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Ask Roni _v45 Breakfast on the Go Ideas, Adjusting to Eating Less, How I Met the Husband, Drinking Soft Drinks, Fairness of Weight Loss

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Running a little late but I made it with an hour to spare. :)

Topics in this video include…

  • Ideas for Breakfasts on the Go
  • Adjusting to Eating Less
  • How I met the Husband
  • Do I drink Soft Drinks?
  • Fairness of Weight Loss


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There are 17 comments so far.

    Kerry

    December 4, 2010

    Great podcast! I listened this morning while pulling myself together for the day.

    My favorite breakfasts on the go:
    1/2 peanut butter sandwich on whole wheat with a piece of fruit, usually joined by a latte
    Overnight oats (Mix oats, milk, maybe fruit in a Tupperware before you go to bed, putin fridge, and take it with you in the AM)
    Quiche muffins

    The piece about grazing was interesting. For me, it was the opposite. I learned that what worked best was 3 decent sized meals and 1 small snack, with my calories (or points) more concentrated in the first half of the day. Eating like that kept me on track and feeling better than multiple small snacks. It’s different for everyone of course!

    Mary Nell

    December 4, 2010

    Roni,
    You have officially made me a fan of podcasts :). It is amazing how I feel like you are one of my girlfriends when you don’t even know me! Here are a few thoughts from your post today:

    –My breakfast is always on the go so thanks for the new ideas!
    –I do think your body adjusts to eating less. When I look at the portion size that satisfied me a year ago and what satisfies me now, it is different. I can definitely relate to the feeling of “too full” that you talk about if I do push past my limit.
    –You are definitely right about finding a guy; I was 26 (about to turn 27) when I met my husband. I had decided I should “take advantage” of being single and think about “what could I do single that I wouldn’t be able to do married?” Now, I realize it isn’t really so much what you can’t do married, but what ties come with kids. For example, we don’t travel nearly as much due to money, but also due to it being more complicated to work out with children. So, I was SO busy with activities–going to the gym, volunteering in the community, etc. I also decided unless a guy asked me to see only him, I wouldn’t. I dated multiple people for the first time ever. This made me busy enough that my husband had to “pursue” me. We married Nov. 29 when I was 29 so we have been married 7 years now and have two beautiful girls.
    –Soft drinks–I do LOVE Dr. Pepper and sweet tea. Being a southern girl, it is really hard to give up the sweet tea! So, I drink water except for my lunch and sometimes dinner where I have ONE glass of sweet tea. If I am craving a Dr. Pepper, I will have PART of one, just to satisfy the craving. I decided when I was losing this weight that it would be a lifestyle that I can maintain forever. And part of that has been that if I’m really craving ice cream, I have a small scoop. Fortunately, I’m not a person that the small scoop will lead to the whole carton. I have friends who are. But for me, satisfying the craving without going overboard and even just knowing I will allow myself to do so, makes me drink less that I would otherwise and doesn’t make me feel deprived.
    –On the last point, I think you are right; we can’t compare. My friend is 5’6″ and her weight goes to her hips; I’m 5’2″ and my weight goes to my tummy. I can bemoan that or get over it. I also do think that you have to find a system that works forever. That is actually why I didn’t do “a program” or a diet this year. I have lost weight much slower. Since January, I’ve lost 23 pounds and I’m almost to my goal. But my plan was to make small changes that I could maintain forever. And as I get healthier and stronger, there is a greater desire to make bigger changes.

    Thanks again for the inspiration on living a healthy lifestyle, Roni. You are AWESOME!

    laurie

    December 4, 2010

    I really can relate to the last question about the fairness of weight loss. I have definitely felt that feeling of “why do I have to do all of this stuff (exercise, watch what I eat, etc) every day just to be thin when others seem to be thin without any effort?.” One day I had an epiphany which has really helped me with this question. My husband and I were on a scuba diving trip and spent a week with several couples on a dive boat. There was a woman in her 50’s that was so fit and healthy looking so I asked her husband when her habits were. He told me that she was an extremely healthy, careful eater and she worked out every day. The light bulb just went on that she was doing the things which created the healthy, thin body she had. It wasn’t luck or magic but consistent daily habits which created results. I have since learned that most fit people (I’m sure there are rare exceptions) exercise and eat right. They have to work at it, especially as they get older. When I exercise and eat right, I am a fit person as well. I’m 5’4″ and I weigh between 115-120 lbs. Sometimes people say to me, “Oh, you are just naturally thin and you don’t understand because you can just eat anything you want and you don’t gain weight”. That is totally NOT true! I have to work hard every day – exercise and count calories. If I actually ate whatever I wanted without control and if I never exercised, I would gain weight. I can complain that it isn’t fair that I have to work hard to be healthy but I’ve learned it isn’t about fairness, it’s about math!

    Jackie

    December 4, 2010

    I just had to leave this recipe because I just discovered the BEST breakfast on the go. Anyone who likes oatmeal but doesn’t have a microwave available in the morning at work, or doesn’t want to carry a bowl around all day-here’s a recipe I found for portable oatmeal that is seriously delicious, handheld, and really hits the spot in the morning. It’s filling and you can eat it just like a granola bar, but it has the texture of oatmeal instead of the crunchiness of a granola bar. The best part is you make a whole batch, freeze them, then pop one in the fridge each night for the next morning! Couldn’t be easier or more convenient.

    http://www.thekitchn.com/thekitchn/recipe-review/makeahead-breakfast-recipe-review-oat-clafoutis-082596

    Paige

    December 4, 2010

    I totally agree with your advice about getting used to eating less. I have been there, and I think your technique of eating small amounts all day is really useful.

    I just wanted to add the little tweak in thinking that allowed me to use that advice. I’d heard about eating small meals before and that didn’t work for me. What worked for me was “eating at 3 and stopping at 7”, a la Geneen Roth (yes, I’m bringing her up!). So when I rated my hunger between 1 and 10, with 1 being the absolute most hungry I had ever been and 10 being the fullest (and she gives a better explanation o each step, describing various rumbles and growls, etc.), then ate as soon as I got down to a 3 BUT stopped when I got to a 7 (which is content, not stuffed, content), I found myself both eating less and being happy about it.

    This scared the heck out of me at first. I found myself hungry (3) a lot! But what I didn’t expect was that it didn’t take very much food to get me back to a 7. Yes, me, the 8-year compulsive overeater with major food shortage issues. Knowing that I would feed my body if it was hungry was like a cozy little hammock for all of my food insanities. So I wind up eating basically just like Roni is advising, but I look at it in a slightly different way. I don’t have a point or calorie limit for myself. I just eat at 3 and stop at 7. This means I’m eating much more often than I was before, and when I sit down with my fiance for lunch or dinner, I can only eat about half of my normal portion before I’m full. But I know that if I’m still hungry an hour later, I can take that half-finished meal out of the fridge and eat a few more bites, so I don’t HAVE to finish it.

    Tami@nutmegnotebook

    December 4, 2010

    Love your podcasts. You have lots of good ideas! For breakfast on the run you can also make your own egg muffin sandwiches with egg whites, low fat cheese, canadian bacon and whole wheat english muffins, make it ahead the night before. I happen to like a half sandwich sometimes for breakfast. Make a roll up with some lean turkey and laughing cow cheese on a wheat tortilla or use hummus and a laughing cow cheese wedge.

    As far as life not being fair that we have weight issues, I went through that phase too. I finally had to embrace the positive side of that and think about how great it is that my weight “issue” has a solution. In the beginning the counting and thinking about food seems to take over your life. Eventually though it all evens out and becomes easier. Eating healthy is one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves.

    Nikki

    December 4, 2010

    Another fast breakfast choice is Mini-Frittatas, like these:

    SouthWest Mini-Frittatas

    Egg Beaters Southwestern, 1.75 cup (1 small carton)
    Beans, black, 1 cup (cooked, no salt added)
    Diced tomatoes & Green Chillis Rotel, 10oz can
    Egg, fresh, 2 large
    American Cheese, 2 oz

    Preheat oven to 350. Mix all ingredients together except cheese. Pour or spoon into 12 regular sized muffin cups sprayed with non-stick cooking spray. Bake for about 30 min. or until set. Place cheese on top of each muffin and put back in oven until cheese is melted. Eat immediately or freeze muffins. To reheat: place on a microwaveable plate and microwave on high for 1 minute 30 seconds to 2 minutes on high, depending on your microwave. 1 serving = 2 muffins. 141.6 calories, 4.8 g fat, 10 g. carbs, 3 g. fiber and 12.6 g. protein. (3.23 NWWP, 2.6 OWWP)
    Variations, of course, are endless!

    Christine

    December 4, 2010

    Great podcast! I have 2 comments:

    I was not able to get myself out there and meet men until I lost my weight. I had to lose the weight in order to have confidence in myself in that department. Ironically I ended up married to a man who liked me when I was big but I never would have taken the risk to see if he was interested in me if I had not lost the weight.

    Fairness of weight loss…its not fair, but everyone has a burden in life. This is my burden and it stinks but I am grateful it is something I can control. My sister’s burden is that she can’t conceive a child, very devastating and not something she can fix. I have embraced this about myself and am determined to make the best of it.

    christina

    December 4, 2010

    I think this is one of your best pod cast… very informative and relevent and gave me some food for thought.

    Very much like the quote you gave about if thinking the grass is greener then time to water your lawn…. it spoke to me!

    Lindsay

    December 5, 2010

    I truely believe your body adjusts to the amount of food you need to consume. It took me quite awhile to adjust to this and “listen to my body”. I lost close to 100 pounds and at first it was hard and my stomach would kill me being so stuffed. I learned to listen to my body and what foods and amount I could eat without feeling stuffed. It was bad…I would eat and be almost unable to move….uncomfortable to the max. It’s been a couple years now and I eat a LOT less and feel great. It was just a matter of time.

    I can also relate to the boyfriend thing. Losing weight isn’t the answer though. It’s a matter of changing your thoughts about yourself. Been there, in fact, still am and looking back, it really doesn’t have all that much to do with being overweight. It’s in your head.

    PJ

    December 6, 2010

    Whole wheat toasted pita with fresh mozzarella….yum.

    Laura

    December 6, 2010

    Hi Roni,
    I loved the bit about adjusting to eating less. I notice now, after observing how much I actually eat (mind you I haven’t lost much weight, but really need to), that my portion sizes were HUGE!!! I eat less now, and I don’t feel guilty about leaving food on my plate. It’s ok to leave food. It’s good to leave food! This was such a problem for me (and still is at times). I remember my grand mother saying “better belly bust than good food go to waste”. What a lie. It goes to your waist, and that is the true waste. I also find it helps to observe (not copy) other people’s eating habits. My best friend has always been slim, and I know now that she maintains that by not stuffing her face and feeling sick at the end of a meal.
    I have a great, yummy breakfast idea too! Half a wholemeal English muffin, toasted with a thin scraping of strawberry jam, a couple of teaspoons of light Greek yogurt and frozen berries on top. It’s fairly easy and tends to fill me up for the morning.
    On the boyfriend thing – I spent the majority of my teenage years envying my friends because they had boyfriends when I didn’t. I then met my lovely boyfriend when I was 18 and have been with him for five years now. I know I am still young, but it will happen when you aren’t looking. One day you will look up and realise that the really cute guy on the train or behind the counter at the coffee shop is actually flirting with you. And he is smokin’ hot and totally interested in you. And you might very well be 30kg overweight. But he doesn’t care, cause he thinks you’re cute. And you are. You just can’t see it yet. For all my envy when I was younger, I’m the only one out of all my friends that is in a long term relationship. And I’m more than 30kg overweight :)
    Take heart, it will happen. One day when you’re not looking.

    NYCPatty

    December 6, 2010

    Thank you for the breakfast idea! I think I will try to make the oatmeal muffins!
    I’m a grazer! Totally, I could eat all day long. I just love food. I think your website has helped me see that is OK as long as I change my eating habits. With the new WW plan its even easier!

    I would love insights on “attracting a man” my issue is that I’ve gotten hurts so much in the past I’ve almost shut down on this aspect of my life. I’m in my 30s and I do want to get married and have kids. I just feel stuck and lost. Could the weight have been an issue? I don’t really know. Maybe it attributes to my shyness. I’ve always loved myself no matter what. I guess for me its a trust issue. But it would be a great issue to write about!

    I got over the not being fair food thing. It’s finally worth it enough for me to count points, choose better snacks, exercise etc! I think it takes time for everyone to get there.

    Great podcast! You always make my Monday mornings (thats when I listen) cheerful! Gotta have my “Roni dosage”!

    Skinny Sushi

    December 6, 2010

    Yay, there’s my question! I *think* it’s the last one. Thank you so much for the brilliant response.

    LG

    December 7, 2010

    I liked your answer to the question about hunger because I TOTALLY do the same thing with my “lunch” – I bring lots of snacks and maybe some leftovers, plus have nuts, oatmeal and peanutbutter/rice cakes and fruit at my desk in case hunger strikes. After a history of disordered eating, I’ve been able to maintain my weight of 130# at 5’7″ since high school 12 years ago, which I can’t say I’m unhappy about.

    Patty

    December 7, 2010

    Yes Roni I so agree with you. I use weight watchers as a tool. Just like when you need to make repairs around the house and you get your toolbox out, I use weight watchers when I need to “fix up” my “house”. I’ve been on and off, and a lifer since the early ’90s. There have been times when I didn’t need to be so strict “on program” and then other times when I need those tools.

    Evelyn

    December 7, 2010

    Just a thought. I don’t think the attracting a guy thing is really too much different than your experience with losing weight, Roni. You had to learn to love yourself and your body for what they were and find a different motivation other than “being skinny” to lose the weight. In the case of a relationship most people need to learn to love themselves and feel they are worthwhile without a partner and then find a different reason to be in relationships other than “not being alone” and the doors open up. And I’m pretty sure that you have experienced the same ‘desperate feelings’ but your main struggle was simply the weight and body issues. The parallel just struck me while you were talking about it and I’ve noticed for years that so often those things we are ‘desperate for’ elude us until our focus changes whether that is losing weight, finding a life partner, getting pregnant, or even getting that job, whatever it is that will just magically fix everything is out of our reach until we can change our focus and recognize these things for what they are: all good things but none of them will “fix” all of the things we are hoping they will fix (even if they didn’t elude us).