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Weekend Quote: Watch Your Thoughts

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Close your eyes and imagine you are in a room with all your friends, online and off, family, people who have influenced you, bloggers you follow, everyone. How many of them are people you admire? People you look up to? Are they happy? Healthy?

Do they have habits you wish you could adopt? Are they runners? Are they confident? Do they actively live each day? Go to the gym? Take walks? Plan things? DO things?

What do they talk about? Are they constantly talking about how they look? Stressed about what to eat? Asking if they look fat?

No?

Interesting.

I’m asking these questions to introduce the Weekend Quote. I want you to think about it backwards before soaking it in…

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."
Frank Outlaw

Now let’s turn the quote around to you. What do you think about yourself? Are you constantly putting yourself down? Thinking you’re fat? Calling yourself fat? Not doing things you really want to do because of low self-esteem? Do you feel sorry for yourself? Comfort yourself with food? Wear baggie clothes to hide your body? Make excuses?

I did. Fat thoughts invaded my brain at a young age and I made it a self fulfilling prophecy. I put myself down. Beat myself up. Avoided doing things I wanted to do, things I wanted to wear. All while I looked at my confident friends with envy.

I made excuses for myself…

"I won’t look as good in that dress."
"Of course, she can do that. She’s skinny."
"I’m too fat to wear a bathing suit."
"I can’t run. I’m not a runner."

I can go on and on. Point is YOU define who you are. Fat or skinny is irrelevant. I’ve met insecure skinny girls and confident fat ones. The one thing they have in common is they are what they think they are. You can worry about and focus on your body avoiding things and letting life pass you buy OR you can start to change your thought process. Think confident thoughts. Do things you are afraid to do. Live the life you want to live.

It all starts with how you perceive yourself.



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    Bingo. Thanks for the reminder … I needed it.

    Natasha

    October 9, 2010

    This is spot on Roni. Isn’t it funny how
    Most people who have a weight problem always remember thinking they were
    Fat when they weren’t? Like looking
    Back at a
    Photo you can swear you were unhappy with yourself because you felt
    Fat but in the photo you just look normal- well most
    Of these
    People go on to have a weight problem
    And Gain more Weight. So therefore What they think actually becomes what they are right?

    Kimberly

    October 9, 2010

    Great post! This one is a keeper for me. I am really struggling with this right now. I am doing the work to lose weight and get fit. But I still talk and think about myself as I did when I was at my highest weight. I’ve got people asking my advice on how to do what I’ve done and I am still back in 2007 in my own head and my old weight. Changing how I think about me is tougher than the weight loss at this point.

    Cynthia (It All Changes)

    October 9, 2010

    Thank you for an awesome reminder on a tough day.

    Sam

    October 9, 2010

    Thanks for a great post!
    That’s one of my favorite quotes but I hadn’t read it in a long time…and I’ve never thought of it in terms of my weight…

    Julie - Big Girl Bombshell

    October 9, 2010

    Well said Roni. I have SO many responses running through my head right now that I think if I let myself go my comment would be longer than your post. Suffice it to say, I let myself rest today. I napped. Dreams were like my life passing before my eyes.. How appropriate to read this tonight!

    Piper

    October 9, 2010

    “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

    Good reminder!

    Xenia

    October 10, 2010

    I really needed to read this today. Thanks, Roni.

    My Mom (who is naturally a size 8, with no effort) gave me the best advice ever once “It’s all about the way you think Tonyne, if you think that piece of cake is going to make you gain 5lbs, it’s going to make you gain 5lbs. Enjoy it and let it go.”

    Kind of different topic, but kind of the same. It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up mentally and that will become a negative press on us that will surely set us up to be less than our best self. It’s all about attitude.

    Rebecca

    October 10, 2010

    Sooo true! Thanks for the reminder.

    thetreadmilldiaries

    October 11, 2010

    Great quote & post. We all need a good reality check like this now and again.

    Kim

    October 11, 2010

    So – when I read that, I realized that I did it again… I transformed myself back into the “fat kid on the sidelines of life” – because that is what I have done FOREVER. The funny thing is – all the pictues I have of myself when I thought I was FAT are close to my goal weight that I am trying to get to NOW!

    I have defined myself as FAT and stayed on the sidelines of life from the earliest memory I have… sad. I am 43, and really need to lose 50 pounds – yet when I get 30-40 days into any new routine, the self doubt kicks in and I fade back into the sidelines where I spent my whole life.

    I have become what I always thought I was – the fat kid. I 100% believe if I think STRONG CONFIDENT thoughts – I will move away from the sidelines and join life – for good.

    I started this year on a high – having lost 40 pounds over the holidays and went into the year “wanting to know what I was capable of” – and slowly faded back into the sidelines, put on 20 pounds and convinced myself I wasn’t made of anything…

    THIS is a reminder to take my negative thoughts hostage…

    Thank you Roni – I have been following you for over a year and just adore your spirit…

    Margarita @ Weightless

    October 11, 2010

    Roni, this is an awesome post! I wrote about something similar on Weightless – the idea that thinness equals everything we’ve ever wanted in life. And we feel like we have to wait until we lose weight, become a certain size, look a certain way, to accomplish our goals.

    The things you used to say to yourself I’ve also said many, many times, and I’ve heard others say.

    But your life, how you feel about yourself, how you present yourself really starts with how you see yourself. I love that point!

    I’ve actually never read this quote before (I must be living under a rock), so thank you for sharing it, and giving us sooooo much to think about. :)

    Paula

    October 11, 2010

    You are preaching right to me. OMG, when I read this I thought it could be something I wrote. I am finally getting to a point where I am beginning to feel better about myself, but that old voice in my head reminds me “you’re FAT” ‘”You’re no good” Thanks for posting this one

    Lisa

    October 11, 2010

    I have lost a little weight. I am going to the gym so am replacing fat with muscle. I see small improvements and my friends comment on how great I look, but I still don’t see what they see. I know I have a long way to go (20kg) and that it is happening slowly as I am doing weights etc. It’s not a quick weight loss solution, but hopefully a good one. Hopefully one day I will see what they see!