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Blog Guilt. Do you have it?

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Blog Guilt. Do you have it?

A few weeks ago I had a great conversation with a fellow blogger about blog reading. This particular blogger reads a LOT of blogs and leaves a lot of comments. I do not. I try, believe me, but I ditched my reader years ago when I couldn’t keep up. Even my blog roll is gone the way of the dodo as it became unruly and unmanageable.

Now my approach is to keep up with bloggers through social media channels (twitter and facebook) the best I can. There are about 10 blogs I peek in on regularly and when things catch my eye on "the stream" I’ll go check it out. I used to feel guilty about my laissez-faire approach to blog reading but no more.

I may get crucified for this point of view but, I have 5 active online "properties" that I am the sole force behind. Up until August this year I had a full time job on top of them. I plan an annual conference. Have a 5 year old in kindergarten, another on the way and a Husband whom I actually like to spend time with. Now I even freelance write for other sites and oh! there are times I like to NOT be on a computer.

Simply said, I do the best I can. It’s just gonna have to be good enough.

This new guilt free approach is new to me. Guilt and I have quit a history. I did go to Catholic school after all. ;) But as I age and life piles on more and more responsibilities there is only but so much you can do in a 24 hour period. There are only so many emails you can send, blog posts you can read and comments you can leave.

It is nearly impossible to keep up with everything and everyone. Much like my diet, I have thrown perfection out the window. I am an imperfect blogger. My highest priority is my family, then my business (managing my own blogs) then if there is time remaining I will do my best to read as many blogs as I can and stay active in the online community that I so much love being apart of.

Selfish? Maybe. But I refuse to be guilty about it. Are you? Or maybe you are able to keep up? I’m curious. What’s your approach to staying active in the blog community?



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Discussion

There are 12 comments so far.

    CJ

    December 1, 2010

    I read alot of blogs but tend not to comment that often.

    I actually have 242 blogs in my reader and it got to a point where keeping up was stressing me out. Ridiculous right?

    A couple of weeks ago I started putting them in folders. Now I know I can read all my favourites, or just flick through the cooking/recipe ones quickly and those ones in ‘The Dangerzone’ I can flick to occasionally if I get a chance.

    I don’t know why I feel obligated to catch up on people’s lives once they’re in my reader, but this way makes me feel way less guilty about letting them slide through unread! And I only read the ones that I’m actually excited to read…which surely is what it’s all about!

    – CJ

    Carrie

    December 1, 2010

    Ha! I have catholic guilt too! That part made me chuckle as I say that all the time!

    I am just starting and feeling my way through this while blogging thing. I am with you though. Doing what I can and it will be what it will be. Now if I can move that to my diet that would be progress!

    Melissa (Lissa)

    December 2, 2010

    I used to comment on soooo many blogs but now I just don’t have time for it, either. I still read a ton of them, but skim through most of them (esp the food bloggers who take 12 photos of the same bowl of salad or oatmeal!) and only comment if it’s something really, really relevant. I think it ebbs and flows and like you, I keep up with the people I truly care about via social channels.

    Shira

    December 2, 2010

    Roni, as a nice Jewish girl, I was feeling some guilt about this same issue. :) I read and follow a lot of wonderful blogs, but basically just have time to comment on five or six that really intrigue me each week. Am looking forward to meeting and interacting in person with some of those great people at your conference in May.

    NYCPatty

    December 2, 2010

    Well, let me tell you this…the perception is very different from my point of view. You do a great job of keeping up with people! I have always wondered how you did it ALL!

    I’m right there with you…I read/comment alot but there are still times I go through my Google reader, read one post/comment – the one that grabs me by the title and mark the others as read. There is no way to read everything. My blog is still small so when a new comment from someone I don’t know pops up, I visit their blog, check it out, and say thank you.

    Twitter & Facebook are a godsent. (I’m loving FB so much more since I followed your advice to set up a Fan Page…so thank you!)

    No guilt here on my part either…you taught me to do what I can as far as weight loss and it applies to life as well. I’m less stressed living that way.

    ernise

    December 2, 2010

    I read WAYYYYY more than I comment, so I understand your guilt. I recently streamlined google reader, and I still feel it is out of control. One can only do so much, and that’s what you do! So be it.

    I read a lot of blogs and try to comment as often as I can my blog is not big at all, and I’d like more readers – so I whore myself out by commenting in hopes that someone will stop by! HA!

    Caroline Calcote

    December 2, 2010

    I agree with you. You just do the best you can, try to be a good person, and live your life. I can’t keep up and I’m not managing five on-line properties :) I still use my reader, but no longer care that there are a million unread posts on it. I think you do an amazing job connecting with people.

    steph k

    December 3, 2010

    I’m like you… And I don’t have nearly as much going on as you do!

    An Authentic Life

    December 3, 2010

    Tis the season, so much vying for our time. Yet, late at night, when sleep avoids me, I read blogs and comment…
    I love that I am not alone in my Catholic guilt. Let it go sister, let it go!

    KT

    Alison Golden

    December 3, 2010

    When people comment on my blog, I go over there and comment on theirs. I may subscribe if they make it easy. I have built up some good relationships.

    I run down my FB and Twitter streams for 15 minutes apiece a couple times a week and comment on blogs posted there too. Just like with this one, actually :)

    We do what we can. I was exhausted reading your list of commitments!

    Tim Wilson

    December 8, 2010

    Crazy, I was just talking about this yesterday. I don’t read or comment on others blogs nearly as much as I expect others to do for mine. I know that is the wrong attitude to have but I just don’t have time to keep up with it all while trying to have a life outside of the virtual world.

    I go through times and get better, but ultimatly settle in on just a few favorites.

    I even have trouble keeping up with Facebook and especially Twitter.