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Weekend Quote: Life HAS Begun

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How many times have you had the thought…

"When I lose the weight I’ll…"

Boy that was a favorite of mine. I barely SAID it as it as I wouldn’t dare let people know that’s how I felt. It was something that just lived deep inside me.

When I lose the weight I’ll be able to wear that.
When I lose the weight I’ll go to the gym.
When I lose the weight I’ll be more confident.
When I lose the weight I’ll dance at weddings.
When I lose the weight I’ll enjoy myself on the beach.

When I lose the weight my life will REALLY begin.

What a bunch of bull cocky.

For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life.  But there was always some obstacle in the way.  Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.  Then life would begin.  At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.  ~Fr. Alfred D’Souza



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There are 18 comments so far.

    Kimberly

    November 13, 2010

    Great quote. I am slowly learning that this is most certainly true.

    Reinaldo

    November 13, 2010

    I feel like this sometimes, but in a non-weightloss/fitness related way. Weird stuff. I just gotta focus in the fact that I’m living the now, I guess.

    Sarah

    November 13, 2010

    great quote… i do this day. Even today, I’m planning on seeing a friend in January and I’m thinking, at least I’ll have time to lose before I see her. Or I don’t want to do things because I don’t have the right number on the scale. I cancel plans with friend because I feel/look fat. I wish I could change my mindset because every time I look back at pictures… a month ago, a year ago, etc. I’m like, I’m not that bad, why was I beating myself up so badly. Plus, the worst part is my loving husband who loves my at 200 pound or 140 pounds, has to deal with me beating myself up over what I look like on a daily basis, not wanting to go out and meet other couples and just wanting to cry in my closet. I just wish I could get out of this stupid cycle and start living. Okay, sorry… just had to vent.

    Courtney

    November 13, 2010

    ((((Sarah)))) I could have written your every word. Me too, hun, me too…

    roni

    November 13, 2010

    Sarah – Vent away. The more you vent and face the feelings the easier it gets to get over them. Like Courtney, I can totally relate to EVERY word you wrote!

    Jane

    November 13, 2010

    I have had my life on hold for more years than I care to admit. I have been waiting to be thin to do so many things, and the things that I have done have seemed somehow to be less important, less enjoyable because I have participated in a FAT body. So much waste of time and experiences. I’m ready to get on with it. This has been my life, no matter what weight I am at.

    tj

    November 14, 2010

    This makes me sad. I always said that to myself. So many time I did not want to go play golf, kayak, or go for a hike because everyone would be looking at the obese girl. :( Now I can not swing a golf club, paddle a kayak, and have not attempted a hike due to chronic pain in my back. I wish I lived life to the fullest when I had the chance. Never out off tomorrow what you can do today. :)

    tj

    November 14, 2010

    I have tears in my eyes so please excuse my typos! lol sorry!

    Sarah

    November 14, 2010

    Jane, you are writing my story! TJ, I totally understand the tears and typos, it gets too emotional to proofread!

    Lisa

    November 14, 2010

    I struggle with this so much…I DID lose the weight and yet I feel like so much about my life is on hold. I have no idea what I’m waiting for….

    Robyn @ New Every Morning

    November 14, 2010

    There’s a song that reminds me of what you’re saying. Here’s a youtube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4tcRlHY-3Q

    It really saddens me to think of all the time I’ve wasted, “waiting for my real life to begin”. I’m turning 30 in approximately 5 months. It’s really hitting home that I have to enjoy my life as it comes, and not let year after year pass by without taking action and making the most of it.

    RG

    November 14, 2010

    Wow. It’s so hard to sort this stuff out. Because, on the one hand, yes live now. On the other hand, the holiday season and parties and yummy foods – will always be there. There are seasons to life, whether it’s school, or young babies, or a growth period in your career, there are times when it’s important to buckle down, focus, and finish the job. And when going out with other people in a high-calorie setting will impede progress. Life is not either-or, but… For me, and your mileage will vary, ultimately it meant finding new friends, who wanted to do fun things that involved exercise or culture instead of food and alcohol. As I got older, going out with friends meant better restaurants and less fries-and-beer, but still…

    Dot

    November 14, 2010

    Guilty of thinking all of those things and NOT saying them outloud. Now that i’m 36 and finally on my way to losing the weight my thoughts are i’m TOO OLD to wear that and so on. Geesh!

    Karen @ Happy Carrots

    November 14, 2010

    YES! My life exactly.

    For me the kicker is being married to a man who is tall and thin and gorgeous. Not ‘dude’s got muscles from living at the gym’ thin but THIN as in ‘my metabolism lets me demolish any food known to man and not gain a pound’ . And is the weight *I* want to be, LOL.

    I’m not in the least bit interested in losing weight and getting healthy in order to plump up his ego – and he’s not at ALL like that anyway – but dang, it plays on my mind an awful lot that I’ve gained 2 kg (4.5 lbs) for each and every year I’ve known him. While he has stayed the same. With zero effort. I know, I know – babies, breastfeeding, bellies, boobs – but SHEESH you know? LOL.

    (Roni, linked to your post today. New weight loss blogger. Scared. HALP!)

    Cat

    November 15, 2010

    Awesome thought and quote. I truly need to embrace this…

    Tina

    November 15, 2010

    I’m guilty of saying all those things and I’m disappointed in myself that I made that quote come true.. for me. I lost 40 pounds on WW and looked fantastic and became physically active and wore bathing suits and was up for any adventure (the total opposite of who I was before). I put the weight back on three years later and have now slinked back to the way I was before…. staying in, shying away from all the things I love. Thanks for sharing this quote… reading all the comments above from other readers is sometimes like reading chicken soup for the soul. :)

    Carrie

    November 15, 2010

    Wow! That is htting the nail on the head and how I have been feeling for a while. I especially notice this with my kids – things holding me back. They are getting older and I want to be involved and keep close with them. Going to copy and paste this quote so I can remember that!

    Claire

    November 15, 2010

    Totally. I remember vividly remember the pivotal day my eating disorder therapist said to me, “Claire, but don’t you realize, your life is NOW?” Something shifted that day for me forever! To this day when I notice myself getting stuck in the trap of fear or projecting, I remind myself of this memory, and reflect on how much WASTED TIME I spent lamenting on what I wasn’t, rather than embracing what I was.