One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Exposed: One Year Later

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I can NOT believe it’s been a year since the Expose movement started. When I participated I didn’t even realize it was a movement. I was so inspired my Mish’s original post that I immediately wrote my own after reading it. I didn’t even hesitate.

Isn’t there something so powerful and amazing about people with self-esteem? People that don’t allow others to influence who they are or what they want to do. You’ve met people like this. Their self confidence oozing from every pore. It’s not quite ego or cockiness, but an inherent sense of self-respect and confidence.

I always wanted to be one of those people but I thought I wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t skinny enough. I wasn’t perfect enough.

Well guess what… I am good enough and so are YOU! Those people we admire so much because of their bodies or self-esteem or confidence also have self-doubt, but the difference is they face their fears. They go after what they want. The live life and they charge it head on.

When I was younger I was jealous of their bodies, but in reality it was only their confidence I really wanted.

Now that I’m 34 it’s much easier for me to see that. My body is what it is and what it always has been…

When I hated myself in college I was in the same body…

At my wedding, same body…

Pregnant with Little Guy, same body…


New mom, same body…


Struggling across the finish line of my first 5k, same body…

A few steps from completing a marathon, same body…

Right now at this very moment, same body…

It was never “perfect” and never will be, but it’s mine and it’s the only one I got.

And you know what? It’s freakin’ awesome! It was always awesome I was just too blind to see it. And right now it’s even more amazing than ever…

because there is a baby in there…

I’ve been fat, skinny, young and if I’m lucky, I’ll get old but in all these states I was and will always be ME and there’s nothing wrong with that.

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There are 87 comments so far.


    October 12, 2010

    I loved all of the exposed anniversary posts today…this one the best! You look beautiful, happy & healthy. :)


    October 12, 2010

    I love this. You are such an inspiration to me. Keep doing you, because that is what your so good at.

    Nope there’s nothing wrong with that!! LOVE IT!!! Love ALL the pictures, it’s a journey through your life, and even though you may not have loved your body – it carried you through your beautiful life!! Happy Anniversary!!


    October 12, 2010

    Beautiful post, Ronnie.

    I love your wedding gown! BEAUTIFUL!!


    October 12, 2010

    i think this post was even more beautiful than your original exposed post. and you are beautiful!


    October 12, 2010

    Roni, I love this. You have such a strong, positive way of thinking and I love the points you made here. You’re right, it’s the same body that carried you through so many things. I think it can be so hard for us to remember to love it just the same.


    October 12, 2010

    You are thinner are you not? So same body, but thinner?


    October 12, 2010

    I am… but not as thin as I once was nor as fat as I once was. Regardless, that’s not the point Darleen… thinner or fatter I’m still the same person and I will always be the same person. That’s the whole point of the post. Confidence regardless. Loving yourself, regardless.

    Rita @ The Giggly Bits

    October 12, 2010

    Same body, wiser person ;) Beautiful

    Yay! I love this. I recently came to this realization as well. :)


    October 12, 2010

    Yes I understand we should love ourselves – first and not concentrate on physical. However – I still would be more content if I could get rid of 20 lbs
    Am I doing anything about that? Stuck – so suppose need to delve into the reasons.


    October 12, 2010

    Love it! Love every part of it!


    October 12, 2010

    “I would be more confident if _____”

    Do you think if you lost the 20 pounds you would replace the blank with something else?

    I don’t know about you but I’m tired of filling in that blank.


    October 12, 2010

    I can see confidence and pride in your eyes now. Amazing post.


    October 12, 2010

    Thank you! I needed that. I am not happy with my body now, but I am working on it. My body is my body and always will be. Even when I get into “my skinny jeans” it will be the same body. The size may change, but my body has done a lot for me. Two very adorable kids and I need to to learn to love that body. Thank you!

    The anniversary posts today have been amazing. This was beautifully done. Same body, amazing accomplishments.


    October 12, 2010

    Great post, Roni. I think the one-year anniverary posts are even more amazing than their originals.


    October 12, 2010

    One thing sure is consistent….your beautiful SMILE. I don’t know you Roni, but i feel that i know enough of you from following you for a few years that when i look at all those photos i don’t see weight, just your caring nature. I’ve followed you for a few years and only recently started commenting. It’s true, all along it’s confidence i’ve been wanting….not the number on the scale that i’m obsessing about. Because i nourish my body with healthy food and exercise i stand up a little straighter and i feel beter about the choices i’m making. The added bonus, my kids refer to shorts and t-shirts as “workout clothes” and want to join in on all the fun things that Mommy and Daddy are doing!

    I'm My Favorite

    October 12, 2010

    Re-read this statement five times. So true!
    “When I was younger I was jealous of their bodies but in reality it was only their confidence I really wanted. “

    Melissa-Shrinking Jeans

    October 12, 2010

    Love this so much, Roni! You have come so far!

    Josie @ Skinny Way Of Life

    October 12, 2010

    I love this!! I have so many issues with my body but this has made me look at it in a different light , such a great post! : )


    October 12, 2010

    First of all. Congrats on the new little one! Our bodies are pretty damn awesome in what we do to them and expect out of them. I’ve embraced mine and even though it’s the same body as it’s always been, it’s healthier than it has ever been before.

    Krista S.

    October 12, 2010

    Thanks for making cry!! =) No really…thanks, Roni. For everything.


    October 12, 2010

    I am a lurker and I never comment, but I wanted to let you know that this entry touched me. This is what I struggle to find…the confidence, the self-acceptance. I feel like this really is the key to weight loss. I started reading your blog for your weightloss tips. However, I found that the longer I follow you here, if becomes less about weightloss tips and more about life tips, mom tips, self-reflection and guidance. Thank you for opening yourself up to strangers and taking the time to being a friend, a sister, an advisor to those that you don’t know are reading.


    October 12, 2010

    So beautiful, insightful, and helpful! I love this post!!


    October 12, 2010

    Beautiful post.


    October 12, 2010

    You look beautiful. I would love to participate in Exposed next year. You’re so right, we only have one body and we need to feel good in our own skin.


    October 12, 2010

    I would like to participate in Exposed as well. How does one get involved.
    And yes it is time to stop filling in the blank – I would love myself if _______ or I would be happy with my body if ________ and learn to appreciate.


    October 12, 2010

    Just do your own post and let Mish know about it by leaving her a comment or telling her on twitter @MisheMarie

    Then she’ll link you up!

    Mary (A Merry Life)

    October 12, 2010

    Well said Roni. I love your current photos… but I can’t wait for baby bump photos. LOL


    October 12, 2010

    Thank you Roni, I have about 20 lbs to loose. I am doing it so that my asthma is better controlled, whenever we decide to have a baby my body is strong and ready, and to take better care of myself. I am food journaling and not overly strict on calories, mostly I just look at the daily choices and make new goals to eat wiser the next day. I even passed up a cupcake that wasn’t amazing (learning to only eat treats when they are awesome, not just there) and plan on making healthy versions at home. Thank you for all your inspiration and encouraging others to have a healthy lifestyle, and learn to be content with our current selves.


    October 12, 2010

    So true Roni!! Love it!!!


    October 12, 2010

    Wow Roni,

    just when I think your posts can’t get any better you go and post THAT! I am so touched by your post. I hope to have your wisdom one day!


    October 12, 2010

    Love it… you are an inspiration to so many women Roni! Hats off to you and your inner wisdom:)


    October 12, 2010

    Roni you are beautiful, this made me teary.


    October 12, 2010

    I’d say there’s EVERYTHING right with that! What an awesome post! And the thing is, you’re beautiful and glowing in all those photos (especially that last one) – love it!!!


    October 12, 2010

    You look wonderful and it is so obvious how confident you feel. I had such a horrible day and felt so down on myself and this post was a great reminder that a bad day should not make me get down on all the right and good days I have. Thanks!


    October 12, 2010

    wonderful post!


    October 12, 2010

    So gorgeous, Roni…you inspire me every day!

    I had to laugh though. When I first pulled up this page, the header was the close up shot of you with glasses, followed closely by the headless shot of your Exposed post. Looked like a caricature! :)

    Jack Sh*t

    October 12, 2010

    This post is 103% full of awesome.

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post! Thank you.

    Thea @ I'm a Drama Mama

    October 12, 2010

    I am so amazed at these posts. You are amazing. Your strength is so inspiring.

    Ryan @NoMoreBacon

    October 12, 2010

    Thanks for this awesome post Roni! Love the backwards cap ;) It’s so true that finding confidence is the key, regardless of our body shape or size. Thank you!

    bariatric girl

    October 12, 2010

    this was my first time coming here and the first post I have read. what a beautiful post. I’m going to be sure and come back to follow up. I really enjoyed reading this and watching the videos. keep doin’ ya thing


    October 13, 2010

    AWESOME post, Ronnie! Wow! I would have never imagined you in your before pics (although you do look good – you just don’t look like the YOU that I know of!). Thanks for sharing. Inspiring.

    Kim (zurichnee)

    October 13, 2010

    Wow. You’ve done an amazing job and your message brought tears to my eyes. So true. Thanks for showing us what is really important!


    October 13, 2010

    Thanks, Roni! It’s so easy to forget these things and beat ourselves up. You look beautiful, btw!


    October 13, 2010

    Thank you Roni! I so needed that! What a great post!


    October 13, 2010

    go roni!


    October 13, 2010

    I appreciate the post. I am just learning to appreciate me. This is reminder to do just that. This & BTL has been instrumental in my weight loss & health improvement over the last 6 months. I just might make it to goal after all. With a changed mind to go with it!


    October 13, 2010

    Oh Roni… darn it. You went and did it again – you got me all teary! Loved your post ;o)


    October 14, 2010

    Beautiful post, Roni. Your words are so true. Thank you for this.


    October 14, 2010

    Love this! Lucky you that you figured it out early in life. I am 56 and still working on it. I am walking my first 1/2 marathon on Sunday.
    Thanks for the inspiration.


    October 14, 2010

    You bring happy tears to my eyes Roni!!!


    October 14, 2010

    Awesome post, Roni. I had a great time learning about the Exposed movement, too. I had never heard of it. So awesome to see so many women loving their bodies, no matter what negative stuff they see. Your “now” pictures are awesome. You look so happy, so confident.

    Lisa/Mommy Mo

    October 14, 2010

    Roni, first time commenter- congrats son baby #2. You are truly beautiful and radiant and you look so happy and satisfied. I loved your post.

    Jenn (GH)

    October 16, 2010

    LOVED this post Roni!!!


    October 17, 2010

    ur makin’ my cry, girl!


    October 17, 2010

    ur makin’ me cry, girl!


    October 18, 2010

    You are amazing. You are inspirational and honest and I really apreciate the effort you make to hjel;p all of us out.


    October 18, 2010

    Every time I read your blog I become a bigger fan. You rock and I adore you :)

    Christine Jefferson

    October 21, 2010

    Ronnie, this succession of photos is a great way to put your life on display. You seem to be in a very good place in life and you are truly an inspiration to all those out there who are uncomfortable with their bodies. Thank you for that!


    January 5, 2011

    What a great post. You go girl. Love following along with you. Keep doing what you do, which is inspire others.

    Kelly Cheesehead

    January 6, 2011

    WOW – you are amazing. I love the post and I love you. You have changed my life :)


    October 18, 2011

    I really enjoyed seeing and reading what you have went through and your journey, I have always struggled with my self esteem even when I was skinny I never realized my worth, it took me 10 years to realize that I had to love me I gained about 70 pounds and Im working on it and readign your story is a huge encouragement..thank you!!!


    October 20, 2011

    This is very inspiring. You really help put things in perspective. Thanks!


    December 31, 2011

    Thank You for many reasons why I opt not to say. But for importantly thank you to letting me know that I can get off this idea that motherhood gave me this body and I have no other choice but to live with it.


    January 4, 2012

    Wow – I’m moved and inspired. Thank you. You’re right!! Thanks for sharing.


    January 9, 2012

    This was very moving and inspiring, thank you for sharing xx


    March 7, 2012

    Well, i have struggling with weight since I was 21 years old that makes it half of my life, seeing this site got me to tears thinking I want to do this!! You really inspired me. Thanks for sharing it with us! And Congratulations on your journey!


    June 1, 2012

    I keep reminding myself of this everyday. This is the only body I’ve got today. How am I going to make it feel awesome today? And it’s amazing when you accept yourself as you are… that’s when change actually happens. But, people think the opposite. They think that if change happens first, so will acceptance. It’s crazy how twisted this thinking is. Thanks for posting!

    Quinn - Hypnotizr

    June 13, 2012

    This post really spoke to me. The link you posted to the expose movement isn’t working anymore. :(


    June 19, 2012

    Wow! I really love your comment that it was the confidence you envied, not the bodies. I literally stopped and blinked a few times when I read that. I’d never thought of it that way, but it’s so true. I don’t want a perfect body, I want the confidence that I imagine would come with it. Thank you for that.


    July 30, 2012

    Such a simple yet powerful message! I am really glad that I stumbled upon this.

    Kathy Radigan

    August 20, 2012

    I love this post. I can so relate to so many of the feelings your express and as someone who struggled with an eating disorder in my teens and early twenties, finding peace in my body for my thirties and then to struggle again with my weight and body in my 40’s it’s great to remember through it all I am still me, thin, heavy and in between. I find your journey so inspiring, thank you! And thank you for letting us share your link with our Bonbon Break readers!!!


    August 22, 2012

    This is so beautiful and that last picture – jeez, girl…took my breath away. Congratulations! <3


    September 15, 2012

    LOVE!!! So true…you made it so clear. And that pic of you pointing to your belly – oy, made me well up:)

    Totally tickled my ovaries :-)


    September 21, 2012

    As a very new blogger/runner/self acceptor.. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS POST!! How inspiring..hmm..I think I’ll write!!


    October 26, 2012

    Thank you for writing this. :) :) :)

    the wicked noodle

    December 28, 2012

    I love this post, Roni. You’re all kinds of awesome!!

    Slim Style Secrets

    February 1, 2013

    Brought me to tears. Thanks for this.

    Victoria LaPlante

    March 28, 2013

    Tears here, too. Thank you for your words. I’m 55 and still struggling, always feeling like I’m doing it with smoke and mirrors. There are no accidents! So glad to have stumbled across this.


    June 20, 2013

    Just found your blog. Just had a little cry. Xxx


    July 27, 2013

    Well said.


    August 23, 2013

    Wow that is very well said. I want to get to that point in my life where I can say its my body and not be a shamed of it.


    October 18, 2013


    Sophia Gruen

    July 9, 2014

    Congratulations :-)

    I love your attitude!