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Ask Roni: Paper Bag Popcorn, Kids and Healthy Foods, Maintenance vs. Losing, Reverse Body Image Issues, Tummy Tuck Post Baby [video] [podcast]

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It’s podcast time! I’m heading to the beach this weekend so I’ll be taking a short hiatus, again, from podcast recording. :(

Topics this week include…

  • Paper Bag Popcorn
  • Kids and Healthy Foods Advice
  • My approach to maintenance – Maintenance vs. Losing
  • Reverse Body Image Issues
  • Tummy Tuck Post Baby


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[podcast]http://RonisWeigh.com/resources/podcasts/AskRoni004.mp3[/podcast]

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There are 26 comments so far.

    KCLAnderson (Karen)

    July 14, 2011

    Hey…just wanted to chime in on the “kids and healthy” foods issue (adding to your already awesome advice). I’m a step-mom (no kids of my own) and I came into my step-kids’ life when they were 10, 13 and 16. I was appalled at the kinds of foods their mom provided for them (and I say that pointedly…she provided food for them…she didn’t prepare food, didn’t serve it, didn’t sit down together with them, at least not very often). Something their Dad and I quickly realized is that all we could really do is MODEL the behavior we wanted them to learn and serve healthy foods without much discussion…I’d usually ask them to at least try new foods and I also found that they tended to ask me to make healthy food (they were older than the kids of the woman who wrote). In the midst of their growing up, there were times when it seemed that they’d never “get it” but now they’re 25, 28 and 31 and they’re all very healthy eaters who value family dinner time and so on. The youngest just had her first child and I am heartened that she’s constantly asking my advice re healthy food :-) So modeling really does work :-)

    Laura

    July 14, 2011

    Haven’t listened to the podcast yet but just wanted to say that I think you look wonderful in purple. :)

    Jessica

    July 14, 2011

    Roni,

    Loved your podcast today. I struggle on a pretty frequent basis on how I see myself. I am like you, I tend to always think I look fatter than I actually am. My loved ones and friends are always telling me I look fantastic, yet in my mind, no…I am still that fat girl.
    I have successfully maintained (within 5-10 pounds) a 75 pound weight loss, however I still struggle with those few more that I would love to loose. As I think most of us do. So thanks for your podcast today for showing me that I am definitely NOT alone.
    And by the way, LOVE your popcorn video from this morning. Awesome idea and cannot wait to try it.
    Thanks. You are an inspiration.
    Jessica

    Julie J.

    July 14, 2011

    Roni, WOW! You look great. Honestly, your stomach looks flat to me! Nice work.

    Annalisa

    July 14, 2011

    ditto on the purple ;-)

    Danell

    July 14, 2011

    Not sure if this is the best place to ask (or if you have already answered this question before), but I know you also had a breast lift around the same time as you had the tummy tuck, and I was wondering if you are still pleased with those results as well. Or do you have to wait until you are done nursing before you can really re-evaluate?
    I really would like to get a breast lift (no implants, just a lift) once I lose all my weight, but I may (probably) want to have kids in the future and am not sure if I should wait until after I have them (which will most-likely be many years down the road…and I really would like to have the lift now). I know this is something I can ask a doctor, but hearing someone’s first-hand, honest opinion would be even better ( I also realize that everyone’s body is different and that I may have a different experience than you, but your opinion is valued all the same).

    roni

    July 14, 2011

    Danell – I did have the lift and I was very pleased with the results. Not sure how the pregnancy and nursing will affect them long term but I can tell you right not they are not the same as after the lift. I went up 2 bra sizes during the pregnancy and I’m forecasting quite the deflated look after my body is back to my own but you never know. Only time will tell. Check back with me in 3-4 more months when I’m done nursing. I’ll let you know. :)

    Tess

    July 14, 2011

    Just wanted to follow up on the “how you see yourself” comment. But first I just wanted to say thank you, Roni! Your blog has been a true inspiration through my continuing weight loss. It has been such a comfort to read your blog when I have struggled, knowing that there is someone else out there who has gone through the same thing. I thank you for your dedication and candidness!

    I, like the questioner, had a problem of not seeing how big I was. It was great as far as confidence goes, but there was always a feeling that there was something more that I was missing. I had always dreamt of being a runner, but at the weight I was at it was impossible. My body couldn’t handle running and the weight. I also had a problem of bingeing which led to all sorts of stomach and digestive issues. I complained about it frequently, but never connected my bad eating habits to the problems I was having. I didn’t want to face what I was doing to myself. I have realized, however, through the weight loss and developing a healthier lifestyle that I had to face how I was treating my body and how I was treating my body left undesirable consequences. They say ignorance is bliss, but just because you think you’re smaller than you are doesn’t mean that you are. I guess I am saying I was in denial about more than just my size. Hope that makes sense.

    Thanks again for all you do!

    Christine

    July 15, 2011

    When you were talking about losing the last 10 lbs, I was wondering if maybe that will happen when you stop nursing? Seems to makes sense that some of the extra weight could be from the milk production, and I have heard others say they lose some once they stop. Just a thought, and might keep you from having to go back to the weight loss mode since you seem to be really enjoying the intuitive eating mode.

    Brandi

    July 15, 2011

    Thanks Roni!! Ray and I both watched the video and enjoyed the advice. It seems like each of the kiddos responds differently to certain ‘techniques’. The oldest LOVES to be involved in the cooking so we’ve been noticing she enjoys eating the things we serve more and more. The middle child…well, she is just one of those kids that eats about one bite of everything and would rather it be the same thing at every meal. So we’re working on the whole ‘one bite’ rule.

    The youngest, oh goodness. One day he likes something, the next day he hates it. Mostly I think he hates having to sit down and eat vs. playing with the neighbor kids!!

    But we’re definitely going to take you up on your advice and work on getting them more involved. And I’ll work on making it more of a gradual one part of a meal at a time.

    I also learned recently that the kids LOVE smoothies…so I’m thinking I will be stalking your greenlitebites page for some awesome (and secretly healthy bwahahahah ;)) recipes!

    Thanks again. It was nice to feel a little validated in my thinking that kids of all ages should at least be informed. There are things that are great for growing bodies, and then things that are ‘treats’ that we can’t eat for dinner every day :)

    I appreciate all your advice, your candid attitude, and how wonderful you are for sharing your journey with us all!

    LisaM

    July 15, 2011

    2 cents worth on losing now or just maintaining – I found I was at a happy, healthy setpoint of +10 lb until I stopped nursing. I really think that extra thickness all over is needed to fuel your bod for the milk production. So don’t worry about it now. But in your future life (post-Bean-wean), I recommend if you find yourself plus 10 lb or so, go back to active point counting before your bod gets adjusted to a new setpoint. I’ve done this for the past decade (go by my healthy eating gut instincts most of the time, but devote a few months to really counting if the scales go to the +10 lb mark). It’s worked great for me. Hey, and it took a while, but my last stint of losing was with the new points plan, and I finally figured out what makes it work for me!

    Great video. I second what others have said – I love the purple shirt you’re wearing. As far as the belly post pregnancy and tummy tuck, I think you look great! I am so, so hoping that I don’t have major excess skin problems when I get to my goal weight. I think you can definitely have reverse body image issues. It is really funny how your perspective change over time. In high school, I thought I was so fat at 150lbs. Now, I look back and admire how skinny I was! I definitely saw myself as a lot larger than I was. However, currently, I think I’m having the opposite problem and thinking I’m skinnier than I am. Weird how all that works.

    kanga

    July 15, 2011

    Not on subject, but I love your lipstick color,what is it?I am always looking for that perfect natural looking color.

    Kristi

    July 15, 2011

    Roni, I’ve been following you for years – the body image issue really struck home for me today. Thank you for your time and effort and your REAL self.

    I’ve been up and down on the scale and i’ve been at both ends of the image spectrum. When i was smaller I saw myself as bigger, but now that I’ve gained the weight I lost, I see myself as smaller. When I’m eating better and really focussing on fitness i feel so good that i forget how big i really am. I think that has it’s pluses and minuses. We’ve had several functions this year that required photo ops and though i’m at my heaviest weight ever (after like i said being up and down – though never “thin”) i “feel” really good right now. i’ve been in tears several times after seeing the photos because it’s not “me” – the image i have in my head. Now, don’t get my wrong I’m very conscious about how i dress so it’s not like i’m falling out all over, but it’s so depressing to see yourself “looking pretty good” in the mirror and have this seemingly horrible image stare at you off the page. On the reverse of that, when i was thinner I never saw/felt that way and i couldn’t take compliments well and i always felt fat – now i look back and can’t wait to get there again.

    Love all the tummy tuck info you’ve provided over the years – that’s my all time reward definitely. I’ve had that “skin” since i was in high school and if i would’ve had it removed then i don’t know that my weight issues would be as out of control as they are now. It’s just how my body was and it was ‘fat’ to me… lookin forward to the next 37 years as a healthier person in many ways. Thanks for everything!

    Suzie

    July 15, 2011

    Thanks for another great video! The discussion of body image really hits home for me. I find myself feeling and thinking that I am smaller than I really am and then when I step on the scale I’m just shocked at how high the numbers are. I also get quite a shock when I look at pictures of myself, sometimes I hardly recognize myself because I look so big. It’s such a strange feeling. I’d love to get to a point where I can see myself just as I am.

    Tiffany @ Turbo Fire

    July 15, 2011

    After having 3 kids and fluctuating up and down over 60 pounds for the past 7 years, my stomach has seen better days. Even though I still have about 40 pounds to lose to grt to my goal my stomach skin is already hanging. It actually got worse after my C-section & I really think that had a big part in it as well. We plan on having another kid but after that I am definitely rewarding myself with a tummy tuck! Thanks for all the info on your personal TT journery.

    Mindy

    July 15, 2011

    Great podcast! You look really beautiful :) Thanks for the info on the tummy tuck, I was curious myself!

    Amber

    July 15, 2011

    I have been waiting for this post tt/baby since you had Evan! I had a tt in May 2010 and had a surprise + in November!!! I’m due in 2 weeks and have gained 24 lbs so far. No new stretch marks yet so I hope to stay that way. Funny I was scheduling a revision anyway since my scar was too high and had a big lump over it on one side. Yuck, I should still get the revision but whatever…our sweet surprise is more than worth it :)))

    erica bullo

    July 16, 2011

    what a great post! I used to think i looked fatter than i was. But then when i really gained weight as in 30lbs over my ideal weight I couldn’t see. They were only large numbers on the scale. I just didn’t think there was that big of a difference between 150 and 165. BUT then I had to go buy new clothes because nothing fit. Size 12. Now that freaked me out. My ideal weight size clothes are between a 6 and an 8. Until law school and turning 40 I was between a 6 and an 8. So, I rejoined weight watchers and now have gotten my booty in gear. I’m off to do a body pump class. have a great day everyone! Thanks again Roni.

    Excellent podcast, Roni! I agree–you look absolutely fantastic! I’m 27 and have never had kids, and I’d definitely be proud to rock your stomach in a two piece!

    The question about “reverse body image” really hit home for me. I know you said you’d rather have that problem than constantly thinking you’re bigger, but I have to say it can be really hard to be in this position. You walk around each day thinking you look good, feeling active and healthy. Then you see a picture of yourself that completely stabs you in the heart, or you go to the doctor and try to contain your tears when the scale is 15 pounds higher than you were expecting. Obviously there is no “ideal balance” for body image issues–wouldn’t it be wonderful if they didn’t exist? But I think reverse image people can sometimes have a much harder time getting the weight off, because if they fall off the wagon they think “Oh well, I gave it a try. I look pretty good,” when they’re still 50+ pounds overweight.

    roni

    July 27, 2011

    Kanga – the lip color is actually a liner just with gloss. It’s so old I can’t even read the brand! Sorry. :(

    Jen

    August 9, 2011

    Hi Roni! Oh my gosh – I am so behind on my blogroll! I just noticed you answered my (and about 15 others!) question – thank you so much for sharing!

    oeishka

    September 9, 2011

    I could say the exact same thing on body image as you…word for word.

    Shannon

    September 4, 2012

    Hi Roni! I know this is old and I hope you get this! Your scars look great! Especially your belly button!! I have been a follower off and on for years… way back before you changed the name of your blog and added the food portion! I lost 70 pounds myself and treated myself to a BR and TT 9 months ago. I was curious to know if you used anything to help your scars!? Esp your belly button. Mine is pretty red still and I’d love to help it look less noticeable. ;-) Thanks for any help! Hope you get this!

    roni

    September 4, 2012

    I got it! I didn’t really use anything special. Maybe some cocoa butter but not consistently. Time really does help. My belly button healed up nicely with no help and even the incision is pretty light now. It gets better with time. I promise. :)

    Shannon

    September 4, 2012

    Thanks!!! It gives me hope! ;-)