felt fantastic afterwards. Sometimes you have to ignore your excuse generating inner voice and do what it is you know you should be doing.

Here’s the food journal for yesterday…

Food Notes
2 quick banana pancakes with blueberries and some more blueberries on the side a request fromt he Little Guy. An old favorite of ours.
Shaved Zucchini with Garden Tomato Sauce It wasn’t quite time for lunch so I went light.
slice of cheese, some grapes and watermelon I was picking all day!
light yogurt cup afternoon snack
pork loin, sweet potato and roasted brussel sprouts (on the grill) Best. dinner. ever!
frozen grapes my new nighttime obsession
watermelon AWESOME post run snack
Yoga AND a 4.5 mile run plus a stroll to the park.
yup and yup

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There are 21 comments so far.


    August 10, 2011

    Once we stop making excuses — it works. I have a friend who has basically been doing weight watchers since she was a teen (she’s 40 something now) and she always struggles. The reason? She makes excuses for why she can’t exercise. I tried to encourage her, asked her to walk with me during lunch, etc etc. But at the end of the day it’s all about choices. How badly do we want to lose the weight? How sick are we of being overweight? I finally got to the point where I wanted to lose the weight more than I wanted to sit on my couch with a carton of ice cream.


    August 10, 2011

    So true about the inner voice! The mental part is for me the hardest part of the struggle. This post is really timely since I’m starting the Beck Diet Solution book (again) hoping that it will me help on this front.

    Has anyone gotten through it or had good success with it? I’m really hopeful that it will be helpful.


    August 10, 2011

    I too struggle with excuses. I lost 40 pds almost 2 years ago. I continue to go up and down 5 pounds. Is this healthy??? I will make bad food choices one day and do better the next. Same with exercise. I just wonder if this is unhealthy for me???

    Dawn, Lay Down My Idols

    August 10, 2011

    “Sometimes you have to ignore your excuse generating inner voice and do what it is you know you should be doing.”
    Exactly! :)


    August 10, 2011

    my inner voice loves exercise but when it comes to good food choices it speaks loudly!!!!


    August 10, 2011

    I am queen of… I am just too lazy excuse.


    August 10, 2011

    I’ve used every excuse in the book. Sometimes they are very complicated and make no sense. I finally stopped making them up a few months ago. When I don’t work out, it’s for one reason: because I don’t want to.


    August 10, 2011

    Crystal – LOVE that. I was going to go there but in a way it’s so hard to explain. I own all my decisions instead of finding excuses now. So if I don’t want to workout, I don’t. If I want cake I eat it. I just go in open eyed.


    August 10, 2011

    Totally wish I would’ve seen this at about 5:30 this morning. Unfortunately my inner voice won out today. I could blame it on my daughter for getting me up too early and I was too tired… but then I remembered she ate and went back to sleep!!!! Golden opportunity to get a sunrise run in. But nope. Oh well, moving on…. looking forward to some beachfront running this weekend/week :-)


    August 11, 2011

    Ha! Boy, do I ever make excuses. The biggest one is my hair. I have naturally curly hair and I dont’ want to ruin a good hair day by getting sweaty or putting a helmet on. Oh, brother. It’s true what you said about it being easier to order out or sit on the couch but it’s oh so much harder in the long run to not feel good about yourself and have nothing in your closet that fits day after day.


    August 11, 2011

    LOL – Dani – naturally curly girl here too & yes – I use that excuse too!
    It’s bad – when I’m making excuses – I KNOW I’m making them, but I keep doing it. I need to work on this – a forever work in progress!


    August 11, 2011

    Thank you for that MUCH needed kick in the butt!! This is why I love reading your blog!


    August 11, 2011

    EXCELLENT post today Roni! The truth is, going for the fruit or exercising is what takes us out of the negative (or the rut-feeling) that makes us come up with excuses in the first place. I’ve been invited to join an intense but motivating work out tomorrow and I’m scared to go because I know I’m out-of-shape and will be far behind everyone else. What am I so afraid of? That they’ll laugh?… or be annoyed waiting for me? That I’ll feel embarrassed. Obviously lacking confidence today and your post makes me want to GO FOR IT because I know deep down it will be an amazing experience. I know if I was to see someone like me GOING FOR IT I’d be the one cheering the loudest for them.


    August 11, 2011

    i think we have the same mind somedays! I fought with this exact thing last night… i stood at the counter thinking about needing a snack, when i really needed to exercise. I too – chose the exercise and it was worth it – well sorta. I started a running program – i’m up to 30 minutes of straight running on the treadmill. Last night i took it outside. OMGoodness. I knew it was going to be hard and different but not THAT much! So i was disappointed and frustrated – but determined. I came in and did some ab work and other things to round out the workout and made a firm resolve to do it outside more! Kudos to all your OUTDOOR runners! I can’t wait to be one of you :) This morning, tired again, i actually laid back down and that’s when i remembered that in reality i’ll be MORE tired if i lay there and less tired if i get some good clean oxygen 45 minutes later, i feel much stronger and more awake – even though i have a sore back now! Through my journey i’m realizing more and more how i’m my own worst enemy and it’s ME that’s holding myself back. Good luck to all on their journey and thank you once again Roni for sharing your REAL LIFE journey with all of us.


    August 11, 2011

    Yoga AND 4.5 miles. You’re my hero!
    I’ve been in the unmotivational/tired slump for a week now.
    I’ve lost 25lbs since May1st. There are days when I am all energized and doing doing doing it. Then there are days like 6am this morning, when I was up and had plenty of time before work and yet I couldn’t get motivated. I’ve been doing an hour run a night on my treadmill thingy. (A gazelle?). And I work up a terrible sweat and get a pretty fast pace going. There are days when I’m alternating between Jillian Michaels & P90x too. I’m trying to stick with it. I’d like to lose another 29lbs… but slow & steady wins the race! Thanks for the inspirations!!


    August 11, 2011

    You know what? I am also great at making excuses for myself… but it is even worse when other people make them for you! I am so sick of hearing “well, you know, as we get older its harder”. It makes me want to scream! I will be damned if getting older is going to stop me from trying to do what is good for me, SO THERE!!! (sorry for the rant, your post sparked something ;o)


    August 11, 2011

    Great post. I think we are ALL guilty of making excuses when it comes to health and fitness. Some are quite the doozies too! :)


    August 11, 2011

    No more excuses for me either. I’m 30 lbs gained from my 50 lbs loss..maintained 2 years and 2 years for 30 ibs to creep back on. Starting the gym routine again and on plan 2 days. This will always be a battle and I have to remember I dident gain everything and more back.
    Thanks Roni for being are so motivating.


    August 11, 2011

    I am queen of excuses and denial…as you said, I need to just admit that if I don’t do something its because I don’t really want to do it, no other reason…

    Bonnie Richmond

    August 13, 2011

    I think it’s just a product of our human-ness. We use it on everything. Like for instance, it’s easier not to seek and find God and what He did for us when He sent His son Jesus to die for us, so that we might live eternally. But just like with weight loss and exercise, we will reap what we sow…it’s a biblical principle.


    August 24, 2011

    As I read your list of reasons why not to go for a run many of them sounded familiar. The thought came to me at the end of your post that I need to look for the reason I need to exercise. For example: I’m tired of being overweight, I want to be able to play sports with my sons, I don’t want to live with the health problems that come with being this heavy.

    Thanks for the post!