One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Ask Roni _v48 – Social Drinking and Weight Loss, Working out Pre-Work, Taking the Weekends Off, Eating healthy on a tight budget, Starting with Motivation

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Time got away from me today but I got my podcast up! I give myself a midnight deadline. It keeps me honest. :)

As you may notice I’m now on YouTube!! YAY! They have finally approved me to have longer videos. This means no more markers for each question HOWEVER, next to each topic will be a link to jump right to that question on youtube if you don’t have time to watch the whole thing. That’s a good compromise, no? :)

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    January 8, 2011

    so glad we went organic… real food tastes better.


    January 8, 2011

    OMG. Roni, I’m skinny now and lifting the weights and all that jazz… but that last question’s answer really got me. I’m not done with this journey. My motivation really needs to… I don’t know how to say it… finds its battery inside myself, not from the mirror’s feedback.
    Amazing how one can meet weigth loss goals, but still not having taking the big steps in your mind.

    Once again, amazing podcast. Goddess.


    January 8, 2011

    That last questions answer really spoke to me – my motivation has been OUT the window and I have lost all mojo since the beginning of December. I have lost 50 lbs this past year but gained between 10-12 in the past month. I have been in a bad place with the entire thing lately and I needed that last question. I need to quit looking at the big picture – quit looking at where I should be right now and start back at the basics. Smaller goals and just keep going.


    January 8, 2011

    Roni – Nice PodCAST! I have to say – the last question by “Kim” could have easily been me – right down to the kids ages and how they have only known her to be overweight.

    I too struggle like many with the “motivation” factor. I am SO hard on myself and am the “all or nothing” person. I set out with the food and exercise plan – and the first time I stumble – which is always within the first week – I QUIT. Simply because I apparently think if I am not doing it perfectly, then I am a failure.

    This “cycle” of attempts has been exhausting! So listening to your suggestions about “cart before the horse” was exactly what my brain needed to hear. I NEVER have tried to “build” a program before. I always throw all my chips in at once and LOSE!

    I think what I like most about what you said was this – “Make that first commitment and then push over that first domino” – what a great visual!

    Dominos…. yup… :O)


    January 8, 2011

    Yay! I can watch this on my iPad. :)


    January 8, 2011

    Awesome! Another benefit of moving to youtube!


    January 8, 2011

    I find that in hindsight now – making one commitment and following through was what I needed to do to find my motivation – I think that’s a key insight!

    What helped me to be motivated and stay that was was making an index card full of all the reasons why I wanted to lose the weight. Like, I want to have fun buying clothes and I don’t want to get diabetes or cancer or heart disease. It was a list of about 25 reasons. I made copies of the card and put them in a few key places. Then I set an alarm on my cell phone to go off twice a day. I read my “reasons for wanting to lose weight” card twice a day. And when I wanted to eat the food that I knew wouldn’t get my to my goal, right in the front of my brain was my reasons. And do you know, it made it a lot easier to stop myself from overeating and binge eating??? Anyway, it wasn’t my original idea. I got it from a book called The Beck Diet Solution. I found that I had all the thoughts and feelings of a fat person and none of a thin person. The book guided me to change my thinking and I was able to lose 50 pounds. What a relief! When I read the comments here on this blog, my heart breaks for everyone! I know the pain. I wish everyone the best in finding their way . . .

    OMG! I just saw that you are the blogger that posted your tummy tuck photos. I saw them 18 months ago when I started this journey and I never forgot your images. Thank you Roni!


    January 8, 2011

    I usually do not comment. You give wonderful advice. I’ve been inspired by you since roni’s weight watchen.

    Cindy Hanson

    January 8, 2011

    Great questions and answers this week! While you’ve talked about journaling before, it didn’t come up this time, so I want to mention that journaling was so vital to my motivation this time! I gave myself permission-at first-to eat whatever, as long as I journaled it. I also journaled any activity and “talked” about it too–if I had a difficult time completing my walk, I noted that down. If it felt like a breeze, I noted that. Soon I became motivated to keep within my calorie budget on most days. I even found it really fun to go back and look over the journal–sometimes I’d jot down food or recipe ideas, and it was nice to have that on hand. I’ve lost 15 lbs since July 1, and I walk/run 3 miles almost every day. I’m most proud of my exercise–even more than the weight loss! It’s so great to look at the journal and see how I progressed.


    January 10, 2011

    I was needing a little motivation this morning. I really appreciated your honest answer to the last question. Going off to read the article you linked to. Thank you!


    January 11, 2011

    Hey! Such good questions… I’ve been thinking about working out before work. I used to do it before high school and loved it, but now my days are longer and more stressful so I am not sure if I’d be ridic tired the rest of the day?

    I brought lunch to work and ended up hating the Healthy Choice I brought (wrote about it on my blog if you’re wondering which one). What do you do if you forget your lunch or don’t like what you brought? I’m trying to get out of the habit of ordering in.


    January 11, 2011

    Alex – Honestly… I order in. I mean you have to eat! But ordering doesn’t have the be the end of the world. Get some steamed chicken and veggie from a chinese place or a salad at fast food. There are good options out there, you just have to get in the mindset of not using your forgotten lunch as a reason to go crazy! Make a smart choice and pack something better tomorrow!


    January 11, 2011

    Thank you for answering my question! I am not a weight watchers girl, I have and always will be a calorie counter. But it’s the same concept of deciding to spend your calories on alcohol or not. Great way of thinking about it!

    and woohoo about youtube! now i can watch them on my iphone : )

    keep up the strong work Roni!


    January 11, 2011

    Roni I love your podcasts and listen to them in the car on the way to work. Today this one had me in tears where you talked about your Dad and the full circle coming round to you having your Son and only THEN could all your weight loss efforts really take effect. This was like an epiphany to me. I’m 41 now and have finally lost my 66 pounds of excess weight and am maintaining by eating healthily, but I think the reason I could finally get started and keep at it was because I made peace with myself and decided I WAS good enough, and I needed to please nobody but myself. It’s a long slow mental process but SO worth it. Thank you for your honesty!


    January 11, 2011

    My “first step”, in reference to the motivation thing, was to commit to not snacking between dinner and bed. So far, I’ve been doing well. I make sure I have a healthy, filling dinner before 7:00 and then I brush my teeth and I stay away from the kitchen as much as I can.