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Bathing Suit Inspiration

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I received two message today within hours. Both made me cry. I need to share them…

First one from Caroline who submitted a comment via my Ask Roni Form…

I don’t have a question but rather want to say thank you.  About a year ago you wrote a post about wearing bathing suits in public regardless of what we look like and how by not doing so we are loosing out on memories with our children.  It was something to that effect.  Your post really got me thinking.  I haven’t worn a suit in public in years and always find reasons not to go swimming when we go to parties.  My weight is not so much the issue but I have struggled with acne for the last 10 years and am not terribly happy with the condition of my skin.  I wasn’t able to muster up the courage last summer but I finally did it.  A couple weeks ago my husband and I took our kids to the water park and this past weekend I went to a swimming birthday party and actually got in the pool.  My kids had a blast both times, and so did I.  I was a little hesitant at first but after a few minutes I didn’t care anymore because I was having so much fun.  And really, I don’t care what anyone has to say anyway.  The most important part is that I am creating lifelong memories with my children.  So from the bottom of my heart, thank you for helping me get past my fear of wearing a bathing suit in public.   I find your blog truly inspiring.

Then a few hours later Christina left this comment on my Thank You post

Roni, I owe you big time! I brought my two little ones to a water park recently. And I walked around the park in just my swimsuit, drenched from the rides and having fun. This was a huge huge step for me. I remembered your philosophy of acceptance and living life now–not when you are “x” pounds thinner. I had a blast with the kids and while I can’t say I was 100% comfortable without more coverage, I was so happy I was enjoying the day, that my kids saw Mom having fun (not just Dad doing the fun stuff). Honestly without you, I probably would have stayed off all the rides merely because of the bathing suit. So a huge thank you to you!!

I cannot express how HAPPY this makes me. For so long I was that person not having fun doing the things I wanted to be doing because I was “too fat.”

I cannot stress enough that I didn’t lose the weight and then gain the confidence to live the life I wanted to live. I learned and worked at the confidence (still am) and that helped me on the weight loss front.

Love and enjoy the body you are in now. There’s nothing wrong with you! That doesn’t mean you can’t work towards something but don’t wait for that something to happen. Life is too short.

Click here for all the posts I mention “bathing suit”. Most of them I make a mention to my fear. There’s 22 posts. It really is something I truly struggled with.



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    Roz

    June 15, 2011

    Love the “love the body you are in now”. Those are certainly words to live by. Thanks for your inspiration and motivation Roni!!!!

    Deb Cadovius

    June 15, 2011

    This post changed my life, too. I lived in Hawaii for two years and was so hesitant about getting out in the ocean/pool/water park with my two boys. Then I read your post about just enjoying life NOW no matter what size your bathing suit is. Now, I jump at the chance to play with my precious boys and they certainly don’t care how big/small I am. They just want to play with their Mommy….and goodness knows, THAT won’t last forever! :-) You are amazing!

    Amy @ FitMommas

    June 15, 2011

    A few years ago, I finally embraced my big, cottage cheese butt, put on a swimsuit and learned to have fun with my kids in the summer! I didn’t go to a water park during my entire twenties. (When I was smaller than I am now! LOL!) I have always been so self conscious of my butt, hips and thighs. Even when I was 123 pounds, and at my fittest, I was still a size 8 to accommodate all the junk in my trunk. To think of all those years of fun I missed because I was too embarrassed of the body that God gave me!

    Great post, we all need to be reminded to live our lives now, not later!

    Nikki

    June 15, 2011

    Love it! Thanks! One of my goals was to lose some weight so I’d feel good bringing my 3 year old to the pool/beach this summer, but really it doesn’t matter what I look like. It matters that we are having fun together!

    Charly

    June 15, 2011

    I recently lost 42lbs and vowed to proudly sport a bikini all summer long….then I got pregnant! I thought all my bikini dreams for the summer were crushed-then I realized-You worked hard to get this body so what if you are pregnant! So I am going to sport my pregnant belly in my bikini all summer.

    Stacey P.

    June 15, 2011

    Wow I’m glad I read this today. I struggle to be comfortable in my bathing suit after losing the weight I have. Only because of the loose skin I have, the wings I have under my arms. I usually wear a shirt over my bathing suit for this reason. This last Sunday we had a bbq/pool party at a friends house and decided to not wear the shirt over and I had a blast. I’m trying to come to love my new body, loose skin and all.

    girliefriend

    June 15, 2011

    Congrats on the article about you on health.com! Well deserved Roni!

    Lay Down My Idols

    June 15, 2011

    This is really important, and I DO agree, but I also go through the hesitation every year. My mom was a “side-line mom” and I vowed never to be that myself, but I do have the tendency, all because of my body/shape. Ugh.
    Thanks for this post! Great reminder!
    Dawn

    Paula

    June 15, 2011

    I have followed your thoughts on this. For so long I was that person not having fun doing the things I wanted to be doing because I was “too fat.”
    I am sorry that it took me so long(too long) but now I go swimming or wear shorts. I wish I had started to like life and me sooner. Thanks for repeating this, as I’ve been feeling so down on myself lately.

    TB-Milwaukee

    June 16, 2011

    It’s the same for all of us…even us guys! I don’t particularly care to wear a swimsuit, but I do it to create those lifelong memories. Just don’t allow any pictures…

    Amanda

    June 16, 2011

    What great reminders! This makes me remember that I had a similar response to your post about wearing a swimming suit and enjoying a good time regardless of my flawed body image. Last summer I attended a large group gathering – a group of my peers (not strangers) – that included lake time with my kids. I was determined to enjoy that time with them regardless of my own body issues. So, I did it anyway – had fun in spite of my body image.
    Thanks for this reminder as we enter a new season of bathing suit weather – and I am not in as good of shape as I was last summer.