One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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I Feel Pretty… Oh So Pretty…

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SO Sorry for not blogging last night. I drove 9 hours to Asheville for the Type-A Mom Conference, arrived around 7:30, took a walk, grabbed dinner and totally CRASHED! I slept longer than I have in YEARS. It felt great!

Anyway, I did have a chance to post… a new challenge on BlogToLose and it’s all about how you dress. Click here to read it.

This topic got me thinking about a question of the week. It’s been awhile, I know. But I’m curious….
Do you hide in oversized clothes? Or are you a confident dresser?

As I said in the BlogToLose post, I was a hider for years. I still fight the urge now and then to wear super baggy stuff but I make the effort to wear clothes that fit even if I’m having a “fat” day. I know you know what I’m talking about. :)

Ok, I’m off to the conference! I’m late but I feel pretty! :)



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There are 25 comments so far.

    Mary

    September 24, 2010

    “I feel pretty and witty and wise!”

    maria @ Chasing the Now

    September 24, 2010

    I don’t hide in over-sized clothes, but I am not a confident dresser either. I wear what’s comfortable and easy. Wish I had more fashion sense than that… but I really don’t. haha.

    Karen

    September 24, 2010

    I am way into big and baggy and comfy clothes and I would not be surprised if someone turned me in to “What not to wear.” And the bad thing is clothes like that make it easier for this yo-yo dieter to regain. Sigh.

    amanda

    September 24, 2010

    I tend to hide in oversized clothes, mainly t-shirts and running shorts. It’s just more comfy to me. I also have a few inches of loose skin and HATE the way I look when I wear tight fitting clothes. Yuck.

    I’m working on it, but until I can do something about the loose skin, It will probably stay the same.

    You are beautiful! (And you look SO awesome!)

    Jan

    September 24, 2010

    Can you be a ‘half n half’? I wear jeans that fit really well but then I wear a baggy shirt.

    prettylittlereckless

    September 24, 2010

    lately I’ve been back to wearing lots of black. which means I can tell I’m not comfortable with myself right now. I do have a favorite cardigan/sweatshirt thing that covers me up well too. Yup- been wearing that a lot lately too :-/

    Kim

    September 24, 2010

    I hid in big baggy clothes for nearly all my life! Now that I’ve lost 90 pounds, I cannot stand wearing anything that is even a little loose or not fitted. As soon as something is a bit roomy, off it goes to Goodwill!

    Michele @ Healthy Cultivations

    September 24, 2010

    I tried to hide in baggy clothes for years and years, but you can’t really hide hundreds of pounds of excess weight. Now that I’m about 35% through the losing process, I’m super excited to put on that next smaller size!!!

    Reinaldo

    September 24, 2010

    Not only behind clothing, I think the only reason I have a beard is because I was trying to hide the big cheeks and the double chin. Maybe I should shave it off now.

    I used to hide in tshirts in jeans. Part of it was comfort. “Nice” shirts had sleeves that were too short, and too-short sleeves irritated under my arms and made me sweat and itch like nothing else.

    But another part was hiding. I didn’t like to be in “form fitting” (anything that wasn’t baggy and shapeless basically) for any longer than necessary.

    But now, 40 lbs later, I frequently wear nicer, “form-fitting” things. Several months ago I got over my fear of shorts, and now I’m really sort of proud of my muscular legs.

    But this question comes at an interesting time. My friends and I may go swimming this evening and the only swimsuit I own that fits is a hand-me-down bikini, and the pool doesn’t allow the wearing of tshirts. I’ve NEVER believed that I had a body worth showing off in a bikini! I may be the leanest I’ve ever been in my life, but I’m still adjusting to the idea that I look different, that others may consider me “slender”. Several of these guys friends I’ll be swimming with assured me (in blatant honesty) that I should be fine, as long as the swimsuit fit correctly, which is more than I can say about the tankini I bought 20 lbs ago.

    steph k

    September 24, 2010

    Some days I feel fatter and so I have clothes (tops really) that are a little bigger, but mostly I won’t wear something if I think it will make me look bigger than I already am. I look for form-fitting clothes that will show my curves without me spilling out all over the place (muffin-tops and too-tight tees? gross.). It’s kind of crazy… maybe it’s a hiding thing in itself, I don’t know… Maybe I am a confident dresser??

    Sandra

    September 24, 2010

    Oh I used to hide in big baggy clothes and usually black. Then when I started to lose weight, slowly, I started wearing bright pretty clothes. I was still overweight but it helped me feel so much better about myself. And people noticed. Now I just wear what I feel comfortable in but it is brighter than it ever used to be…. I still have a lot of weight to lose but I try to wear form fitting rather than baggy. However, if it shows any rolls, then to me that’s too tight and I’ll go one size bigger. I hate muffins :)

    Great question.

    Dev

    September 24, 2010

    I hide – even though doing it makes me look bigger than I really am.

    Carolyn @ lovinlosing

    September 24, 2010

    SO jealous that you’re in Asheville!! It’s one of my favorite places ever!!

    Sue

    September 24, 2010

    Just got a lecture from a lady at a dress shop when I went in to buy something for a wedding. Picked out a dress and thought it looked ok. She picked out the same one in 4 sizes smaller! Said–this one would fit much better. I wasn’t too sure–it fit (i could zip it up, etc. but it felt so weird. She assured me that this was the “right size” and that it fit perfectly. So…tried it out at the wedding–still not too sure, but the photos seemed to indicate that she was right. Oh–it was also $21, marked down from $200!

    mandi

    September 24, 2010

    I do not hide in baggy clothes at all! On the contrary, some may think that I OVER-DRESS at times and maybe show a little too much skin…but, you know what?! I don’t care! I do not dress for others, I dress for ME!! My motto is to always look my best…and I strive to do that! I still have self confidence issues, but I will tell you something, I sure feel a lot more confident and a lot more sexy when I am in clothes that fit me and that show a little more, than when I put on an oversized t-shirt and shorts! You will very rarely see me in a t-shirt…basically the only time I wear one is to sleep in! I worked hard thru diet and exercise to achieve the body I have and I feel 100% better about myself when I look and feel sexy! :)

    Ami

    September 24, 2010

    Oooh, I love the clothes topic! I completely love dresses and skirts and I rarely wear anything different in the spring, summer and fall. I’m physically more comfortable in them and they just match my personality better. I am extremely uncomfortable in jeans and shorts because they never seem to fit right, and I also really dislike baggy t-shirts.

    But I think I do hide a little. Here’s the deal – I’m flat chested (which in and of itself I don’t mind) and I’ve had 3 babies, so the extra 10 pounds I’m carrying seem to be piled up on my tummy (which in and of itself I don’t mind). It’s the combo that’s the problem – with my stomach sticking out further than my bust, I think I look like I’m about 4 months pregnant. But I’m not, and I don’t want people to think that I am! I go for dresses with an empire waist, or a fitted high waist. And I love skirts with a firm wide band, you know what I mean? Sure, losing the 10 pounds would make the difference, but until then I’m going to go buy some spanx!

    jessey

    September 24, 2010

    I used to be a hider in high-school – well I wasn’t so much hiding, was I loved baggy clothes because I was scared of my curves, so i didn’t notice I was gaining weight. Now that I have lost 20 lbs, I am becoming more confident in my dress even though I have a lot more to go. But I am also at the age where I don’t want people to think I am pregnant again, so I don’t allow myself to hide.

    Amy

    September 24, 2010

    I’m trying to stay away from baggy clothes. I know that they don’t do anything for me. It’s hard, sometimes, wearing the more “form fitted” clothes, but I’m slowly getting use to them.

    Tami@nutmegnotebook

    September 24, 2010

    Yep before weight loss I hid under big clothes when ever possible.

    I have the body type now that looks better in fitted clothes so that is what I buy. There is no room for weight gain either which is a good thing!

    I do still buy a lot of black not because of it’s slimming factor any more but because I like it and feel good in it.

    I have also discovered that those bigger clothes now make me look bigger!

    Josie- Skinny Way Of Life

    September 24, 2010

    Roni you look so pretty!! You already have a glow …could be the blush but eh, we’ll go w/ baby hormornes : )

    I use to hide all the time when I was younger and sometimes I’d rather stay at home than be seen in a fitted shirt on one of my bad days but I make sure to get dressed and make the best out of it. I now refuse to hide who I am.

    Cindy Hanson

    September 24, 2010

    I love clothes and fashion whether I’m up or down on the scale. A long time ago I learned to dress for my body type regardless of the fashion fads–and that can be hard when you’re short and curvy–does anyone but me remember Dittos??
    Even though it takes a long time in the shops and in front of unflattering mirrors in dressing rooms, and sometimes more $$ than I’d like, I try to dress well because I feel more confident as a result.

    Red Head, Yellow Dog

    September 25, 2010

    I looooove Asheville!!!! my parents live there and i lived there for a year after I graduated from college and met my boyfriend there :) ENJOY! it’s so fun!!! so many good places to eat downtown!!

    Lori

    September 25, 2010

    I waer clothes that fit but usually end up in workout clothes or shorts/jeans, and a tshirt. With my two young boys I feel like I am always on the run with not a lot of time to change. Gym in the morning, playing in the yard etc. It sure feels nice to “dress up” though. Definitely gives me a boost. “To look good is to feel good”

    Paula

    September 25, 2010

    I wear baggy clothes. Sometimes it drives my husband crazy. He has asked how can anyone tell if I lost weight or not? But I have ashamed of how I look for so long that I worried if I wore something form fitting people would wonder why a fat chick wouldn’ t just cover that up! I have been losing weight and exercising over the last 6 months and I just recently bought jeans that are one size smaller. I got lucky that jeans are cut a bit bigger since the last time I bought clothes. :)