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Ask Roni _v41 – Perfection Issues, How Do You Start?, My Tummy Tuck and a Second Child, My Kitchen Scale, Helping a 14 Year Old Lose Weight

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Sorry for my lack of podcast last week. Time just got away from me. I’m back on track!

Topics This week include…

  • Perfection issues and the all-or-nothing mentality
  • How do you start?
  • Tummy Tuck and the Decision to Have a Second
  • How do I use my kitchen scale?
  • How do I help my 14 year old lose weight?


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[podcast]http://RonisWeigh.com/resources/podcasts/AskRoni_v41.mp3[/podcast]

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    Lyn

    October 29, 2010

    Very cool that you’re on CNN Roni :)

    Reinaldo

    October 30, 2010

    Another amazing podcast, Roni. I think that your answer to the last question was spot on. I find myself doing that same thing to my family members even when I know it’s wrong. You know, just some comment like “Oh, you are going to eat all that?” or “I hope all that doesn’t give you a tummy-ache”. Or “You know, that potatoes converts to pure sugar”… Ugh. That never works. I think the best way to teach it is with our examples but you get impatient, you know. One day you wake up and you are the health police and people eats when you’re NOT AROUND so they can feast at peace LOL
    I got better and better at biting my tongue =D Since I follow you I have always wonder, how do you manage it with the husband? Because is your total opposite on the eating habits.

    Patty

    October 30, 2010

    Totally agree with you about the young girl. My daughter is only 9 yet she is physically more mature, nearly 5′ 1″ and 100#. The last time she was at the Dr. (Sept.) she was way above the “curve” on the growth chart. I believe this is simply how her body is going to mature, no need to worry. Yet we had some blood work run to be sure and it was all okay. She is very self conscious, especially since many of the girls she knows are very petite. I try to simply keep more of the healthy choices and less of the junky ones in the house, and lead by example. She will occasionally join me if I’m doing a walking or yoga video, but I don’t push she has to find what she enjoys. She takes dance, riding lessons, and plays softball in the spring so we do keep her active in fun ways. I also make sure to let her know that I think she is not only beautiful, but smart, talented, funny, and an all around wonderful kid. Just the way she is. Yet I still see her cringe everytime someone says “you’re so tall/big”. I’m only 5′ 3″ so I don’t have much experience being the “tall” one in the group. I see that you’re on the tall side, any advice?

    christina

    October 30, 2010

    I have a very similar food scale and use it multiple times a day – when cooking, but also when packing my lunch – for example I take one oz of baked chips with my sandwich or putting my bread on the scale and then measuring out the 2oz of chicken lunch meat. Sometimes Im surprised because what I measure as one serving is more then I would have thought if I would have just grabbed it.

    Laurie

    October 30, 2010

    As a teenager who struggled with my weight (and by that I mean I was 5’4″ and my weight crept up to 130 lbs – oh, the horror!), I was VERY aware that the biggest trial in my parents’ life was my weight! They even sent me to a weight loss clinic where I was put on a 500 calorie diet and I remember to this day when my dad offered me $1,000 to lose 10 lbs!! (By the way, that back fired!) Of course, I wanted to be thinner but the over whelming feeling I had because of their focus on my weight was that I wasn’t pretty enough, or acceptable to them. They had good intentions, but that isn’t what came through to me. I then suffered from bulimea for a number of years until my 20’s when I started my own family and figured out I was OK and not just a number on the scale. I have to admit, that now at age 50, I still panic if the scale gets close to 125 lbs and I am much more comfortable when I weigh closer to 115 lbs. I still seem to label myself as OK or acceptable when I am thinner. I am the daughter of a very beautiful mother and even though she is now in her 70’s, I never feel I’m as pretty as she is. So, to all of the moms out there – please be careful how you react to your teenage girls when their bodies change (as they naturally do through adolescence) and make sure you help them value themselves for who they are and not what they look like. I’m very proud of myself because I was successfully able to do this for my own daughter and she is forever grateful – and so am I!

    Melisa

    October 30, 2010

    I was also overweight as a young girl. Chubby as a kid but my weight skyrocketed during puberty. At 14 I weighed 184 lbs and I’m only 5’4″, mostly because my dad kept a lot of junk food in the house and I had a huge sweet tooth. My parents always made it very clear that they loved me no matter what I looked like, but when I was 14, my mom suggested that we join weight watchers together (she had about 30 lbs to lose) since she knew how unhappy I was. It was one of the BEST things that ever happened to me. I learned how to eat healthy, portion size, all that good stuff and it brought my mom and I closer. I lost 50 lbs by the time I was 15. I’m 25 now and for the most part have kept the weight off (except for a few minor gains and losses in college). So my advice to Kim is similar to Roni’s with really teaching her how to eat healthy and not to push her unless she’s willing. Learning what a healthy diet was like at a young age had completely changed my life!

    Barbara

    October 30, 2010

    I think you answer the question about the 14 year old great.
    The more I listen I wanted to cry along with you. I couldn’t have said it better my self.
    Great job

    Liz

    October 30, 2010

    I think my mom could have written that same email when I was 14. My parents tried lots of different things to help me lose weight which I never really did but it became a big source of contention in my family. I became bulimic and after many years (I’m now 23) I’m in recovery but it is a struggle. I would never say my parents are the only reason that I developed an eating disorder but I do think that my eating habits becoming such a focus in our lives didn’t help. Even now when my mom makes a comment about food, I become upset and feel hurt. I know my parents had the best intentions for helping me lose weight but its hard to feel like your parents don’t think your pretty or that you feel like your a failure because you can’t lose weight. Even now when they make a comment about how nice I look, I can’t take it at face value.

    If I could give you any advice, it would be similar to Ron’is and say give help her live a healthy life that you can but don’t push her and don’t make her feel wrong for what she looks like. She probably feels that way without anyone else saying anything and having the people who she loves most in the world confirm that feeling won’t help. As you said in your question, high school is hard enough and at the time, I believe kids need a parent who is supportive and will just listen but not push.

    Christine

    October 31, 2010

    Love your response to the tummy tuck question. I am 37 and after losing 120 pounds 10 years ago, 2 pregnancies in 2 years, and re-losing 30 pounds of baby weight my tummy skin is pretty bad, but I am OK with it. I am finding that as I approach 40 my body image issues are not such issues anymore and its a huge relief!

    NYCPatty

    November 1, 2010

    Great video post!

    I’m also a cheese-aholic! :)

    Congrats on being on CNN! I’m going to go check out the links now! :)

    Nichole

    November 16, 2010

    Hi Roni,
    We just found out that we are pregnant! I had a tummy tuck 1 1/2 ago and although I was almost sure we were “done” with 2, I always wanted a 3rd and God sometimes gives us that suprise we had in the back of our minds. So 3 it shall be:). I don’t have my tummy tuck gurtle anymore, but I have been reading up on the belly bandit, and I am going to give it a try after I give birth. After our tummy tucks the gurtle helped with the swelling, so I’m thinking it should help postpardum as well. Thought I would pass on the info.